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Answer is no! Whenever secular-quasi religious fanatics want to discard something, they either blame AKJ or Tat Khalsa; its Tat Khalsa in this case so far (most likely they married a non amritdhari and now they are defending their wrong action). Be careful of these people, they are the dirtiest at heart, even more than those who commit mistakes and don't try to justify them. It is like asking can a Non amritdhari be part of the Punj Pyare? Secular-quasi religious fanatics will say no because the original Punj Pyare took Amrit. I agree, but the secular-quasi religious fanatics show their true colors when told women cannot be part of Punj Pyare and now they will spit on the reason they used to defend their first stance. They can't understand the depth of the Khalsa Panth. You took a step closer to Guru Sahib by taking Amrit and now why do you want to take a 1000 steps away from Guru Sahib? No doubt it happens more often today, but so does a lot of other things in the Amritdhari community, but this does not mean Guru Sahib approves of it. What is the rush to get married now? If you are committed to Guru Sahib and the guy is serious about Sikhi, both of you should have the patience to wait when he is ready to take amrit. The life of being a Sikh is the most important aspect of life. Guru Sahib is the breath of life and without his blessing no one can achieve the heights only destined for his beloved Sikhs. Those who find their strength from worldly attachments will surely tell you to go ahead and do the marriage as is. This shows a weakness in them and how much they are lacking Gurbani in their lives. Yet they put on this false image of having their life together. Trust me there are many dark corners behind that mask. 99% of the Sikhs of the world look for their main support from worldly affairs (occupation, children, friends, events, foods, spouse, bf,gf, etc). Take one of their main supports away and watch the depression come on in these people. Watch the drama take place before you eyes. You have a choice of either being part of the drama or watching it from the arms of Guru Sahib. Listen to shabads from Gurbani, which speak on who is going to help you throughout this world. You will be able to gain the strength to make the correct decision through these Gurbani shabads.

The slippery slope goes in both directions. Either the meaning behind the the rehat is completely lost and Sikhs do it like robots and pick and choose(like malfunctioning robots) or they disregard the meaning behind the rehat and stop practing it. I don't fit in either of these groups. I don't support either of these groups although i would lean more towards the group who does it for the fact of doing it at times. Reason and logic should not be disregarded and a person would have respect for rehat when and where it applies.

This is AKJ thinking. Punj kakkar does not include keski. I can't remember which Granth, but it's Sarbloh Granth Sahib or Sri Dasam Granth Sahib that list the Punj Kakkar; keski is not listed as one of the Kakkars. This is the crux of your argument, but it fails the test of timelessness. Sikhi doesn't fail, but your irrational thinking does. The color green was forbidden to be worn by the Sikhs because it was the colour of the Muslims. But today the colour of the Muslims is black and brown (ISIS). According to you the Guru could not see the future and did not list these two colors as also forbidden to be worn for the time to come. The Guru gave a 2 to 3 foot kirpans to the Sikhs as the time and need was for long kirpans. You can deny it all you like, but it is a fact. The kirpans are on display at the Takhts. Today you and your pals have changed it to 9 inches kirpans because it best suits you. Yet you have the audacity to come on here and condemn everyone who does not follow your hand picked made up rehat on keski. because you live in a fairy land where sweat does not exist. You must have some special fans up in your dastar for temperature control. What's next AC technology in that dastar. You showed nothing, other than your lack of knowledge on how to protect yourself in today's era. The kirpan will never be outdated because humans bleed. When humans stop bleeding and skin is replaced by steel, then it will surely be outdated as a defense weapon and so will firearms. Guru Sahib didn't have to think anything through. Guru Sahib is perfect and knows everything. Rehat has changed over time from Sri Guru Nanak Dev ji to Sri Guru Gobind Singh Sahib ji. You can't and won't accept it. You were talking about fight people bare-headed and I simply showed you how your dastar is going to come off in a fight. It had nothing to do with not wearing it all together. Go get some rest, you cannot understand or purposely twist words.

