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They were truely a brahmgyani, through love, humility and compassion they showered their blessings upon millions and did so much parchar aswell as seva of the needy. A very special soul, blessed are those who had their darshan in this life. 

Beautiful Shabad

On 12/10/2004 at 7:16 PM, Son of Guru Gobind Singh Ji said:

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mwrU mhlw 1 ]

maaroo mehalaa 1 ||

Maaroo, First Mehl:

Arbd nrbd DuMDUkwrw ]

arabadh narabadh dhhu(n)dhhookaaraa ||

For endless eons, there was only utter darkness.

Drix n ggnw hukmu Apwrw ]

dhharan n gaganaa hukam apaaraa ||

There was no earth or sky; there was only the infinite Command of His Hukam.

nw idnu rYin n cMdu n sUrju suMn smwiD lgwiedw ]1]

naa dhin rain n cha(n)dh n sooraj su(n)n samaadhh lagaaeidhaa ||1||

There was no day or night, no moon or sun; God sat in primal, profound Samaadhi. ||1||

 

yle='color:080088'>KwxI n bwxI paux n pwxI ]

khaanee n baanee poun n paanee ||

There were no sources of creation or powers of speech, no air or water.

Epiq Kpiq n Awvx jwxI ]

oupath khapath n aavan jaanee ||

There was no creation or destruction, no coming or going.

KMf pqwl spq nhI swgr ndI n nIru vhwiedw ]2]

kha(n)dd pathaal sapath nehee saagar nadhee n neer vehaaeidhaa ||2||

There were no continents, nether regions, seven seas, rivers or flowing water. ||2||

nw qid surgu mCu pieAwlw ]

naa thadh surag mashh paeiaalaa ||

There were no heavenly realms, earth or nether regions of the underworld.

dojku iBsqu nhI KY kwlw ]

dhojak bhisath nehee khai kaalaa ||

There was no heaven or hell, no death or time.

nrku surgu nhI jMmxu mrxw nw ko Awie n jwiedw ]3]

narak surag nehee ja(n)man maranaa naa ko aae n jaaeidhaa ||3||

There was no hell or heaven, no birth or death, no coming or going in reincarnation. ||3||

bRhmw ibsnu mhysu n koeI ]

brehamaa bisan mehaes n koee ||

There was no Brahma, Vishnu or Shiva.

Avru n dIsY eyko soeI ]

avar n dheesai eaeko soee ||

No one was seen, except the One Lord.

nwir purKu nhI jwiq n jnmw nw ko duKu suKu pwiedw ]4]

naar purakh nehee jaath n janamaa naa ko dhukh sukh paaeidhaa ||4||

There was no female or male, no social class or caste of birth; no one experienced pain or pleasure. ||4||

nw qid jqI sqI bnvwsI ]

naa thadh jathee sathee banavaasee ||

There were no people of celibacy or charity; no one lived in the forests.

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id isD swiDk suKvwsI ]

naa thadh sidhh saadhhik sukhavaasee ||

There were no Siddhas or seekers, no one living in peace.

jogI jMgm ByKu n koeI nw ko nwQu khwiedw ]5]

jogee ja(n)gam bhaekh n koee naa ko naathh kehaaeidhaa ||5||

There were no Yogis, no wandering pilgrims, no religious robes; no one called himself the master. ||5||

jp qp sMjm nw bRq pUjw ]

jap thap sa(n)jam naa brath poojaa ||

There was no chanting or meditation, no self-discipline, fasting or worship.

nw ko AwiK vKwxY dUjw ]

naa ko aakh vakhaanai dhoojaa ||

No one spoke or talked in duality.

