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Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Vaheguru Ji Kee Fateh! Heera Singh, In response to your question...I definetely think it can work out between two people if they have different rehits....but it depends on the situation. Let's say for example...the girl or guy does not wake up for amrit vela regularly than this could be an issue because it can impact the other partners progress in Sikhi. However, if it is over a dastaar issue like the above Singh mentioned...then I don't see any reason why it can't work and I personally don't believe that this is a reason to not marry someone. Let me give you scenario...would you rather marry a bibi who has a keski, but does not help you in progressing in your Sikhi...or would you rather marry a bibi who doesn't wear a keski but does help you in your progress? In my humble opinion, I feel that marriage is a union which fundamentally involves love, respect, trust as well as compromise. A marriage will always work (if this is over the keski issue) as long as each partner has respect for one another's rehit (if they are different). The most important thing to keep in mind is that each partner should help one another in maintaining their rehit (e.g. wake up during amrit vela together). I personally know a couple who have been in this situation (girl doesn't wear keski but guy believes in it) and they are happily married now. And the main reason why their marriage works is because they have learned to respect each other's rehit... This is just my two cents... bhul chuk maaf Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Vaheguru Ji Kee Fateh

Vaheguru Jee ka khalsa, Vaheguru Jee kee Fateh I know our Guru's used their kirpans when fighting the Moguls to protect their faith...so my questions is....if you are amritdaree, is a kirpan only meant to be used to protect the honor of your religion or can it be used for self defence in general (e.g. someone is trying to attack you or rape you)? The reason why I ask this question is if someone was trying to attack you and you used your kirpan to defend yourself...and they ended up dying...how can this be morally right? Personally, if I was ever in this situation, I don't think I could ever live with myself for doing that to another human being. I'm not questioning our Guru's actions...I am extreamely proud of being a Sikh because of their bravery and commitment...rather, i'm just curious to know what the sangat's views are on this topic.... Vaheguru Jee ka Khalsa, Vaheguru Jee Kee Fateh!

Vaheguru jee ka khalsa, Vaheguru Jee kee fateh I have a very simple question....is it okay to do ardaas in english? I'm not talking about "formal" ardaas that you do after paat or kirtan....obviously this is read in punjabi. But what if you wanted to do ardaas for a general reason (for example, ask God to help your friend who is sick feel better....this is the best example i could think of...lol). The reason why I am asking this is because my punjabi isn't the greatest...and I sometimes find it easier to "speak" to God in english. Also, is there a specific ardaas that you are suppose to do before you eat? Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated! Vaheguru Jee ka khalsa, Vaheguru Jee kee fateh

Thank you Sher-panjabi for sharing those articles. I do believe that we can experience heaven here on earth by doing naam japna and being in the company of sadh sangat. However, in Japji Sahib it clearly states that there is a physical heaven and hell (i.e. in Daram Khand). Look at the link that has been provided above from the tapoban forum....it clearly explains this. I am going to post the question that has been posted by the individual who started the topic on the tapoban forum because I have also wondered the same thing. The question is, if someone has reached Gyaan khand or any of the other khands...is it possible to be "promoted" to Sachkhand? And also, is it only in sachkhand where one's soul merges with God? Or can one "be" with God in the other realms?

Waheguru Jee ka Khalsa, Waheguru Jee Kee Fateh Over the past few months I have become very interested in Sikhi and am hoping to take Amrit in the near future. I have been reading many books and have talked to many people about Sikhism in regards to heaven and hell. I know in Japji Sahib, Guru jee has written about the 5 realms. My question is, what is the purpose of having 5 realms? And who belongs to these realms? How is it determined which realm one goes to? (I know only God can determine this but is there anything we can do in this life that will determine which realm we go to?) And if one does not reach Sachkand, does this mean one will not "be" with God? Also in Sikhism, is hell an actual place? Or is this world we live in right now considered to be hell? (I have heard both of these views...so i'm just a little confused!) I know I just asked like a million questions but any thoughts would be greatly appreciated! Waheguru Jee ka khalsa, Waheguru Jee Kee Fateh

Can you send me the link for where you got this article? Thanks.

Anything related to God, whether that involves doing paath or simran (meditaton) is a good start. If you are tempted to cut your hair or get involved in bad things than doing more simran and paat will definetely help you. Waheguru always finds a way to help his children. You'll find that as you do more simran and paat, your mind begins to be at peace and all worries that you had seem to just go away. But remember that you shouldn't be doing naam simran and paat just to get rid of these thoughts that you are having. Don't get be wrong...this is a valid reason but you should also be doing it to bring you closer to God. When you do paat, try to understand the meaning instead of just reading it for the sake of reading. It becomes more meaningful that way. You can actually get english translations (translations of the meaning) of the whole gutka off the internet. Try www.sikhitothemax.com hope this was helpful!

If you want to end things permenantly, than you should tell her that. However, if you want to "hold things off" because you still want to get married to her in the future, then you NEED to explain that to her. You can't just leave her hanging. Its not fair to her. If you guys have a good relationship right now, then why not just remain friends? Just keep your contact limited. That way, you won't get too emotionally attached to her and it won't bring down your Sikhi. In the end, its all about communication. I think if you both talks things out then everything should be ok.

