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I read somewhere Akali phula singh administered punishment to Maharaja Ranjit Singh to be whipped for breaking some rehat. This is old time punjab we are talking about when times were different. A lot more deeper pain was endured. However I remember reading a line recently in SGGS which states that your face will be blackened, when doing wrong - at the end of your days by the jum. Will post it here when i find it again. I doubt it though that these things can ever happen at amrit sanchaar - just a rumour floating around I suppose.

http://www.panthkhalsa.org/naamnet/Naam_Net.html Do let me know how it works out for you as I have not personally tried it, but I think it is a very good idea for simran motivation. Thanks.

FAQs and admin address on here http://www.panthkhalsa.org/naamnet/FAQ.html official site http://www.panthkhalsa.org/naamnet/ Naam net book 1 https://www.scribd.com/doc/16874394/NaamNet-Book-1 Naam net book 2 https://www.scribd.com/doc/16874161/NaamNet-2 These are collections of the experiences of people who have managed to do simran using support from Naam net a flyer http://members.tripod.com/prodi_gal-ivil/naamsimran/

Peoples experiences are in naamnet1 and naamnet2 ebook. I will try and find the links for you when on computer tomorrow.

Yes its a website where you are put into touch with someone you report to everyday. However you have to do your 20 mins of simran everyday. Then you will be slowly encouraged to increase it. All the people I know or have heard of perform bani seva as follows. Some try to listen to 5 banis everyday. Aim for a few angs of Sggs with meanings when free, occassional sukhmani sahib, mool mantra and simran during the day whenever possible. Others are able to do 5 nitnem banis, sukhmani sahib, read angs from Sggs and sing asa dhi vaar at day break with vaja.in the evening they perform rehras kirtan sohila after having spent an hour in the guradwara listening to kirtan. However most people aim to atleast do a japji sahib everyday, reharaas kirtan sohila in the evening with ardaas, at the minimum. Then there are those blessed ones who do 5 baniya dha path along with hours of simran everyday - these are like 2 in the morning, 2 or 3 at night. At the most some can perform 10 hours of simran everyday.

Naamnet is the place which will motivate you and carry you to the deeper depths which you desire.

Adjust. .. is the word that leads to success in many areas of marriage especially the sexual bit.

Some type of class distinction happens over time. Likes attract and unlikes repel. We tend to bond with those who are more like us in background, behaviour and eating habits. However there are always the exceptions which are the love marriages which will force family members to bond with others. These jathas I assume are a continuity of our sikh culture which some people have been able to adhere to strictly when in India. Being forced to flee constant ploice arrests and persecutions the survivors have managed to flee and preserve and spread their sikh beliefs around the world. The average sikh student has managed to pick up this type of sikhi. Its got nothing to do with segregation but rather all our different upbringing. There are many types of divisions in other religions too. However the panth is able to unite and keep their differences aside for instance on the past black diwali. No one put their jathebandhis aside and resolved to celebrate diwali in the former traditional way with fireworks and candles. If we were born during Guru Nanaks time we would still belong to some or another class. Jathes, surnames and class are nothing new. Its just that we are being faced with changes so fast. Just some 20 years ago mobile phones were just toys and now you can walk around with all the SGGS stored on your phone. The traditional method of picking up your sikh beliefs have greatly changed. Therefore younsters will be different too compared to what the older generation were capable of. More keyboard and phone service is our religion eather than walking to the guradwara and sitting commiting an hour to simran or listening to kirtan. One phone call or text message is enough to break our concentration and we are off to attend to visitors at home or off for dinner elsewhere.

Bhai Rama singh Ji is the book you need to read. it has got numerous real life experiences which will leave you with no doubt - that path works and what happens without path. All doubts get solved. Here is the pdf. http://www.gurukhoj.com/eBooks/Autobiography-Bhai-Rama-Singh-Ji.pdf The sole purpose of this book has been to motivate youngsters. There is a further highly informative thread on here to read. http://www.sikhsangat.com/index.php?/topic/51057-book-roop-gobind-ka-raj-khalsa-ka-sika-sonne-ka/

Sex was created by God to be enjoyed. If you don't enjoy it with your partner unlimitedly when married - or deprive your partner then you run into marital problems. Too much of anything is dangerous. It is not something you will do like for many hours. Of course if it becomes the total focus of your life then it's a problem. Follow your common sense and not what people tell you. Guru Nanak Dev ji gave us only one main rule which should be our focus at all times - do jap or simran all the time. This is what guides us and helps us experience bliss in all areas of life. .

