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I want to change my thought process from negative side to positive side.right now my life is totally messed up I am struggling hard in all aspects of life.I have tried to take support from GURU GRANTH SAHIB JI by doing PATH but somehow I get lost in the thought process and I am not able to do PATH consistently.I am focusing more ob the problems whereas I believe I should focus more on WAHEGURU.I have seen many people are trying to change their habbits with the help of real people on this forum.So I have decided I will try to get rid of all the negativity with the help of all you people and emerge as a pure soul.I think I should start with reciting MOOL MANTAR daily for one hour in the morning and one hour in the evening for forty days and then I can go to next level.Second problem is I am so much effected by turmoil in my personal life that I always talk about what has happened to my friends due to which I am not able to move on.so here I pledge I will not even mention anything that has happened to anyone for next forty days.pl try to post positive and inspirational posts and help me to rebuild myself.U people are amazing and always help with the most genuine advices.I request u all to help me in bringing about this transformation. WJKKWJKF

We need more of such street parchar in punjab.Sikh community is lost here in pakhand .the younger generation cannot correlate with the religion because nobody is there to tell the significance of Our religion .had we inculcate the values and virtues taught in our religion we would have created a happy peaceful world here but unfortunately even in 21st century our world is full of crimes and we are doing those crimes intentionally or unintentionally. I believe the western world is lucky as people there communite a lot cause of easy access to web.here in India nobody is there to direct and lead the young generation.I wish someone like Jagraj Singh comes here and form an Indian version of Basics of Sikhi.that 's the only way of saving our religion.I wonder why even in so many years we are not able to create a world based on values and virtues and I find that we focus more on just reading and showing others that we go to GUrudwara sahib so we are following Sikhism however the need of the hour is to understand the teachings of our Gurus to understand the meaning of every Bani that we recite.I wish more people look into this matter and contribute towards this.

Thanks all for your time and replies.At this stage of life I am unable to make certain decisions and choose right path.so I seek help from you people.I think the fault is in me , I am not doing naam simran that s why I am not able to take decisions and see things with clarity but my mind wanders a lot these days and I am not able to do any sort of meditation.

HARSHARAN JI take out ego does that mean accepting everything and everyone as it is? Even if somebody is not doing right ? Then why are we taught to fight for justice? If we have to do this how can we change our society and remove evils? My original question was is it right to work for attainment of worldly things or should we be just satisfied with the way our life is and just concentrate on naam simran.

WJKKWJKF I have a query in my mind.Since our birth we are taught about achieving materialistic things for example in our school time we are expected to work hard and attain good marks then we are constantly motivated for good job and so on .Now how is it possible to change our attitude towards worldy things and just accept our life the way God has written our destiny.we are surrounded by motivational and inspirational speakers defining happiness with success.and thus giving us successmantras like constant hard work and focus and bla bla which I believe is all moh maya.How can we change our attitude and get a sense of dettachment from wordly things.

Thanks everyone for your help and concern.I am a victim of fraud n.r.i marriage.Going through seperation phase .searching for job which obviously is not easy.unable to forget this betrayal and cheating.feeling helpless and low all the time.life seems so difficult.surrounded by so much negativity.even though I know my husband cheated me still I am unable to get detached from him.may be because girls are emotional.I want to get relaxed.i want my brain to stop wandering in past and future.want to know the right path.want someone to guide me..there is so much confusion.I have lost my confidence and ability to take decisions.I take hukamnamas but I am not able to correlate with my situation and come to a conclusion.How can we surrender ourselves to God's will.My emotions and thoughts are taking a toll on my health.I am left with no energy.

WJKKWJKF I need advice if somebody can help.How to remain calm in tough times, when you are all alone after losing everything and everyone.I dont feel like getting up and doing path these days.And my mind is always always thinking too much.I know we cant do anything only God has the power but I am unable to surrender so I keep on crying and remain so stressed all the time.How to eradicate this negativity and gain the strength to surrender and accept God's will.

