Because to you if feels like a dictatorship.
Your personality that your soul resides in now didn't want this life you now live in. In the west there is a saying that "You do not choose your parents". In sikhi we believe that your personality/ego didn't choose your parents, but your soul did toghahter with god himself before you came to this Earth too learn. To sikho = too learn.
In SGGS, it makes a diffrence between your soul and your personality/ego/mind.
It's not that you are a victim of your soul.
I think most of your questions will be answered in these videos.
5 tattvas = 5 elements or aspects of reality.
https://youtu.be/y_ITk_bXxtY?t=1m29s
https://youtu.be/QzezoEtvKP8?t=2m8s
