sikhni777

It is a total embarrassment to be told about how loose apniya can be with their sexual history of past mates floating around the work place and their parents being made fun of by goreh. More worse when it is your own husband talking about what is wrong with women! !!! I am yet to come across one lady who keeps her Kesh and is a modern one too. The aokh sentiment is expressed by them all and sikhi practised by none. I am shocked at the ideas they have of how to present their hair. Of course Guru ji allows a bit of an error but when are we going to realise thatt its part of rehet to not go for that fancy haircut. God forbid apniya be seen in a bun... those are more for goriya these days who have longer hair than our lot and better morals sometimes though.

Penji be very careful as I think he's going to ask for payment via other means which could include credit or debit cards!!!!! Waheguru...

I heard of some sant ji not sure if it was Atar Singh ji. He used to do many japji sahib paths near hazur sahib standing in the nadhi near there.

We all have difficulty penji. Halfway during the katha I remembered that I had not locked the back door. Going back home would get me a mad hubby. So I was so scared, I was saying bye to the computer, my cards, my mobile and any money plus anything else valuable. Then I thought I am in the gurdwara, God can't let such a thing happen. Then I relaxed and then started thinking perhaps I had locked it. I concentrated a bit more on the salok mahalla nauva. Forgot all about the door, came home slept. Awoke next morning. Before going t the gurdwara the next morning, my husband asks - who left the door unlocked? I had no words. We slept the night too with the door unlocked! !!!!

Thats why our giani ji told us to shut our eyes... and he dimmed the lights.We had real fun. Divine bliss. Our concentration was only on the one God. We hope he forgave our many sins that instant. I tried hard to look at the other ladies suits but could see nothing. I left the gurdwara with a completely different sort of bliss that day. Dhan dhan giani ji. I think he lives in India. So next experience when he returns.

OP gets first choice. I am so low that you might not be able to handle my confession.

Are you planning to op.en one?

A picture might help... just joking.

I am so surprised actually disappointed that no one found those tukhs where the union between God and the soul is described as being enjoyed on a bed. I will try to look for them.

If you are unmarried then you should stop commenting on these topics because before marriage you tend tolook at it as something bad. This is why people have these stupid problems when they get married. Its because you distance a physical relationship so much in your brains that you think of the very act with which you came into being as evil. It is God created and if it was just for procreation it would be written by Guruji in the SGGS with a strict number I.e. only 5 times if you want 3 kids. Use your common sense for once and stop using gurbani to say that the act is forbidden and all such nonsense and confusing already confused married people.

Never in the mood. Thinking of the act as evil. Wanting to finish my path. Sleeping in the other bed with my son in order to avoid my husband. When I read this I thought it wierd. The I just had to try it. Was good. Unfortunately my avastha is not as good as the simran that I was able to achieve at that time. I have been struggling a bit with routine. So I am a normal person now not too religious. At that time I was more connected.

Thats what I thought until I tried It. I was just like OP. Never I

OP might not think so...

Who chose not to tell those children about gurpurabs. The more you find out and share with your children the more they will undetstand about sikhi. I think a parents course should be developed which teaches sikh parents about what to talk to the choldren about.

It is nor for the man to do this in marriage. However I remember reading a post about people doing naam jap even when they are at it with their partners. I tried it too and it was good. You can do two things at the same time. So yes.. this is what people who do 24 7 jaap.. their avasta is like. Your husband is Still young so enjoy yourselves while you can if you have the energy. As you get older you will not want to engage as much. Bhenji make an account if you want some more open discussion. Parents with older kids who read all that might not be happy with such discussions.

It is adultery that is banned. Sex belongs to marriage. How are you even going to put it in words whatever you did. I doubt it holy people want to hear all that. Moreover it is not a sin. I don't understand why you are so worried. Marriage ia made for exploring thesesort of wwhatever you did. Dust the guilt away and simply don't do it again if you feel that way. Half of the people who advice on this site are unmarried anyway. If you did not let it off and out with your hubby then you might be tempted to do so with another willing partner. So feel free in your marriage and stop making a fool of yourself and your hubby.