Awpy Awip aupwie ivgsY Awpy kImiq pwiedw ]6]

aapae aap oupaae vigasai aapae keemath paaeidhaa ||6||

He created Himself, and rejoiced; He evaluates Himself. ||6||

nw suic sMjmu qulsI mwlw ]

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naa such sa(n)jam thulasee maalaa ||

There was no purification, no self-restraint, no malas of basil seeds.

gopI kwnu n gaU guoAwlw ]

gopee kaan n goo guoaalaa ||

There were no Gopis, no Krishna, no cows or cowherds.

qMqu mMqu pwKMfu n koeI nw ko vMsu vjwiedw ]7]

tha(n)th ma(n)th paakha(n)dd n koee naa ko va(n)s vajaaeidhaa ||7||

There were no tantras, no mantras and no hypocrisy; no one played the flute. ||7||

krm Drm nhI mwieAw mwKI ]

karam dhharam nehee maaeiaa maakhee ||

There was no karma, no Dharma, no buzzing fly of Maya.

jwiq jnmu nhI dIsY AwKI ]

jaath janam nehee dheesai aakhee ||

Social class and birth were not seen with any eyes.

mmqw jwlu kwlu nhI mwQY nw ko iksY iDAwiedw ]8]

mamathaa jaal kaal nehee maathhai naa ko kisai dhhiaaeidhaa

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There was no noose of attachment, no death inscribed upon the forehead; no one meditated on anything. ||8||

inMdu ibMdu nhI jIau n ijMdo ]

ni(n)dh bi(n)dh nehee jeeo n ji(n)dho ||

There was no slander, no seed, no soul and no life.

nw qid gorKu nw mwiCMdo ]

naa thadh gorakh naa maashhi(n)dho ||

There was no Gorakh and no Maachhindra.

nw qid igAwnu iDAwnu kul Epiq nw ko gxq gxwiedw ]9]

naa thadh giaan dhhiaan kul oupath naa ko ganath ganaaeidhaa ||9||

There was no spiritual wisdom or meditation, no ancestry or creation, no reckoning of accounts. ||9||

vrn ByK nhI bRhmx KqRI ]

varan bhaekh nehee brehaman khathree ||

There were no castes or social classes, no religious robes, no Brahmin or Kh'shaatriya.

dyau n dyhurw gaU gwieqRI ]

dhaeo n dhaehuraa goo ga

aeithree ||

There were no demi-gods or temples, no cows or Gaayatri prayer.

hom jg nhI qIriQ nwvxu nw ko pUjw lwiedw ]10]

hom jag nehee theerathh naavan naa ko poojaa laaeidhaa ||10||

There were no burnt offerings, no ceremonial feasts, no cleansing rituals at sacred shrines of pilgrimage; no one worshipped in adoration. ||10||

nw ko mulw nw ko kwjI ]

naa ko mulaa naa ko kaajee ||

There was no Mullah, there was no Qazi.

nw ko syKu mswieku hwjI ]

naa ko saekh masaaeik haajee ||

There was no Shaykh, or pilgrims to Mecca.

reIAiq rwau n haumY dunIAw nw ko khxu khwiedw ]11]

reeath raao n houmai dhuneeaa naa ko kehan kehaaeidhaa ||11||

There was no king or subjects, and no worldly egotism; no one spoke of himself. ||11||

Bwau n BgqI nw isv skqI ]

bhaao n bhagathee

naa siv sakathee ||

There was no love or devotion, no Shiva or Shakti - no energy or matter.

swjnu mIqu ibMdu nhI rkqI ]

saajan meeth bi(n)dh nehee rakathee ||

There were no friends or companions, no semen or blood.

Awpy swhu Awpy vxjwrw swcy eyho Bwiedw ]12]

aapae saahu aapae vanajaaraa saachae eaeho bhaaeidhaa ||12||

He Himself is the banker, and He Himself is the merchant. Such is the Pleasure of the Will of the True Lord. ||12||

byd kqyb n isMimRiq swsq ]

baedh kathaeb n si(n)mrith saasath ||

There were no Vedas, Korans or Bibles, no Simritees or Shaastras.

pwT purwx audY nhI Awsq ]

paat(h) puraan oudhai nehee aasath ||

There was no recitation of the Puraanas, no sunrise or sunset.

