TinnkerBell

haha

1 hour ago, GuestSingh said:

seems conveniently posted when discussion on this subject in the other section has been very active...and what apni today cares about their 'indian/sikh culture' so much to mention it twice?

even if it was true, she doesnt know the meaning of either 'culture' or 'sikh'...

U are right brother

On 1/29/2019 at 12:48 AM, Guest gurooo said:

I am amritdhari but recently have not kept rehat for a while due to problems in my personal life, i have not done anyhting bad like do beadbi of my kes or eat meat or any of the 4 kurehits. But i have not been doing my nitnem/amritvela/kakkar rehat- i.e. often I will go days without wearing my kara or kirpan etc and i used to listen to a lot of katha kirtan but now i just watch western tv and movies it's gotten quite bad i feel like i've forgotten my sikhi

how can i stop myself from doing all this in the future and what can i do to discipline myself into staying with rehit? do i need to go pesh to panj pyareh? but im scared if i go pesh i will fall off this path again and have to keep going back.. i really love sikhi idk why sometimes one thing leads to another and suddenly i haven't done my nitnem in weeks

All other still looks reasonable as lots of amritdhari people don’t wear kirpan and Kangha regularly, but i have never seen anyone who stopped wearing Kara.

its most ‘easy to adapt’ kakaar, even non.amritdhari and non.punjabis wear Kara all the time without taking it out.

thohda jiha hardwork te bai ji karna pena tuhanu vi

On 2/2/2019 at 1:43 AM, GuestSingh said:

op is a troll.

dont waste ur time replying.

Doubt  ta menu v hoyi si, but how can you so sure bai ji ?

1 hour ago, Jaggaa said:

I don't think the Sikhi way of things is to just wait for some planned out destiny to unfold and instead is to create it (free will). This sort of advice although may make someone "feel" (keep them in an uncomfortable situation longer) better in the short term in the long term does nothing but delay them taking charge/responsibility of their actions and the outcomes they bring.

You want to start a business but you need a 100k investment, you work hard on building that 100k so that you can start it. Nobody is going to hand that to you, no matter how hard you pray. Having faith in Waheguru is having faith in the opportunity we have been given and in yourself and not waiting for handouts or in this case fairy tales.

Also, the sjw people aren't going to like this but you deserve the truth. To the OP or whoever else is reading this topic. Don't take advice from women about women.

O na na bai ji, i asked advice from sikh boys and not girls

4 hours ago, puzzled said:

I think it's fine if you date to marry. If you date casually then no. 

Puzzled bai ji, everyone has own views. Even if you date to marry or you date casually- both are bad for you dhyan simran life.

10 hours ago, MichaelJackson said:

Yes, please do! I have something special in mind for the new couple.

I will keep updating here, so the boys like me who are finding it hard get a gursikh partner don’t lose hopes

10 hours ago, puzzled said:

Lol yeah when tinkerbell gets married everyone can upload folk punjabi wedding songs on here and photo's of ladoos lol 

sure , u can come and eat in person puzzled bai ji

6 hours ago, BhForce said:

Well, I'm not you, so I don't know what level of Sikhism you are at.

Just whatever it is that you do (go to the Gurdwara once a year, or once a month, do Japji Sahib once in a while or do Nitnem everyday, drink or eat meat or not), ask her whether she would be OK with that. 

Thanks for suggesting me , yes bro i asked her, she is gursikh since  her school days and do nitnem and in free time extra sukhmani sahib paths. She is good in sikh values

27 minutes ago, puzzled said:

I just turned 26 last month and now my parents are pesting me everyday to find a girl lol   

For the last 3 week's they been bringing it up everyday 

I don't know any Punjabi girl   how can I just find someone like that lol

They won't accept a non Punjabi girl  

They prefer if I find someone myself rather than them finding someone which is great 

I think I might do matha tek and ask baba ji to make things move a bit faster and get me and my future wife to meet each other soon.  haha! 

You r 26, I thought u to be much younger than me, i am 29.

i met the girl and her parents today, everything went fine. Will move forward.

