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In this case, I was trying to express something which was felt, not seen. It was a sort of elevated personal experience where the soul seems to have risen to the level of feeling what it is to become one with God. - Total bliss. Nothing like you have ever felt on earth.

OUr neighbours who are Hindu - their wife keeps on complaining about her husband being a mama's boy. He does not live with them but is totally unable to deal with his own problems. He runs back to living with his mum who just uses him to get all her odd jobs done. So I doubt it is a Sikh thing. It could be the mums to blame. Perhaps they are thinking about their own safety in not letting the boys become independent. It is a culture thing too, originating in India where children just live their parents for co-benefit. The tough financial times also dictate the living styles of people. Seventy years ago, children were allowed to develop freely mentally, physically and emotionally. Now we have just drugged them with - info through the education system, TV, mobile phones and internet. Constant critism to model to certain social norms and manners has crippled creativity raising weaker adults with lesser practical skills and confidence. The Idependent spirit is slowly being killed.

Thanks any help appreciated. As I go deeper into prayer Experiences just sort of increase. Will post more on this laters when I have more time and able to concentrate on writing better.

Would you kindly provide me the links because it has now happened a number of times.

Thanks for your feedback. It has been invaluable both negative and positive. I will edit, make the required changes and clarify what I am trying to getaacross. Perhaps its all my mistake misunderstandings are occuring.

So in other words the reality of the situation is I am a pakhadi bibi being corrected by pakhadi babe? For your kind info my childhood was spent in a house without a refrigerator and I slept in the living room on a bed which was assembled of petiya and wooden boxes. If that makes you happy.

I thought the Christians say that Jesus is the son of God.

It would depend on what you want to use your experience for. Any sakhi or story about real dharshan that I have ever heard has encouraged me to say my prayers with even more devotion. Sunat kehat rehat ghat pavo... from Sikhmani sahib. It tells us to listen to the word of God and to tell others too - this means to encourage others to pray to God too. Apart from that it is very important to live the word and a righteous life too. Avar updese aap na kare. avat jaave janme mare - this means that if you are telling other to do it and not doing it yourself - then you will fall in the churasi yourself too. So when you tell others to do naam jap it is very important that you do it too.

Could it be this one?

What is even more sad is that their religion is all a copy of Christianity. Muhammed was not religious until he heard Christian traders talking about Christianity. So many of their things are copied from Christianity. This includes the main verse which says God blessed them and said to them, "Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. (Genesis 1:28) Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground." However they are not capable of doing what follows that first line. The first line is possible through physical activity. The second is only possible through spiritual activity and total devotion to God. I remember a shabad which goes like Raja sagli shrish ka. Har naam mun bheena. This talks about a King who went to do some bhagti in the forest. He realised God. When someone dropped their needle in the water and could not find it - the king requested a fish to go and fetch it. That is when this shabad was said. It generally means that the king became the ruler of the whole world. No one had respect for him as in as a King. ( you know all the respect we gives to Kings and people in high posts). However he was ruling the world. God or his bhagti or anything else for that matter is not attainable through mere words. You got to get working towards it. If you want a fit body then go body building. If you want to go to heaven - then LISTEN to the word of God - not debate and put others down.