I respect your understanding of Gurbani, but on this topic you are really reaching, when you have nothing to reach for. Why can't the keski be hung close by? Why would a person tie a keski around the body while showering and then take the same keski and tie it around the head hair, which the person just washed? The keski is unclean and tying it on the washed hair will make the hair unclean again. Might as well not take a keshi ishaan, if you are going to do this. If you are this paranoid about it. It's better to keep a clean keski close by and tie the clean keski around the wet hair and remove the unclean keski off the body. Keski keeps the hair protected!! Are there birds in your bathroom ready to take one on your head? Do you see what I mean by really reaching for an answer here. What symbolic significance does all this have; what you are saying? Kangha can be tied on the kirpan gatra and put to the side. Have more than one gatra and kirpan, problem solved. What is the need to tie a kirpan around the head? Also do tell me how you tie your 3 foot kirpan around your head? Yea the pot belly and super lazy Sikhs don't get dirty as I say because they sit around all day in their sweat and don't realize they are sweating. It's common sense, the body sweats and whether in urban or rural areas there is dust. lol....gated communities. Gated community people are sleeping with firearms under/around/close to their beds. Old grandma's are wielding shotguns. Kirpan is a form of protection anytime and can be easily concealed if needed. Best protection is the kirpan because of it's capacity to do the most damage in the least amount of time. A person can be stabbed easily 10 times in 5 seconds. Only you will make this ridiculous argument. Here are some "21st century" facts for you. Just because the house alarm goes off, does not mean the police officer magically appears at your door in a split second; not superman. We are talking about real life not hollywood movies. And today crooks, rapist, and killers can jump over the 50 000 dollar fence around your gated community because your hard earned tax dollars paid for the gym equipment in correctional facilities. Yes, but in the context of bathing in a river. Okay, now it's time to get real. Your simple little keski will be knocked off your head in a split second and wrapped around your neck to chock you out. Dastars come off so fast and so do dumalla. No magic powers in dumalla that keep them on your head in a fight. Have you seen the recent video of two Singhs going at it in a nagar kirtan in US? Dastars were knocked off like soccer balls being kicked around. What about the video, where Taksali Singhs in Canada tried to forcibly remove Ghagga off a Gurdwara stage. One guys dastar was knocked off and he had his hair completely open. Stop playing cowboys and Indians with your action figure dolls.

Completely unfair comments. Let me ask you, if one person was to kick your mom and another person was to punch your mom. Would you say I just walked by the punch and did nothing to stop it, so it is okay to kick my mom as well. No! you would not let any of it happen. Sikhs today have lost all sense of what it means to respect Gurbani. Everything in Gurbani is for sale. But this does not make the sale of Gurbani right. Gurbani (Shabad Kirtan) is our Guru. Open your eyes and see Gurbani for what it is. Dancing and Shabad kirtan together under one celebration is all wrong. Why not let the punjabis do gidda in Darbar Hall and then do katha on how Gurbani disapproves of it, if it is only punjabi folk dancing as you say? :stupidme: I had some fool committee member stare me down after a wedding because I nicely told some white people to cross their legs in darbar Sahib. Too bad this committee member didn't have the balls to actually approach me and have a decent conversation. Goon behavior doesn't work, when the other party doesn't fear committee members. Vaisakhi for the Sikhs is ONLY a religious celebration. I wonder how many hindus, Mulsims, Buddhist, and Jains were put off by Guru Gobind Singh Sahib ji condemning Sikhs from celebrating like fools and instead took heads and sang Kirtan? Tell me how many celebrations did we have from Sri Guru Nanak Dev ji to Sri Gobind Singh Sahib ji that allowed Gurbani to be sang after or before what Gurbani does not approve of in the same venue You don't even know what alcohol is, if you think it is only the liquid substance consumed. alcohol is already in the body. The giddha awakes the alcohol in the body and takes the person away from Gurbani. Over 1000 post on this website and you still can't figure this simple puzzle out!

