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Hi Amrit, Dowry in all forms is an evil. No body hates free money and would prefer to get money in any form (be it dowry gifts) without working hard for it. People these days consider Dowry as a Right !!! One should have self respect for oneself. Trust me, such money will not give anyone pleasure. Why should a girl's family give dowry? And why should a boy's family accept that dowry. Shame on such people who accept dowry. Regards

As far as I know, hindu People in India don't sell or eat meat on Tuesday because they consider this to be Hanuman worship day.

Hi Harsimran, First of all, why do people dress up in a particular manner ie. why is there a difference between kind of clothes worn by a person in US and a person in Afghanistan? They dress up differently because of their differences in culture and society. There is one unspoken reality in life i.e. girls dress up modestly to save themselves from the evil eye of the most dangerous animal in the world (i.e some kind of Men). Now before you all take out your daggers...I am not generalising at all. Girls who wear mini skirts or dress in half naked kind of clothes might feel that they are more westernised and live in a so called safe society where everything is acceptable. It might be acceptable to wear these clothes in public in a western countries where there are strict police enforcement, however if a girl wears such kind of clothes in India, then trust me..all leachers in India will be after that poor girl. So does this mean that one can wear such clothes in western countries...Nah...even though it is quite safe in these countries, but the fact is that men will always be men. Out here men put up an act as if they are not looking at such kind of girls, however trust me that secretly they let their dirty mind do all the imagining. I am a man and I know what kind of comments these guys make about girls. So coming back to your question, should a sikh girl wear skirts....Yes they should as long as they are of a sensible length and are not very provocative. Now it is hard to define the word sensible length and provocative....There are no strict rules but the general guideline is that if you are not comfortable in that dress or if you can sense that people around you are getting attracted (in the wrong sense) then it is not apt for the situation. One request to all people out there...lets not talebanise our sikh religion...we are slowing turning into a religion where people are becoming too rigid in their thoughts. People should change with time and adapting is the key...otherwise we will become like the dinousaurs that became extinct because they could not adapt. Regards

Dear all, First of all please excuse me if any of my view point seems offensive to anyone...these are just my thoughts and are not intended to hurt anyone I think, we have forgotten one basic stuff ...Religion is a way to reach God...One reaches God to thank God and be a good human being. Different religions are differeny ways to reach God. Now we are all making a big fuss that one should only marry in the same religion or one should not ask his wife/husband to take amrit as well. Religion cannot be forced on anyone. This way we are forcing our Religion and view point on some body else. Even if you force your wife/husband to convert in to sikhism or take amrit, do you think that that person will sincerely follow your religion or view point. The point that I am trying to make is that Religion is one's personal belief and way to reach God. It shouldnt be forced on others. We are fast becoming a very rigid and fundamentalist kind of religion (just like the Muslims have become). One shouldn't forget the basic thing that one should be a good human being first. One should be greatful to God and thankful to God. One shouldnt waste their time trying to force people to follow their Religion. So please ignore that you cannot have physical relationship with your non amritdhari partner. Apologies again if I have hurt someone. Regards

Hi London, I fully agree with you...I am also living in UK and the following thing just amuses me (please people no offence meant...these are only my view points): a) There is a lot of caste system out here. A jat will only marry into a Jat....a Khatri into a khatri and so on... b) People advt themself as sikh but then prefer a clean shaven or person who is modern (i.e. without a turban and beard!!!) And this is not only the case in UK but back home in India as well. Another problem back home is that girls do not wish to come over to a western country any more. There has been lots of cases recently where the girl/boy from India has been harrassed by the boys from western countries...so people are now afraid to get their children married off to these people. Sorry I just diverted from the topic...what I wanted to say that finding a good match is really becoming quite difficult now...and the reasons are numerous...one is that people are now becoming quite choosy and have some set preferences....(like for eg: girls that want to marry a clean shaven person). Sometimes I laugh when I look at the profiles of "sikh" boys on the popular website shaadi.com Now dont get me wrong, I am not gay or the wrong kind of person...I once thought of looking at the boys profile to see what my competition is !!!! And belive me 98% of the so called sikhs were actually "clean shaven" sikhs or the funny sikhs with funny beards!!! Anyway...thats the product that is available in the market for so called girls that look for a sikh person without a turban...but at the end of the day it is one's preference and if girls like it that way let them have it that way. My advice to you is to keep looking for the right person...there is always some one out there made for the person...it might take a while, but definitely you will find someone... All the very best Regards

Hi London, These days in India, people put in matrimonial advts in Indian newspapers. These supplements appear on Sundays. Here are the most popular ones: www.timesofindia.com www.hindustantimes.com www.tribuneindia.com For the first 2 weblinks, you will have to register for the "epaper". You have to register once and it is free. This option then allows you to view the newspaper. Once you are registered, you can look at the archive section for the sunday newspaper. Here search for the supplement "Matrimonials" and then you can look at different advts. For the 3 website, it is quite easy...you dont have to register and there is a separate section on the webpage for matrimonial avts. These days, these advt have e-mail addresses and telephones, so you can contact them. Hope that helps and wishing you all the best for your search. Just couldnt resist myself from replying to a big misconception that people have. Somebody in the forum pointed out that girls from India are more westernised and one should use India as a last resort. I dont think that it is fair enough to generalise. Like with everything in life, one has to take appropriate precautions. One should evaluate each and every thing. Most people in western countries think that people from India only marry for a visa. I believe that this used to be true many years ago...but now India is a different country alltogether...people are more educated and professionally qualified. In a marriage it is the love and trust that counts. One should marry a girl/boy with whom they can be happy...Religion, caste, creed, country etc should not be important. If there is love and trust then these things dont count and the couple respects each other's differences be it religion, personality or even country. Anyway, dear London My sincere advice to you is that if you do want to marry a girl from India...please only marry a person that you can trust and love and never ever think or tell her that people from India marry for a visa...trust me, there is nothing more hurtful then to prove that people marry for the love and not for material things. All the very best Regards