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“Insight occurs when, and to the degree that, one knows oneself.” —Andrew Schneider “Knowing others is wisdom; knowing the self is enlightenment.” —Tao Te Ching “You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” —Buddha “Our prayers are answered not when we are given what we ask, but when we are challenged to be what we can be.” —Morris Adler “When there is love in your heart, everything outside of you also becomes lovable.” —Veeresh “When we focus on clarifying what is being observed, felt, and needed rather than on diagnosing and judging, we discover the depth of our own compassion.” —Marshall B. Rosenberg “Every human has four endowments - self awareness, conscience, independent will and creative imagination. These give us the power to discern, to choose, to respond, to change.” —Stephen R. Covey “Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them, that only creates sorrow. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” —Lao-tzu “The more conscious you become, the more aware you become of how unconscious you’ve been.” —Patricia Sun “There is no difficulty that enough LOVE will not conquer, no disease that enough LOVE will not heal, no door that enough LOVE will not open, no gulf that enough LOVE will not bridge, no wall that enough LOVE will not throw down, no sin that enough LOVE will not redeem...” —Emmet Fox “Faith is the bird that feels the light and sings when the dawn is still dark.” —Rabindranath Tagor Love is what we were born with. Fear is what we learned here. The spiritual journey is the relinquishment, or unlearning, of fear and the acceptance of love back into our hearts.” —Marianne Williamson “Meditation takes place when you bring all your awareness to this moment.” —Brandon Bays “The eye through which I see God is the same eye through which God sees me; my eye and God’s eye are one eye, one seeing, one knowing, one love.” —Meister Eckhart

Brother 13Mirch Jee, I would suggest you not to leave, stay here, we need cool guys like you also. You have to keep in mind, quality control and moderators are human beings also, thus not perfect. They have a tough job themselves in being moderators. So if you disagree with any of their actions, just overlook and forgive them. Not everybody has the same point of views. But that does not imply, you should leave this site. You have never harmed anybody, nor being disrespectful as far as I remember. It is a pity if you leave, just as Jacfsingh did, or some others also. You write what you want, and if you believe you have not done anything wrong, then you may protest, and for sure you will have all the support from the sangat here. I take this opportunity, to plead mods/admin, for not allowing anybody being bully here, be it anyone. It does more harm, the any good. For the good members leave away, and the bad continue to stay and keep on bullying from time to time. Stay blessed 13Mirch Jee. Sat Sree Akal.

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There are 3 apples for 2 sons and 2 fathers to eat. Each of them get their own apple. How is it numerically possible? Which word in the dictionary is spelled incorrectly? I am the beginning of the end, and the end of time and space. I am essential to creation, and I surround every place. What am I? What is it that when you take away the whole, you still have some left over? Forward I am heavy, but backward I am not. What am I?

Same song in a different version. *Though this is a filmy song, but it could be very well applied to our beloved Guru Sahiban / Wahiguru Akal Purukh. It very much describes our helplessness, our pain of separation, when missing Them . Sat Sree Akal.

Sat Sree Akal Pen Jee, there are almost no mistakes in your post, rather much love and faith in Waheguru, except one, that it is not beautiful what I have written, for a moorakh like me, is unable to write such things, the real beauty is in the Bani, and that is what is to be paid attention, whether in my posts, or in any other members or guests posts on the sites. It is the duty of all of us as sikhs of Guru Jee, to inspire and uplift ourselves with the aid of the Bani, which is the real panacea for all our miseries and shortcomings/weaknesses. Stay blessed. Sat Sree Akal

WALKING AWAY TOWARDS A HAPPY LIFE Walk Away From Arguments That Lead You To Anger. Walk Away From People Who Deliberately Put You Down Walk Away From Any Thought That Reduces Your Worth. Walk Away From Failures And Fears That Stiffle Your Dreams. Walk Away From People Who Dont Care For You & Are Opportunistic. The More You Walk Away from things that Poison Your Soul, The Happier Your Life Will Be.

