Ghetto_Superstar

I'm sorry to hear this brother, but the other guys who have replied are right in saying that you do need to talk to her first. Show her the photos and hear her side... I know it seems highly unlikely, but there may even be a simple explanation for these photos. If she does confess and is sorry, then maybe you should give her a second chance purely because there are children involved. I myself grew up without a father, and there are some things that cannot be replaced, so I would forgive her this once only. Hope it all works out for you

No idea how he expected to get away with this http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/manchester/7137152.stm

These two lads have probably created even more racial tension in Birmingham beacause of this. Absoulutely disgraceful behaviour, and they should have received longer sentances. Here's the link: http://www.thesun.co.uk/article/0,,2-2007270257,00.html

You shouldn't be critcising anyone in the first place... Mind your own business & let people make their own decisions

I can't see that happening to be honest with you. She is a dentistry student so she isn't going to be as stupid as that. More than likely what happened, I my opinion, is that the Sikh girl was having an affair with the Muslim man, and maybe he wanted to put an end to it as his wife was pregnant. The Sikh girl probably took this out on Sana Ali, resulting in her murder. Also the husband was the first to be questioned by police. He must have told them of Harmohinder Kaur's involvement, indicating further that he had no loyalties towards her anymore. I could be wrong, but the outcome of the Court case

This is one of those incidents that really makes you sick to the stomach. The fact that the Sikh girl more than likely knew Sana Ali was pregnant makes the murder even worse. Obviously this has not gone to Court yet so she is innocent until proven guilty, however if she is found guilty she can expect a very long jail sentance, which in all honesty is what she will deserve. Suprisingly this story hasn't had the media coverage that it deserves. If Sana Ali was a pregnant white woman it would surely be making headline news even now, as did the Abigail Witchalls murder in 2005. Just goes to show we still live in an unequal society.

If he's disrespected her in any way then yeah, give him a good beating. But if he hasn't done anything wrong and if it's what makes your sister happy, then you don't need to do anything.

Yeah this is a difficult position your're in, but at the same time things are slowly improving for you. Firstly like you said, you've re-kindled your love for Sikhi. Secondly you and your wife are going through counselling, which to me would mean, that you both want to make your marriage work. I know you think it hasn't improved things, but my understanding of it is that it can take years to solve peoples problems, but I'm not an expert in this. But my advice would be to carry on with it. Maybe you should try spending more time with your wife alone and without any other family around. It could bring back the good times that you had before you were married. Hope it works out for you man.

Why do you wanna get yourself involved in a situation like this?? You know its wrong and its pretty clear that your parents aren't gonna accept it, so just forget about it. From what you've just said she has started to phone you again, but that doesn't mean she wants to marry you does it?? Maybe she just missed you being her friend, and there's no harm in that. Tell her what you're feeling and just be good friends with her, instead of thinkin about fallin in love n all that bollywood nonsense. Take care

Listen man, you're not doing nothing physical with this girl, so just chill out a little. Don't listen to half these guys who are gonna reply to ya, you certainly don't need to break contact with her. Just be a good friend to her, there's no harm in that. But just tell her what your thinking because she might even be feeling the same way. In any case whenever you feel you're getting too close, take a step back and re-focus yourself again. It's all part of growing up my man. Hope it works out for ya

The best advice I can give you is to hang in there and sweat it out. I'm at University myself and it is hard work. But the rewards after you have a degree outweigh the hard work you're going to have to put in. It seems as though you've just taken your January exams and you feel that they didn't go as well as they should have done. Well the academic year is far from over, you're only half way through it, so you've got plenty of time to get ace your next exams in the summer. The key is getting yourself organised, planning your revision strategies and managing your time. Your personal tutor at University will be able to give you good advice on this sort of stuff. If you feel you don't understand something or need more help, then go and see your tutor. Don't struggle by yourself burying your head in text books, it's a lot easier when somebody explains a difficult concept to you than trying to learn it yourself. Make sure you also do activities which get your mind away from University and studying when you can to give yourself a break. Go to the gym, knock about with a football, or even go for a walk somewhere. This will ensure that your mind stays fresh, well thats what works for me anyway. All the best with your studies, and don't worry too much as well cos stress aint gonna do nothin good for ya. Take care

