they should both hold kirpans anyway, a man is not superior in any way and should not be the only one to hold a kirpan
One wedding I went to I asked the couple why the man was holding a sri sahib - he sed its 'tradition'. Loadza ppl hold sri sahibs for the sake of it - so if u ask em why the men hold sri sahibs and the women dont they can't answer.
My friend sent me a pic of her cousin who got married - his wife's sri sahib was waaay bigger thn his - i woz lyk rock on bibi ji her family wasnt very happy tho :gg: