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Dhan Gursikhi! Dhan Prem! Dhan Dhan Mata Gurjri Kaur Ji, Aap jee tho Balihaarey Jandey ha // vaar<3 Awip lIey liV lwie dir drvys sy ] aap leeeae larr laae dhar dharavaes sae || Those whom the Lord attaches to the hem of His robe, are the true dervishes at His Door. iqn DMnu jxydI mwau Awey sPlu sy ]2] thin dhha(n)n janaedhee maao aaeae safal sae ||2|| Blessed are the mothers who gave birth to them, and fruitful is their coming into the world. ||2||

I saw coverage on the news of the Nagarkirtan and the cameraman zoomed on Shaheed Bhai Talwinder Singh Babbars Photo and the reporter made a comment bout bhai sahib being linked to the air india bombing,, The Media jsut wants attention, who would watch it if it was showing a beautiful peaceful parade, they just like the stir sum conttroversy nai tha roti neyhee hajam hundee BC reporters are known to be notorious for linking Sikhs to Terrorism from what iv heard and they love bringing it up on nagarkirtans

I went thru the same thing and it was more pressure of society that held me back, Being different is hard, fitting in is easy I prayed to Guru Sahib to give me the confidence to wear his crown, Everytime a amritsanchar happend it would be on a sunday and i would be there cuz i went weekly for asa-di-//, I felt so heavy with demerits becuz i knew i had to take amrit, i felt as if my soul thirsted for it but my manmukh mind wouldnt let me put myself together, Be4 this situation i use to matha tek and ask for amrit di dhaat but i didnt really truly didnt mean it i had so many doubts But slowly with maharajs beautiful prakash bani these doubts where elminated and i was blessed with the true thirst for amrit, I learned to tye a dastar a week be4, i was more worried that i would have a hard time physically as i would find the dastar uncomfortable or sumthing but it turns out it was the most Comfortable thing ever, I felt Whole after i took amrit, i could not picture myself without a dastar, i always pictured myself with one when i was a child maybe becuz my mother adorned one, I had 2 friends who tied dastars and they gave me THE WORST advice when i told them i wanted to taske amrit and ty a dastar,, Here is their horrible Advice: One Girl said she regretted tying a dastar becuz once she started she felt she was now forced to keep tying it and she cannot not tye it now, The second "friend" said that it was very hard mentally socially---> she was putting doubts in my mind that had never risen, i was not worried mentally about wearing a dastar at all at that point, I didnt want to pretend or try being like sumone anymore, i wanted to get in touch with my soul and destiny, So when u have friends like that its just a hint yyou need new friends that uplift and encourage you, not ones that drown you in doubts I was very lucky to have Supporting amritdhari parents that encouraged me to tie a dastar and to take amrit Dhann Bhagat Kabeer ji says that: kbIr myrw muJ mih ikCu nhI jo ikCu hY so qyrw ] kabeer maeraa mujh mehi kishh nehee jo kishh hai so thaeraa || Kabeer, nothing is mine within myself. Whatever there is, is Yours, O Lord. qyrw quJ kau saupqy ikAw lwgY myrw ]203] thaeraa thujh ko soupathae kiaa laagai maeraa ||203|| If I surrender to You what is already Yours, what does it cost me? ||203|| Even when i was away from sikhi i would cry everytime i cut my hair, ever time I plucked a hair from my eyebrows i cried, i was born into an amritdhari family so i was lucky to have been given good morals as to not have relations be4 marriage not to cut my hair and to stay away from drugs, But becuz i was a teenager i wanted to taste this Bik (Poison), i was being pulled by maya and i wanted to be anything but religious,, I tried drugs, tried fashion tried make up lol tried fitting in,, What did i get> Nothing! No peace of Mind whatsoever,, You know where the Peace of Mind is to Only Think What Will Make Guru Sahib HAppy! Not how to make my frends happy, nor how to become popular Its a vicious cycle of pain there is no contentment, i could buy 100 dresses but i will still not be satisfied because i can never be "hot" or beautiful enough for this society, but Maharaj Says to us: ibKY bnu PIkw iqAwig rI sKIey nwmu mhw rsu pIE ] bikhai ban feekaa thiaag ree sakheeeae naam mehaa ras peeou || Renounce the tasteless water of corruption, O my companion, and drink in the supreme nectar of the Naam, the Name of the Lord. After taking amrit i just felt like "Me" me as in not ego but i felt i was living my destiny to become Dhan Guru Gobind Singh jis daughter, As a teenager in my rebel phase I went thru family/social pain which was the dukh that made me start doing paath again and feel that this is the only thing that gives everlasting peace, Just Remember one thing you are Doing this For yourself for your soul to make ur coming into this world blessed, Once we give our Head to Guru Sahib we have no worries, Our Dasmesh Pita Dhan Guru Gobind Singh ji takes care of all our affaires and saves us from the fire of Kaljug which surrounds us, we have no power, we can only win this fight If we surrender to Guru Sahib, Bheyee Jeet Meyree Kirpaa Kaal Keyree!

