sikhni777

I think It Is bhai bhagtu.

SGGS Ang 1369 ਕਬੀਰ ਸਿਖ ਸਾਖਾ ਬਹੁਤੇ ਕੀਏ ਕੇਸੋ ਕੀਓ ਨ ਮੀਤੁ ॥ कबीर सिख साखा बहुते कीए केसो कीओ न मीतु ॥ Kabīr sikẖ sākẖā bahuṯe kī▫e keso kī▫o na mīṯ. Kabeer has made many students and disciples, but he has not made God his friend. ਚਾਲੇ ਥੇ ਹਰਿ ਮਿਲਨ ਕਉ ਬੀਚੈ ਅਟਕਿਓ ਚੀਤੁ ॥੯੬॥ चाले थे हरि मिलन कउ बीचै अटकिओ चीतु ॥९६॥ Cẖāle the har milan ka▫o bīcẖai atki▫o cẖīṯ. ||96|| He set out on a journey to meet the Lord, but his consciousness failed him half-way. ||96|| I chose this line on purpose so that we can see that Kabir JI chose to use the word Sikh before Guru Nanak Dev ji even came into the world. As we can see Sikh means a student or a disciple. In the olden days, before the Gurus anybody who performed bhagti was made the Guru. This pangti refers to those sadhus who gain alot of Sikhs or students and then they forget about bhagti. Therefore our Gurus never forgot about their own nitnem whilst still having Sikhs following them. A sadhu can think that when he gains Sikhs to guide, he has reached the final place. When people say wah wah to you that you are a good Sikh etc, you should still remember to perform your nitnem daily and be above praise and dispraise. That is what true sikhi is all about.

http://www.sikhiwiki.org/index.php/Dukh_Sukh The link above highlights the gaining of sukh and dhukh. The sakhi of Bhai Randhir Singh Ji also shows us how our karams have to be completed before we merge into Waheguru. There is another sakhi which I will try to find which shows how a Gurmukh had his son married one day and buried the next day without any change in emotions. I dont remember exactly who that was.

Professional means they will never know who sent that person or rather girl to approavh them. If thry are the naughty type they will not be able to control themselves and will end up telling the beautiful professional all about themselves a report of which comes yo you. So you decide what to do with the person. Either accept their flaws or leave them.

Our parents were the same. Our mum always told us one religious thing like a meaning or anything like a sakhi everyday. She kept talking to us so that we could make the right choices. If I was a crazy one I might have insisted on getting married to him .

My mum always talked to us about what type of marriage is successful. We had an uncle who had married his girls all in houses where there was no drinking and meat eating going on. My mum aimed for the same. We had to say no to literally like a thousand rishte. So I knew this guy would be a no no. We actually saw him and his friends pick up a kali in the evening. Do we just knew they were not that straight. They roamed around late night altogether. One even married a muslim girl.

This Is where parents come In.

These days you can employ a professional to go test them. Thrir reports are very reliable. Guys beware.

I did not marry for love but my hubby has stood by me in thick and thin and is home every evening and night too - something valuable compared to others I have been talking to. There's a lot of cheating going on in the world. Terrible. Been married 19years now.

No not at all. I yhi think I made the right vhoice. choice.

He might have been wanting to become religious. However I told him next time you come to see me put a dastaar on your head and he just starred at me.

Very good point bhenji. What the OP thinks love can just be an imagination of what could have been. I think she just needs a break and should be honest about it. It is just our culture where ladies are expected to just carry on despite feelings of needing a break from things. This brings many problems and things carry on to the extreme. Maybe she has to make an excuse of work coz other wise they may not allow her to go there. She seems to be in India as paperwork is not that important there. She might not be going for real but her post does highlight what is goingon in her mind.

I feel sorry for the one I never married.

I married him coz my mum told me I can only take amrit If my husband does. They wanted a girl who wanted to take amrit. So everything else was cast aside. However we were In the same School as kids. His brothets are totally different. My kusmat had a spoilt apple In It. Thats all I can say. People are different when you move In to luve (Live)with Them.

Excitement gets projected as love. The person you are with before marriage seems to have a good future for you as you have not yet tasted the negative. So people think its love. Its just an attraction to getting peace and good feeling. It might not happen when you do get married to the person you think you love. Love is like a drug. It blinds you to a persond flaws such that you can actually get married to them before reality sinks in. It takes time to develop love. It just doesn't happen. Even to love God we have to work ha to learn bani and understand the underlying truth.