keski is there to protect the hair from getting dirty and makes the dastar more sturdy. People that do not tie a keski, don't realize how tying the same dastar from a day before without washing it, has dust on it. The keski helps keep the hair clean. What is the practical reason to wear a keski in the shower? Tying a keski on the head and wanting to take a kesi ishaan, beat the purpose of having a kesi ishaan. Tying it anywhere else on the body is pointless because you are cleaning your body and the keski tied around your waist or anywhere else is being splattered with the sweat and dirt coming off the upper torso. When everyone was taking their bathes in rivers it made since to keep a keski on you. The keski can be washed after you cleansed the body and you don't need to go back into the river to wash one simple keski. Also it was a good way to be prepared for any unpredictable issues and you need to tie the hair up quick and go. Today we shower in tiled showers with racks. We have washer machines for washing everything. Keski tied around the waist, for what reason? Watch how some fanatic will say the keski has some magical spiritual powers and I will be cursed to hell for saying this. I dry my air in the natural wind because it is healthy for the hair. If it's cold and raining, do it inside the house and don't use blow dryers. Blow dryers damage the hair and any Sikh who considers their hair a gift from God will not intentionally damage their God given gift right!!!! :biggrin2: Seen photos of Gursikhs drying their hair fully uncovered and in the natural wind too. Just in case you are wondering if Gursikhs do it. Keeping the hair always in a keski or a keski and dastar has to do with being tyar bar tyar. Ready to go when the call comes. Singhs that live in combat zones should be aware of how fast they can get ready and be prepared to fight. Yet majority of the Singhs today live in combat free zones and only thing we need to be prepared for is the next scary movie coming out on the big screen. And this is coming from a Singh who works in the field of not knowing when a physical altercation will break out in a split second on the job. A good example of being tyar bar tyar is when Singhs were being hunted by the Punjab police in the 1980s and 1990s in India. In this time it was making sure the gun barrel, chambers, and magazines are free of dirt, grime and oiled. Your other two questions have been covered by the previous posters.

In order to be Guru (true Guru), the person has to be chosen by the previous Guru; as Bhai Lehna Ji was by Guru Nanak Dev ji. By your reasoning, we would be grossly disrespecting Bhai Mardana ji by calling him Bhai. Instead he should be called Guru Mardana ji because Bhai Mardana writings are in Sri Guru Granth Sahib ji. It's not that simple. Bhagat Ravidas ji was chosen as to be a Bhagat by Akal Purakh. This shows even a Bhagat and "lowest caste" can reach the great heights of Sachkhand. Bhai Mardana Bani was added to show even the most lowly person (from Muslim background) with little education can reach the heights of Sachkhand. Vaheguru mystery is impossible to explain. Keep diving deeper into Gurbani. People call Bhagat Ravidas, Guru Ravidas out of ignorance and egoistical pride because they have made some kind of superficial connection to him like belonging to the same caste. By doing so, they reinforce the Brahmin caste system that destroyed their ability to be seen as humans.

Nidar Singh has disgraced Nihang Singhs around the world with his false teachings. This video is several years too late to come out. Thanks to the person who took the time out and spoke with these actual Nihang Singhs and obtained the truth on Nidar Singh.

Poster Bijla Singh has answered all your questions. If anonymous is an honest seeker, he would contemplate on what Bijla Singh has said. Instead of rushing to argue. Even in my post you skip over important information provided and ask a question on what has already been answered. How do I know Gurbani is God? Because I have faith and contentment in Gurbani. I have no issue answering this question. Yet, you have faith in Buddha and Buddhism and you cannot be 100% sure it is actually Buddhism because Buddha didn't write anything down. Over the centuries many things change and concepts are lost. Sikh Gurus wrote ALL of God's teaching down on how to reach God and this makes Sikhi authentic and real and unchanging. You are blindly following 'Buddha teachings without any clue if today's Buddhism is what Buddha taught. Also lastly and not least Buddha was ONLY a seeker. The Gurus are God himself. Any honest person looking for answers would deeply consider this thought.

