Before you read this message this project is not aimed to place blame on anyone but to help those who have been in need of help, are in need of help or even God forbid will need help.....
I am working on a fictional book based on Sikh women/men who have been abused and the impact it has made on their life. My aim is to make more people within the Sikh community and others aware of how abuse is often ignore by the family members and often the blame is placed on the wrong person, usually the one who was abused, or sometimes plain denial of it even happening.
I wish to see if I can include as many facets of the problem as possible such as psychological damage, effect on education, physical damage, self-abuse, possible pregnancy, further abuse from others, other social issues within and outside of the family unit, and so on... From my research for my book I have been asked to also work on a workbooked aimed at giving aid workers a greater insight into the cultual and social issues within the Sikh community so they can give our women and men who need help a more helpful and sensitive serivce.
I am aware of the sensitivity of the topic and how I will have to handle this issue with some tenderness, compassion and consideration. I hope to gain more insight from different sources to present a realistic, informative yet sensitive interpretation of ones life as the abused person within a Sikh family.
I wish to highlight the importance of no longer ignoring such issues within the Sikh community. I ask you all to share any information you can. A personal experience, an experience you know of, an organization, other like minded Sikh activists. I aim to gain a better understanding of the challenges we face in giving the best help to those in our community who are suffereing in silence, suffering because they spoke out or suffering because they are still not sure what to do.
I would like to make it very clear that it will be written as a fictional story and only fictional characters will be used throughout the story.
I am aware of how important confidentiality is in this context and would only use material as a way to gather an accurate insight into the abused person's world, any behaviour patterns such as turning to drugs, exsessive drinking, sexual relations, self abuse and many other self destructive ways in which people behave in an attempt to escape the torture of memories and experience of the abuse they endured.
If anyone has had or knows anyone who has had such an experience I would appreciate them getting in touch with me and I promise discretion, respect for privacy and confidentiality.
You can contact me directly at sunnyisalso@hotmail.com
and if you are interested you can join the Sikh group "Sikh Your Voice" at sikhyourvoice@yahoogroups.com
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/sikhyourvoice/
Your voice needs to be heard, problems in our community need attention. Some sisters and brothers in pain need our compassion and help, please help me to make the best of this project. Consider giving a little help as a kind of sewa to your people.
Thanks for your time and consideration.
Looking forward to your reply
Sunny Kaur Dhaliwal