REHAT pRQm rihq Xih jwn KMfy kI pwhul Cky ] soeI isMG pRDwn Avr n pwhul jo ley ] prathham rehith yehi jaan kha(n)ddae kee paahul shhakae ||asoee si(n)gh pradhhaan avar n paahul jo leae || To drink the Ambrosial Nectar of the Khanda (Amrit) is the primary instruction for the Sikh. He who abandons all other initiations is truly a great Sikh. Taking Amrit is the first step, do ardaas to Guru Sahib, "bal Bakhso" -Give me the inner strength and power to come towards you,<3 Maya this whole world will only pull us away from Guru Sahib, Do sangat of Gursikhs and get willpower from their sangat, Do dandaut bandhan to Guru Sahib: jau qau pRym Kylx kw cwau ] jo tho praem khaelan kaa chaao || If you desire to play this game of love with Me, isru Dir qlI glI myrI Awau ] sir dhhar thalee galee maeree aao || then step onto My Path with your head in hand. iequ mwrig pYru DrIjY ] eith maarag pair dhhareejai || When you place your feet on this Path, isru dIjY kwix n kIjY ]20] sir dheejai kaan n keejai ||20|| give Me your head, and do not pay any attention to public opinion. ||20|| Welcome to Guru Sahibs Marag it is awsome that you Have Bani Kantt and Are Nitnemi, But You will Not be able to Enter The Doors of Sachkhand if You have not Taken Amrit! Peeo Pahul Khandey Dhaarr!! Hoeyy Janam Soheyla!! Bhai Parminder Singh- English Katha on Guru Gobind Singh Ji Maharaj Katha Kirtan: My link Vaah VAAH GOBIND SINGH!!

Article: Words of Power http://www.mrsikhnet.com/index.php/2010/04/09/words-of-power/ Video: the word is sacred: http://www.sikhnet.com/video/word-sacred