SOUL OR ROLE CONSCIOUSNESS Often we are so occupied in playing our roles that we do not pause to check whether we are reflecting our soul personality into our every role. Let us make a list of our roles. As a parent, I have to … As a spouse, I have to … As a professional, I have to … As a friend, I have to … the list is long. While writing the script and playing every role, our relationship, age, position becomes the criteria of how we enact our role. This is called Role Consciousness and we may develop ego – feeling superior or inferior to others. In role consciousness we believe that playing the role well will earn us happiness and love. So we are seeking happiness from our role. Situations and people may not be our way always and hence we may not be able to play the perfect role, the result is stress, anxiety, anger or fear. Experiment soul Consciousness for a day, using soul power in every role. Irrespective of position, relationship or age, enact every role with the original qualities of happiness, love and respect. The role does not nurture the soul, it is the soul which nurtures the Role.

There are two types of sikhs. First one, is the one who is a sikh in name, just superficially, which means, looks more for the jewel boxes, than for the jewels as contents to be had in those jewel boxes. Then the second one, is the one who is a sikh in deed/action, for he acts as per Guru´s teachings faithfully, without being concerned or bothered of the nonsense of the world. This sikh is called a Gursikh. Regarding this second type of Sikh, Satguru Ram Das Maharaj beautifully tells us something about it, in the following verses : ਗੁਰਸਿਖ ਮੀਤ ਚਲਹੁ ਗੁਰ ਚਾਲੀ ॥ Gurasikh Meeth Chalahu Gur Chaalee || O Sikhs of the Guru, O friends, walk on the Guru's Path. *First of all, he walks on the path as described by the Guru to be followed ਜੋ ਗੁਰੁ ਕਹੈ ਸੋਈ ਭਲ ਮਾਨਹੁ ਹਰਿ ਹਰਿ ਕਥਾ ਨਿਰਾਲੀ ॥੧॥ ਰਹਾਉ ॥ Jo Gur Kehai Soee Bhal Maanahu Har Har Kathhaa Niraalee ||1|| Rehaao || Whatever the Guru says, accept that as good; the sermon of the Lord, Har, Har, is unique and wonderful. *Secondly, for him, that Gursikh, only the Sat bachan of Guru Jee, is the law, is the Truth, thus his keen desire to please Him. ਹਰਿ ਕੇ ਸੰਤ ਸੁਣਹੁ ਜਨ ਭਾਈ ਗੁਰੁ ਸੇਵਿਹੁ ਬੇਗਿ ਬੇਗਾਲੀ ॥ Har Kae Santh Sunahu Jan Bhaaee Gur Saevihu Baeg Baegaalee || O Saints of the Lord, O Siblings of Destiny, listen: serve the Guru, quickly now! *Thirdly, he puts all his efforts/focus/attention, to act accordingly and diligently, for his own benefit, as no one has seen tomorrow. ਸਤਗੁਰੁ ਸੇਵਿ ਖਰਚੁ ਹਰਿ ਬਾਧਹੁ ਮਤ ਜਾਣਹੁ ਆਜੁ ਕਿ ਕਾਲ੍ਹ੍ਹੀ ॥੨॥ Sathagur Saev Kharach Har Baadhhahu Math Jaanahu Aaj K Kaalhee ||2|| Let your service to the True Guru be your supplies on the Lord's Path; pack them up, and don't think of today or tomorrow. ||2|| *Fourthly, for him, now is the moment to serve and act or do his bhakti, as per Guru Jee´s instructions or advice, since then he forgets and stops all his manmukh type devotion which he used to do as the first type of sikh as described above, and concentrates only on walking on the path by Guru Jee, without looking here or there. ਹਰਿ ਕੇ ਸੰਤ ਜਪਹੁ ਹਰਿ ਜਪਣਾ ਹਰਿ ਸੰਤੁ ਚਲੈ ਹਰਿ ਨਾਲੀ ॥ Har Kae Santh Japahu Har Japanaa Har Santh Chalai Har Naalee || O Saints of the Lord, chant the chant of the Lord's Name; the Lord's Saints walk with the Lord. *Fifthly, he realizes that, Har ka nam japna, is the secret of reuniting oneself with Him. this is confirmed by Guru Jee in the following verse. ਜਿਨ ਹਰਿ ਜਪਿਆ ਸੇ ਹਰਿ ਹੋਏ ਹਰਿ ਮਿਲਿਆ ਕੇਲ ਕੇਲਾਲੀ ॥੩॥ Jin Har Japiaa Sae Har Hoeae Har Miliaa Kael Kaelaalee ||3|| Those who meditate on the Lord, become the Lord; the playful, wondrous Lord meets them. ||3|| *In this last verse above, Guru Jee crystal clearly cut, and direct to the point, tells us that, if one wants to merge in Him, one has to do only do His jaap, rest is all manmukhta or bahamnavdee. Sat Sree Akal.