On 1/29/2019 at 3:07 PM, mahandulai said:

maybe you need to consider the non-Indians, all are people in the end.

Mahandulai, o na bai ji

apa nu te punjaban hi theek aa

50 minutes ago, BhForce said:

You should ensure that she is at the same level of Sikhism as you, whatever that is.

And how can I find out that ?

25 minutes ago, BhForce said:

I'd never say that a Sikh should cut his hair, bro.

But for those who already are, I have to admit that they would want to marry a mona/moni.

Sad, but reality.

Bhforce bai , its all done from girls side, her brother and father came to my home yesterday and did all enquiries and they are all satisfying with me and my family’s reputation. Now they asked us to come and meet their daughter in a Gurudwara sahib. Thats why I was asking you guys what kind of questions you asked your current wife when you met her the first time. Also she is 5 yrs younger to me that means she might have some different mindset than me right

5 hours ago, Sukhvirk1976 said:

Yes nearly 15 years

40 minutes ago, Sukhvirk1976 said:

I would say rather than thinking about what questions to ask is think about the things that are important to you that she should know about and ask her what she feels about them? 

Just my opinion bro but I think it gets straight to the point rather than obscure questions. Plus it is a very humble and equal way of approaching the issues 

Tusi marriage bai ji ?

Okay i am back here on my this post, I finally got an rishta that I expected, everything okay from their side but we are going to meet the girl day after tomorrow.

she looks wise and mature in pictures but i am seeking some suggestions from you people who are already married (arrange marriage) that what kind of questions I should ask or how to meet her or like what are important questions that I should consider. ( having no such experience before)

3 hours ago, puzzled said:

That's not a question. You should just stick with that man, rather than ruining some other guys life. 

Thats what I wanted to comment earlier but couldn’t able to put into sentence.

I am wondering your parents are so nice who are still talking to you. Being in US doesn’t mean modern and western like the way you are. 

I am sad to know how your amritdhari parents feel.

Let it come to the world. If God made its spine bad HE can cure it as well. Killing is not right.

On 1/23/2019 at 1:11 AM, Guest Roydans said:

Ich habe eine Frage! Ich habe mich ein wenig mit der Lehre der Sikhs befasst und festgestellt,dass die Erfahrung die Guru Nanak gemacht hat in etwa identisch sind mit meiner eigenen. Ich vergleiche die Religionen der Welt und stelle fest dass alle Gottesbeschreibungen immer den einen Einzigen immer gleichen Gott beschreiben,und dass alle Religionen das gleiche wollen und auch ich habe versucht zwischen den Religionen zu vermitteln und wurde von allen zurück gewiesen und letztlich habe ich mir meine eigene Religion „ gemacht“ die es aber bereits in Indien gibt,und sich sikhismus nennt. Auch ich schneide niemals mein Haar( ich rasiere meinen Bart weil ich sonst Pickel bekomme) weil ich glaube dass Gott den Menschen perfekt gemacht hat. Wenn Menschen in Not und Bedrängnis geraten helfe ich und verteidige sie, auch wenn die bedrängten gar nicht meine Freunde sein wollen.leider funktioniert meine E-Mail irgendwie nicht. Aber man kann mich über WhatsApp erreichen Roy Daniel Schäfer 015780413592

admin google translation- 

I have a question! I have studied the Sikh teaching a bit and found that the experience of Guru Nanak is almost identical to my own. I compare the religions of the world and note that all descriptions of God always describe the one and only same God, and that all religions want the same and also I tried to mediate between the religions and was rejected by all and ultimately I have mine "made" their own religion but there are already in India, and called sikhismus. Also I never cut my hair (I shave my beard because otherwise I get pimples) because I believe that God has made the man perfect. If people in distress and distress I help and defend them, even if the beloved do not want to be my friends. Unfortunately my e-mail does not work. But you can reach me via WhatsApp Roy Daniel Schäfer 015780413592

 

Whats the question?