Piyare Bhanjeoo Either Go to the Gurdwara or at home infront of a Gutka/pothi sahib do ardaas to Guru Sahib,, Just Pour your heart out to Guru Sahib, Surrender to Guru Sahib, Say I have no power i cant let go please free me and take away my pain and give me naam Reading Bani will soothe ur pain and give u strength, Take whatever happened in this situation as a very Important Lesson that u were to learn,, u should be happy u learned be4, u are my innocent little bhanay,,, that is why we have to go thru such situations so we gain wisdom of how ppl are in this world, These situations open our eyes and its one of those things u have to go thru so that it is engrained in ur mind,, if sumone were to tell us ahead of time dont do this or that, we have a hard time listening becuz we learn from our own mistakes,, Guru Sahib is Sad Bakhshind 4ever forgiving, just as a mother piks up her child that has gotten their clothes all dirty but she still hugs him in her embrace,, in that way we are covered with countless sins form countless life forms but whenever we call to Guru Sahib we are piken up from the deep pit we have digged ourselves into, pRB kIjY ik®pw inDwn hm hir gun gwvhgy ] prabh keejai kirapaa nidhhaan ham har gun gaavehagae || O God, Treasure of Mercy, please bless me, that I may sing the Glorious Praises of the Lord. hau qumrI krau inq Aws pRB moih kb gil lwvihgy ]1] rhwau ] ho thumaree karo nith aas prabh mohi kab gal laavehigae ||1|| rehaao || I always place my hopes in You; O God, when will you take me in Your Embrace? ||1||Pause|| hm bwirk mugD ieAwn ipqw smJwvihgy ] ham baarik mugadhh eiaan pithaa samajhaavehigae || I am a foolish and ignorant child; Father, please teach me! Also Listen to as much bani as u can during the day, at home in the car at the store, and even while u sleep play kirtan/bani at a lower volume You can download tracks from this site http://gursevak.com/greebi.html which are tracks from Gareebi pothi which are a collection of realy humble lines of bani with the meanings, so listen to those or play them in your room so going in and out of your room Bani goes into your ears <3 Advice from ur sistro ahahah mehtab singh u crack me up :lol:

Waheguru Ji ka khalsa Waheguru ji ki fateh!! Sangat Ji Please Post information and Dates regarding Amrit Sanchars which will be happening All over the globe This Vaisakhi!!!! UK AMRIT SANCHAR: “bebe nanaki amrit sanchaar is this sunday (18th april). i think it will be starting around 3pm. contact details of gurdwara are on there site: http://bebenanaki.or...&id=1&Itemid=65” –Inderpreet Singh TORONTO: Amrit Sanchar (AKJ) Location : Old Rexdale Gurdwara Sahib (47 Baywood Road, Toronto, ON) Date: Amrit Sanchaar Saturday, April 17 2010, 10:00am Contact : Old Rexdale Gurdwara - (416) 746-2511 Kakaars will be provided as part of the Seva Please be there by 10:00am Sharp!! http://ontariosikhs.com/index.php/upcoming-events/icalrepeat.detail/2010/04/17/658/-/Y2YzYmNkODdiZjgxOTgxN2NmOTE0ZTY2ZGU1NTM2MjI= KHALSAJII2.bmp

no no i totally agree, i was showing my perspective as "the girl" who wouldnt have any problem with it------>> as being a girl that is amritdhari and born in a western country, As for family they will do the background check but i belive ppl need to get over it not everyone has a perfect family, yes i have heard when u get married in punjabi culture u are marrying the family, so yes i would want to marry into a good-natured family, i personally would not feel baychti in such circumstances, while punjabi ppl just like to talk crap bout eachother so that the attention is on other ppl, while at the same time they dont want ppl to talk bout their family, Like for example i am showing how our parents have more sharm then us, So we had a Sukhmani Sahib program at our home, Someone was needed to do the seva of taking Maharaj the saroop back to the Gurughar My mom told my Dad to do the seva, because she said he should and she has "sharm" as in she feels sharm in doing the seva of bringing maharaj to the gurdwara on her head,, I said i want to do the seva, my mom wasnt very "khush" but i did the seva and i feel No Sharam, I am Guru Gobind Singh Jis daughter, why would i not do my beloveds service? the main thing is it could be a issue for ur potential wifes family, My cousin got married to a Girl and her Dad told my Thai ji infornt of everyone that my Older daughter married a white guy,, the thing is we have to be open, its not good to find out things from others, so in the future have ur father and her father talk bout it,, iQru Gir bYshu hir jn ipAwry ] thhir ghar baisahu har jan piaarae || Remain steady in the home of your own self, O beloved servant of the Lord. siqguir qumry kwj svwry ]1] rhwau ] sathigur thumarae kaaj savaarae ||1|| rehaao || The True Guru shall resolve all your affairs. ||1||Pause|| Maharaj will take care of everything, take Gurbani as ur support