When a spiritual experience occurs you do not realise that you were actually praying for it. Everything which we have has been given to us by God himself. Even this human life has been given to us by God. Ego exists when you forget God. When you want the darshan of Guru JI, you are being besides yourself and remembering the Lord. There are different ways of pining for the Lord. When a girl does not have a partner - she is looking for one. When she finally gets a partner - assuming lets say that he is overseas, she will want to see what he looks like - everything cannot be left to the imagination. However if she is looking at other guys and admiring them - it would be wrong. However if she thinks about the man she is going to marry and hopes to see him - there is nothing wrong. Its the same thing with us. If we want to have Waheguru's dharshan there is nothing wrong with that. However if we are lost in worldly things - then we are wrong. If we get dharshan ans want more and more - there is nothing wrong with that. God will satisfy us with his dharshan as you remember the story of Dhana bhagat. God had to assume huma form and come down and meet him. Some happenings like when Prahlad was going to be burnt alive by none other than his father also prompted the appearance of God. Would you rather be blessed with darshan or be a wrong doer like Harnakhash who had NarSingh come down to kill him. Darshan only exists where the ego has been dispelled and the Being is one with God ਸਾਰਗ ਮਹਲਾ ੫ ॥ सारग महला ५ ॥ Sārag mėhlā 5. Saarang, Fifth Mehl: ਮਾਈ ਰੀ ਮਾਤੀ ਚਰਣ ਸਮੂਹ ॥ माई री माती चरण समूह ॥ Mā▫ī rī māṯī cẖaraṇ samūh. O mother, I am totally intoxicated with the Lord's Feet. ਏਕਸੁ ਬਿਨੁ ਹਉ ਆਨ ਨ ਜਾਨਉ ਦੁਤੀਆ ਭਾਉ ਸਭ ਲੂਹ ॥੧॥ ਰਹਾਉ ॥ एकसु बिनु हउ आन न जानउ दुतीआ भाउ सभ लूह ॥१॥ रहाउ ॥ Ėkas bin ha▫o ān na jān▫o ḏuṯī▫ā bẖā▫o sabẖ lūh. ||1|| rahā▫o. I know of none other than the Lord. I have totally burnt off my sense of duality. ||1||Pause|| ਤਿਆਗਿ ਗੋੁਪਾਲ ਅਵਰ ਜੋ ਕਰਣਾ ਤੇ ਬਿਖਿਆ ਕੇ ਖੂਹ ॥ तिआगि गोपाल अवर जो करणा ते बिखिआ के खूह ॥ Ŧi▫āg gopāl avar jo karṇā ṯe bikẖi▫ā ke kẖūh. To abandon the Lord of the World, and become involved with anything else, is to fall into the pit of corruption. ਦਰਸ ਪਿਆਸ ਮੇਰਾ ਮਨੁ ਮੋਹਿਓ ਕਾਢੀ ਨਰਕ ਤੇ ਧੂਹ ॥੧॥ दरस पिआस मेरा मनु मोहिओ काढी नरक ते धूह ॥१॥ Ḏaras pi▫ās merā man mohi▫o kādẖī narak ṯe ḏẖūh. ||1|| My mind is enticed, thirsty for the Blessed Vision of His Darshan. He has lifted me up and out of hell. ||1|| ਸੰਤ ਪ੍ਰਸਾਦਿ ਮਿਲਿਓ ਸੁਖਦਾਤਾ ਬਿਨਸੀ ਹਉਮੈ ਹੂਹ ॥ संत प्रसादि मिलिओ सुखदाता बिनसी हउमै हूह ॥ Sanṯ parsāḏ mili▫o sukẖ▫ḏāṯa binsī ha▫umai hūh. By the Grace of the Saints, I have met the Lord, the Giver of peace; the noise of egotism has been stilled. ਰਾਮ ਰੰਗਿ ਰਾਤੇ ਦਾਸ ਨਾਨਕ ਮਉਲਿਓ ਮਨੁ ਤਨੁ ਜੂਹ ॥੨॥੯੫॥੧੧੮॥ राम रंगि राते दास नानक मउलिओ मनु तनु जूह ॥२॥९५॥११८॥ Rām rang rāṯe ḏās Nānak ma▫uli▫o man ṯan jūh. ||2||95||118|| Slave Nanak is imbued with the Love of the Lord; the forests of his mind and body have blossomed forth. ||2||95||118||

