Sava Lakh

WJKK WJKF This is wrong dont think about marriage. well ya you can look but this whole dating thing is wrong. Get your parents to find you a nice guy. Heres an ok site for sikhs http://sikhmatrimonials.com/ , but otherwise dont go dating any guys just find yourself a nice husband and marry him, simple as that. isrIrwgu mhlw 5 ] sireeraag mehalaa 5 || Siree Raag, Fifth Mehla: iqcru vsih suhylVI ijcru swQI nwil ] thichar vasehi suhaelarree jichar saathhee naal || As long as the soul-companion is with the body, it dwells in happiness. jw swQI auTI cilAw qw Dn KwkU rwil ]1] jaa saathhee out(h)ee chaliaa thaa dhhan khaakoo raal ||1|| But when the companion arises and departs, then the body-bride mingles with dust. ||1|| min bYrwgu BieAw drsnu dyKxY kw cwau ] man bairaag bhaeiaa dharasan dhaekhanai kaa chaao || My mind has become detached from the world; it longs to see the Vision of God's Darshan. DMnu su qyrw Qwnu ]1] rhwau ] dhha(n)n s thaeraa thhaan ||1|| rehaao || Blessed is Your Place. ||1||Pause|| ijcru visAw kMqu Gir jIau jIau siB khwiq ] jichar vasiaa ka(n)th ghar jeeo jeeo sabh kehaath || As long as the soul-husband dwells in the body-house, everyone greets you with respect. jw auTI clsI kMqVw qw koie n puCY qyrI bwq ]2] jaa out(h)ee chalasee ka(n)tharraa thaa koe n pushhai thaeree baath ||2|| But when the soul-husband arises and departs, then no one cares for you at all. ||2|| pyeIAVY shu syiv qUM swhurVY suiK vsu ] paeeearrai sahu saev thoo saahurarrai sukh vas || In this world of your parents' home, serve your Husband Lord; in the world beyond, in your in-laws' home, you shall dwell in peace. gur imil cju Acwru isKu quDu kdy n lgY duKu ]3] gur mil chaj achaar sikh thudhh kadhae n lagai dhukh ||3|| Meeting with the Guru, be a sincere student of proper conduct, and suffering shall never touch you. ||3|| sBnw swhurY vM\xw siB muklwvxhwr ] sabhanaa saahurai va(n)n(j)anaa sabh mukalaavanehaar || Everyone shall go to their Husband Lord. Everyone shall be given their ceremonial send-off after their marriage. nwnk DMnu sohwgxI ijn sh nwil ipAwru ]4]23]93] naanak dhha(n)n sohaaganee jin seh naal piaar ||4||23||93|| O Nanak, blessed are the happy soul-brides, who are in love with their Husband Lord. ||4||23||93|| WJKK WJKF

Take him to an amrit sanchaar not to take amrit but to take choola and maybe by Guru jees hukam he will get on the right path. If he has already taken amrit I would take him to Guru jee and do hukamnama see what Guru jee says and act accordingly, or go ask Punj Singhs and see what they say, otherwise I would continue on with my life and he would continue on with his.

