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1. My parents tell me that I am to young to take amrit. We have 3 things which belongs to god / Vaheguru. 1. Our soul which the source of god comes from. Our body which our souls reside to get back to the one source, the one akal purakh. And our mind which can we can either train with help of sadhana and bani to get closer to the source of light which is also Vaheguru. Now that you are 12 your body is going through alot of changes until you reach the age of around 25. What your parents worry about is Puberty Your soul will be the same. However your body and mind will go through some drastic changes. Puberty is a very sensitive part especially related to future school and work life.If you do not have a constant sadhana that can help you through puberty , this time of your life can be very diffucult. And as stated in the video, most of us that are adults speak with experiance. 2. You are going to cut your hair when you get older. Also based on experiance. Your parents maybe even took amrit themselves during young age/teens and speak of experiance. Without constant sadhana you will not have a back up plan when the time comes. 3. People don't hire amritdharis. Depends on which field you will apply. One reason is why most sikhs around the world get jobs is because they have been raised by thier parents to take a specialist field were the employer market needs people. For example by becoming a pathologist, a doctor that studies diseases and cells. 4. When will you get if you take amrit? ??? 5. You don't need to take Amrit to be a true Sikh. Sikh means a learner / disciple. With that perspective everyone in the world is a sikh because we learn through life. Being a sikh of the guru, a gursikh is a difference. More of that is discussed in the video above. 6. God doesn't give anything to amritdharis EDIT: Viktor Frankl experiances. 7. I am depressed, what should I do? VJKK VJKF /Cloud

A hot potato topic! Let me in! I just want to say before I continue that when I got married I was a virgin and she was not. I got married at 22. Like the evangelical christians say, I "saved" myself for marriage unwillingly. More on that later. Your statement which is your personal opinion is that women should have fun as well. The answers you will get will probably be these videos from this forum. I personally think that these are very good answers on onwards towards the topic of virginity. Before we continue what is the concept of amrit and not taking amrit? Now lets turn that questions around. Why should men "save" themselves until marriage? Having sex outside of marriage will create karma which cause consequences. Whatever gender you are. WJKK WJKF

I see a trend in Q&A sikhi forums with usernames for example with Sinful Kaur and PaapSingh etc. That sort of thinking comes from how our caretakers upbringed us in a punjabi background. As future parents we can lead by example. By eating healthy and taking 30 brisk walks and not "sair". And speaking of yoga... Watch it till 3:44 What is receiving amrit from the guru to you? Good luck! WJKK WJKF!

Not my intention. Altough I find the borderlines security programs entertaining. My idea was to make sure that that what he wanted. Many who go to punjab for religious experiances get very disappointed when seeing the corruption that Punjab have which makes it a very traumatic experiance. Punjab as the land of our ancestors and our historical places does not mean anything to me personally when it comes to sikhi. In Gurbani it says that even you visit the 68 places of pilgrimages you will still not find amrit within yourself. If I want to learn and have a deeper connection to sikhi, to meet the right group of people/sangaht that we can help ourselves toghether towards sikhi then Punjab would be not the place to go. If I were him I would stay in England, Southall and go every Sunday to the Gurdwara there and listen to the english kathas which also have classes in gurbani or at least people willing to help you learn gurbani. No need to chase the big money in London City. I've listened to the Audiobook Swimming with Sharks: Inside the World of the Bankers by Joris Luyendijk. no need to earn money in London City. Exactly. I am aware of the problems in Punjab. You sir in my opinion have a very green fantasy that Punjab is greener on the other side. First of all we all know of the Desertification of punjab, the radioactive spills, the cancer villages, alcoholism, drugs etc. That is also true. I just do not think that either if he stays in London or he moves to Punjab, it is the same. I am NOT saying we should let Punjab go this way. I personally think that Punjab future should be built this way all over Punjab. But with a more ECOSIKH values , green energy and less consumer consumption thinking and more green houses with lower rent for building the slums away. To help others we have to start by helping ourselves and our sikhi. WJKK WJKF /Cloud

Most people I know would love to leave the punjab and get towards UK. May I ask your reason to go to Punjab? How many times have you been there before?