I think females are the ones who mostly sing this shabad at sat sangs. It is written by Guru Arjan Dev Ji. http://www.sikhsangat.com/index.php?/topic/20123-darshan-dekh-jeeva-gur-tera-pooran-karam-hoe-prabh-mera/ ੴ ਸਤਿਗੁਰ ਪ੍ਰਸਾਦਿ ॥ ੴ सतिगुर प्रसादि ॥ Ik▫oaʼnkār saṯgur parsāḏ. One Universal Creator God. By The Grace Of The True Guru: ਕੂਪੁ ਭਰਿਓ ਜੈਸੇ ਦਾਦਿਰਾ ਕਛੁ ਦੇਸੁ ਬਿਦੇਸੁ ਨ ਬੂਝ ॥ कूपु भरिओ जैसे दादिरा कछु देसु बिदेसु न बूझ ॥ Kūp bẖari▫o jaise ḏāḏirā kacẖẖ ḏes biḏes na būjẖ. The frog in the deep well knows nothing of its own country or other lands; ਐਸੇ ਮੇਰਾ ਮਨੁ ਬਿਖਿਆ ਬਿਮੋਹਿਆ ਕਛੁ ਆਰਾ ਪਾਰੁ ਨ ਸੂਝ ॥੧॥ ऐसे मेरा मनु बिखिआ बिमोहिआ कछु आरा पारु न सूझ ॥१॥ Aise merā man bikẖi▫ā bimohi▫ā kacẖẖ ārā pār na sūjẖ. ||1|| just so, my mind, infatuated with corruption, understands nothing about this world or the next. ||1|| ਸਗਲ ਭਵਨ ਕੇ ਨਾਇਕਾ ਇਕੁ ਛਿਨੁ ਦਰਸੁ ਦਿਖਾਇ ਜੀ ॥੧॥ ਰਹਾਉ ॥ सगल भवन के नाइका इकु छिनु दरसु दिखाइ जी ॥१॥ रहाउ ॥ Sagal bẖavan ke nā▫ikā ik cẖẖin ḏaras ḏikẖā▫e jī. ||1|| rahā▫o. O Lord of all worlds: reveal to me, even for an instant, the Blessed Vision of Your Darshan. ||1||Pause|| ਮਲਿਨ ਭਈ ਮਤਿ ਮਾਧਵਾ ਤੇਰੀ ਗਤਿ ਲਖੀ ਨ ਜਾਇ ॥ मलिन भई मति माधवा तेरी गति लखी न जाइ ॥ Malin bẖa▫ī maṯ māḏẖvā ṯerī gaṯ lakẖī na jā▫e. My intellect is polluted; I cannot understand Your state, O Lord. ਕਰਹੁ ਕ੍ਰਿਪਾ ਭ੍ਰਮੁ ਚੂਕਈ ਮੈ ਸੁਮਤਿ ਦੇਹੁ ਸਮਝਾਇ ॥੨॥ करहु क्रिपा भ्रमु चूकई मै सुमति देहु समझाइ ॥२॥ Karahu kirpā bẖaram cẖūk▫ī mai sumaṯ ḏeh samjẖā▫e. ||2|| Take pity on me, dispel my doubts, and teach me true wisdom. ||2|| ਜੋਗੀਸਰ ਪਾਵਹਿ ਨਹੀ ਤੁਅ ਗੁਣ ਕਥਨੁ ਅਪਾਰ ॥ जोगीसर पावहि नही तुअ गुण कथनु अपार ॥ Jogīsar pāvahi nahī ṯu▫a guṇ kathan apār. Even the great Yogis cannot describe Your Glorious Virtues; they are beyond words. ਪ੍ਰੇਮ ਭਗਤਿ ਕੈ ਕਾਰਣੈ ਕਹੁ ਰਵਿਦਾਸ ਚਮਾਰ ॥੩॥੧॥ प्रेम भगति कै कारणै कहु रविदास चमार ॥३॥१॥ Parem bẖagaṯ kai kārṇai kaho Raviḏās cẖamār. ||3||1|| I am dedicated to Your loving devotional worship, says Ravi Daas the tanner. ||3||1|| The desire of dharshan is actually a male initiated idea.(I would not have had to use the word male here if you had not used female in the first place) It is in Gurbani. Yes, dharshan is a benti not a demand in return for devotion. We could be devoted better. Darshan is the result of God's wish. So many people want dharshan but dont get it. No need to apologise. I understand that a woman would be able to understand the concept of getting married to the Lord better than men who marry. (If you catch my drift) Wouldn't you rather they crave anything from the True Lord rather than wish to have other peoples husbands, cars, houses, clothes or even lives. ( A bit exaggerated just to get the point across) Such dharshan is what spurs you on to recieve the bigger one. Such dharshan has a deeper meaning in it which you have to decipher for yourself. (For example - I understand that Waheguru is attained by swas swas simran which I dont have. So its a message for me to work harder to get to that stage.) Yes the Lord guides us from changing from evil to good. (My full story would be I was totally not praying at all in the month of June/July. I was so dhukhi that I just wanted to stop my present life and go somewhere and start all over again.) Reading about People's experiences - I felt I wanted the same. My life changed and I look back and say - Oh my!!! Where did I go wrong all this time. If I had not forgotten to do simran of Waheguru, I would have achieved more. We can only pray - it is up to Waheguru to choose whether he wants us in the joon or wants us to get mukti. All efforts do not go towards wanting a visitation. You need to work on what message Waheguru has given you. For instance - I now understand that I should not ask for another visitation as it means I quit existing as an individual. If I want to become one with Waheguru I have to get rid of my attachment to the people in my life. ( Also the experience made me feel the tugs that other peoples souls can have on your own soul and pull it back from Waheguru. All this has to be neutralised before mukti can be obtained. This is the reason why we keep coming back in the churasi lakh joon) This was a case where God was felt. Yes there are other cases where he is seen ( for reasons of not wanting to upset the sadh sangat I shall humbly not go into that as it seems like people on here do not like to hear other experiences) God gives his messages through other ways as well. ( I will not go into this again as some people do not like others talking about their experiences) It is greatly appreciated that you point to me that I am doing the whole religion thing wrong. I aplogise for that and promise to make further amends until I get it right. No offense taken. What you said is 100% correct in your own views. Far from wanting to retaliate I just smiled when I read your message, then I laughed , then I LOLed. Then I said to myself - Oh No better stop this is all wrong. Put it right. Thanks.