I have a question for all you great and lucky people ...how you people afford to fight with all the temptations and distractions of the world and devote yourself to the worshipping of God.?I am so impressed by the knowledge and wisdom you people have and I too want to live a life like you people sre living.Could somebody show me a way?

Budda Singh Ji, Decision to study at foriegn university was made once I reached there.I never knew that we are supposed to come back and he himself told me study and get licence but his behaviour was not acceptable.I was not given my basic rights which I was entitled to and it s easy to snub woman here in India when u are in country like canada you are supposed to treat women equally may be that was his insecurity that I might raise my voice someday. Second thing regarding cheating if he had plans to make a permanent move to india he should have arranged to bring all my stf back to India..My all stuff including my daj is there in canada ,he even took my documents from me nd handed over to his friend stating it s safe with him.my gold is with him.My passport,pr card everything is with him.and if I ask for anything he says I am your husband i can take care of your stuff. Third thing regarding earning here I am not allowed to work out of town which is important to grow.u cannot earn well in a small town before investing atleast ten years..it s not that I am greedy but in order to study further I need money as medical study is very expensive. Finally the biggest problem my family not supporting me bcz they feel it s more important to stay with your husband and maintain this relation instead of working hard and doing something for your profession and society. Those who think I am greedy and selfish let me tell you it took me two years of big struggle to enter into a dental college here then i studied endlessly five years there and I was a university topper and then i had four years of practice at a charitable hospital .I love my profession more than anything and this I told him before marriage.Even for charity you need money and if you have potential to learn work grow nd earn and then serve society i dont think there is anything wrong with this.

Thanks everyone for your concern and suggestions.some people are not judging me right here so let me tell you in detail.when my husband 's family approached me he was working in an IT company,we verified that but once I got married he left the job nd started business.Now the problem is he should have told me his plans further or he could have find some way out beneficial for both.It s not that i married him for his canadian status but yes i married him bcz he was an engineer nd I think when both ppl in marriage are professionals they understand professional commitments.if he had plans earlier he could hv told me not to resign my previous job or he could have clarified things so that i could have taken my decision that way.if you are watching someone working so hard for something i think being a life partner it s your duty morally to support your spouse.it s not difficult to manage one or two months delay in starting up a business in India and by the way his business project has not been started till today,though it s been two months we are here.and then he being a man has got the right to change his country for his business but me being a woman is not even allowed to work outside his home town...it s hard to accept this behaviour nd then social pressure from everyone that you have to sacrifice in order to make this marriage worth.how can you live in peace with a person who cheated you who broke your trust.who cannot value you for what you are.

Thanks everyone for your concern and suggestions.some people are not judging me right here so let me tell you in detail.when my husband 's family approached me he was working in an IT company,we verified that but once I got married he left the job nd started business.Now the problem is he should have told me his plans further or he could have find some way out beneficial for both.It s not that i married him for his canadian status but yes i married him bcz he was an engineer nd I think when both ppl in marriage are professionals they understand professional commitments.if he had plans earlier he could hv told me not to resign my previous job or he could have clarified things so that i could have taken my decision that way.if you are watching someone working so hard for something i think being a life partner it s your duty morally to support your spouse.it s not difficult to manage one or two months delay in starting up a business in India and by the way his business project has not been started till today,though it s been two months we are here.and then he being a man has got the right to change his country for his business but me being a woman is not even allowed to work outside his home town...it s hard to accept this behaviour nd then social pressure from everyone that you have to sacrifice in order to make this marriage worth.how can you live in peace with a person who cheated you who broke your trust.who cannot value you for what you are.