duKu dwrU suKu rogu BieAw jw suKu qwim n hoeI ] dhukh dhaaroo sukh rog bhaeiaa jaa sukh thaam n hoee || Suffering is the medicine, and pleasure the disease, because where there is pleasure, there is no desire for God. Guru Sahib is our Doctor, if we take Naam (the medicine) only then will our pains depart<3 myrw bYdu gurU goivMdw ] maeraa baidh guroo govi(n)dhaa || My physician is the Guru, the Lord of the Universe. hir hir nwmu AauKDu muiK dyvY kwtY jm kI PMDw ]1] rhwau ] har har naam aoukhadhh mukh dhaevai kaattai jam kee fa(n)dhhaa ||1|| rehaao || He places the medicine of the Naam into my mouth, and cuts away the noose of Death. ||1||Pause||

Another Girls Perspective, If i was getting married i would focus on how my personality and beliefs match with the perspective partner, i really to tell u the honest truth care if ur brother was gay, altho u guys are not talking rite now i would in that situation still be open to talking to and having a relationship with a gay brother-in-law,, thats just me, sum girls could realli care but i dont see it as a huge issue, To tell u the truth it is more baychti for the family if a daughter runs away, a daughter running away is so shameful ppl are to ashamed to face others, but thats our parents generation, our generation we live in kaljug everyone has kaljugs fire in their homes PrIdw mY jwinAw duKu muJ kU duKu sbwieAY jig ] fareedhaa mai jaaniaa dhukh mujh koo dhukh sabaaeiai jag || Fareed, I thought that I was in trouble; the whole world is in trouble! aUcy ciV kY dyiKAw qW Gir Gir eyhw Aig ]81] oochae charr kai dhaekhiaa thaa(n) ghar ghar eaehaa ag ||81|| When I climbed the hill and looked around, I saw this fire in each and every home. ||81|| The thing with desis is that they do a background check be4 marrying their daughter off, but u having a gay brother has nothing to do with u, if i had a sister that was a <banned word filter activated>, that to me has no shadow on me or my future, we go our separate ways, so why would my husband care? if i have no relation with her? best of luck, Bhaji dont worry their are alot of open-minded girls out there, If you cant see God in All you Cant see God at All I also reccomend that u dont hate ur brother, only love will bring him back, PrIdw bury dw Blw kir gusw min n hFwie ] fareedhaa burae dhaa bhalaa kar gusaa man n hadtaae || Fareed, answer evil with goodness; do not fill your mind with anger. dyhI rogu n lgeI plY sBu ikCu pwie ]78] dhaehee rog n lagee palai sabh kishh paae ||78|| Your body shall not suffer from any disease, and you shall obtain everything. ||78|| For the time being read sukhmani sahib and Anand sahib to soothe ur pain, Only Bani can give us peace of Mind, the rest of the World is just pain, Our family is not gonna go with us when we die, so try to break off ur attachment from the inside, so u can attach ur self to maharajs beautiful charan sharan<3

