GuestKaur2

On 12/26/2018 at 3:12 PM, Amaysingh said:

As you may be aware I created a Sikh website http://www.whychoosesikhism.com

But am looking to change the domain. It would great if you could vote in the pole which you think would be the best suited for the site. 

livesikhism is sort of already taken by a youtube channel but you could still do it.

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCm6ZlAge3DxodekzDSjJNhg

On 12/25/2018 at 5:29 PM, Guest darbar said:

vjkk vjkf jee

recently i've wanted to redesign the darbar in my house for guru ji but it want it to be beautiful and look amazing  but i dont have many ideas... can anyone help by posting the most amazing pictures they've seen of any darbars?

Thats pretty much all I could find, I'm sorry.

In terms of design first picture is nice looking at the simplicity the royal blue really gives it a nice look. Obviously you could adapt it to fit the room size and shape and also to your taste.

On 12/23/2018 at 9:01 PM, Guest H.S.j said:

I watched a video about by Nanak naam on this topic but I'm still left very confused. I am wondering if there is even a point to meditate and pray if you trim your beard? 

i don't intend to to trim forever, just for a few years at uni,  I still want to feel connected to sikhi and doing naam and not dm allows me to feel good, but I can't help but feel like I'm lying to myself by balancing a spiritual life and a non spiritual life, I like to devote my 100% to everything I do, am I just being counter productive if I meditate or is it still better than nothing? 

I know now many of you will say stop trimming, and yes I know I will eventually, but while I am doing it, shall I continue to pray and do naam? 

 

Would appriciate your thoughts? 

Praying is something that we do to praise Vaheguru. Whether we have kes or not we should still do siphat salah of Vaheguru. Once you become imbued with Naam, watch how your heart will reject the idea of  trimming. No matter what others think, you will only think of your Beloved. 

At the end of the day, if you feel like you are lying to yourself and you don't feel like yourself then you don't have to do it. Just think, who are you really trying to impress? The world or Guru Ji? Based on this answer you can make your decision.

Veerji, there is no need to please the world because one day we will have to leave and return to our Master. Can we really afford to make these small mistakes add up to a bigger one? 

After all, the decision is up to you. Just sit down and do simran and your heart will speak for itself. 

11 hours ago, 1Anonymous1 said:

This happened to me a long time before but just last night again, i was dreaming about a snake who I had to keep my eye on however when I would look away it would go off. Then I came near to it and it stood up and I felt threatened.

i suddenly woke up and it was amritvela, thanking guru I went to have a ishnan and came back to my room. But when I started doing my medidation my dhiyaan was going to a snake. When I focused all I could see was that snake standing up. Is this just me being superstitious as I think it may just be because of the dream it was in my head and then when I did dhiyaan it came up or does it mean something else? 

Please put my mind to rest!!

Sometimes things that we think about or things that we are attached to appear in our dreams. As its still in our sub-conscious mind. At least dreams about snakes are not that bad lol I still get worse dreams - nightmares in fact

I love listening to qwaali idk how anyone could forget this:

21 hours ago, RajKaregaKhalsa1 said:

What do you guys do to take care of your Kesh (other than wash it lol). Do you use oils like coconut oil? What else?

I have dry skin and scalp (not overly dry) but I found applying argan or amla oil made my kesh longer and thicker. I don't use conditioner as I'm not too fond of the idea of having lots of chemicals in my hair. Oils are better. 

10 hours ago, Big_Tera said:

For instance. Sikhs believe in the concept of rebirth. Muslim believe in heaven and hell. 

Well there are realms of heavens and hells, not just one. Sikhi believes in eternal life with Vaheguru - is this not heaven? Muslims believe in a different type of heaven, one where people can enjoy themselves and do whatever they want as a result of praying 5 times a day etc. So no religion is wrong in the sense that it does teach people to worship God, whether that be Vaheguru or Allah. They are both the same. 

10 hours ago, Big_Tera said:

Therefore they are inferior in the eyes of God even if you feel the word inferior sounds too harsh.

Inferior is the wrong word to use. How can a parent find one of His childen inferior to the other? Vaheguru is benevolent and gives an equal opportunity to everyone to merge with Him. Whether you are a Sikh or a Muslim, we are all dear to Vaheguru.

10 hours ago, Big_Tera said:

Sikhi is allegedly meant to be the complete truth from God, and the truth is meant to benefit people; rather the religion is largely ethnocentrically limited to the Punjabi diaspora, so the truth remains locked away amongst a community which is slowly losing its religiosity (like the rest of the world religious communities), but it is not replenishing its numbers with any significant number of new converts.

Sikhi is the complete truth from Vaheguru. I don't agree with the fact that Sikhi is limited to Punjabi diaspora because there are lots of people converting to Sikhi from all types of backgrounds. So this statement is not true. Yes the number of people converting to Sikhi is low (at the moment) but considering we are one of the youngest religions but the 5th largest in the world, we are not doing bad at all. The number of Sikhs WILL increase - even though it is happening slowly at the moment.