Heera Singh I agree with you. gauVI mhlw 1 ] gourree mehalaa 1 || Gauree, First Mehla: coAw cMdnu AMik cVwvau ] choaa cha(n)dhan a(n)k charraavo || I may anoint my limbs with sandalwood oil. pwt ptMbr pihir hFwvau ] paatt patta(n)bar pehir hadtaavo || I may dress up and wear silk and satin clothes. ibnu hir nwm khw suKu pwvau ]1] bin har naam kehaa sukh paavo ||1|| But without the Lord's Name, where would I find peace? ||1|| ikAw pihrau ikAw EiF idKwvau ] kiaa pehiro kiaa oudt dhikhaavo || So what should I wear? In what clothes should I display myself? ibnu jgdIs khw suKu pwvau ]1] rhwau ] bin jagadhees kehaa sukh paavo ||1|| rehaao || Without the Lord of the Universe, how can I find peace? ||1||Pause|| kwnI kuMfl gil moqIAn kI mwlw ] kaanee ku(n)ddal gal motheean kee maalaa || I may wear ear-rings, and a pearl necklace around my neck; lwl inhwlI PUl gulwlw ] laal nihaalee fool gulaalaa || my bed may be adorned with red blankets, flowers and red powder; ibnu jgdIs khw suKu Bwlw ]2] bin jagadhees kehaa sukh bhaalaa ||2|| but without the Lord of the Universe, where can I search for peace? ||2|| nYn slonI suMdr nwrI ] nain salonee su(n)dhar naaree || I may have a beautiful woman with fascinating eyes; KoV sIgwr krY Aiq ipAwrI ] khorr seegaar karai ath piaaree || she may decorate herself with the sixteen adornments, and make herself appear gorgeous. ibnu jgdIs Bjy inq KuAwrI ]3] bin jagadhees bhajae nith khuaaree ||3|| But without meditating on the Lord of the Universe, there is only continual suffering. ||3|| dr Gr mhlw syj suKwlI ] dhar ghar mehalaa saej sukhaalee || In his hearth and home, in his palace, upon his soft and comfortable bed, Aihinis PUl ibCwvY mwlI ] ahinis fool bishhaavai maalee || day and night, the flower-girls scatter flower petals; ibnu hir nwm su dyh duKwlI ]4] bin har naam s dhaeh dhukhaalee ||4|| but without the Lord's Name, the body is miserable. ||4|| hYvr gYvr nyjy vwjy ] hai// gai// naejae vaajae || Horses, elephants, lances, marching bands, lskr nyb KvwsI pwjy ] lasakar naeb khavaasee paajae || armies, standard bearers, royal attendants and ostentatious displays ibnu jgdIs JUTy idvwjy ]5] bin jagadhees jhoot(h)ae dhivaajae ||5|| - without the Lord of the Universe, these undertakings are all useless. ||5|| isDu khwvau iriD isiD bulwvau ] sidhh kehaavo ridhh sidhh bulaavo || He may be called a Siddha, a man of spiritual perfection, and he may summon riches and supernatural powers; qwj kulh isir CqRü bnwvau ] thaaj kuleh sir shhathra banaavo || he may place a crown upon his head, and carry a royal umbrella; ibnu jgdIs khw scu pwvau ]6] bin jagadhees kehaa sach paavo ||6|| but without the Lord of the Universe, where can Truth be found? ||6|| Kwnu mlUku khwvau rwjw ] khaan malook kehaavo raajaa || He may be called an emperor, a lord, and a king; Aby qby kUVy hY pwjw ] abae thabae koorrae hai paajaa || he may give orders - ""Do this now, do this then"" - but this is a false display. ibnu gur sbd n svris kwjw ]7] bin gur sabadh n savaras kaajaa ||7|| Without the Word of the Guru's Shabad, his works are not accomplished. ||7|| haumY mmqw gur sbid ivswrI ] houmai mamathaa gur sabadh visaaree || Egotism and possessiveness are dispelled by the Word of the Guru's Shabad. gurmiq jwinAw irdY murwrI ] guramath jaaniaa ridhai muraaree || With the Guru's Teachings in my heart, I have come to know the Lord. pRxviq nwnk srix qumwrI ]8]10] pranavath naanak saran thumaaree ||8||10|| Prays Nanak, I seek Your Sanctuary. ||8||10|| It doesn't matter who cares how they dress.. let them be we shoudn't look at other ppl just ourselves. Lets say if we just go and focus on our simran/banee for years and years guru jee will give us all the answers we do not need to go and search for them we just have to focus on guru jee. Also heres another view instead of the whole bibian wearing or not wearing a pyajama, why can't it be about Singhs wearing or not wearing a pyajama like whats the reason some don't. Instead shoudn't it be that Singhs and Singhneeya both wear pyajamas.