On 1/23/2019 at 5:23 AM, Guest guest said:

 

its not true that "you have no other choice than saying untrue".  you are chosing to lie, just like anyone else does.

you should have spoke the truth even if you lost your licence and got points.  you were braking the speed limit and you deserved the punishment.   you did not 'have to' to lie to get insurance, if you could not have got the insurance honestly you then you should have done without it.  lying about why you lie is also still a lie.

saying the truth is not an 'option' that you forgo when it's not convenient.    you do it regardless of the consequences.

you should not 'manipulate facts' but rather 'gives facts straight up', then face the honest consequences.

if you tell lies what kind of Gursikh would you be?  you would have no integrity. 

this includes all lies.  there are no 'small lies'.  lies are lies.  

and this isn't just for amritdharis.  it applies to everyone of any age.

 

U r right bai ji, i will try my best in future.

3 hours ago, MichaelJackson said:

Every time I see the man in the mirror, I feel as though I’m looking at someone from a past life. I just don’t recognize him. 

Don’t look at mirror too much at night i have seen in movies ghost would come out and can grab ur neck

Thanks for sharing bai ji

good one

On 7/3/2017 at 2:47 AM, Guest Dasan das said:

Sangat ji , I need help. I really want to have darshan of guru Gobind Singh ji Maharaj and I have been trying a lot for some months now. I sleep few hours and keep doing simran and path. My parents are concerned and want me to sleep more and wake up later at amritvela. Any tips and advice much appreciated. I have taken Amrit but need to do correction or Sadai because I accidentally take off my  Kashara from both legs. Could that may be a reason. Please I am just so confused. I am amritdheri so no meat eggs alcohol drugs hair cut in my family and I keep strictly to an 11 pm amritvela with maharajas Kirpa and keep going till after sunrise. I know I should be patient but how much longer does das have to wait for Maharaj. I sometimes just keep looking outside hoping Maharaj would give darshan someday. Do I still need more simran path or do I just wait or sometimes I get the thought that it may not be my destiny to have  darshan which makes me very sad sometimes. Still grateful for darshan of Sri Guru Granth Sahib ji Maharaj who is the joti jot of 10 guru sahibs but I still hope to have darshan of tenth guru Maharaj. I used to have a problem with masturbation and porn for atleast 2 years but with maharajs Kirpa I have changed. Could Maharaj be upset with me, or is Maharaj testing the patience and determination that he himself has given to me . Note - I am not shashterdhari unless having Kirpan makes you shashterdhari so could that maybe be why. Please if anyone has had darshan of  Maharaj how long did it take you and what did you have to do to get darshan.  Sorry for the long post , anyone help me please 

Bai ji, your great

1 hour ago, Not2Cool2Argue said:

1. When i was newly amritshak, i did not eat until nitnem finished. But now im down to doing japji sahib before eating. 

2. I do body shower daily and head shower weekly. If u r gonna do head shower daily, DO NOT use shampoo daily. Use it every other day and other days use just water or maybe dahi(yogurt). Everyday use of shampoo will totoally dry out ur hair. Also u will have to oil ur hair alot.

3. My whole family does a small prayer basically just a small shabad for protection every time we get in the car, cuz weve had a lot of car accidents. One right in front of our house. And its easy to do small ardaas for any task. It just like mentally saying, waheguru ji im going to the gym now. Let me remwmber u. You dont have to stand up and d o the full ardaas 

4. The other things like speaking the truhth and not eating out,.i dont do. But i regret that i dont. I know if i did them, my jeevan would be alot better. You should try doing them. As after taking amrit, all ur pishle karam r naas. So u basically have a clean slate. U dont want to have regrets like the policeman thing. So try to tell the truth always. It will make u steonger and braver.

5. Also i try to do at least 10 mins or 5 mins of simran before my nitnem. Cuz i just learnt how important that is. And scinece is all abt how important meditation is too. Also it helps calm ur mind down so it can concentrate on nitmem

Also check out gurmatbibek.com. it has a sakhi abt a used car salesperson who started to tell the whole truth always. After bwing amritdhari. And lying is almoat required for a used cars salesperson. Yet he did it. And maharaj kirpa, his business soared cuz ppl began tp relay on him ans trust him .  

 

 

Thanks bai ji, for nice suggestions 

can u find the link and share it here for that car salesman?

 Thanks