Trying to be a good Sikh yourself and following the Guru's teachings are enough to inspire others to go to the Guradwara. Talk about the goodness of prayer to your friends. Just telling people to go to the Guradwara doe not work. Help anyone you see in distress and remind them about the goodness of the word of God. They will pray transform and be thankful and go the guradwara. Just going to the Guradwara does not make you a good Gursikh. Trying to follow and keeping on reminding yourself about the teachings of the Gurus is the main thing you ought to focus on as well. The Guradwara provides sangat and naam in sangat is powerful. Kirtan helps the wandering mind to concentrate better. Learn the shabads of Gurbani and talk to others about the meanings. This will inspire them. I had a friend who was very dhukhi and very angry with her husband. I encouraged her to pray. Surprising she is now at the Guradwara more often than before. She does Sukhmani nearly everyday. If she cant she listens to the tape. She admits all her anger and bad thoughts have now dissappeared. She is a much happier and more confident person. She even stopped doing chugli of other people. She stopped having arguments with her mum in law. She still has dhukh in her life but she does not focus on it now. She said it does not hurt her anymore. Her focus in on not missing her path everyday. So this is the best way to encourage others. When we encourage them, they are the ones who remind us back when we seem to be loosing our way and forgetting to say our prayers as regularly as we did.

Meditation enables you to get in touch with your true self and bring calm to the body. I guess you must be feeling like a new born baby. If your senses have been dead from your addictions, you will be waking up to a new world. Everything seems brighter and clearer. The feelings which were dulled out before will be returning. Well, sounds exciting. (to rediscover your true self which you just buried under) I was just going to suggest swimming as an exercise mainly because it does not tire the muscles as much as exercise on the ground. It is also the best exercise to do in the winter. You get a complete workout too. Yes you are fine, just happened to fall on the mucky side of the fence. Now all you need to do is climb over taking care of the existing thorns and jump victoriously onto the other side. Would you like to try children's stories instead on sikhnet. Well I am saying this just because I read them sometimes and find them interesting and able to hold my attention longer. They are quite informative as well.

