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she wants to marry this person because she hates me wants to get back at me HELP ME

oh my god what are we going to do come on we must unite and protest in bulk to this guadwara come on lets meet at the guadwara this sunday. Admin organize something :T:

it makes me sad that a photo where coke is being served is mistaken for drink i have noticed a lot of misrepresentation of this on this site please verify your facts and dont give half truths or hide the full facts this is sad. so what if you are wrong dont make things up it can ruin someones life Rajinder Singh

maybe you could help me how to stop daughter 2 from marrying non sikh even though daughter 1 has i am at my wits end very unhappy she wants to marry this guy she is living with and in a hall HELP

i agree no meat and drink in guadwara so when are the kalsa goin to meet the committee in leamington i will come

my first child was very religious but over religious went the other way and this is what happened and she married non sikh so whatever parents do to instal sikhi sometimes it doesnt happen the way you want. :wub: @

so what attitude is what can i do and life goes on and i am not a fake

You havent given us the full details why who are these same ppl name them and give us their phone no and address we can complain

MY DAUGHTER MARRIED A NON SIKH SO WHAT I TOOK HER TO INDIA and had the marriage in a hall so what my second daughter is goin out and living with a non indian so what lets see what my thirds does. i dont want it but so what

I HOPE THE BOY OR GIRL U MARRY WANTS A NON GUADWARA WEDDING I TOOK MY DAUGHTER TO INDIA 2 MONTHS BACK IN BOMBAY AND SHE HAD A HALL WEDDING SO WHAT WHO ARE YOU TO PROTEST NEXT YOU WILL BE SAYING UNLESS YOU ARE A SARDAR WITH TURBAN AND NOT MONA YOU CANNOT MARRY IN THE GUADWARA GROW UP Admin Note : Next time pls don't reply in CAPS letter. Thanks

Author: SikhMan77 Date: 10-13-04 02:15 live and let live, it is about PEOPLE not PLACE, they are both religious families. why do u want to ruin a very special day? simply because you can? this will be a very respectful sikh wedding I am sure. Young girls grow up dreaming of special weddings and you want to spoil this. Grow up and realise its 2004. This is a modern wedding BUT sticking to religious beliefs and values. I applaud them and condemn any action on the day. you are doing sikhism no favours if you ruin this very special day. have a heart.

Author: Santosh Singh Date: 10-13-04 02:24 this is riduclous!! this is a wedding, let people enjoy their special day. the only disresepct is if there is a protest. hypocritical!

Author: kkaur Date: 10-13-04 07:26 Vaheguru ji ka Khalsa Vaheguru ji ki Fateh. I cannot believe peoples mentality. Gurbaksh Singh wrote: Let them be as there is no reason to stop someones happiness. LEt them do as they will - i am sure they will respect GuruJi appropriately as after all they too are Sikh's are they not? What comes first? Someones happiness or our Guru Ji? - You work it out. Does taking Guru Ji to a hall make someone happy? Man if that is true, I feel sorry for them!! The other question is - what makes a person a Sikh? Just by having Singh or Kaur at the end of your name doesn't make you a Sikh. You're actions do. These actions are not those of a Sikh - I'm not making it up, this is what Guru Ji says himself. Surjit Singh says: Hotels andMarriage Halls moved in to make a buck. I have seen videos of langar onthe top of the table while cases of whiskey open visible under that table. If this is going to happen then it is a total disgrace. Unfortunately this is what has been happening in this country. Or a curtain is placed over the bar area. That isn't respectful to me. SikhMann77 wrote: Young girls grow up dreaming of special weddings and you want to spoil this. Grow up and realise its 2004. This is a modern wedding BUT sticking to religious beliefs and values. Does it make a wedding special by taking Guru Ji to a hall? And yes it is 2004 - and.................what's your point????? Does our respect for Guru Ji suddenly CHANGE????????