I had this experience where a voice would call out my name quite frequently. Then I read about these entities hanging around you enjoying freaking you out. So I thought about conquering my fear first. Then I read an article where you can request these entities to leave you. It is a universal law which they have to obey. Is dharti pe teri sikdhari. I think is the line that may best describe it. One night I woke up and was fed up with the experience, so I just ordered them to leave in the name of waheguru and go back from wherever they came. Slept in peace ever since. Despite performing path they were still hanging around, so it's important to just tell them to leave. You want just Waheguru around you.

If the giani jis are selling rumalas, then it does not mean we stop taking rumalas to Guru ji or take cheaper ones. It simply means you don't buy from the giani ji selling them.

refer to this for an appropriate answer. Luke 7:36-50New International Version (NIV) Jesus Anointed by a Sinful Woman36 When one of the Pharisees invited Jesus to have dinner with him, he went to the Pharisee’s house and reclined at the table. 37 A woman in that town who lived a sinful life learned that Jesus was eating at the Pharisee’s house, so she came there with an alabaster jar of perfume.38 As she stood behind him at his feet weeping, she began to wet his feet with her tears. Then she wiped them with her hair, kissed them and poured perfume on them. 39 When the Pharisee who had invited him saw this, he said to himself, “If this man were a prophet, he would know who is touching him and what kind of woman she is—that she is a sinner.” 40 Jesus answered him, “Simon, I have something to tell you.” “Tell me, teacher,” he said. 41 “Two people owed money to a certain moneylender. One owed him five hundred denarii,[a] and the other fifty. 42 Neither of them had the money to pay him back, so he forgave the debts of both. Now which of them will love him more?” 43 Simon replied, “I suppose the one who had the bigger debt forgiven.” “You have judged correctly,” Jesus said. 44 Then he turned toward the woman and said to Simon, “Do you see this woman? I came into your house. You did not give me any water for my feet, but she wet my feet with her tears and wiped them with her hair. 45 You did not give me a kiss, but this woman, from the time I entered, has not stopped kissing my feet. 46 You did not put oil on my head, but she has poured perfume on my feet. 47 Therefore, I tell you, her many sins have been forgiven—as her great love has shown. But whoever has been forgiven little loves little.” 48 Then Jesus said to her, “Your sins are forgiven.” 49 The other guests began to say among themselves, “Who is this who even forgives sins?” 50 Jesus said to the woman, “Your faith has saved you; go in peace.”

Persistence pays. No two days will be the same. Concentrate more on just doing it everyday rather than on how much you have been able to concentrate. After a while your mind will start to concentrate on simran. Read Gurbani and try to understand the meanings too. When you have something that you are trying to comtemplate upon it is easier to concentrate. For instance when you are trying to understand what japji sahib means in the khands you will be able to connect easier. Otherwise take a line which helps you connect and repeat it a few times and wonder on it and think deeply about it. Get a routine where you listen or read your favourite shabad everyday. We all have different ones which create the feeling of devotion in us at different times. Overall... think of how you learn to write the alphabet - it was not achieved overnight. We are so impatient with getting dheyaan in simran immediately, such that if it does not happen we give up. However we stick to other things which we really want to achieve. Making yourself a doctor takes years. It might take years to reach that simran level which you are expecting to happen overnight. Small steps in the right direction everyday - make all the difference. We should be more worried about whether we spent our 20, 10 or so minutes everyday and not miss it. An everyday routine will help achieve results faster. It is important to leave some room for those days when things will not quite be going your way because concentration is very delicate. Something which bothers you at work, or at home or any event in the day can serve to disturb your concentration on some day. When you say Waheguru try to listen to it as well instead of silently reciting. If long hours don't work for you, try the shorter 5, 10 or 15 minute breaks during the day. For instance if you can't finish sukhmani sahib in one sitting - spread it over the day. Morning, afternoon and evening. Use you mobile alarm to alert you, also set your alarm to mark the end of your fifteen minutes or so. This helps free your mind from everything else including glancing at the clock.