He is such a knowledgable person and admirable too. I am starting to wonder why he even bothers to talk to the muslims. Where are our own youngsters who should be crowding around him to listen and question Sikhism and try to understand better. Its a shame on us that the preacher of our religion is having to go through this because of us. We are not interested in our own religion. Our religion is being preached to people who dont even believe and just want to keep interrupting and putting him down. Religion is not supposed to be a discussion between whether Islam or sikhism is the correct religion. I firmly believe that he should be available for Sikh youngsters. Sikh religion is all about practicing. In our Guradwara, when we are having the word of the Guru being preached, we sit down and listen quietly. That is the only way that it will be able to go into our minds and make a difference to our souls. We are being put into doubts on our own religion when we are having to listen to questions which the muslims keep posing. I think these muslims are being totally disrespectful and this should be looked into. Our preacher should be preaching to Sikhs and being treated with great respect. He is preaching the name of God - not going out to sell something. Well those are my own thoughts. Its not in my hands at the end of the day - it may be God's will.

Keep going. When you keep doing something continuously only then will the bliss in that activity start to be experienced. Negativity will change into positivity. Slowly your mind will get attuned to it. After 40 days you will want to keep wanting to do simran, because it will become one of your new habits, but like anything else it requires hard work.

Thanks for the warning. Removed my post.

