Anand

Is anyone on this earth qualified to say what is and is not in someones Karm? Has anyone on thsi earth got the right to tell another indivudal that if you do have hair removal done then you must renounce waheguru? So far you have heard from individuals who are very much against the whole hair removal issue and the way some of teh response have illustrated this matter has ensured that girls who have had facial hair problems and have dealt with it by laser etc will not be brave enough to speak on this topic. why? for fear of retaliation. I rate any girl who can keep her facial hair. I honestly do but equally another bhenji who deals with it in her own way is equally to be respected. What you sow you shall reap. Alot of reasons for girls feeling teh way they do is not only because of western society but also because if you look at books on sikhi or even pictures of sikh women you will always see a beautiful and 'hairfree' face. girls aspire to be something they can relate to. I know that everyone is likely to disagree with me and that is fine. I woudl just like to add my two cents. Sikhi is the most beautiful religion in teh world not solely because of the humaniterian aspect but also because we are allowed to interpret waheguru in order to personlaie it on an individual basis. Bhenji - your friend that you say has this problem and the guilt you are feeling on her behalf - please note this is not your battle - thsi is hers - if she has made up her mind then so be it. Whether you remain frineds/sisters is then upto you? respect others - inner cleanliness is more important than outer. Gurfateh Ji - Bhul Chuk Maaf

When I was at uni (few years ago) 90% of my sangat was male. Did I think that was wrong? Not really. They were like my brothers. My parents were aware of all my friends and didnt think anything of it. I mean people who want to think like that will always think like that if you interact with the opposite sex or not. You cant discriminate anyone just based on their gender. Many different people can teach you so much and can assist with helping you to get closer to god - Sangat. As long as your mind is clear of these thoughts - who cares what others think.

It seems that you are on the path of discovering the sikhi within you but are being off put by the sangat that you keep. Be proud that you are bringing sikhi (even if only by your presence) to poeple who would not normally have this honour. The only thing I wanted to say was you already know what is right and wrong and at the end of the day if you let go of this opportunity to get into your sikhi you will always regret it and it wont be the fault of your parents/family/friends but ultimately your own. Throughout life we will all come in contact with atheists, antagonists and other faiths. Remember to always have pyaar in your heart for everyone. I have met many atheists and antagonists and the amount of voluntary charity work (seva) that they some of them do is remarkable. Remember: If you do not see God in all you do not see God at all.

In any job interview be yourself. Dont put up an act and be too arrogant. When asked why should I give you this job - be calm and actually believe in what your saying. Demonstrate that you are articulate because you have the ability to explain convincingly that you are right for them. Make sure you go to the interview prepared. This means understanding what the job will involve, what the organisation is all about, whether they have been in the news recently or if there have been any new developments for the organisation. This shows dedication and the fact that you are serious about working for them. Hope this helps and good luck. In any job interview be yourself. Dont put up an act and be too arrogant. When asked why should I give you this job - be calm and actually believe in what your saying. Demonstrate that you are articulate because you have the ability to explain convincingly that you are right for them. Make sure you go to the interview prepared. This means understanding what the job will involve, what the organisation is all about, whether they have been in the news recently or if there have been any new developments for the organisation. This shows dedication and the fact that you are serious about working for them. Hope this helps and good luck.

Individuals that wish to keep Sarbloh Rehaat I agree should do so by being mindful of the way they reject offer of food from others. My question however is how strict can you be? A simple illustration of the fact that milk doesnt come straight from the cow into the Sarbloh baataa and instead in this day and age gets put in a plastic milk container. Every item of food that we purchase has been handled by 'non-amritdharis' now unless you own a farm and eat from there how does it work practically. If it simply the act of pouring the milk into a Sarbloh container and then drinking from it doesnt this seem a bit ritualistic? Also many women that do Langar the seva in Gurdwara are not amritdhari does that mean that you wont eat Langar? When someone gives you food pyaar deh naal is it wrong to accept it? If people want to Sarbloh Rehaat that is their option and no-one should judge them but then it works both ways. As an amritdhari that works in the corporate world I demonstrate my sikhi by being me but that does not mean I will allienate myself from my goreeh workers because I will not eat with them at restaurants. Guru ji has said that we should not hide away from the world but should embrace reality and spread the light of sikhi to all people. My reasoning on this matter is that throughout my life I have come across beautiful people who are intune with God but have never heard of sikhi - does that make them unpure?

Deares Bhenji There will always be hardships in your life. This one of many tests ahead of your life. I know that we can all say that Guru Ji is with you and you should do this that and the other, however it is your life. If your parents wont listen then some how you will have to make them listen. Any action you take now will have repercussions throughout your whole life. If you marry now it is very certain that in the future you will be kicking yourself you didnt do something but it will be too late. Do Simran and listen to what Maharaaj is saying and he will give you strength to take what action is necessary. Remember though you should still talk to your parents respectfully but you need to show them that you are strong and that God is always on your side. Be strong and be positive. May Waheguru bless you with peace and the strength to face all the challenges that are thrown in your way.

Isnt sikhi all about pyar? I dont belive that those who have a love marriage are any less intune with God than those with arranged. Ultimately teh reason why love marriages fail is because people get confused between love and lust. Arranged marriages are just as imperfect as love marriages. The act of marriage in front of Maharaaj, irrespective of it being love or arranged, is very symbolic in sikhi. Peacemaker - My personal belief is that sikhi cant be defined by topics, sikhi is our general behaviour our thoughts, our breath. If something is not a 'sikhi' related topic then are you not saying that sikhi is just another subject like history or english etc. The more you can assist people the mopre seva you can do - this doesnt mean just in sikhi it means in life - if you can put peoples mind at ease or even give them a different point of view are you not providing a seva?

Isnt everything in life about sikhi? Can you define sikhi specific to certain matters? Sikhi is a way of life and as such everything that people want to discuss should be 'discussable'. As for love marriage and arranged marriage - I think these words itself are misleading when trying to explain what love and arranged is. My personal perception of arranged marriage is that parents look for like minded family to introduce their kids to, whereas 'love' marriage is where people meet each other independent of parents and believe that they would be well suited for marriage.