khqw bkqw Awip Agocru Awpy AlKu lKwiedw ]13]

kehathaa bakathaa aap agochar aapae alakh lakhaaeidhaa

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The Unfathomable Lord Himself was the speaker and the preacher; the unseen Lord Himself saw everything. ||13||

jw iqsu Bwxw qw jgqu aupwieAw ]

jaa this bhaanaa thaa jagath oupaaeiaa ||

When He so willed, He created the world.

bwJu klw Awfwxu rhwieAw ]

baajh kalaa aaddaan rehaaeiaa ||

Without any supporting power, He sustained the universe.

bRhmw ibsnu mhysu aupwey mwieAw mohu vDwiedw ]14]

brehamaa bisan mehaes oupaaeae maaeiaa mohu vadhhaaeidhaa ||14||

He created Brahma, Vishnu and Shiva; He fostered enticement and attachment to Maya. ||14||

ivrly kau guir sbdu suxwieAw ]

viralae ko gur sabadh sunaaeiaa ||

How rare is that person who listens to the Word of the Guru's Shabad.

kir kir dyKY hukmu sbwieAw ]

kar kar dhaekhai hukam sabaaeiaa ||<

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He created the creation, and watches over it; the Hukam of His Command is over all.

KMf bRhmMf pwqwl ArMBy gupqhu prgtI Awiedw ]15]

kha(n)dd brehama(n)dd paathaal ara(n)bhae gupathahu paragattee aaeidhaa ||15||

He formed the planets, solar systems and nether regions, and brought what was hidden to manifestation. ||15||

qw kw AMqu n jwxY koeI ]

thaa kaa a(n)th n jaanai koee ||

No one knows His limits.

pUry gur qy soJI hoeI ]

poorae gur thae sojhee hoee ||

This understanding comes from the Perfect Guru.

nwnk swic rqy ibsmwdI ibsm Bey gux gwiedw ]16]3]15]

naanak saach rathae bisamaadhee bisam bheae gun gaaeidhaa ||16||3||15||

O Nanak, those who are attuned to the Truth are wonderstruck; singing His Glorious Praises, they are filled with wonder. ||16||3||15||

Try to read Gurbani and understand it. And listen to kirtan. Maybe find some good sangat, some bibiyan who are of similar age to connect with to support your journey.

Maybe see a counsellor to deal with any underlying issues about past actions and what you said about regretting everyday.

I dont think anyones is in a position to comment or offer advice on whats right or wrong without knowing the full story or judging from the outside which isnt helpful. Except that whilst you cant change the past you can change now.  The Guru is your guide.

Theres an app called Memorise nitnem on googleplay . It shows first line of each Gurbani paath and you can click on it to expand if you need to see the full shabad etc. But its really good to help you learn.

I rememeber some Singh suggesting thats a good way to learn Gurbani.

6 hours ago, puzzled said:

My Nanis Father, so my Great Grandfather was in the war, but he was in the Australian army as he had moved to Australia with his father (my Great Great Grandfather) as a little boy. He went to school in Australia as well. He wasn't a Sikh though he was a mona. He only went India once in his life to get married, so my Nani never met him. 

They owned a farm/land over there, he died in a accident when he was really young.

My Nani throughout her life held a grudge against him, even though she never met him, she just didn't like the idea of him. But I think it's because he never came back and she didnt grow up with a father was the reason why she held this grudge against him even though she never met him and he was dead anyway. 

Iv been researching about him, interestingly when he joined the army he never told them that he was married, so when he died his wife, my Nanis mother, never received a widows pension. I guess I'm never gnna find out why he didn't state that he was married. Buts it's very odd. 

His wife had a sad life, as she got older she even lost her eyesight. She basically spent her entire life without him and alone. My Nani was their only child because he never came back anyway. 