Aakhiya De kolo Aakhiya De kolo Sada Reh sajna, Assi Lakh War Tak Ke Vi Nahi Rajna, Mukhra Na Mori Sada Zor Koi Na, Kade Chaad Ke Na Javi Sada Hor Koi Na. Koi gam de pave Koi gam de pave parchave na, Jis nagree yaar vasde ne, Sanu rona de k umraan da, Bhaven oh khid khid hasde ne, Asin mangde haan sukh una da, Jinha jholi hanju paaye ne, Na roko ajj ron devo, Meinu yaar chete aye ne !!! Tahni Naalo Tutt Ke Tahni Naalo Tutt Ke Patta Mudh Judh Jaave Eh Kde Nhi Hona.. Shad Ke Tur Gya Yaar Ohni Pairi Mudh Aawe Eh Kde Nhi Hona.. Lakh Vaar Kro Koi Gal Smundro Doongi V Har Bandde De Mann Nu Bhave Eh Kde Nhi Hona.. Ho Neeve Kar Ardaasa Bande Milannge Rabb Varge Ohna Naal Hee Thodi Bahuti Vfa Kma Lwo.. Vaang Sade Kyi Jaande Honge Nitt Dargahaa Te Per Har Bande Nu Rabb Mill Jaave Eh Kde Nhi Hona..

How Emotions Affect Our Health... Every cell in our body is intelligent to think and act .. We have 60 trillion cells in our body and our health depends a lot on theharmonic balance and cohesion of the cells .... with each other... In the movie Eat, Pray, Love, Julia Roberts visits a wise man in Bali, and he advises her not to try too hard to meditate .. in fact he suggests that meditation is nothing but smiling and the line that is a kicker, is "Smile with your liver" If you believe that this is just a metaphor, lets look at the other end of the spectrum to prove just how crucial this is.. Let us say you hold a negative emotion towards somebody, something or some event in your life .... each time you think of that your whole body re-lives the emotional upheaval of that association ... Your mind doesn't have a mind of its own, and doesn't know if the event is happening in real time or it is being replayed... So it produces the same stress hormones each time .. each and every cell of your body starts feeling the same emotion, of let us say "hatred" towards that event, person or experience all over again... The body is not at ease.. this is a state where the condition of dis-ease sets in.... If you continue to live in that state, your cells are now getting conditioned to live in the same state... Some scriptures say" .. as is the atom so is the universe.... Health of a person, depends on how well all the systems of the body and the 60 trillion cells play the melody of harmony together.. When the cells are living in a state of hatred, they soon start exhibiting that with each other and killing healthy cells in the body...This leads to many forms of auto immune disease... Like Rumi said.. you are not a drop in the ocean, you are an ocean in every drop... Be careful of your thoughts, your feelings and your emotions... *Forgive people, not because they deserve it, but because you need it... Stay happy, stay healthy...*Have a wonderful healthy life ahead filled with the abundance of good health and happiness