The best way to understand evil, is by taking an example of the Bible explanations. https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew+13&version=ERV These simply explain the difference between evil and good. The outcome of being good, doing good and thinking good is peace and heavenly reward. The evil begets punishment. When you join hands with evil then you get classified as evil. You can beat evil by forgiveness. Evil is punished by God. However when the evil does come in way of preventing you from performing your religious duties and gets out of hand, then you may draw your sword as the puratan Sikhs did and saved their honour and their younger generations too from the tyranny of muslim rule. (This rule was full of evil) In order to fight this sort of evil you need greater power which comes in the form of amrit from God. Evil in our homes however falls into a lesser category of evil which is not exactly evil at time but is just misunderstandings and conflicts. Members of families fall out at times and then after some years they make up and become best of buddies. Finding a viable way to communicate to the family member might be useful. However when tempers fly and negative feelings take over, then there is no harm in leaving the matter aside until a time when you feel you can handle it better. Guru Arjun Dev Ji had a time when he was being oppressed by one of his own family members who were taking all the rations supplied by the sangat. Guru Ji never complained but ate whatever was available. Developing the virtues of patience and humility takes courage and effort too. If in our minds we focus too much on the wrongs which others have committed against us, there would be no end. We are not forgiven either for our wrongs - which are not being able to perform Naam jap nearly all the time. This is why we suffer from tati vao when we are not engaged in simran. There were times when the sword was drawn by Guru Gobind Singh Ji and Guru Har Gobind Singh Ji but there was also great suffering born by both Guru Arjun Dev Ji on the tati tavi. Gods hukam here was supreme as well as the choice and decision of when to use peace and when to suffer. Naam provides great comfort to help us deal with the hardest situations in life. All tyrants were paid back in full for all their bad deeds. Therefore the choice is up to us as to which seed we wish to plant at this time. We will have to eat the harvest later ourselves. Ape beej aape ji khao. Farida bure dha bhala kar. Gusa mun na handaye. Even before the Gurus gave us their teachings and examples, Baba Fareed Ji told us - do good to those who do you bad. Therefore it is up to us to digest this information and put it to practice. ਗਉੜੀ ਗੁਆਰੇਰੀ ਮਹਲਾ ੩ ॥ गउड़ी गुआरेरी महला ३ ॥ Ga▫oṛī gu▫ārerī mėhlā 3. Gauree Gwaarayree, Third Mehl: ਹਉਮੈ ਵਿਚਿ ਸਭੁ ਜਗੁ ਬਉਰਾਨਾ ॥ हउमै विचि सभु जगु बउराना ॥ Ha▫umai vicẖ sabẖ jag ba▫urānā. The entire world has gone insane in egotism. ਦੂਜੈ ਭਾਇ ਭਰਮਿ ਭੁਲਾਨਾ ॥ दूजै भाइ भरमि भुलाना ॥ Ḏūjai bẖā▫e bẖaram bẖulānā. In the love of duality, it wanders deluded by doubt. ਬਹੁ ਚਿੰਤਾ ਚਿਤਵੈ ਆਪੁ ਨ ਪਛਾਨਾ ॥ बहु चिंता चितवै आपु न पछाना ॥ Baho cẖinṯā cẖiṯvai āp na pacẖẖānā. The mind is distracted by great anxiety; no one recognizes one's own self. ਧੰਧਾ ਕਰਤਿਆ ਅਨਦਿਨੁ ਵਿਹਾਨਾ ॥੧॥ धंधा करतिआ अनदिनु विहाना ॥१॥ Ḏẖanḏẖā karṯi▫ā an▫ḏin vihānā. ||1|| Occupied with their own affairs, their nights and days are passing away. ||1|| ਹਿਰਦੈ ਰਾਮੁ ਰਮਹੁ ਮੇਰੇ ਭਾਈ ॥ हिरदै रामु रमहु मेरे भाई ॥ Hirḏai rām ramhu mere bẖā▫ī. Meditate on the Lord in your hearts, O my Siblings of Destiny. ਗੁਰਮੁਖਿ ਰਸਨਾ ਹਰਿ ਰਸਨ ਰਸਾਈ ॥੧॥ ਰਹਾਉ ॥ गुरमुखि रसना हरि रसन रसाई ॥१॥ रहाउ ॥ Gurmukẖ rasnā har rasan rasā▫ī. ||1|| rahā▫o. The Gurmukh's tongue savors the sublime essence of the Lord. ||1||Pause||