I don't care if Khalsa4Ever despises monai thats up to him, what I'm sayin is he shouldn't be posting those kind of views on here. I never said that this forum is the be all and end all of Sikh knowledge, what I said was that kids post on here looking for advice and guidance. Would you want our youth to learn to despise monai or think of everybody equally??? Fair enough saying that cutting your hair is a sin and encouraging them to keep their hair, but to lead them in the direction of hating somebody is wrong. I'm sure Khalsa4Ever wasn't trying to influence anybodys opinions, all I'm saying is that it can have that effect, so maybe he should keep those sort of views to himself. Mod Note: Please don't use profanity on the board. Thanks.

In respone to Khalsa4Ever..... Well so what if somebody decides to shave their hair off?? Thats up to them and its none of your business, focus on your own Sikhi instead of criticising others. Firstly that doesn't count as a bad experience, and it certainly doesn't give u any excuse to despise all monai. You should remember that you're posting on a youth forum and kids come on here lookin for guidance on how to become the best Sikhs they can. Whatever you post on here can influence their judgement. If you feel that way then thats your choice, I'm certainly not gonna convince you otherwise. But such extreme views like these should be kept out of this forum, regardless of what reasoning there is behind them.

You've asked a question that I wouldn't expect to be on this forum. You should have equal respect for everyone, whether they are white, black, muslim, sikh or mona-sikh. Don't listen to A-Class idiots like Khalsa4Ever, I mean why would you say you despise monai??? That's the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard!! How could a mona help it if his parents cut his hair from birth?? To be honest with ya it's people like you that can drive people away from Sikhi by lookin down your nose at somebody. Stereotypical views like yours aren't doing any good to nobody.

Seems to me you're just a lovesick school girl who's got a crush on a guy who doesn't even live in the same country as you!! I can't give you advice on how to get him out of your head, it's probably just a phase you're in right now n before you know you'll have forgotten about him

uhhhh... well its pretty obvious that you tell your parents and the guy in question that u don't wanna go through with it

It's attitudes that people like you have which really wind me up... Why can't you just mind your own business and focus on your own sikhi, instead of measuring the thickness of peoples' eyebrows & assuming they are "party-goers"!!! You're a pretty sad individual whose got nothing better to do in your spare time than to criticise people who you don't even know

Well what do u think the answer is fool?? You're askin this stupid question on a sikh forum!!! Cuttin your hair aint gonna change nothin, you'll still be an insecure little kid trapped inside a body of a man!! The other guys who've replied to this are right in sayin you shouldnt go lookin for love, it'll happen when it happens. <EDITED> Mod note: Watch your words!

tarandeep what r u on about??? There's plenty of reasons why people would require a divorece..... unfaithful parnters, domestic violence, alcohol dependencies, etc I do agree that it should be the last resort n u shud do anything possible to resolve your differences. However in some cases it isnt possible.... more of a reason to get to know your partner properley before going ahead with marriage

listen man your human n you got emotions like anyone else on this planet, so your bound to start liking someone at somepoint.... so dont beat yourself up over it You jus gotta deal with it your own way to stop thinkin about her, do some sports or anythin to consume more time, so your not sat around pickin your nose thinkin of this girl All the best

so what if she's got a tatoo?? whats it gotta do with you??? She'll realise one day that she showed bad judgement n see how stupid she's been.... let people learn from their own mistakes but give your opinion when the person in question asks you for it There's no point in gettin ur knickers in a twist when she's already gone n got a tatoo lol

get outa here u pervert!!! Stop wastin our time on your sexual frustrations..... go n see a psychologist!!

Put some damn paragraphs in there next time man!! Your a deep brother n I'm sure you'll sort this out Take Care