I will just reply the same answers that I got in a similar situation at your age: If you have any other questions please reply. /WJKK WJKF

Never been there or heard the name. However google the name baba vadbagh singh sodhi and I got alot of results. Have you tried that? If you want to ask how he got excommunicated go and ask Bhai Jagraj Singh. He knowledge on sikhism is equivalent of religious scholars today. http://www.basicsofsikhi.com/contact-us/general-enquiries/ However if you want to know how your descendants got back into the sikhi fold I believe I can answer that. 2 reasons. People do not find shaanti or peace in a gurdwara and people can not get connection through naam through a gurdwara. Here Bhai Jagraj Singh take the example from the radha soamis. WJKK WJKF

Before I respond. If you could stop masturbating without the withdrawal abstinence symptoms, would you do it? Sexual stress = Does it equal to that your sex life is not satisfying and the sexual frustration that comes with that?

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Try walking up 30 minutes esrlier and start at that. Good luck! WJKK WJKF

Process towards Waheguru is not linear. Focus on your amritvela. WJKK WJKF

No. Since you were eating gelatine by mistake it is not needed. Learn the lesson by this mistake and be more present next time this situation appears again. Sikhs are students of god and as long we learn from our mistakes we connect closer to waheguru. WJKK WJKF

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At work I have this colleague who is a linguist. I told her that Gurmukhi/Punjabi was fully phonetic and she told me that alot of languages were more phonetic decades before. But because of loanwords from for example english the phonetics in a language starts too change. Basically more loan words = less phonetics. However I make a distinction with punjabi and Gurmukhi. Punjabi is punjabi, gurmukhi is very huge mix with alot different languages including punjabi. Gurmukhi will be the same. Punjabi will change.

https://translate.google.com/ punjabi - english However you have to use word per word. Good thing Gurmukhi is phonetic, altough in a couple of centuries the punjabi language will not be phonetic.

Let us adress them. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0fL-pn80s-c 1. A varied and healthy diet Diet is very important especially with cases with Neurological Disorders are involved such as ADHD. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Al6V1EaIH2Y https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xyQY8a-ng6g https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lEXBxijQREo If you can find organic food and afford it, that would be preferable but not necessary. Alot of people say non-GMO but I would like to see the sources to them. Tools are available free online. For example http://custommealplanner.com/ Also available for http://custommealplanner.com/vegetarian/ and http://custommealplanner.com/vegan/ 2. Exercise Before many sikhs worked in the very warm farm fields and were burning 5000 calories each day. And altough our diet is what people see in Punjab as poor people diets, alot of them were healthy. Both men and women were built like the vikings are portrayed in the media because of the hard labour in the farms and stuff like heart diseases and diabetes/sugar was not common. Now many people work in offices like software engineers or similair and burn around 1500 calories. Exercise is also very important for stress. Do not overdue it with going 2 hour crossfit everyday with raw vegan diet. Start with Brisk walking 30 minutes a day. Or join a sports club you enjoy playing. Examples can be: Soccer, Cricket, Badminton, Volleyball, hockey etc. Different sports are available in different countries. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hmFQqjMF_f0 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d0IbZ0eiEiQ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s0rxcSFw8rw PE = Physical Education. 3. Meditation https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oWd___MJ5Gg https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8UGFnpoKImE https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KmKj1_jIivE https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nqOq4v0cD9w Use meditation as a way of dealing with stress. 4. Take breaks regularly Short breaks between working can help you switch off. But longer breaks are important too. How about taking the weekend off to relax? Make time for fun and for yourself even if this means that you have to schedule time away from your work. You'll hopefully come back to your work feeling fresh. 5. Sleep (and sign off Facebook, whatsapp etc.) Sleep is always the best medicine and some people find that small 20-minute naps can help increase productivity. As students we tend to spend too much time on social media sites and answering emails, texts and phone calls. Sociability is fun – but too much of it, and too much computer time, can lead to more stress. Failing to switch off from work because of your electronic gadgets will only make you even more stressed. Listen to this if you have difficulty sleeping. http://www.sikhnet.com/gurbani/playlist/sleep-traditional 6. Quit smoking Some people say they smoke to relax, but researchers on the European Board for Research on Nicotine and Tobacco suggest that nicotine suppresses the hormone serotonin, which fights stress. Another good reason to quit. 7. Try to see the positive side If you missed a deadline, try to appreciate what you learned from this mistake: now you know how to plan ahead. Things might seem bad, but if you try, there is usually something positive to be learned. 8. Listen to bani A good way is to start here. http://www.sikhnet.com/radio 9. Time Management Skills https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VUk6LXRZMMk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0fL-pn80s-c https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c8YcKLet70E 10. Setting Goals https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PT3e1Vc5aUg https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c8YcKLet70E https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ktlTxC4QG8g 11. Procrastination https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qvcx7Y4caQE https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=arj7oStGLkU https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1FJ5dkizJTs Sources: Manage Your Stress - HowtoStudy.com. (n.d.). Retrieved July 22, 2016, from http://www.howtostudy.com/manage-your-stress/ Steinhoff, N. (2013). Students: 10 ways to beat stress. Retrieved July 22, 2016, from https://www.theguardian.com/education/mortarboard/2013/nov/06/students-ten-ways-to-beat-stress Managing Stress. (n.d.). Retrieved July 22, 2016, from http://campusmindworks.org/students/self_care/managing_stress.asp WJKK WJKF /Cloud