10 hours ago, Big_Tera said:

2. Though Sikhi espouses equality, there are some things I would comment on this.
(A) Men and women have spiritual equality in other religions too. In terms of wordly rights, it is impractical to have *absolute* equality between men and women as men and women are biologically different and generally speaking have different natural inclinations e.g. men are typicallyfirmer and more rational (that is not to say women are irrational), and women are typically more creative and softer. Subsequently, more men are in the army (as it should be), for example, as they are physically more capable. Even if these exceptions are few, they are exceptions nonetheless, demonstrating that absolute equality is impractical if not impossible.
(B) In Sikh history, polygamy has been allowed (even during the Guru's time), and though there is a difference of opinion between Sikh historians, there is credible evidence suggesting that a couple of the Gurus had more than one wife. Admittedly this has never been a widespread practice in the Sikh community in general, though Jagraj from Basics of Sikhi said that it was practiced during times of war, but nonetheless I have not encountered anyone suggesting it is okay for women to marry multiple husbands.

The truth is that, men and women will not have full equality because some people refuse to change their mindset on this. But Sikhi promotes the equality of men and women so this is proving that Guru Ji saw men and women as equal. This can be proven by Guru Ji stopping the practise of Sati. However yes, Guru Ji did respect the roles of men and women in life - Men went to war and women stayed at home to take care of family. However, when Mai Bhago went to the battlefield Guru Ji didn't stop her yet lovingly tied a dastar to her head and allowed her to fight.

10 hours ago, Big_Tera said:

3. It may have been the case early on in the path of Guru Nanak, but after successive Gurus and reaching a peak with Guru Gobind Singh, Sikhi evolved from a spiritual path into an organised religion and subsequently developed loads of rituals - air dusting of the Granth, keeping Kesh, dipping a Kirpan in the Prashad, taking shoes off, doing the rounds during Anand Karaj, bowing to the Granth, wearing a Kara, wearing special Kacheh, taking Amrit etc. You may say all of these have practical benefits, but that would be special pleading - the rest of us could explain the spiritual and practical significances of our rituals e.g. the direction of prayer and slaughtering in the name of God (which many Sikhs do not seem to understand properly) just as you would, yet you call them valueless.

None of these are rituals, these are another type of devotion, prayer and expressing our love for Vaheguru. This was done in Guru Ji's time so why wouldn't we do it? All of this is for respect and also for practical reasons. Just as you see the value of direction of prayer and slaughtering in the name of God we see the value of this which you would not understand the value of.

10 hours ago, Big_Tera said:

4. This point is partially covered by my previous points, so please refer to them. 
If God is not the head of a single religion, and Sikhs do not spread the 'complete truth' that Sikhi is branded as, there is no need for Sikhi - Muslims just need to continue being Muslims sincerely, Jews being Jews sincerely, etc, then we will all meet God with clean hearts. The religion is therefore invalidated and Sikhs are absolved of any duty to encourage righteousness.

When Sikhi was first founded - both Hindu's and Muslims were forgetting the essence of true religion so there was a need for Sikhi to be made. Sikhi promotes the belief in religion (whatever religion you are) as long as you cherish it in your heart and follow it lovingly.

10 hours ago, Big_Tera said:

5. The concept of reincarnation is problematic for Sikhi. The Granth is meant to be the perfected book of God but it contains antithetical concepts such as Hell (in the Saloks of Farid) - and Farid believed in Hell literally as a Muslim. Even though as a Sikh you can interpret Hell metaphorically in order to reconcile it with reincarnation, this only dodges the fact that Farid's intention was for it to be meant literally, therefore the Granth contains things that it does not even teach i.e. a literal Hell with fire and damnation. It is like planting a poisenous tree in your orchard and plucking and selling its poisenous fruit because it looks nice rather than because it is inherently beneficial to one's wellbeing."

Sikhi believes in realms of heaven of hell (as previously mentioned) so such places do exist and we may be put in such places for a short amount of time (if an individual has been really bad ie. murderers etc) before being put back into the 8.4 million life cycle. Sikhi believes that God is benevolent so how can a benevolent God let His child suffer in such a hell for the rest of eternity? Sikhi does make sense and everything is practical in Sikhi. Once we dedicate our life to Vaheguru religion does not matter. The main purpose is to ensure every human is enlightened and to bring lost individuals back onto the Path of God - whatever the religion may be, it doesn't matter. This is what Sikhi teaches us, to be a good person. And I am proud that I have such a great Guru who is incomparable to anyone else. I have immense love for Vaheguru and Guru Ji, I would be lost without Him.

On 12/22/2018 at 8:12 PM, puzzled said:

lol same, we used to when we were kids, like do christmas trees, cards etc  but when you get older you just dont give a sh!t lol   it means absolutely nothing 

On 12/22/2018 at 8:14 PM, Redoptics said:

To be honest, in the UK they dont celebrate Christmas,  its usually just for the children.

We had trees etc until I was around 12 then it just stops.