Years and years later in the 70s, some of my Nanis relatives from Australia on a trip to India told my Nani that as his daughter she has a right to move to Australia because he was a soldier and that she can also claim the land that he owned, she refused both offers!  She just never liked him even though she never met the guy. But, at the same time she used to have a big portrait of him in our house in India and whenever there was a family wedding she used to make sure his portrait was shown at the beginning. Human relationships are so complex. 

He was a dapper looking guy, with a Bhagat Singh style hat slightly tilted to one side lol 

I feel sorry for the guy! ... 

We have a similar story in our family. My great grand father came back to india when he was in his forties and got married. Then passed away quite quickly. He had brought alot of money and bought so much land in punjab on his return. But his kids ( my grandad etc) were so young they didnt know what he owned. So alot of it was plundered , some ppl took advantage and grabbed the land etc. But no one really found out about his past in austrailia, did he have family or land or stuff out there.  Didnt know where to start really as my grandparents passed away so other than his name i dnt hav much info but always wondered if theres a way to know more just out of interest.

Theres one photo of him n he was mona propa dressed smart too like one of those english men photos. 

On 4/9/2019 at 11:01 PM, Guest Kaurs Uniqueness said:

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I find this quite surprising but I've found that it hasn't been an easy journey trying to find someone to marry as an Amritdhari females most of the amritdhari guys I know would prefer to marry non-amritdhari girls. It's funny really! I feel like I should be putting an ad out like 'Where's all the amritdhari guys gone- do you still exist?!" Saying this though I keep my kesh (including facial hair) and this isn't accepted by most amritdhari guys I don't see why but then clearly if females have a problem with guys facial hair then guys are bound to be similar as well. I bit of an inconvenience really but I suppose it is all down to your fate/kismet whatever you want to call it.

I don't think anyone should have to change themselves just to get married you might up doing that your whole life and your future partner might never be happy so you should do what makes you happy without having to compromise your faith and beliefs. 

Its sad ppl have double standards when it comes to amritdhari bibiyan keeping kesh. Id say dont compromise your values for those sorta people.

If your just starting up then you may be better off doing your own book keeping. Easy to do and manage, lots of advice online and its easy to do ur own book keeping.

But if you really do need an accountant id suggest networking with other busines owners, family or friends to request a recommendation of a trusted accredited accountant as opposed to searching for one on an online social platform.

Best of luck with ur venture!

9 hours ago, Koi said:

He trusted her. She promised him. He asked her point blank if she was happy with this, if she wanted to marry him, if she loved him, if she would convince her parents. She answered yes every single time. So if she betrays him at the most crucial point, what the hell is he gonna do?

Her family may have had a strong influence on her decisions. Its sad but now its done, he needs to understand his feelings and pull himself together. Its a big life lesson for him. He will get through it and the sooner he does the better. Instead of being bitter think of it as Vahegurus lessons along the journey through life.

All break ups where people are emotionally involved and committed are painful.

This is life and it seems to happen more these days. 

Back to OP. As per advice above, open and honest conversations should happen by each person and their parents as soon as you think things might get serious. If the other person cant or doesnt want to speak to their parents then you know its not serious or they cant commit, perhaps dont get too involved and be sensible. This shouldnt be forced, its quite pressurising for some people, often a big issue in stricter families.

In some families marriage is also the merging of two families so parents and family have more to consider so things can get complicated.  Thats regardless of caste, families often look beyond the couple. In the west its more about two ppl. We sometimes get stuck between it all.

On 11/4/2020 at 10:02 AM, kaur said:

Sat Sri Akal Sangat ji,

I would like to discuss about something that was kind of bothering me from long time..

When I was young, I used to spend time with my Naani ji, she was always into watering and keeping food for birds..

She used to live in a pind so they had buffaloes, cows at home. She was always making sure all those animals were comfortable.. in Winter she used to put a nice bonfire around them and all..

I started liking it and doing with her.. My naani ji passed away but passed away but I still visit that pind to feel her presence..

Anyway.. coming to the present.. I love birds... I keep food for them, watch them chirping, eating and it make me smile..