Not sure Its love just excitement coz It was the first time any guy was coming that close. He was good looking, teddy bear like good built, smily face, easy going and caring. His eyes were always on me- at work, guradwara, functions wheretever. So In my mind It was like marriage would not been easier wiyth someone who cared about me first and not his mum all the time like my hubby. My hubby would come home and not eve n greet me and go and sit next to his mum. I get treated like the maid and they are the couple. Then I console myself and say many a time - chill out Its just his mjum not another woman. I feel sorry for that person actually. He Is In another country... but those are the best romantic memories I ever had.

Correct pronunciation might be tricky with this. I think an audio is better. I use an audio. Audio with punjabi script will be better as you can remember the correct letters to pronounce.

What you think of marriage before you are married and the reality you have to face after are two different things. Before you are married your emotions are in a high state and you are thinking in terms of pleasure and laughter and loads of fun. You think you will connect perfectly with the other person. After you are married reality sinks in - the honey moon is over and you realise that it is day to day living just like it was trying to get along with your mum, dad, siblings now the mum dad and siblings and uncles and aunties double and you get people whom you dont know and you get to become part of a different family. You have a lot of mental adjustments to make. They dont just happen. You cannot just lock yourself in a cell and manage your partner to run everything. There will be complaints, comments, praises (rarely if any). You feel get caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. If you take your mums side you get told off. If you take your wifes side- you get told off. If you take your husbands side you get told off. You are left in a turmoil wondering where is all that fun that I was dreaming of. You saw married people smile and you thought they were happy genuinely. You never knew you would have to become an actor as well - trying to keep a whole family of people happy. If they are sad the blame lands on you. LOOK what you did!!!! Drama drama drama. Just wait til the kids arrive........ yes so learn to take breaks and learn that nothing comes for free. If you want a successful marriage you are going to have swallow down that big ball of pride and make it work. Everyone has a brain - it is high time now you learnt how to use it well. Put your heart aside and decide who is the right partner for you. _ the one who sweeps your feet and those of many others or the one who is moody but who is high in morals.

Believe me this happens more than what you can imagine it might be happening. I loved a guy who was a drunk. He was a funny one - younger than me actually. So just because he was fun to be around with I could not marry him - he went around with other girls too. I remember him coming to sweep the Guradwara floor and it was just my dad, me and my sis and he came sweeping down at my feet and talking to me.. very romantic indeed. My dad was far away so could not hear. We tried our best not to giggle. I finally did tell him to stop that as I am engaged and he respected that. Yes but I did not marry him nor date him - because I wanted a Gursikh. This could be the reason for the OP marrying this guy. You cannot just love a sidha sadha husband - being thrown into an arranged marriage when you have just a fight over the phone and patched things up by force. That was my story and yes I needed my space to get away and think about things. If I had gone to the Guradwara and spent some time alone I felt this would help. I took several breaks to think things over. I went to my mums, went to the Guradwara, had long walks and finally my heart was where my mind was. I stopped telling myself that my marriage has been a mistake - and was not going to be fun. I worked towards making it work and all those breaks helped me to think straight. I missed his home when I was away and then I realised it had become a part of me which I cant throw away. So being away does help. It does not mean that if you loved another person you are going to divorce. Once you are married to a person - the relationship takes a different meaning in your life. To realise that persons importance in your life you need to get away for a while away from that person and a guradwara is the best place to go to in order to get positive vibes.

Almost anything we see theee days has a double meaning. The naamdharis do not even have fere around SGGS at their weddings. They have Guru jis after Guru Gobind Singh Ji. Are they now realising their mistakes? It seems a device to use to lure youngsters into their dharam and to justify and hide the mistakes their panth has made in the past.

Sounds nice I would say. The picture looks very divine too. Education was highly stressed by Guru Gobind Singh. By being knowledgeable a Sikh can practice religion better and earn enough to be in a position to support themselves and the needy too.

Instead of getting your dharam from the Internet. Yes if you are bad you will get punished. Saying waheguru constantly will fill you with positive thoughts. You are too young to hate life. If you spend too much time online, the wifi gets to you. So keep away, go for a walk and practice naam simran. Regulate your online time. Yours was a very tricky question. However you asked it with the wrong words. Should have asked what has happened to those who committed the act. They also were taking revenge for the beadhbi which happened to a guradwara. When massa rangar did a similar thing some sikhs beheaded him. However times have changed and the whole community suffers from the action of individuals. Protecting ones religious sites and dharam from interference, destruction and confusion is becoming more and more tricky. People who destroy Sikhi should remember that they are destroying the resting place of their souls First. Sikhi is the simplest purest religion which unfortunately is understood the least by the majority of its followers. People just want to shut their eyes and pretend they don't belong to it. They prefer to practice one thousandth of it... to suit their convenience. However even the fruit obtained from that little amount is very very great.

Its tIme you read a good book I

No problem bache. Be careful. You are forgiven this time.