Its actually a whole lot easier rather than fussing about with a Christmas Tree lol, about 2 weeks ago my brother was putting up the Christmas Tree and I was just ignoring the fact that it was there lol

On 12/22/2018 at 9:46 PM, Jaggaa said:

You guys need to relax, he's young and a little annoying but you're over-thinking this. Stop throwing words like ego and belittle and stop being over-emotional.  If you can't deal with the way he responds then I don't get why you feel the need to pull up on his topics. It's not productive. If anything, I read his posts and read your responses - I'd say you perceive him as a kid and when he says something total opposite to what you expect you see nothing but red.  @GuestKaur2 @Redoptics

Well first of all, I'm younger than him and he talks to me like $h1t for no reason so thats why I feel that he's just doing it on purpose. I am just trying to help him get an answer whereas he doesn't want to listen. The difference is that, I'm 14 and I know how to research and read gurbani for evidence whereas he just criticises other people's opinions and NEVER EXPRESSES HIS OWN. 

3 minutes ago, puzzled said:

Sikhs love Christmas in the UK. Just yesterday at work this Paki girl was really surprised when i told her that I don't do Christmas or Christmas trees etc  and she was like "but i thought sikhs celebrate christmas"      she was like she knows so many sikhs who have christmas trees.    She then said on christmas she goes around her grandparents house for dinner and she said "i feel like such a bad muslim now, even a sikh doesn't celebrate christmas and we have christmas dinner"    

its interesting knowing what other communities think of sikhs lol 

My family don't celebrate Christmas, we used to but not now. Everyone else is bare excited for Christmas and I'm just sitting at home eating roti lol

I wouldn't want it any other way lol

Just now, Redoptics said:

I assume to make themselves feel better by trying to belittle everone else.

Maybe or it could just be ego

1 minute ago, dallysingh101 said:

Maybe this is wishful thinking? Just do a search on Panjabi music on Youtube over the last 5 years and see for yourself. Many apnay are obsessed wit jaat-paat (well juts anyway). Recently (as in last 2/3 years) I've been working in construction and bozos (eastern Europeans) have been coming up to me and asking about caste because some hogi jut has been filling their heads up with those notions.  So juts are so f**ked up, that they've been slyly filling nonSIkh heads up with their bahmanvaad thinking, and that is how some nonSikhs  imagine our society to be.

Even a snake is not as devious and two faced as many juts are. Juts are in denial about this.  

In a way, I agree. Jatts are probably the loudest about their caste idk why lol 

However its not taken as seriously as it was.

1 minute ago, Amit12 said:

lol, he is a Typical Young Boy who thinks he is smarter than anyone else, He'll learn with time :'-)

Yeh but one should be open to learn, whats the point of asking questions if you just criticise people over and over again?

1 hour ago, Redoptics said:

I hope the obsession is getting diluted with the newer generations. 

But i have also noticed this has brought in out of religion marriages.

Can't win really get a decrease in obsession with castes and a increase of out of religion marriages. 

Tbh no-one really mentions caste anymore apart from the older generations, not many people care about caste now.

You might get the odd few but thats about it.

Just now, dallysingh101 said:

Khurchee was one of my moms specialties. I see a couple break on my brothers back. lol

But that thieving c**t deserved it usually. 

It depends on the setting, whatever's close is gonna be whacked at your face lol

Just now, Redoptics said:

Hockey stick lol

And a cricket bat

1 minute ago, dallysingh101 said:

You're forgetting the broomstick handle.

Oh yeh sorry my bad

1 minute ago, dallysingh101 said:

You used to get chocolate!!!

You were spoilt!

lol

Nah I use chocolate as a bribe to stop my brother from telling my mum

Just now, RajKaregaKhalsa1 said:

We should have a poll

Which was the most painful lol (jk)

1. Behlna

2. Chappal

3. Slap

4. Other creative missile 

Looool

Just now, Redoptics said:

To be honest, first time i have laughed in four weeks, so thanks guys for the jokes

Who knew we could get so happy whilst remembering stuff so painful lol?

Just now, dallysingh101 said:

The language used was very eloquent too........

Oh, the good ole days of being called a <banned word filter activated>, haram-zaada by your moms. Getting told 'moo bundh kar' whenever you tried to communicate etc. 

Oh, I'm filled with such warm fuzzy feelings now. <Looks wistfully into the sky>

Now you just get battered straight no warning or anything

4 minutes ago, RajKaregaKhalsa1 said:

Yeah exactly, the little one would cry when you did nothing wrong and then slap

Have you ever tried to quieten down your younger sibling because you know if your mum hears them cry you'd get battered?

Loool I'm like: Sshhh I'll give you chocolate just stop crying and don't tell mum

1 minute ago, RajKaregaKhalsa1 said:

Yeah exactly, the little one would cry when you did nothing wrong and then slap

The backhand slaps hurt more than the regular ones lol

1 minute ago, dallysingh101 said:

I think watching on helplessly as your siblings get properly savage beatings (sometimes for justifiable reasons mind you), was psychologically even worse than getting beats yourself sometimes.  

I used to take one for the team tho lol