Marrying Daughters

[Guest Kuldip Sokhi]

A. How to identify and avoid deceptive conduct on the Boy's side before marraige and therefore avoid the girl going through pain and suffering from the Boy and/or the Boy's family. More so where this occurs on an international level whereby by unsuspecting girls are lured into western countries under false pretences and promises and then abused by our own often so called respectable punjabi Sikh families!

B. If for some reason the above (A) has failed and the girl has been married under deception and taken abroad to a western country. Now the usual problems commence with mental and physical abuse perpetrated by the Boy and/or the other family members particularly the mother-in-law. The girl may have little knowledge about law and is on a spouse visa so very very dependent. May not be fluent in English so is unable to communicate issues to the authorities. Perhaps unable to speak to any outsider as being held just held at home to do domestic work. Unable to talk to her parents. Slowly and slowly she may succumb to her state as being normal under first signs of depression. What can the Sikh community or society in general do for these most vunerable members of our community?