WONDERS, IN A GLANCE OF MEHER, OF GURU JEE During one of his mission to enlighten people, Guru Nanak Dev Maharaj traveled a great distance to the wilderness of Assam with his companions, Bala and Mardana. Mardana was very hungry and tired, so they sat under a tree. After sometime, Mardana went to get something to eat. On his way he met Kauda, the cannibal. Kauda took Mardana by surprise and bounded his hand and foot by a rope and then carried him to the spot where he had kept a big pan full of oil for frying the flesh of his victims. Kauda started to lighten fire under the pan. When Mardana saw Kauda preparing to butcher him, he was very frightened and prayed to Guru Ji to come to his rescue. The all-knowing Guru realized what was happening to Mardana. He started walking towards Kauda’s place in order to rescue Mardana. Kauda was trying to light the fire when Guru ji appeared. Kauda was completely bewildered. He went towards the Guru and tied him as well. He lit the fire and within minutes the oil was burning hot. Guru Nanak Dev Ji said that he wants be the first one to be fried. Kauda was astonished and surprise. He had never seen anyone like Guru Nanak before. Kauda carried on his routine and lifted Guru Ji to be put him in the big pan. When the Guru’s feet touched the hot oil, it became cold as ice. Kauda then knew that Guru Nanak Dev Ji was not an ordinary person. Guru Ji looked at Kauda with compassion and graciously and said, "Kauda! You do not realize what you are doing. Would you cast yourself in the burning fire of hell?" Kauda, whose conscience was dead with heinous crimes, suddenly came to realization and was overwhelmed with repentance. The very gracious and holy sight of the divine Guru made him realize his guilt and he fell at Guru’s feet and begged for mercy. The gracious Guru blessed him with Naam, the meditation on the Name of God. Kauda changed entirely and thereafter lived as a devout disciple of Guru Nanak Dev Ji. He became an honest person and a devotee of God.

Why bring in beloved Sachay Patshah, and shamelessly blame Him for our misfortunes? That also, when our present condition, it is due to our own karmas from our past. Does not the Bani say: Aapay beejeh, aapay khaae. So Guest Jee, wher does Wahiguru comes in this picture of our destiny? He is not like us unfaithful and disrespectful human beings, He is our Mata Pita, our Sajjan, our Bhaee, our Meet. Just look at the situation from a higher perspective, He is so Dayalu, that in spite of any of your karam, He has still blessed you with the highest life form, the one of a human being, so that we learn something from Gurbani, do His bhakti that much, that we become one with Him? So tell me, in which way has He forsaken you? He has extended His arm to pull you out from this Bhavsagar, and you are blaming Him? Aren´t you a bit arrogant and unjust with Him, though it maybe out of pain? But even then, our distress should not take us away from Him, rather make us cling harder on His Lotus Feet. Other thing is, we maybe not aware of our stock of karmas, and thus their reactions on us in the form of destiny, but nevertheless, we should never ever blame Him. Following are some beautiful inspirational Sat Bachans from the Bani, I hope they give you some comfort: ਜੇ ਸੁਖੁ ਦੇਹਿ ਤ ਤੁਝਹਿ ਅਰਾਧੀ ਦੁਖਿ ਭੀ ਤੁਝੈ ਧਿਆਈ ॥੨॥ Je sukẖ ḏėh ṯa ṯujẖėh arāḏẖī ḏukẖ bẖī ṯujẖai ḏẖi▫ā▫ī. ||2|| If You will bless me with happiness, then I will worship and adore You. Even in pain, I will meditate on You. ||2|| ਜੇ ਭੁਖ ਦੇਹਿ ਤ ਇਤ ਹੀ ਰਾਜਾ ਦੁਖ ਵਿਚਿ ਸੂਖ ਮਨਾਈ ॥੩॥ Je bẖukẖ ḏėh ṯa iṯ hī rājā ḏukẖ vicẖ sūkẖ manā▫ī. ||3|| Even if You give me hunger, I will still feel satisfied; I am joyful, even in the midst of sorrow. ||3|| ਤਨੁ ਮਨੁ ਕਾਟਿ ਕਾਟਿ ਸਭੁ ਅਰਪੀ ਵਿਚਿ ਅਗਨੀ ਆਪੁ ਜਲਾਈ ॥੪॥ Ŧan man kāt kāt sabẖ arpī vicẖ agnī āp jalā▫ī. ||4|| I would cut my mind and body apart into pieces, and offer them all to You; I would burn myself in fire. ||4|| Let us learn to love Him, strictly under all circumstances as seen above, for that is the right attitude to be had as a sikh. Stay blessed. Sat Sree Akal.