The lines below from sukhmani sahib SGGS Ang 282 have a message which might answer your question. ਮਨ ਮੂਰਖ ਕਾਹੇ ਬਿਲਲਾਈਐ ॥ मन मूरख काहे बिललाईऐ ॥ Man mūrakẖ kāhe billā▫ī▫ai. O foolish mind, why do you cry and bewail? ਪੁਰਬ ਲਿਖੇ ਕਾ ਲਿਖਿਆ ਪਾਈਐ ॥ पुरब लिखे का लिखिआ पाईऐ ॥ Purab likẖe kā likẖi▫ā pā▫ī▫ai. You shall obtain your pre-ordained destiny. ਦੂਖ ਸੂਖ ਪ੍ਰਭ ਦੇਵਨਹਾਰੁ ॥ दूख सूख प्रभ देवनहारु ॥ Ḏūkẖ sūkẖ parabẖ ḏevanhār. God is the Giver of pain and pleasure. ਅਵਰ ਤਿਆਗਿ ਤੂ ਤਿਸਹਿ ਚਿਤਾਰੁ ॥ अवर तिआगि तू तिसहि चितारु ॥ Avar ṯi▫āg ṯū ṯisėh cẖiṯār. Abandon others, and think of Him alone. ਜੋ ਕਛੁ ਕਰੈ ਸੋਈ ਸੁਖੁ ਮਾਨੁ ॥ जो कछु करै सोई सुखु मानु ॥ Jo kacẖẖ karai so▫ī sukẖ mān. Whatever He does - take comfort in that. ਭੂਲਾ ਕਾਹੇ ਫਿਰਹਿ ਅਜਾਨ ॥ भूला काहे फिरहि अजान ॥ Bẖūlā kāhe firėh ajān. Why do you wander around, you ignorant fool? ਕਉਨ ਬਸਤੁ ਆਈ ਤੇਰੈ ਸੰਗ ॥ कउन बसतु आई तेरै संग ॥ Ka▫un basaṯ ā▫ī ṯerai sang. What things did you bring with you? ਲਪਟਿ ਰਹਿਓ ਰਸਿ ਲੋਭੀ ਪਤੰਗ ॥ लपटि रहिओ रसि लोभी पतंग ॥ Lapat rahi▫o ras lobẖī paṯang. You cling to worldly pleasures like a greedy moth. ਰਾਮ ਨਾਮ ਜਪਿ ਹਿਰਦੇ ਮਾਹਿ ॥ राम नाम जपि हिरदे माहि ॥ Rām nām jap hirḏe māhi. Dwell upon the Lord's Name in your heart. ਨਾਨਕ ਪਤਿ ਸੇਤੀ ਘਰਿ ਜਾਹਿ ॥੪॥ नानक पति सेती घरि जाहि ॥४॥ Nānak paṯ seṯī gẖar jāhi. ||4|| O Nanak, thus you shall return to your home with honor. ||4||

Adultery is cheating on your married partner. Before marriage it is referred to as fornication.