Last year was a tough year. We decided we were having an extension to be done in the house. This resulted in a great deal of disruption to our normal routine. It also meant that we were more busy than ever and had lesser visitors around. It meant we were eating simpler foods. It also meant that the TV was off for a significant amount of time. This is when I had my ipod on for long periods of time. I was listening to a lot of shabad kirtan, We were visiting lesser people so I was spending a significant amount of time on my own. (Listening to shabads, I would have tears rolling down my eyes and would cry a great deal) I had never woken up at Amrit vela to do path. I decided to do this and Amrit vela was truly magical. I had a number of experiences of being woken up by divine forces and the urge to start praying. It is at this time that one day I was listening to the shabad - ik shin dharas dhikhaye ji. Then I started to wonder what it would be to get darshan for just a minute. Deep in my heart I starting longing for darshan of one minute. I woke up at Amrit vela - did all my prayers and went to sleep. When I was sleeping - I had this wonderful blissful experience which is totally difficult to describe. My soul was totally awakened and my heart felt like it filled my whole body. I felt totally different and there was a voice deep deep in me asking me If I wanted Waheguru and there was Waheguru simran going on like I have never heard or felt before. The voice was so clear. There was nothing to see - it was just a feeling. A very clear feeling. My answer was yes - I wanted Waheguru. The voice replied to me - Then keep doing the jap of Waheguru. The voice was not heard by my ears but by my soul. Then the great feeling started to part. My husband was calling me below to do something. (in my dream) I was pleading with him, please give me one second - the feeling is leaving me and I dont want it to end. In my dream my soul was sort of hanging in the air and I could not get down to do the task he was asking me to. I was in full consciousness but sort of paralysed. Something kept tugging me on the side and I thought it was my son. The feeling which I was getting of Waheguru was so sweet that I could not let it go but it kept departing. My soul was yearning for it and an explanation came to me instantly and I understood - not now it said - you still have people who need you. I woke up and opened my eyes. I thought my son was on the side pulling at my blanket - but he was not. The feeling of his hands on my side was so real, that I was just wondering what had been happening to me. Some force had come to my assistance to bring my soul back to my body. I was wondering whether I had died or what was it? I was only full of regret - why did I ask darshaan of only ik shin? I should have asked more. How did I know that this wish would be fulfilled? If I had known then I would definitely have asked for more. So if you are doing simran or bhagti or anything else (meditation, listening to shabads) be hopeful and know that Waheguru is real. YOu need to keep working and try to beat all the obstacles which will come your way. Use your time wisely - choose your friends wisely and keep your thoughts positive and focused all the time. The hope which we rely on and the reward of darshan of one minute is so beautiful that it fills you up with regret when you have to depart. Keep praying that Waheguru can keep us in sach khand right under his care and under his wings such that we do not have to depart from him again and come to this earth to suffer. The real spiritual world which we long to see is seen with closed eyes. What we see when we open our eyes is all false. Yes it was and it is a sad departing when we leave God to come to this world. God wants us to unite with him, but we can only meet him through our actions. So let us start doing the things which will bring us closer to God. ਰਾਗੁ ਗਉੜੀ ਪੂਰਬੀ ਮਹਲਾ ੫ रागु गउड़ी पूरबी महला ५ Rāg ga▫oṛī pūrbī mėhlā 5 Raag Gauree Poorbee, Fifth Mehl: ੴ ਸਤਿਗੁਰ ਪ੍ਰਸਾਦਿ ॥ ੴ सतिगुर प्रसादि ॥ Ik▫oaʼnkār saṯgur parsāḏ. One Universal Creator God. By The Grace Of The True Guru: ਕਿਨ ਬਿਧਿ ਮਿਲੈ ਗੁਸਾਈ ਮੇਰੇ ਰਾਮ ਰਾਇ ॥ किन बिधि मिलै गुसाई मेरे राम राइ ॥ Kin biḏẖ milai gusā▫ī mere rām rā▫e. How may I meet my Master, the King, the Lord of the Universe? ਕੋਈ ਐਸਾ ਸੰਤੁ ਸਹਜ ਸੁਖਦਾਤਾ ਮੋਹਿ ਮਾਰਗੁ ਦੇਇ ਬਤਾਈ ॥੧॥ ਰਹਾਉ ॥ कोई ऐसा संतु सहज सुखदाता मोहि मारगु देइ बताई ॥१॥ रहाउ ॥ Ko▫ī aisā sanṯ sahj sukẖ▫ḏāṯa mohi mārag ḏe▫e baṯā▫ī. ||1|| rahā▫o. Is there any Saint, who can bestow such celestial peace, and show me the Way to Him? ||1||Pause|| ਅੰਤਰਿ ਅਲਖੁ ਨ ਜਾਈ ਲਖਿਆ ਵਿਚਿ ਪੜਦਾ ਹਉਮੈ ਪਾਈ ॥ अंतरि अलखु न जाई लखिआ विचि पड़दा हउमै पाई ॥ Anṯar alakẖ na jā▫ī lakẖi▫ā vicẖ paṛ▫ḏā ha▫umai pā▫ī. The Unseen Lord is deep within the self; He cannot be seen; the curtain of egotism intervenes. ਮਾਇਆ ਮੋਹਿ ਸਭੋ ਜਗੁ ਸੋਇਆ ਇਹੁ ਭਰਮੁ ਕਹਹੁ ਕਿਉ ਜਾਈ ॥੧॥ माइआ मोहि सभो जगु सोइआ इहु भरमु कहहु किउ जाई ॥१॥ Mā▫i▫ā mohi sabẖo jag so▫i▫ā ih bẖaram kahhu ki▫o jā▫ī. ||1|| In emotional attachment to Maya, all the world is asleep. Tell me, how can this doubt be dispelled? ||1|| ਏਕਾ ਸੰਗਤਿ ਇਕਤੁ ਗ੍ਰਿਹਿ ਬਸਤੇ ਮਿਲਿ ਬਾਤ ਨ ਕਰਤੇ ਭਾਈ ॥ एका संगति इकतु ग्रिहि बसते मिलि बात न करते भाई ॥ Ėkā sangaṯ ikaṯ garihi basṯe mil bāṯ na karṯe bẖā▫ī. The one lives together with the other in the same house, but they do not talk to one another, O Siblings of Destiny. ਏਕ ਬਸਤੁ ਬਿਨੁ ਪੰਚ ਦੁਹੇਲੇ ਓਹ ਬਸਤੁ ਅਗੋਚਰ ਠਾਈ ॥੨॥ एक बसतु बिनु पंच दुहेले ओह बसतु अगोचर ठाई ॥२॥ Ėk basaṯ bin pancẖ ḏuhele oh basaṯ agocẖar ṯẖā▫ī. ||2|| Without the one substance, the five are miserable; that substance is in the unapproachable place. ||2||

Yes ji. Do you have one? You could borrow one if not.

singhbj, whilst your contribution is greatly appreciated, I strongly feel that it is the wrong column to place your views. We all admit to watching a little porn here and there. However it is of paramount importance that you be sensitive to the purpose of this column. Its main purpose is to help someone who is distressed and addicted to the effects of having to turn to porn. Whereas we turn to it every now and then, this persons whole personality and future is getting ruined by it.