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Sri Guru Arjun Dev ji wrote mehil 5 for himself.

This poster always has the need to disregard the core values of Sikhi and delude certain aspects of Sikhi for his own beliefs. Best to ignore this secular quasi-religious fanatic advice.

Taksal and Nihangs Rehat Maryada came directly from Sri Guru Gobind Singh Sahib ji. There is no question of who has the man made Maryada today. People like you choose to lie about everything to cover up your tracks. The current so called Sri Akal Takht Maryada was invented in the last century by people who could not see the unique complete Maryada of the Jathas created by Sri Guru Gobind Singh Sahib ji. Many Gursikhs, while Sri Akal Takht Sahib Maryada was being created walked out of the discussions and never returned because of the gross disrespect and errors being created by the committee. The Sri Akal Takht Sahib man made Maryada even discarded the 5 Banis given to the Sikhs by Sri Guru Gobind Singh Sahib ji. There could not be a more corrupted and washed out Maryada than this one. Guru Gobind Singh Sahib ji gave Udhasis a Maryada, Nirmala, Nihangs, Taksal, and Sevapanthis their own distinct Maryada. If you want to blame anyone for creating so called disorganization of the Sikhs. Blame the Guru who gave out so many Maryadas. The reality is, Maryada does not split the Khalsa Panth, but these missionary big headed good for nothing other than playing soccer with their heads, who split the Khalsa Panth.

When Purewal made his faulty calendar in 2003, were there not widespread of apostasy, massive human rights violations, drug taking and the spread of AIDS? This man with his arrogance has managed to split the Khalsa Panth in two. What was his and your camps need to take Sikhs away from the Bikrami Calendar that even the Gurus used and respected? The Khalsa Panth was united on the Bikrami Calendar since Sri Guru Nanak Dev ji. Mother crying, families being ripped apart are only games for your camp and a good way to manipulate the average Sikh into saying those who followed their Gurus lead are wrong. Stop hiding behind your wifes salwar and be a man to face the Khalsa Panth.

Buddhism lacks the true teacher (Guru). Buddha was not a Guru himself, but a seeker. He tried many forms of "religious" practices from Hinduism, but he could not find peace of mind. Buddhism was constructed out of trial and error and to this day they are still in trial and error. Once Buddha found something remotely that gave him peace he stopped going further and call this experience nirvana. Buddhism cannot give the answer of whether God existed because they never received the answer from God. This goes back to Buddha not being the true teacher and being just a seeker. Seekers in the past have met God like Bhagat Kabir ji, Bhagat Ravidas ji, Bhagat Namdev ji. All these seekers were given the grace of the True Guru once they were chosen by God. These seekers also went through trial and error, but they showed more faith and contentment than Buddha to reach the highest state, Sachkhand. Buddha had faith in his ways, which became his biggest block. Bhagat Kabir ji like Buddha started with faith, but Bhagat Kabir ji kept his faith in the highest and most perfect reality (call it God, Sachkhand, etc). Hinduism says a seeker needs a teacher, Buddha abandoned this path and also abandoned to search for the true Guru. Sikhi kills the I am so and so and Buddha indulged in it to the point of losing the end game. He became his own teacher. There is only one teacher and we follow the teacher (God, Guru). What inward meditation can you do without the true teacher? My (your) mind is limited and does not know what meditation is truly. We are all the frog stuck in the well. Only with the true teacher can we come out of the well and see for the first time what the world (all of creation is). I can give you a complex math problem and you can work hard at it and ask many people. Without my lesson plan you will surely fail the math problem. Many have tried their way to what they believe is the highest state/being/place. But they did not reach the highest, most perfect, and exalted state/place/being. Gurbani (Sri Guru Granth Sahib ji) is the only true teacher, which can solve this complex math problem for a human being and take them to the highest state/place/being. Reading Sri Guru Granth Sahib ji is the only true air in our lungs. Without it's teachings we are the walking dead. I can speak of my experience of spiritual wisdom, but it is only babbling. Only when I read Sri Guru Granth Sahib ji am I speaking of spiritual wisdom and meditating on the true words of God. Kirtan, simran, and reading Gurbani are equally valuable in the same way. None have lesser or more power to take us closer to God. The human is drawn more to one (say kirtan) and thinks, this one over the other two is more powerful, but we need to remember we cannot judge something with our limited minds, which is unlimited and infinity. To another human simran is more powerful and the other two do not give them that same spiritual experience. We are engrossed in maya and cannot feel the same experience in all three. All three are in Gurbani, so why discriminate between them? We are lacking in something, not Kirtan, simran or reading Gurbani.