<3WAHEGURU!!! VAH ACHARAJ GURU!! TUHI NIRANKARRR!!!!!!!<3

Your parents are just Watching your back, taking it negatively is not gonna give u any peace of mind, Ur prolly a teenager 14-17 and at this time we love hanging out with our frends boy/girls and another thing we choose our frends over our parents as in we like being rebellious and share the same mindset with our peers and punjabi parents are overprotective aswell. This is what bani says bout youth: dUjY phrY rYix kY vxjwirAw imqRw Bir jobin mY miq ] dhoojai peharai rain kai vanajaariaa mithraa bhar joban mai math || In the second watch of the night, O my merchant friend, you are intoxicated with the wine of youth and beauty. Aihinis kwim ivAwipAw vxjwirAw imqRw AMDuly nwmu n iciq ] ahinis kaam viaapiaa vanajaariaa mithraa a(n)dhhulae naam n chith || Day and night, you are engrossed in sexual desire, O my merchant friend, and your consciousness is blind to the Naam. rwm nwmu Gt AMqir nwhI hoir jwxY rs ks mITy ] raam naam ghatt a(n)thar naahee hor jaanai ras kas meet(h)ae || The Lord's Name is not within your heart, but all sorts of other tastes seem sweet to you. igAwnu iDAwnu gux sMjmu nwhI jnim mrhugy JUTy ] giaan dhhiaan gun sa(n)jam naahee janam marahugae jhoot(h)ae || You have no wisdom at all, no meditation, no virtue or self-discipline; in falsehood, you are caught in the cycle of birth and death. qIrQ vrq suic sMjmu nwhI krmu Drmu nhI pUjw ] theerathh varath such sa(n)jam naahee karam dhharam nehee poojaa || Pilgrimages, fasts, purification and self-discipline are of no use, nor are rituals, religious ceremonies or empty worship. nwnk Bwie Bgiq insqwrw duibDw ivAwpY dUjw ]2] naanak bhaae bhagath nisathaaraa dhubidhhaa viaapai dhoojaa ||2|| O Nanak, emancipation comes only by loving devotional worship; through duality, people are engrossed in duality. ||2|| http://sikhitothemax.com/page.asp?ShabadID=185 Anythign that takes us away form God is Maya, So talking to much, being engrossed in fashion/beauty, flirting/sexual relations,, So Sumtimes We Want to with a pure heart DO SEVA but if we are with the opposite sex it does NOT mater how old u are, you dont have to be at a Club to be Attacked by KAAM, it is allways with us that means even at the gurudwara,, So we could be doing seva but at the same time making eye contact with the opposite sex and trying to make advancements and not even kno what we are doing, its natural becuase we are pulled toward the other sex, BUT we must refrian from all this flirting dating garbage becuz we cannot recieve NAAM, we cannot meditate on God becuz are minds are crazy 4 kaam, so what to do, close ur eyes and give them to Guru Sahib, These are your eyes, save me from looking at sumone thru kaam, may i only look at my brothers as brothers and treat them like that, vice versa for singhs, We can say Veerji but try to mean it, You know in ur heart what is true, all the answers are inside so if you are doing seva with love, as u wash sangats dirty dishes at the Gurdwara internally our dirty mind starts to get clean==Sant Gurbachan Singh ji Khalsa So i can sound negative but the pain point is we live in KALJug the age of Darkness and no spiritual wisdom, its easier to lie in this age then tell the truth, Do seva, to get closer to Guru Sahib, We dont Go to the Gurdwara to hang out with our frends, Yes we go to do sangat which means to sing Guru Sahibs Praises together and listen to stories of our beloved,, Just to have fun with friends is sumthing u leave for school camps

Any Person not only sikh, that Respects the Sikh religion will be hurt when they read the headline of that article, in the comments section sumone named kelley wrote: "This article is so poorly written, from the title to what it instigates. Claiming such an aspect of the holy scriptures without an valid arguments, is disrespectful of the Sikh community and of the faith. If you can't understand the true purpose of the work, don't label it with such wild accusations. I really wonder what the editors of The Star look at when their writers submit articles, do they look at to see whether their writers have fully looked at the material at hand. Have they found any specific passages supporting such an article title?" It is hurtful that our Dasmesh Pitha's Writings are desrespectfully spoken about, but we should not let this upset us becuase MahaRaj is nirLayp, Nirlayp means that Guru sahib is Unattached, is The Purest of the Pure, NO dirt or mayl in anyform can be attached to maharaj, Dasmesh Pita is the supreme jot we cant even express their greatness since it is unending,, qumrI mihmw brin n swkau qUM Twkur aUc Bgvwnw ]1] thumaree mehimaa baran n saako thoo(n) t(h)aakur ooch bhagavaanaa ||1|| I cannot express Your Glorious Praises. You are my Lord and Master, lofty and benevolent. ||1|| Maharaj's Hukam Is so beautiful,, There was not much DASAM Parchar which i say from my view, but after Darshan lal started doing nindya and making up stuff, Sikhs Strenghthened Parchar of Dasam Bani, I love all the english translations that speak of Sri Dasam Granth, Before i didnt kno anything realli just that Jaap Sahib was From Sri Dasam Granth, You are very Blessed PJS to recieve this beautiful Seva, Nanak Naam chardi kala tere bhane SArbat Da bhala!

