Kaur72

18 hours ago, Guest Someguy said:

Also for Chandi di vaar, there are special rules. Do these rules apply if your gonna do it for the whole night, or when you gonna do  (i.e amrit vela), what I mean is that if i wake up at 4 and do it do I have to do the rules, i.e dhoop etc, or can I just start to read it like I do with the other banis?

Yes IMO the rules are for when ur doing it for whole night.. when making it a part of ur nitnem thn u just do one path and in the end do Anand Sahib.. 

7 hours ago, Guest Kaur 2 said:

VJKK VJKF

All Dasam Bani gives you bir-ras whether it be Jaap Sahib or Brahm Kavach. Chandi Di Vaar is not meant to be read after sunset because think about it: If you are in a state of bir-ras then you won't feel like sleeping, you will want to go to battle. Shastar Naam Mala (if you listen to it) you will be able to tell why it has heavier bir-ras compared to Jaap Sahib. You probably will be able to handle the bir-ras because I listen to it everyday and I'm fine. Its just if you do like, 10 Shastar Naam Mala da paath then you won't be able to handle the bir-ras to be frank, you will feel like going to battle. You will be able to handle the bir-ras but I highly recommend becoming fluent with Panj Baniya. Even I need to start to add more Dasam Bani to my nitnem but I am getting so lazy nowadays I am still struggling with amritvela. I apologise if I made any mistakes, I am still learning and I hope Guru Ji's pyari Sangat can forgive me.

Bhull Chuk Maaf.

VJKK VJKF

Some people here might attack u for what u mentioned.. lol and I totally agree with u it does gives us bir Ras and dasam banis has strict maryada but some people don’t know for whatever reasons they don’t want to believe it. 

The Obstacle in Our Path

In ancient times, a king had his men place a boulder on a roadway. He then hid in the bushes, and watched to see if anyone would move the boulder out of the way. Some of the king’s wealthiest merchants and courtiers passed by and simply walked around it.

Many people blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none of them did anything about getting the stone removed.

One day, a peasant came along carrying vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to push the stone out of the way. After much pushing and straining, he finally managed.

After the peasant went back to pick up his vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and note from the King explain that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the road.

Moral of the story: Every obstacle that we come across gives us an opportunity to improve our circumstances, and while the lazy complain, others are creating opportunities through their kind hearts, generosity, and willingness to get things done..

7 hours ago, Guest Guestz said:

Hi eveyone,

Please take sometime to read my post and advise accordingly...thank you

Im a sikh living in foreign country who has been speaking with a girl in india for nearly 8 months. Everytime i call, i say and ask everything. She tells me everything i ask but has never asked me about my hobbies, interests, job etc.

Her mom always tell me and my parents my daughter speaks very little, is too nice and very shy and once she comes here, she will open up. I speak with her 3 times every week for nearly an hr and i do the talking, she listen...replies to me but doesnt ask me anything.

I have asked her personal things aswell, but i feel she is not interested in sharing anything. I felt so happy everytime i called her but lately, everytime i speak with her and  end the call, im unhappy and think if she is right for me. I am hurt she hasnt askes my anything at all and I have  not called her for the past week and will not be doing so and am seriously considering calling this off. Because of her silence, i know little about her and this is troubling, i know nothing about the person who i might marry.

Please advise:

- does the above mean she doesnt like me? If so, why is she dragging this on.

- should i assume she isnt saying anything for fear of her parents? Could our age gap (7 yrs) be a problem?

- 8 months is a long time for a couple to get comfortable with one another and i feel i have given her enough time and she should be discussing things with me.

- before you say she is an introvert, my parents, friwnds and job colleagues say im also an introvert.

Please advise

 

 

 

U should clearly ask her if she’s not happy or has any problems.. she’s not happy with the rishta and her parents are forcing.. secondly she really could be like this and that’s why she’s not asking much but if she’s not asking u anything at all thn there must be something coz no kuri doesn’t matter living in a pind or city even after eight months of talking hasn’t opened up at all.. like not a SINGLE thing like where u work or anything else.. so instead of assuming just ask her upfront.. I’m also an introvert.

u Can keep the book with ur gutakas if u don’t want to burn it.

