skaur8888

maybe its time to have mainstream films about our gurus and history to reach these people - there's a lack of education in the gurudwaras and its not a recent thing - people who think this way don't go to the gurudwara. They are surrounded by western values of money, live for today and do what makes you happy, so we need new ways of reaching them.

Yes there are Punjabi girls who are not interested in someone if he wear’s a pagh just like there are non-Punjabi girls who are not interested. The OP was referring to dating, if a girl respects Sikhi she is less likely to be interested in dating – its just double standards to critisce Punjabi girls for not being Sikh enough because they don’t date you, whether you have a pagh or not. You sound genuine and I wouldn’t give up on meeting a decent Punjabi girl, and avoid developing bitter feelings as expressed by some of the posters on this forum. From some of the examples in your post, you seem too eager to paint a negative picture of Punjabi girls – its like saying all Punjabi men are like Monty Panesar after his recent behaviour? Its easy to get influenced by others especially on these forums where there seems to be a hate campaign against Punjabi girls. I don’t need to look at google to see whats going on around me –most of the men wearing paghs at the gurudwara I go to are married, and they generally look smarter than those without a pagh. I agree with the OP that confidence counts, girls/women are attracted to personality and sense of humour not just looks. Perhaps the people who are complaining on these forums are themselves influenced by Bollywood and want the more superficial types of girls who focus more on their appearance rather than Sikhi and are overlooking the more simpler modest girls. Women in general in our culture are not valued as highly as men and so its easy to blame them when things don't go your way and that explains some of the vicious comments on these sites. If men wish to date and end up with white women that's their choice and shouldn't make feeble excuses blaming Punjabi women who have been bought up not to date whether you wear a pagh or not.

Another post criticising Punjabi women. Maybe the problem is if you're looking for someone to date/girlfriend then you'll approach Punjabi girls who have no interest in Sikhi. The Punjabi girls who respect Sikhi are less likely to be interested in dating, sounds like some people on this forum want the best of all worlds. Its no surprise that white girls are the ones you will end up with as they're willing to be long-term girlfriends. If you wish to have white girlfriends that's your choice but please don't say its because Punjabi girls are not interested in Sikh men. I go to the gurdwara and there are plenty of decent Punjabi Sikh girls/women who respect Sikhi . I suspect a lot of this is due to Punjabi men wanting to enjoy the single life with their white girlfriends and justfying it by blaming Punjabi women.