This is what your pals say not Guru Sahib. Have you taken the time out to read Rehraas Sahib. Here I will spoon feed you like I did to your pal that you post videos of. ਗੁਰਮਤਿ ਨਾਮੁ ਮੇਰਾ ਪ੍ਰਾਨ ਸਖਾਈ ਹਰਿ ਕੀਰਤਿ ਹਮਰੀ ਰਹਰਾਸਿ ॥੧॥ ਰਹਾਉ ॥ Through the Guru's Teachings, the Naam is my breath of life. The Kirtan of the Lord's Praise is my life's occupation. ||1||Pause|| Also it is not kirat karni, it is dharam di kirat karni. It is not our fault you and your pals cannot do worldly task and sing Gurbani at the same time. We are not to blame for your down falls. da matlab hai apni life di sari kriyawan nu karde hoye usde bhane wich rehna hai & usde naam nu simarna hai.The people you respect could not tell me what Maharaj's Bhane wich rehna is (to live in Maharaj's Hukam) and there is no way you can tell me because your intellect is only good as to those who you surround yourself with. And what a horrible interpretation of Gurbani. What is your mind occupied with? Why can't you do simran 24/7 like Maharaj tells us in Gurbani? I was walking into the Gurdwara and toward Darbar Sahib, when I walked next to a Kirtan jatha Singh, who said fateh and kept doing Sukhmani Sahib in the same breath, while walking in the other direction. I bowed my head in his direction because this Gursikh is living example of Gursikhs doing 100 japji Sahib a day, while doing daily tasks. You have locked yourself in a box and thrown away the key. Sikhi (singing Gurbani) is not a part time job. Nitnem (5 Bani perscribed by Guru Gobind Singh Sahib ji) is only beginning. All you guys do is criticize what you don't understand and is too hard to follow for your leisure lifestyle. I know this because I took the time out to understand what you guys were about. Once your missionary pals dropped their guards and they thought I was one of them. The true them came out and they did nindiya, gossip, and look at girls with a lustful eye all day.

Anyone actually interested in this topic can go directly to Gurbani and find out for themselves. I will try to prepare a post on what Gurbani says on this topic and bring different tuks, panktis, and shabads forward to present a whole picture of this complex puzzle. The answer is Gurbani can cure diseases, but the understanding behind the answer is complex and not easy to explain.

You start your first post off here by yelling at members as a Nazi soldier yelled at the jews to tell them they are worthless. Yet you want to proclaim to be the savior of the Sikhs? Not only this, but in another topic you make an announcement, how you are the one who will bring honesty to this forum? Where do you get off writing this cr*ap? You should be glad I did not rip another one in you from both ends. You don't have an ounce of respect or knowledge on Gurbani. You are worse than the atheist proclaiming there is no God. At least they are open with their beliefs. You are a rat hiding your true beliefs and trying to convince other Sikhs your retard beliefs are Sikhi. Go worship your limited, dumb, arrogant, ignorant, God in the rat hole you climbed out of. You have no substance to bring to this forum.