Phenji have you ever been to a club? Have you been to universities? More so bhangra gigs!!!! U say amritdhari have ego huna, yeh its true, and they wrong for it. There is wrong in everyone but unfortunatly when it comes to ego, non-amritdhari do take the biscuit!! and win hands down!!!!!!!! even the ones who claim to be Sikh with their BIG massive kara on walking like penguins wobbling left to right slanting back, drive with their seat soooo far back a patient in hospital would think its their bed!!!! blasting out bare tunes and giving it loads of attitude so the girls think they kool, and the same goes for girls too!! Thats ego. If you are Gurus Sikh, his son/daughter, u should be so proud of it you should be shouting from the roof tops!! Guru Gobind Singh is MY DAD! Yes remain humble but be Proud to Be Khalsa. 114024[/snapback] Actually....to let u know...the non-amrithdaree people that I am talking about are people who are ADULTS and married and do not attend clubs....so please do not make assumptions...and i actually do know LOTS of non-amrithdaree people who are young and DO NOT attend these kinds of gatherings....they are in love with Sikhi just like the rest of us..

OKAY EVERYONE....I think everyone needs to just calm down....I think we've had like a million posts and about facial hair, dastaars, etc. The bottom line is....removing your hair if your amritdaree is a kurehit meaning that it is WRONG. ALso, I want to point out that I think people have this tendency to think that if one is amritdaree than that makes them better then other people. Honestly, based on my personal experience....I can't say that this is true. I know MANY people who are amritdaree and many who are not. And to tell you the truth....I often find that the people who are NOT amritdaree tend to be better people regardless of whether or not they cut their hair or not. When I say this I mean that they are loving, selfless people whereas some amritdaree people I know tend to be full of ego because they think they are better then other people. Again...this is based on my personal experience and am not trying to offend or diss any amritdaree individuals on this site. Bottom line....I"m just saying that just because one might cut their hair (and is not amritdaree) DOES NOT....under any circumstance make them less of a person than a amritdaree singh or singhnee.

In this case....the boy cannot marry the girl unless she takes Amrit. If the girl is willing to take it (and not for the wrong reasons....that is...just to marry him) and her heart is in it...than there is no problem if they stay together because then eventually they will both be amritdaree. Also to reply to aman_kaur's comment....I just want to stress that DATING and being in a relationship with someone that you will potentially marry are two completely different scenario's. Dating is when a person goes from one partner to the next...kind of like "experimenting" which is wrong. However, if you are with someone that you want to marry then there is nothing wrong with that. Plus, I'm pretty sure that most people would want to get to know their future partner well enough before marriage which involves building a relationship with them.

I agree that TRUE love only resides with our guru. However, in the case of marriage, one MUST love their partner if they want to marry them and be with them. So all love in this world may be false (like this shabad says).... But at the same time, that doesn't mean that love for one's partner, parents, friends, etc is meaningless or that people shouldn't fall in love. Think about it....our Guru is FULL of love. I know a few married couples who are amrithdari, and the love that is shared between each of these couples is amazing. And what's even better, is that they use this love to guide each other through living a Sikhi-fulfilled life. So in this case, their love for one another does serve a true purpose...which is to help bring one another closer to God. Also, for 'hardykaur', there is nothing wrong with falling in love with a person before marriage or having a love marriage (regardless of whether or not one is amritdari). But in this case, one should not "do" things with their partner cause like you said...it can lead to bad thoughts and this can distract you away from God.

Everyone just needs to relax. I just want to say that no one has a right to go and start preaching or giving advice to people unless its been asked for. You can't force a religion onto a person. I'm not saying that it is bad to try to motivate a person to follow Sikhi. BUT if that person isn't willing to hear what you have to say then let it be. If 'deadquoteolympian' wants to be an atheist, then that is HIS choice and we all need to respect that. And to 'deadquoteolympian', its fine that you don't want people preaching to you but don't get mad at others for this. I know people who have such a passion for Sikhi and this just comes naturally to them. They want others to experience what they have experienced from living a Sikhi-fulfillled life. In other words, some people truly just do it out of the goodness of their heart. Not to make you feel like crap or put your beliefs down. I know it might seem like this because some people may be rude to you but then again not ALL people are like this. Just remember this and keep an open mind...

I think it is fine to have a relationship with somebody but one that does not necessarily have to be "girlfriend" or "boyfriend" based. What I mean by that is its okay if you talk to this girl and become good friends with her if you are interested. Especially if you two are both amrith dharee, I think it it is a great way to guide each other and you can always have someone to talk to about Sikhi. That should be one of the key aspects. Also, its best to restrain from physical contact because it will just distract you and can easily lead to lust. Other than that...I don't see anything wrong with it. I know many people who have "relationships" like this and it works for them...

well the fact that you are learning prakash and sukhasan is good however, moving the alcohol to the garage doesn't make much of a difference because it is still part of the house. Therefore it still beadbi. Please keep trying your hardest to convince your parents to get rid of the alcohol. If not than Sri Guru Granth Sahib jee should be taken to your local gurdwara. Why don't you try getting another person (eg: a gursikh that your know from the local gurdwara---someone who is older) to try and talk to your parents about your problem. I know from my experience that parents don't often listen to what their kids have to say because they think they are ignorant or don't know anything. So maybe if someone else talks to them, they might change their minds. Just a suggestion..