1 minute ago, monatosingh said:

Heh

What you are saying is good for you.

Have you overcome the 5 chor?

 

No you haven't!!!!!!
 

All that you said right there is literally EGO!

See, for you it is "I, me, I did this, I gained this".

 

 

Well what I think after reading his posts here and on one other topic I think he’s just here to get attention. Ignore is the right word for him that we can do.

2 hours ago, NonExistant said:

Troll? Nah this is actually one of my questions. 

Don’t worry. I’m a fool too. I ask so many questions too. And u can always ask whatever u want to that doesn’t make anyone low in anyway. And of course u can do budha dal rehras sahib. I do that one as well. 

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ਭਾਈ ਦਇਆ ਸਿੰਘ
ਭਾਈ ਧਰਮ ਸਿੰਘ
ਭਾਈ ਹਿੰਮਤ ਸਿੰਘ
ਭਾਈ ਮੋਹਕਮ ਸਿੰਘ
ਭਾਈ ਸਾਹਿਬ ਸਿੰਘ

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ਜਾਪ ਸਾਹਿਬ
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ਚੌਪਈ ਸਾਹਿਬ
ਅਨੰਦ ਸਾਹਿਬ

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ਜਮੀਰ ਮਰਣਾ
ਸ਼ਰਾਬਖੋਰੀ
ਚੋਰੀ
ਵਿਭਚਾਰ
ਅਕ੍ਰਿਘਣਤਾ

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ਦਸਤਾਰ
ਕਮਰਕੱਸਾ
ਕਛਿਹਰਾ
ਚੋਲਾ 
ਸਿਰੋਪਾ

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ਤਾਰ ਵਾਲੇ
ਚਮੜੇ ਵਾਲੇ
ਹਵਾ ਵਾਲੇ
ਧਾਤ ਵਾਲੇ
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Which damdami Taksal app u use? U can try an app called gurbani unlimited if u haven’t already 

12 hours ago, Arshdeepsingh said:

Also im 16 years old and have kept kesh when my parents and family tryed to discourage me alot.

Ur doing so good and only 16. If I look back at myself when I was 16 I didn’t even know anything about sikhi in true terms.. nothing at all.. don’t be disheartened whatever ur going thru it’s also a part of tests (parikhya) that a true Gursikh has to pass and you will pass for sure coz u have that love and devotion.. and whatever mrdoaba has mentioned is right. Trip to India and spending some time with Gursikhs or nihangs would be useful but u can do that there as well.. I don’t know which country ur from but I’m sure u would find some true gursikhs there as well.. just don’t give up.. 

22 hours ago, NonExistant said:

I found a recording where there is a line before the dohara. It comes after the 6th line

I talked to someone about these lines and he told me some things about it.. but he didn’t send me the path that has these lines.. basically he said It’s ok if we keep doing the path without those lines.. 

2 hours ago, NonExistant said:

3 hours ago, Kaur72 said:

 

I found a recording where there is a line before the dohara. It comes after the 6th line.

 

Ya ur right.. he does thnx for sharing.. I’ll try to find the full too if I could 

4 minutes ago, NonExistant said:

I think that hazoor sahib has the complete version

Ya u could be right. Coz this one is from budha dal but i haven’t came across any other recordings with more lines after dohra.. if u find one of them the complete version plz do share.. 

4 hours ago, NonExistant said:

I Just Made this! Hope its good ?

 

It’s really nice... ??

5 minutes ago, NonExistant said:

I think this is the full version. Giani Thakur Singh says a Dohara at the end. 

 

Yes thanks. I saw his other video. Thanks for this video 

11 hours ago, NonExistant said:

Have i been doing the wrong one?

It’s not the wrong.. it’s just I think 2 lines are missing. 

I know what ur saying.. I’m also looking for those lines but can’t find that full path anywhere and can’t understand him completely n the videos coz he’s saying it a bit fast

45 minutes ago, PranaamShaheedaNu said:

Guru Nanak and his bride took four rounds instead of the prescribed seven around the sacred fire.