I am sick of people who come on here and talk down to others as if, they are the most prestige person in the world. Your majesty, can I speak of your ignorance or will this peasant be struck down by your slaves hand as your hand is too holy to strike such a lowly peasant like me? Your majesty, your ignorance is so great how do I speak of such blind intellect? A God this peasant prays too is not limited in strength or power as you are ignorant king. The Creator gives to those who he chooses and takes from those who deny his limitless ability, ignorant king. His gifts are countless and his power is not controlled by the three worlds or by the 5 forces of darkness as you are ignorant king. To those, who he grants his mercy are freed from the darkness, silent world, and speechless tongue. The one's who can't move even a toe are given the power to walk for the first time. My God, thee God is not limited in any sense. Those fools who cannot see God is Gurbani and Gurbani is God will surely finish themselves and their lineage. My God is not limited to an ignorant king's mind as a dog is to it's bark.

Where there is doubt in Satguru there is no compassion or contentment.

The Gurus had no problem using the Bikrami calendar and neither did Gursikhs for centuries after ten Gurus left the human form. The original Bikrami Calendar must be brought back.

So you want to be spoon fed the teaching? No, won't happen with this attitude.

I listened to 5 minutes of this katha, even though i have listened to it before, but all i want to do is jaikara as loud as I can. This katha is amazing for those who can understand the deep connection this Gurmukh is speaking about. Doing paath and simran are not in contrast with each other and they should not be made into a competition of which is better or pick one over the other. Mool Mantra is Gurbani, Vaheguru is Gurbani and Sri Guru Granth Sahib ji is Gurbani, so where is the difference? Religion has always been on sale and people will always be robbed blind by those who want to use religion as a profit machine. Today we have two sides trying to market their interpretation of Sikhi for their own pockets. One side calls them Missionaries and allies. Other side calls them Sant Samj and allies. Both are robbing you of your right of religion (to find your true origin). I have listened to both sides and spoken with both sides about where they make mistakes. Both of them refuse to recognize their mistakes because it would mean they cannot market their brand of Sikhi anymore. Their pockets will get lighter and many of their allies will be left in the dust without any support because now their true face is shown. I won't name people, but these people are the main sales reps for the missionary side and the Sant Samj side. They sit on stages talk big and when behind closed doors they have no answers for simple questions. The missionary main sales rep straight out lied to me after confessing to something. I was so disgusted by this guy. After I wished I had video taped the whole conversation. The Sant Samj main sales rep straight out degraded Guru Sahib. Both sides are making a mockery of Sikhi. This so called debate over Naam Simran and paath is one of the debates they have purposely brought into sell their brand of Sikhi. Some people who are starting in Sikhi are put off by Vaheguru simran because they are repeating Vaheguru and they don't know why or understand what Vaheguru means, therefore can't feel anything. They feel like a recording. These are the people missionary exploit. They don't have the deep inner connection to turn up the vibration of Gurbani to build the love for Vaheguru simran. So they must understand what Vaheguru simran is through reading Gurbani or a Gurmukhs katha on Gurbani. I have stood next to Gurmukhs and my mind automatically starts doing Vaheguru simran and some stand next to these Gurmukhs and feel nothing. I am completely overtaken by the simran and cannot stop even if I wanted too. What is missing in the person, who feels nothing. Vaheguru is in them as he is in me. So is Naam in them. It's a deeper connection/yearning/love they miss. Love is the churning stick. The more you churn the deeper the connection we have with Guru Sahib. Constantly be searching for Guru Sahib and Guru Sahib will come to you in Gurbani Shabad form or Vaheguru simran form or mool mantra form. How many people are looking for a soul mate in life and look everywhere they go. They look for their soul mate in every part of the world. But how many do the same for Vaheguru? Then I have met those, who feel nothing from listening to Gurbani. They find no point on listening to Gurbani because they don't feel a connection. If we ask the missionary side, should this person stop reading Gurbani because now it is only parroting? He will laugh like a troll and make some stupid comments to out smart you because now you are insulting his brand of Sikhi (doing Vaheguru simran is parroting) in front of his customers. Can't let those pockets get light, but can cheat you out of religion. Vaheguru simran and reading Gurbani are both pure and true. So where is the problem? The problem lies inside the person, who is not searching deep enough. Don't let the maya Vaheguru has given you fill the yearning in your heart. It can't help you fill the emptiness. Then we have the buffoon, Sant Samj brigade who says reading Gurbani is not doing simran. If reading Gurbani is not doing simran (remembering) than, who was Guru Sahib writing about (remembering)? Was he writing about some naked yogi sitting in the mountains named Buffoon? This really eats me up because these chelas the sant samj brigade don't even send to do their dirty work, say these ignorant things from their own mind. What it clearly shows is that they don't read Gurbani and are only parroting what Guru Sahib has written down. Reading Gurbani, mool mantra, Vaheguru, listening to Gurbani, mool mantra, Vaheguru, and singing Gurbani, mool mantra, and Vaheguru is all simran. In all three ways we do simran of Vaheguru, if our hearts in it. Anyone who makes an argument between these three are the biggest buffoon in the world. Keep your mind far away from these ignorant teachings.