I do apologise before hand, as I do not mean to be rude. However I shall be straightforward. The post above - is full of haume. This is where you are full of ego - which means generally you want everything working your way. This is the cause of all unhappiness. Once we try to get rid of the I factor - then bliss will come all over us. Accept God's will and try your best - be thankful from the bottom of your heart and do not expect anything. Kahu phal ki isha nahi banshe. It is hard fighting with your own ego. However once you learn to get over it - by retraining your minds thoughts then you will realise that you dont really deserve anything. Pain and suffering are sent to you as a blessing. Change your focus to doing right - and not expect anything in return. Look to the examples of our Gurus and the Sikhs who gave shaheedhis in the name of truth. Our problems are nowhere near theirs - where even life was not a priority for them. When we learn to focus on Naam then we will realise that our dhukh and our worldly things are not what we should focus on. Let us concentrate on accumulating the true wealth which we have come here to get.... that is Naam - get as much as you can despite all your pitfalls and your problems ( which are really so insignificant but which we have magnified in our minds)

Just because you have not met one does not mean that they do not exist. When we went to Manikaran sahib we were told about the lady who lives there, she is almost like a sant. That night we heard the kirtan of the lady who usually accompanies her and it was more than enchanting. When you yourself are devoted to Waheguru from deep inside - only then you will be shown the true wealth which the Lord possesses. Until then, all is empty talk. Do not try to assess Waheguru's devotees - aim to become one to your best efforts.

Relationships after marriage just become so complicated. Keep quiet and expect the matter to get sorted - works sometimes. Things cannot always work your way because of the number of different people who are involved. Help from in laws should be appreciated at this time. Every single case is different. There are no hard and fast rules to apply to relationships. The most dominant person wins the case. I have had to sleep with my son since he was young and send my husband to the next room just because he needs his sleep urgently as he leaves for work at 6 and wakes up at 4. A talk with your wife should reveal to you what she needs. Does she need her mum or does she need you? After delivery women feel quite lonely and need maternal support. However if it means that your mum in law has to stay - then you need to bolden up and learn to knock at the door and get your clothes. I had the same situation here where my in laws came over and sleep in my own room and my things are there. I just knock and get my sons items too in the morning. Serves to send the message across - indirectly - hey you are invading and look what I have to do. If your wife still needs her mum then set a time limit - give her a week and tell her to do without her sleeping over at yours, she can however visit. Leave the get your sons married part out as it is not your direct problem. Hope that helps.

There is a general sickness in the world, where people love their own religion to bits. However they deliberately miss the part where every religion states that you need to respect every other human beings feelings. The greatest crimes ever committed in History owe their origin to the offenders greatest commitment to their own religion but no respect to humanity. No religion has officially ever stated that you need to kill those of another religion. All religions state that you should offer help to atheists or people who are striving to understand God and the laws of the universe. However this has been translated to mean that you need to respect people of your own religion and put down and out others who are not. The aim of religion has been totally defeated. man cannot understand in any simple language what God has tried to communicate to him. Too much noise interference.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3gR0gqc_Urw Listening to this shabad often helped me to start simran which I never took seriously enough before

Nitnem is the way to create a connection with God. When you start you will not be able to enjoy it or feel anything. if you persist on doing it everyday then you will reap the fruits of your efforts. One of those fruits is love. You cannot force yourself to love God. The day you miss your nitnem you will wonder what happened to your love. The secret of all secrets is NITNEM. That is why Guru Gobind Singh Ji said don't eat anything until you have done your Nitnem. If you eat before, you will forget Nitnem. However if you decide I will only eat after having done my Nitnem then you will remember to do your Nitnem everyday. The simple reason for this is you cannot live without eating.

In the olden days, when there was no shampoo, sant Jis used yoghurt to have a bath and to preserve the natural oils of the skin. Using too much shampoo on the hair will deplete natural oils. Applying oil on the hair at night time and then having a shampoo bath may help. I wonder if anyone uses yoghurt as I heard something about youghurt in some sant jis katha but can't remember where exactly. How to wash your hair with yoghurt http://www.hairfinder.com/hair4/yogurt.htm

This life has immense power and this life can decide to stay hidden or manifest itself in material form to either guide us or lead us astray. This depends on whether it is evil or good.