I found this as well veerji.. 

The history of Anand marriage ceremony is traced back to the time of GURU Amar Das (1479-1574), who composed the long 40 stanza hymn Anand, in the Ramkali measure, suitable to be sung or recited on all occasions of religious import.

Guru Amar Das initiated Anand Viah - Anand Marriage. The marriage was solemnized by reciting Anand (Anand Sahib), and Ardas (invocation –supplication), and this ceremony got the name of Anand Viah, or Anand Karaj. Perhaps, his daughter Bibi Bhani was married to Bhai Jetha ji (Gur Ram Das) by reciting Anand.

His successor, Guru Ram Das, composed a four stanza hymn, Lavan, which is recited and sung to solemnize nuptials.

Guru Nanak Dev, the first Sikh Prophet, refused to marry by ancient Hindu ceremony of Vedi. It caused a furor, but things settled down soon. He wrote Mool Mantar on a paper, placed it on a low stool, and performed Lavan’ – went around it four times, followed by the girl. Evidently, from the fourth Guru onward the Guru’s marriages were most probably performed by Anand Karaj.

Add - Guru Angad Devji and Guru Amardaasji were already married before they became a disciple of Sikh Gurus.

1 minute ago, lostconfussedsingh said:

10 minutes ago, Kaur72 said:

 

It is not that its the fact that marriage nowdays has so many rules like everyones knows the politics involved before it like money job looks.

Agreed what ur saying.. other people as well who do so much bad things and thn return to sikhi.. do we want to do what others do, first make a mistake and thn return back to bhagti.  Others must’ve made mistakes without knowing it like (not everyone) but there are some people who makes mistakes and thn realise that oh I should’ve not done that. But u know everything but still want to make a mistake makes it a sin.. and what’s the guarantee that u will be free from it.. trust me u won’t be free the way u think you’ll end up even in a more worse situation.. I’ve been thru what ur going thru but my situation wasn’t that bad. I use to get it but just with my husband and not any random male.. now it’s totally  under control with the grace of waheguru and doing ardas  and asking for strength to fight against this doot does helps and just because I’m a lady it makes it sound awkward but it’s the reality that women also get these urges not only men.. and women always try not to talk about these things. Women are also human beings right.. I hope god will help u.

5 minutes ago, lostconfussedsingh said:

I am the original poster of the thread. It is me

I really see u struggling.. here and on Sikh awareness as well. Marriage is an option but I guess u don’t want to do that yet. simran is something that u should stick to. Trust me you’ll start seeing life from a totally different perceptive and will get to know the actual reality.. how about if u start gaining knowledge by reading books About the love.. love for god, about simran or same thing by watching videos. It’s something that needs to be controlled and only u have that power.. that power is within u it’s just ur not being able to get out of this trap of kaam vasna... and I know it’s not easy at all. And ardaas is something that u can do every minute.. it helps a lot. 

6 hours ago, Guest Believer said:

Thank you so much for your response, it helped so much. And my background is I belong to a hindu family, brahmins to be specific and no they do not have much knowledge of sikhi but they have positive attitude towards it. And I will surely start talking to them about it. I haven't done it yet only because of fear of discouragement.

I’m glad that I could help u.. ??

Very glad to hear that you feel connected with sikhi... if u don’t mind me asking what’s ur background. the reason I’m asking this is if ur parents have little bit knowledge regarding sikhism thn it would be easier to convince them. You just have to tell them about what sikhi really is and what Khalsa Panth is. Telling them about Guru Granth Sahib ji that it only teaches us to worship god only and not any idol worshipping.. if u tell them about the ten gurus and their contributions for other religions as well.. there’s so much that u can tell them.. first u can just casually start a conversation with them about sikhism and see what they have to say about it and thn u can carry on discussion and tell them what u feel.. if ur learning Gurmukhi and if u can do path thn u can explain them the meanings of path and the teachings we get from the path that we do.. I hope I helped a little bit.. good luck sis