the singhs that help out doing amrit sanchar wearing bana are called pehridar, their job is kind of like security guard and help lead the sangat, so they stand at the door of where the amrit sanchar is happening, they tell the sangat where to sit, when to come inside the darbar,, So they have duties to contol the sangat, The Singh sahib that does chaur di seva is the GRanthi, the granthi is to have a gutka sahib and follow along nitnem on the gutka ssahib while the Punj Piyare recite the bani and make amrit

http://sikhitothemax.com/search.asp go to this link , where it says english type in "Hide" The search engine will then come up with all the shabads that have the word hide in their meanings for example: iqsu isau lUk jo sd hI sMgI ] this sio look jo sadh hee sa(n)gee || He tries to hide from the One who is always with him. BRm ky mUsy qUM rwKq prdw pwCY jIA kI mwnI ]1] rhwau ] bhram kae moosae thoo(n) raakhath paradhaa paashhai jeea kee maanee ||1|| rehaao || Deceived by doubt, you may hide your actions, but in the end, you shall have to confess the secrets of your mind. ||1||Pause|| search can also search different keywords in the meanigs

Sikhs are suppose to practise "Sexual abstinence" which is the practice of refraining from all aspects of sexual activity. Common reasons for practicing sexual abstinence include: * religious or philosophical reasons * material reasons (to prevent conception - undesired pregnancy - or sexually transmitted disease transmission); *Be a virgin till marriage Maya is so strong, theres fire all around us, Who Are we suppose to look down upon?! We ourselves have not overcome Kaam, only with Maharaj di kirpa we are safe for the time being, who knows when we'll fall?? I hear stories which i dont ENJOY at all of TOP KIRTANIS that have had multiple Relations and TOP GATKA players having girlfriends when will it end?! Maharaj bless us with ur glance of grace ur Amrit Dristee so that we can become true khalsey and not pakhandis who have nothing inside but mayl and dirt its easy to look religious Not be religous

he should do abyhaas of these 2 lines of gurbani from sukhmani sahib: jo jwnY mY jobnvMqu ] jo jaanai mai jobanava(n)th || One who deems himself to have the beauty of youth, so hovq ibstw kw jMqu ] so hovath bisattaa kaa ja(n)th || shall become a maggot in manure. He needs to do abhyas of these lines so the comments and gilrs lookingat him doesnt get to him or increase his ego that Im HOt Also Read Khalsa Mero roop hai khaas and arths form gareebi pothi (gursevak.com) so that he wil feel proud of being Guru Gobind Signh jis son and not dare to get into any relations be4 marriage

i hoping u havent gone as far as sex since ur religous, Soybean and onions increase ur sex drive, U are excerising so u need protein shakes i guess but dhaal also has a lot of protien so stop eating thorka, dont watch porn, stop flirting with girls, Pray to Maharaj that u feel his prescence evrywhere and that Maharaj is sada ang sang which means u dare not to flirt with girls and play with ur sexual emotions, if we believd God to be Inside us we would be ashamed at every kaami thoguht we have, excercise harder so that energy calms down, u need meditation theres alot of energy in our lower chakra but we need meditation to bring it up and turn it into enlightment Kaam ras to Amrit Ras Maya is gonna make u fall into this deep pit of Kaam kaam and more kaam, and girls dont help becuz they will seduce u and the clothing they wear attracts males so Only Bani can Control ur Kaam so do ur nitnem also try this: its a yogo meditation sat kriya http://www.mrsikhnet.com/index.php/2007/03/12/sat-kriya-dealing-with-sexual-energy/ also watch this http://www.mrsikhnet.com/index.php/2007/10/05/transforming-sexual-feelings-to-creativity/