My sas had to lock her daughter up in a room so that she could work. The poor girl cried and cried. There were no toys or tv in those days. My sas did not have a mum either. So she was made to work like a donkey before and after marriage too. She is full of so much hate and still deals with us DILS very rudely. She has learnt nothing from the experience that she can be different. She does 2 sukhmani sahib path everyday and all nitnem and rehras and mala too in the middle of the night. However she not once has appreciated anything in life. Only koorh comes out of her mouth. I really hope that I learn something from her behaviour and do not turn out to be like her.

Your mind is a computer. They had a term GIGO in the olden days meaning garbage in garbage out. What you watch, hear, read and see will feed your mind. What you think is what your body will do. If you decide enough is enough then you can stop. Bani is meant to tune the mind to the almighty. If you manage to tune yourself enough, then you will want to use your hands just for seva. As Jesus said if your right hand makes you sin cut it off and throw it away. However you can decide to talk to your hands and tell them to stop. Alternatively you could go and use your hands for seva at the gurdwara. Would you want to pollute your hands now? Being idle is another thing which promotes bad habits. Have a healthy sport you can engage in. Focus your mind on other things and go for a walk instead of staying alone. Access the deeper issues causing the problem. Do not just read this and forget it the next moment. Its much like one of the bhagat jis telling his tongue - this is a gurbani tukh - re jeeba karu sat khand jaam na uchras sri Gobind. He is telling his tongue that he is going to cut it into pieces if it does not say the word of God. Good luck and do let us know what works so that others can benefit too.

When I was younger there was a book called Baba Naudh Singh written by Bhai Vir Singh ji. It was basically the story of sai das and it was based at the time of Sri Guru Hargobind ji. Naam came to sai das when he was sitting in sangat. He felt that he was saying waheguru from deep down inside him and could not stop. This was identified as naam dhi dhaat. I experienced this as well when younger at the gurdwara during aarti. It was not Waheguru that the giani ji was singing. However I felt I could not stop. In the book sai das was told to practice this simran often so that hia naam dhi dhaat is kept alive. Now I wonder though if during amrit sanchaar such an experience is possible. However there are many sant maharaj jis like the one at Bharu sahib who can give you a mala and tell you to do sava lakh path of a certain type. It could be mool mantra combined with gayatri mantra, a line of a shabad or a shabad - all combined.

My mum had to have a bath once a week, eat bhartha everyday yet she hated it, light a charcoal fire at 12 to get roti ready for 1. The dishes were washed sitting down on a khura and it is so difficult to bend when pregnant. Women used to tell her ' this is how you got treated and yet she never gossiped about her sas. After an year however her sas moved out so she had peace forever until we came here. Then roles got reversed and everything her sas did to her got done to the sas. All lekhe complete and the lady left for her heavenly abode. My bro and sis always warned me against being mean to my MIL. They saw this <banned word filter activated> for tat repayment to my grandma happening and they understood the importance of being supportive to each other and living as a family with good wishes for each other. My own MIL was angry with me once. I went to tell her sorry and she was doing path on the SGGS. She told me dhorja and it became true. If she had blessed me something else we would all never have had to see that stupid dhukh. A lady once told me - my sas and me were hugging each other and crying when we were going to be separated. We used to read asa dhi vaar together on vaja every morning. We were both going to miss that. These days no sas and DIL get along together. How true that sentence of hers was.

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Yes please.i have not seen It. I dont disagree with the above coz demons are souls too. HarnakhaShkh was a demon too who did bhagt to get a boon of being amar.

Its pcos... take care of your diet, exercise and do path. Eat healthy. Think healthy. Leave the rest to maharaj ji. I had pcos too and I got my periods only three times an year. Healthy eating exercise and path and chardhi kala helped greatly. We also visited baba budha jis gurdwara and numerous other such blessed places in India.

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Bani guru guru hai bani... is definitely in the SGGS.