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7 hours ago, jkvlondon said:

Thing is he's acting as if he'll say sorry and the kind hearted sikhs will let him go ... there is something in that to think about . When baddies had an expectation of being chatka-ed or at least beaten to within an inch  they stayed away from sikh women , now they perceive sikhs as physically soft and mentally docile anything's possible . It is that one thing that got to me . He openly admits he has already done this to another underage sikh girl for some time and is just putting his hands together to wheedle out of this . The fact is , he is and will always be a predator of our girls

How do you think we can prevent this from happening further with our girls?

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Drugs are such a big problem in our community, especially alcohol.

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Its important that we don't forget about wildlife.

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25 minutes ago, jkvlondon said:

My Nani ji always said we should consider those who can't speak for themselves first , she always used feed all the animals of the household before sitting down herself ...she was right  . In winter and drought conditions we put food out for wildlife , even if the grey squirrel gets on my last nerve nicking the food for the birds ..

That's such a nice concept. Its something I will remember for my whole life. We forget about animals and creatures and we only focus on ourselves.

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3 minutes ago, jkvlondon said:

I live in UK and DO NOT use pesticides at all that's why the small birds throng to my garden because they don't get poisoned , I have built homes for bees and insects to hibernate

Aww that's so nice.  

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5 minutes ago, jkvlondon said:

given that they start on our girls from a primary school age(7,, 8,9) , it is very hard to blame such kids for the lack of streetsmarts especially when they are essentially protected from the unsavoury side of life : no one at home warns them, no one talks about how they appreciate their daughters/sons, no teaches sikh history, no one talks about gurbani or listens to  kirtan, no one talks about being careful of muslim girls (yes this is an important and new way they approach girls via their female friends) , sex talks are a must, as are what to do if they feel unsafe on the street when walking home from school.

Parents do NOT have the luxury of sharam : chaitropakhyan  is the warning tradition we should have been giving our youth .

I agree with penji, it is also our responsibility. Not just the child's.

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The way that we can tackle this issue is by spreading more parchaar about Sikhi and raising awareness about these sorts of topics. If our girls have more faith in Sikhi then they would have a bit more common sense rather than to walk off with a random stranger. The problem is that in the western world dating is such a normal thing whereas in Sikhi the concept of dating does not exist. These groomers set up accounts on dating websites/social media and our girls are clueless enough to fall right into their trap. We cannot just blame the groomers and the victims but it is also up to us, to educate and spread knowledge amongst youth. We have resources like social media that we can use to our advantage to prevent issues like this from happening in the first place. So answering @mahandulai veerji's question, yes it is the victims fault and the groomers fault and ours since the older generation have not really done a good job of spreading the wisdom of Sikhi. If we did a better job, we could prevent most incidents and if we were more stricter with children and at the very least took them to the gurdwara more often, it could contribute to the betterment of our community. Just my twopence worth.

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2 minutes ago, mahandulai said:

@jkvlondon @puzzled would you agree that, our girls need to smarten up, as someone said, the victims are also partly to blame?

Yes, however it may not always be their fault but sometimes our girls can be a bit silly.

This is a song that I am currently listening to... ☺

I don't know! It changes with my mood.

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I think its good as sangat will be more aware about what is happening nowadays. More awareness needs to be raised about this topic because not a lot of people like talking about it.

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On 9/16/2018 at 2:43 PM, RajKaregaKhalsa1 said:

Guys what I else should I do. I am going to post all my doubts here please answer them

Like how do I believe in God?

Is God real?

-These questions are mainly because I go to a white school were a lot people are atheists and this is affecting me because there is not really any interest with God and they believe that God is a lie.

Is Guru willing to take me back and show me the path?

Is the feeling on Dasam Duaar God?

How do I stop these doubts?

I am just searching for answers because now I feel so bad and feel like there is no point to life without Sikhi and I want to get back into Sikhi so badly and love Guru. I start crying when I think of this because as I said before 2 weeks ago I was feeling so chardi Kala.

 

If anyone can help please do. If anyone want to have a private chat I don't mind that too.

 

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The way you believe in God is within your heart. The more paath and gurbani you do, the closer you become to God. The Guru is always willing to show you the path no matter what. I think you should have some time to understand Guru Ji. The way you can do this is by doing an ardas and then taking a hukamnama. That way you will be able to communicate with Guru Ji and your doubts will be cleared. The feeling on your dasam duaar is your connection with God and you will be able to speak directly to God via this connection. God is without a doubt real and its up to us to experience God and connect with Him. The reason why you cry is because you do love Vaheguru but your mind hasn't processed that yet so you feel confused and doubtful. I hope I cleared your doubts and you can progress on your bright journey towards Vaheguru.

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