Manmitchera, i think hes asking here bcoz anyone can discuss sikhi related issues on a forum, i know the idea sounds crazy but i think it means hes asking for a discussion. As far as i have seen his shaving issue is minor in comparison to people that get the full mcCoy go bald shae all facial hair, drink alcohol, taake a puff (nownagain) and do bhangra at the most inappropriate times yet consider themselves strong sikhs.
do u shake your head? I try not to, but at times when you hear them say things like vand ke chako, kirth karo..there isnt really nyfing to do but shake the head.
do u give htem less respect? Again i try to give them more respect, they shave and yet pick up the courage to go gurdwara, i mean i know this one sikh that is a mona (go on slaughter him u know u wana) but he is the most compasssionate old man i have seen every step is wahguru with this guy. He does so much seva that it would take 10 committes to arrange it if he left.
do u want to talk to them? People like this i would want to talk to yes.
so u NOT want to talk to them If i think this person is a mona and will try to convince me that mona is the way forward, then no ill not waste my time. If i think this person is on their path to sikhi then i will help them...depends alot.
YOu need to ask yourself first, what is it you get out of shaving certain parts of your hair. Does it buy your way into society? Do you think youl get all the attention? Coz i mean your next generation will look at that and say well maybe if i take my beard off then i can use my dads moustache as an excuse, the next generation may think that ok if he can do that then ill get my ear pierced, before you know it the next has got 2 piercings a tatto and has ran off with an underage gorree.
Now you tell me what will you do if that is what happens in your particualr family tree. Please do not say that it is highly unlikely as i have seen first hand this is highly possible.