WJKK WJKF Your story reminds me of this. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-It1lnWKt78 But you have not told us the most important part, why did you fail? Was it: Stress? Boredom? Love? Concentration? Bad study techniques? To much video games? etc. Please do tell.

I do not understand. Is it not the opposite?

By lust do you mean porn/blue films?

Before I give an answer I would like to ask a question. This arranged marriage sounds like this was not with your approval and that it was forced from your collective family. Is that correct?

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I agree. Contact Sikh Helpline. I believe you can reach them here: inquiries@sikhhelpline.com.au

This is quite common in alot of familes as this also happened to me as well personally. My father had an accident in a bread factory and it all went downhill from there. But as the bible says: an idle mind is the devil's workshop ; idle lips are his mouthpiece. - Proverbs 16:27 27 ਇੱਕ ਸਮਾਜ ਧ੍ਰੋਹੀ ਆਦਮੀ ਹਮੇਸ਼ਾ ਮੰਦੀਆਂ ਗੱਲਾਂ ਵਿਉਂਤਦਾ, ਅਤੇ ਉਸਦਾ ਉਪਦੇਸ਼ ਉਸ ਅੱਗ ਵਾਂਗ ਹੈ ਜੋ ਚੀਜ਼ਾਂ ਨੂੰ ਤਬਾਹ ਕਰਦੀ ਹੈ। (As you can see the translation is very diffrent from the english translation and that it is very important too learn gurmukhi instead of always reading the english version of the SGGS but that is a topic for another day.) Napoleon Hills 1 says that our minds are like "fertile gardens" and that if we take no positive action (i.e., we are idle in our thinking) negativity, randomness, and destructive ideas will naturally fill the void and take root and consequently dictate our unpleasant experience. That is why like it says in SGGS it's important too do Sadhana, not for your anyone else but for you. The only way you can help him is to work on yourself. 1. McCreadie, K. and Hill, N. (2008). Napoleon Hill's Think and grow rich. Oxford: Infinite Ideas.

In our sikhi history we have this to go on too. http://www.sikhnet.com/stories/audio/birth-guru-hargobind A couple of other videos related to your situation. YouTube - God is not punishing you https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VAhP38Y-AXs YouTube - God's plan is much greater https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=58Vb0kMaECU /cloud