Difficult member of family - Sikh perspective Regarding the title of this thread and the different opinions of the sangat above, I have found some interesting questions and answers on the net related to this thread, where seekers/ disciples ask their spiritual teacher Sri Sri Ravi Shankar : Q: Gurudev, my husband hurts my feelings? How do I change his egoistic nature? A) Why do we try to change people? It is because they are hurting us. And the more we want to change someone because they are hurting us, they are not going to change. If you really want them to change, you have to wish for their welfare – because what they are doing is not good for them. If that is your intention, they will change. Your every prayer will make them see things differently and behave differently. So, it all lies in your intention. Q: How to be positive and strong when people start hurting me? How to love myself in such situations? A)Come on, you forget that you are a diamond! Nobody can cut a diamond or hurt it. Even if a diamond is cut, it shines more. When anyone is trying to hurt you, they are not hurting you, they are only making you shine more. Anyone who brings down your prestige or insults you, they are only bringing up the best qualities that are hidden within you. Remember that every insult is an opportunity for you to exhibit the beauty that you are. Q: Gurudev, how do I forgive those who have abused me emotionally and physically? Sometimes I feel like killing them but even that doesn’t seem enough. A)When you get hurt, it is not only the other person at fault, it is also your ignorance and your naivety. You have not been intelligent enough, or intuitive enough to avoid it, or move out of it. So, take a little bit of the responsibility on yourself as well. If you had been strong and skillful, nobody could have abused you. When you see the situation from this perspective, you will become calmer. I want to ask you, haven’t you caused some pain or hurt to someone else knowingly or unknowingly, willingly or unwillingly? You have. If others hold on to it for a lifetime and go after you, how would you like it? My dear, if someone has abused you, they have been ignorant. It is because of ignorance and some hurt inside them, that they have caused it to others. See it from a wider lens. A happy person will not come and harm anyone else. If someone is harming others, it is because they are not happy, not centered and they don’t know what you know. Consider them as sick people. If someone is physically sick, do you get angry at them? These people are mentally and emotionally sick, they are spiritually sick, and if you hold a grudge against them, you will also become one among them. You will get sick. For your own sake, you should let go and move on. Q: How can I forgive my mother-in-law who is constantly hurting me? A)Take a look at how your mother behaves. How many times did you have arguments with your own mother, and how many times was she frustrated with you? Haven’t you gotten scolding from your own mother? I don’t think any girl or boy has grown up without being scolded by their mother. When your mom criticizes you, you just fight with her and then you forget it. It doesn’t really touch you. My dear, remember, your mother and mother-in-law are of the same age, the same kind and the same category. She scolds you only 10% of what your mother used to scold you, then why does it hurt you deeply? Just accept her. People who are tough to handle, whether at office or at home, only help you to develop your skills. You should really thank them. They make you more skilfull, more refined, more compassionate and all your good qualities start manifesting in you. If you have knowledge, in tough situations, wisdom manifests and good things manifest out of it. If you lack skills, the worst things come out of it. This one thing we need to master. Master the skill of expressing and communication, and grab this as an opportunity to do that. Q: I am hurt, I don’t want to forgive. A) Forgiving others is not for their sake, it is for your own sake, for your mental health. Know that you have the power to do it and just do it. Open your mind to the vastness of this universe. Wake up and see that seven billion people are on this planet, everyday many are being hurt, everyday many are dying. Whatever big thing you are hanging on to about someone’s action towards you, know that it is your karma that made them act that way with you. If not that person, some other person would have given you the same experience. This is what you need to realize, this is what you need to see. when you get a nasty email, you don’t throw your computer or laptop because you’ve got a nasty email. Whatever email came, the laptop just reflects that. Similarly, people are like laptops. You don’t need to forgive them, you simply need to have a better understanding. If you ask them, sometimes, they also may not know why they behaved that way, why they did acts that hurt you. Look at life from a bigger perspective. That’s why I keep saying, behind every event there is knowledge, behind every person there is love, behind every object there is infinity, just know this, watch this, get this, that’s it. P.S : I hope these questions answers has somehow shed some light on the topic of the present thread. If anyone wants to check the information in my post or wants to know more, here is website address: https://www.artofliving.org/wisdom/theme/how-to-deal-with-hurtful-people