A bigger version of the kirpan is not allowed on the plane. It is the law which she cannot change. Therefore she will be without a kirpan on the plane journey. If she wears a smaller version then she will be having all her k's on her. She has to take her kirpan off. The smaller version will keep her complete all through with all k's.

Hi, I would recommend you all to read this book. After reading it all - see how Jesus delivered the guy. Then come back and correct your posts. http://www.divinerevelations.info/dreams_and_visions/delivered_from_the_powers_of_darkness.pdf

It is not only Sikhism that forbids it but other religions as well. In fact what I am going to tell you now, I read in a Jehovah's witness book when I was 16. Now at the age of 44, it finally makes all the sense why it is best to abstain from fornication. (The years before marriage are meant to be for preparing you for the life you will face ahead. So use it to acquire all the skills which you will need like cooking, cleaning, earning a living, socialising with people (all types youngsters, adults and elders too. Sex forms a unique bond between husband and wife which helps to keep them close. Knowing that your partner has shared this experience with someone else is very painful. This is why adultery leads to divorce. The knowledge that your partner has had this experience with someone else can make you hate them so much that you do not want to see them again. If you abstain before marriage, there is a greater likelihood that you will be faithful to your partner after marriage too. This is important to make your marriage last. Knowing that your partner is being unfaithful behind your back can again be very painful and stressful to handle) God meant humans to be happy. That is why he has given us rules to live by. If we obey we will live a peaceful life. If we disobey, we suffer for it. Could you quote exactly which Guru said this ? Do bother to read and find out exactly what Guru Ji says. Having a connection with someone does not mean you have to connect with your body. You have to have the same sort of thoughts about things. You need to be on the same level of things. Adjustments need to be made after marriage. YOu cannot meet someone who will connect to you 100%. You need to accept your partner the way they are and help and encourage them in their own personal development. Love and having sex are two different things. Yes you have done well. You have to keep doing it. People who live for Waheguru should never feel that they have wasted their life. That is what we were meant to do all the time. You have to keep your devotion up and keep going the right way. Keep yourself motivated by reading sakhiya, good books on sikhi, reading peoples experiences and trying to understand deeper what Gurbani is trying to tell us. Whoever gives you the thought that you did not develop mentally is wrong. When you are young life may seem very boring and you feel nothings is happening. Use this time to read and build up your knowledge and learn new skills. You dont need many relationships. You only need to devote yourself to that one partner who comes along. Many risks and difficulties will come to face you once you are married. You will so busy that you will look back and say - Oh Boy when is this going to stop? Believe me it only happens that you are expected to get busier and busier and your responsibility increases. Your youth will never come back. So use your body to do as much seva as you can preferably in the Guradwara for you never know when next you will get the time to do so. Use your bright shiny eyes to read the word of God, for that time will creep upon you when you cannot see clearly. Then you will wonder - what you wasted all your time on. Everyday a Gursikh faces a risk. Did you wake up at Amrit vela or not ? Why ? You have risked loosing your day. Did you do your path today? No? why not? Those are the risks we face everyday. Eat, drink and be merry for tomorrow we die: Yes you will die indeed if you decide to take risks like being on a wild behaviour let loose girl (wanting the most excitement before dying) God has sent us to earth with a purpose. The sooner we realise it the better for us. The sooner we wake up, the better for us. READ GURBANI AND WISEN UP!!!!!!

If I were you, I would wear a smaller version which stays on me, and leave the bigger one behind as I would not like to put it on without having had a shower. Bhul Chuk muaf.