adina jee you need to read the entire paragraphs i wrote ,and not nit pick .i am trying to state the bigger picture in my post .i am not here to try to define whether the person you get married should be ''fixed '' for you or whether its someone you get to know . Who knows the magical twists and turns that God can trigger for a relationship to start and end up as a marriage ,unless life is nothing but a strict set of rules you follow robotically .A bf may be just a guy you get to know,where the friendship develops to be husband and wife .My post is there to answer the original question mentioned in this post ,not to compromise or promote any sort of anti-gurmat licenstious /promiscuous behaviour .The intention of my post is to inspire youths to think along gurmat lines ,and i hope thats what you derived from my post if you read it line by line .We are not here to just argue ,debate with one another showing off our debating skills ,egoistically .We are here to inspire each other ,learn from each other ,and interact with each other humbly .opinions can be endlessly debated upon but truth is realised by dwelling on other's wisdom ,thinking out of the box a bit ,and stretching your imagination a bit as well as allowing others to touch your passion and your heart .Idont contribute on this forum to demonstrate my intellectual skills with an over alert ego waiting to pounch on the tiniest thing i can find wrong with someone else's contribution .Rather ,i read carefully what you or others may write and create a mental picture of what a blessed and inspired sikh you are ,and the insights Gurujee has given you or others .This forum is here for us to get passionate about sikhi ,to be able to see sikhi beyond the narrow parochial interpretations it has been given in the past ,to be fired up about sikhi ,to let sikhi shine ablaze in our hearts .my every contribution is an endeavour in that direction as to what can i write that will inspire both me and others to love sikhi ,and see it as a relevant force in our lifes .Sikhi is definately not about getting panic attacks over every tiny thing another can write that does not fit into your convenient orderly arrangement of words and sentences that are politically correct in your mind .it is the content of my post that you need to focus on ,not a random word i may have loosely used (relative in its meaning)to share what i consider is gurmat .
sorry veer ji........ i had no intention watsoever of doing that
sorry if i offended u