Don't know who wrote this.. But Hats off Man O Man! When without money, eats vegetables at home; When has money, eats the same vegetables in a fine restaurant. When without money, rides bicycle; When has money rides the same ‘exercise machine’. When without money walks to earn food When has money, walks to burn fat; Man O Man! Never fails to deceive thyself! When without money, wishes to get married; When has money, wishes to get divorced. When without money, wife becomes secretary; When has money, secretary becomes wife. When without money, acts like a rich man; When has money acts like a poor man. Man O Man! Never can tell the simple truth! Says share market is bad, but keeps speculating; Says money is evil, but keeps accumulating. Says high Positions are lonely, but keeps wanting them. Says gambling & drinking is bad, but keeps indulging; Man O Man! Never means what he says and never says what he means.. Life is not about what you couldn't do so far, it's about what you can still do. Wait n dont ever give up.. Miracles happen every day.... Rs.20 seems too much to give a beggar but it seems okay when its given as tip at a fancy restaurant. After a whole day of work, Hours at the gym seem alright but helping your Mother out at home seems like a burden. Praying to god for 3 min takes too much time but watching a movie for 3 hours doesn't. Wait a whole year for Valentine's day but we always forget Mother's day. Two poor starving kids sitting on the pavement weren't given even a slice of Bread but a painting of them sold for lakhs of Rupees. Think about It.. Make a change. Coz u can .... Six Easy ways to earn "punya karam" 1) Give a smile or gift to someone. Each time u gift or smile, it will make someone's day.....u gain. 2) Donate a wheelchair to a hospital. Each time sick person uses it, u gain. 3) Participate in building an orphanage, hospital, school or college. Anybody uses it, u gain. 4) Place a water cooler in a public place. Anybody drinks water, u gain. 5) Plant a tree. Whenever a person, animal sits in its shade or eats from it, u gain.

Nice story Pen Jee, well, after reading it , I got an inspiration from it, like, Wahiguru is within us as a hidden Treasure, all we lazy people have to do, is to remove away the heavy stone/boulder or our haume, our ego from within, with the aid of His bhakti, then naturally, we shall become spiritually rich, and get dressed with noble qualities, such as humility, tolerance, forgiveness, and truthfulness. Sat Sree Akal.

Jis kou raakhay Saeea, tis kou maar na sakay koee. Forgiveness, tolerance, humility, are the outcome from spiritual progress, if any, but surely not ego, anger or hatred. If such is the state of negativity, then surely, all that one thinks about oneself so much, it is all "baraham". Before cursing anyone, be careful, for if that person takes shelter in Wahiguru´s kirpa, that very curse, may come back as a boomerang....better give blessings if you ever want to give anything, that may do more benefit on the other person, as well as on yourself. Stay blessed. Sat Sree Akal.