This is not a Sikh community issue, but a issue he had with his family. His family (mother and father) were not willing to accept him as being homosexual. He said it himself, after cutting his hair, he felt no different and still felt like a loser. It's only when he told his family he is a homosexual, he felt uplifted and free. His whole point of cutting hair is to have worldly success. He wanted to be a sheep and fit in with rest of the sheep of the world. He does not care about religion and wants nothing to do with it. He wants to be "true" to himself. It won't be long till this high he has, runs out and again he is looking for a new way to give himself the finger. He is a sheep who has no fight in him. He clearly shows giving up is his way out of life. His 15 minutes will be over before he knows it and he will be shooting up rocks like rest of his fellow celebrity wannabes.

What you are facing is very tough and i can't imagine how difficult it is to make sense of everything. This is what I know about the questions you want answered. Creation came into existence and every atma was assigned roles into Vaheguru's play(this universe we live in). How did he decide who will be born with a illness and another is born healthy? We had no karma before creation came into existence. And what karma do we have now, when Vaheguru assigned everything to us? Sikhi says Vaheguru is fair and just. For Vaheguru to assign karma at random would mean Vaheguru is not fair or just. Neither are we born in sin as Christians believe. Vaheguru does not favor one over another. One atma (mine) is no different than the atma inside of you. You or your son did nothing wrong for him to have autism. In the same way no one deserves to be healthy and be stress free. Suffering is all relative. A rich man looks at a middle class man and thinks poor man has to work a 9-5 and at minimum wage. The middle class man looks back at the rich man and thinks poor rich man who is lost in maya and does not think of Vaheguru even for a split second. In this split second, if Vaheguru would show you his reality of life. You would not want to change anything of your life because you know Vaheguru is with you and taking care of you in every second of your life. Reading Gurbani gives us the understanding of Vaheguru's hukam (command). With a better understanding, we are able to handle life as it comes to us. First time a police officer has to face being fired at is hell. Heart and mind is racing. Eyes are darting in every direction trying to find the shooter and the body wants to make quick rigid moves to find cover and snatch/stop the shooter in the same second. Sweat is coming out of every pore and his life flashes before his eyes. A more experienced officer will handle the same incident in a relaxed and calm manner. Take one step at a time and move smoothly to obtain the outcome he wants in a swift manner. Some speak of a sixth sense, but all it is a deeper understanding and experience. I can tell you to be content with what Vaheguru has given you, but this will only help you for a bit. You need to experience the contentment in life. To do this, you need to focus on Gurbani and start seeing the world through the lens of Gurbani. Keep your head up and don't beat yourself up.