Last year, me and my husband ( who is also in love with animals) got a dog and we love that addition to our family..

Now, my question is ...is it okay to love animals and birds??

My mother in law doesn't really like it that I get excited for dogs and birds.. other family members also agree with her.

I love watching birds, playing with dog and loving them... I kind of argue with them... animals can't even talk and tell us their pain/hunger.. If not a  lot, atleast I can do this little for them..

Then I ask her why she doesn't like it.. She said if we will have love for these animals and birds, we are going lower than this human form... I didn't really understand..

Then she explained in details to me '' we are here as humans to love God who is the higher form and if you spend so much of your time with animals and creatures then you won't have enough time for God... and that will put you down...you will go lower...coz animals are lower than humans''

I never understood it fully.. she is a Radha Soami follower..not sure if she has this her own thinking or got from those satsangs..

I believe in Gurbani only as I have experienced it all and feels real... I do my naam simran not on regular basis but I try to listen paath and Kirtan whenever I can... so I don't realy follow their path anyway..

But my really concern is.. is that true about loving animals?

Now every time I play with my dog, she comments'' oh  you had good time with your friend'' and other funny things she would say to make me feel wrong..

I get lost and wonder if she is right or it is okay to have some love for birds/animals because I always believed that are also part of Waheguru..

Please Sangat ji...give me your feedback..

WAHEGURU

 

 

 

Penji,

sounds like the underying issue is how mother in law feels about animals, seems like has some fixed view point and feels uncomfortable and challenged with your alternative view point.

Love for animals, nature and gods creation isnt bad. They are more content, living naturally and in His Hukam. Amazing.

Happy Gurpurab ji

Sorry watching the video i feel we can celebrate/remember in better ways, year on year the fireworks become more OTT.  With all respect and not wanting to go off topic.

Im not saying no to celebrations or fireworks, just some consideration needed around financial and environmental cost against spiritual benefit. 

Theres alot of different views above and to some extent everyones got a valid point.

I do believe good or bad, it is all his hukam, however we still have a choice to act righteously or conciously.

What i struggle with is when people who do wrong or hurt someone and say 'oh its hukam, chalo accept it'  instead of being accountable for their actions or fixing thing. Whilst yes its hukam, the karma created is also part of that hukam. 

Its really complex and maybe we cant really pin point it down to a single phrase or view point. Maybe our limited intellect and ego cant really comprehend it.

In the end this tuk comes to mind....

Women arent degraded by our Gurus, there are shabads you can search to read in this regard.

Marayada to be followed is what is given by the Panj pyare and same for any Khalsa in attendance.

You will meet many people who say many things, and with as many views thats just human nature. 

18 hours ago, Guest Singh said:

I have also recently started growing my hair and beard back and I am facing the same issue. What should I do about the nose hair, it is embarrassing when you in a corporate environment. I don't want to trim them. 

Why do you feel embarrassed in a corporate environment? 

You said you dont want to trim it. Which is obv as per the Sikhi way.

Then therapy or counselling may help deal with any feelings that may be affecting you?

Guru Nanak Maharaj has answered all questions already, within Guru Granth Sahib ji.

They travelled far and wide and engaged with all people and answered all questions.

Their darshan are within Guru Granth Sahib ji.

Through reading and understanding all doubts are erased.

1 hour ago, Kau89r8 said:

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So the 10 employees earn £60,000 each?! 

How did you work that out? 

Dont think the screen shot mentions what they earn? Unless im missing sumat lol

2 hours ago, Akalifauj said:

Please read the post again.  You are completely off topic.  

I thought i was the only one who was thinking that, woah ppl going off topic.

I think buying a Church site is fine. No ones asking anyone to change their practices and we dont need to go digging up anything because its 'not sikhi'. I know of a gurdwara where they created a car park on some land and it had some graves, part of the conditions were to retain the area where the graves were. It also had some headstones. So they just segregated that area and kept it as a lawn etc. No one was too fussed as it doesnt mean the Gurdwara is now burying lol.