SadhSangat Ji , I am a young ambitious girl ,dentist by profession.I got married in 2013 with an n.r.i residing in canada due to which I had to leave my job and go to canada.I have been a very studious and hard working girl.I was told that my husband is an engineer.I went to canada nd started working for my licencing exams there..just when I was about to give exam my husband bought me back to india stating he has to do business in india..now my complete 1 and half yr has been wasted.M so broken shatered hv tried every possible way to convince him to get me back for my exam..throughout my life I have never thought anything beyond study nd I have put all my energy my everything in this exam preparation.My husband felt insecure nd bought me back here where I will have to start again from zero.I have lost all my courage bcz i feel betray nd cheated and even my parents are not supporting they are saying this is it.You have to be by your husband side but i cant love him anylonger coz he has cheated me.pl guide me how to stand again.i am badly broken.all the time i have severe headaches nd I take antidepressants.I have not demanded anything from anyone.all i want is to study in a foreign university bcz i have put all my efforts for that .We are always told to think about our family first does that mean we should curb our own feelings.why a person marries a doctor just to sayisfy his ego ?if someone cannot provide us wings to fly then why he cuts our wings.Guru Nanak Dev Ji has told us that women should get their rights but why society wants women to lag behind.I feel that all my power has been snatched from me.I dont want to live a life of slavery.Pl guide me how can i bring my life back to normal.

Running out of situation is not whatour religion teaches us..i have gone through the other posts in this site ,and I have realised the only solution to all our problems is to talk to God to do simran but then we cant turn into saint in one day aftr all we are humans and these things do shake us.so for now I am going to start path to seek God's help.all i need is constant motivation.thanks for listening to our problems.U are doing a great job.

You know a girl waits for so long to get a life partner till her marriage she keeps all her secrets her ambitions her dreams to herself thinking about the day when she ll gt married she will share her life.but marriages now a days turn into nightmares.I need advice how to live a married life what rules and regulations we should follow bcz if we go by people everybody will advice in a biased manner.but what should be there actually no body will tell.

Thanks TheLion for your reply,I have tried a lot to talk to my husband but he is not ready to listen.We have some misunderstanding but he is not ready to talk about it..I dont want to lose this relation but i think instead of trying to make him understand i should seek help from God.but it s really very tough when someone you love treats you as a culprit when you are not.my day begins with proving myself innocent nd ends in the same way but my husband is not ready to understand.he is providing me everything but he dont take my services..trust me this is the biggest punishment when your husband doesnt eat food cooked by you when your husband doesnt need you.i am so troubled i wish i could talk to Babaji and seek His help.i really want to talk to Babaji..i am not able to understand and find a solution to this problem.i am ruining my life my future because whole day i am thinking about the solution to make my husband love me but day by day he is turning against me.ì need courage .i will try to do simran nd seek Babaji's help

I think we all need someone to share our thoughts but there is nobody in our life.I have started feeling so lonely because i cant talk to anyone.My husband feels i do drama of being upset ,my family jst wants me to coperate with my husband.We have few issues for which we dont arrive on a common opinion and just because of that my husband thinks i am mean and i dont love him truely.If I try to become strong and focus on my things even then i get a tag of selfish woman if I forget my own things even then i am left alone saying that i only do drama.Root cause i believe is that my husband wants me to live a life that he thinks is ideal.For him it s more important to love his family instead of loving him however i too have some feelings.I gt love only on conditions but then i am the one called selfish.My life is not on track.I am suffering every moment but then nobody takes it seeiously because mental health is a thing not taken seriously in our community..I have started hating everybody because everybody is fake everyone thinks for himself or herself but if you think about yourself you are tagged selfish.I hope i get a solution soon.I dont want to waste my life .when i was studyng i always thought of my future as very meaningful i never knew family politics for me life is all about doing your duties but ppl want you to do drama instead ,nothing else gets recognised here no other virtues.I believe many girls are suffering and ultimately the world is suffering because of nonsense rituals nd customs ,sacrificing your career to please your husbands family .i respect his family nd i do all my duties but dramas i cant do i am a straightforward person but i am expected to do dramas to please everybody.i know i should meditate more nd that is the only solution to every problem but at times u are so much broken that u dnt hv the courage to do anything.all i want is to have a good loving relation with my husband.i wish he understands my love and affection for him.thanks in advance for helping and showing me right path.