Author: A Kaur Date: 10-13-04 09:00 I have been to Baylis House, there is a separate area for religious ceremonies in which there is no bar and never has been a bar. It is a clean venue and I believe the Guru Granth Sahib Ji will be given the respect it deserves. We should not allow our religious events to be ruined by what is a political decision. We should be grateful that the youth are still taking part in religious weddings, after all, all that English law requires is a registry office wedding. I believe that by attending on Sunday we are at risk of looking like terrorists. We will give our faith a bad name, much like the way many people think all Muslims are terrorists. People will start to think all Sikhs, or people wearing turbans are terrorists or militants. Instead of attending on Sunday we should try and encourage people to hold their events at a Gurdwara. It is too late to do anything about Sunday. Why should somebody’s special day be ruined?

Author: Gurdaspuria Date: 10-12-04 19:33 Waheguru Jee ka Khalsa Waheguru Jee kee Fateh I agree with veer Surjit Singh jee, that is the fact. As long as every thing is done respectfully there should not be any issue of doing parkash at any place. The focus is people not place. Pure or impure are people Not Shri Guru Granth sahib jee. Guru is to purify everybody and everything. I think we are taking easy way out instead of working our social problems ( drinking, elborated eating including meat, listening to dirty songs, too much partying etc). we are putting restricting on wrong things. Waheguru Jee ka Khalsa Waheguru Jee kee Fateh

Author: Surjit Singh Date: 10-12-04 17:08 I do not what the big fuss is about. Till 1947 all the marriages took place in the bride's house. The place of Parkash was cleaned and Durrees and Khes were spread. The Parkash was done on a Takhat Posh. I saw hundreds of marriages in thirties and forties, which took place in this manner. Everybody was in a reverent behavior so long the Guru Granth Sahib was in the house. Doing the marriage in the Gurdwarah was considered a social shame. 1947 brought unspeakable crimes against young girls. The parents of the girls who migrated to India wanted their daughters to be married as fast and as economically as possible, The multiple marriages in the Gurdwarahs became the norm. One Saturday I saw six marriages taking place simultaneously in Gurdwara Pipli Sahib near Putlighar ,Amritsar. Then we went back to old customs again. Suddenly the money of green revolution started pouring and marriage , dowry , liquor and everything else became a matter of competition. Hotels and Marriage Halls moved in to make a buck. I have seen videos of langar on the top of the table while cases of whiskey open visible under that table. If this is going to happen then it is a total disgrace. However proper decorum is kept such as shampooing of the rug and other cleanliness is undertaken that the place is worthy to receive the Guru Granth Sahib then it is a different matter. These so called Thekadars of the Panth show enough disrespect to Guru Granth Sahib when stand up at the Gurdwara stage and start calling each other names. Biggest disrespect to Guru Granth Sahib is when in our daily life we br eak His (Guru's) commandments. Most Gurdwaras under control of Madsands who sell indulgences or try to squeeze the families or show outright insults, and their whims become Gurmaryada on the spot. What a thinking Sikh to do? I came to United States almost fifty years ago. My children born and raised here as Gurshikhs. I have married them in the Gurdwaras and Public Parks.Every experience in the Gurdwara was unpleasant, since 80% of my guests were Caucasians, all with their heads covered and sitting very respectfully on the floor during the service and eating the langar in the pangat,still there were comments. I am an Amritdhari Singh since 1945 and my children are Amritdharis and so are their spouses, but they are not good enough because they cannot do the Keertan and do not believe in meaningless rituals.The big kathakars cannot discuss the issues of Sikh theology with them. My last daughter is going to be married and most probably it will not be in the Gurdwara, even though my prospective son-in-law wants a Gurdwara wedding. Could somebody including the so called sikh pope explain to me What does it mean when the Gurbani says. Jithay Jaaye Behai Mera Satguru Soiy Than Suhawa Ram Raje. Did Guru ji sat in a Dharmsal and people came to him or he traveled close to 20,000 miles on foot. Did Untouchables, Muslims Budhists and Hindus touched him. Did he feel polluted. Did all the ground he walked was purified? This does not mean that the required decorum is not kept and the utmost respect is not accorded to our living Guru. My belief is that you can take the Swaari wherever you can accord the due respect. If you cannot then you have to stick with the Gurdwara. Surjit Singh, USA

Author: Gurbaksh Singh Date: 10-12-04 08:33 Let them be as there is no reason to stop someones happiness. LEt them do as they will - i am sure they will respect GuruJi appropriately as after all they too are Sikh's are they not?