To add, what if a baby comes to the picture. Who would be responsible for his/her future? Decision is entirely yours. Guru ji had said, give your opponent 3 chances and then it's time to get armed and fight back.
or you can do "parchi" thing, get 2 parchis - divorce or settlement, do ardas and get it picked up by a kid in gurdwara, choose this to do only if you have courage to follow the decision made by Guru sahib. This thing is real and many spiritual beings do this to get out of doubtful situations or seek Guru sahib's advice.
Bhagti is needed, of course in everything, but Sikh is a warrior too.
Gud luck