I kno exactly where u are coming from, thats exactly how i thoguht-->> the thing is we think sex is bad,, yes being in sexual relations be4 marriage i not the way to go....so we get confused, the thing is my parents are amritdhari and im pretty sure that they didnt only have sex twice to have their 2 kids, the consummate thing i dont think it should be done the day u get married,, whenevr it just happens type of thing,, if ur planning that means ur stuck in KAAM,, the thing is that sex is natural and our body asks 4 it, men have hard time controlling thier urges while women have it easier maybe well actually women are the ones that seduce men and are much more clever in their calitr so i cant realy say their much less , Only Bani can help control these thoughts, But in Katha i heard that she is a Suhaagan who sees no one but her husband as a man(MARd) everyone else is family brother father son,, same for men,, so u are alowed to have sexual relations with ur wife, but ur not suppose to be engrossed in it, for example in a Video by Guruka Singh he said there are so many things ppl can orbit around in their marriage,, u can orbit around sex, your children money blah blah But when a couple does their lava around maharaj it represents that the centre of our life is maharaj, which means seva sangat all these things are of high importance, Its wierd we dont talk bout these things publicly especially in religous settings, like whos gonna talk bout birth control lol Sex is something religous ppl dont usually talk about, but Yogi Bhajan was more open with his preaching so here are two articles hes wrote about this subject,, http://www.mrsikhnet.com/index.php/2009/06/02/righteous-sex/ http://www.mrsikhnet.com/index.php/2009/06/10/mens-notes-relating-to-sex/

It basically does not matter, everyone has different styles of tying dastar sum bibya wear a chunni sum dont,, But u can judge a bibi and say the one with the chunnis more humble,, the one that has gareebi in her heart has Gurus bani inside her is the "Apas ko jo janai neecha so-oo ganeeay sabh tey oocha||" its basicaly bout taste, i feel to girly if i wear a chunni on my dastar, i like chunni having the in my neck,, Chunni is important as u wear it around ur neck or even wear it like a shaal covering ur body, When sumone sees a bibi with a dastar they look at her dastar and they are uplifted, but if bibya wear low neck and showy clothes then men have a problem controlling their eyes and they fall too lower levels of their chakras When sumone looks a bibi they should look at her thinking this is Guru Gobind Singh jis daughter, this is my sister If u cant look at her that way, dont bother looking its just adding mayl onto ur eyes, because u are looking thru ur vikaars--vikaar dristi--looking at the opposite sex with kaami thoughts, that just kills ur soul, so we have to fall at maharajs feet and ask for forgiveness becuase we are kaljugs kaami jeevs and we have no self discpline, sab avgun mai gun neyhee koe the main thing is cover ur head, doesnt matter what khalsa colour u tie or what style u tie, it should last the whole day end of story

Sukhmani sahib talks bout Sant nindaks, Whoever wrote that is definately going to hell

Please do not call wearing a dastar Fashion, Guru Gobind singh ji have his beautiful saroop to his children so its a beautiful thing, The other thing is that sikhi is increasing in the west and in india we kno how it is, i went to india and i can count on my fingers how many dastar valeeya bibya i saw, and in calgary, bc, toronto area theres alot and its awsome, Tying a dastar for bibya is not only under 1 jathebandi, In western countries bibiya of any jathebandi(taksal, akj, 3Ho,budda dal etc.) have started tying dastars, i kno girls who ty dastars and their moms dont, When we have sangat of bibya that tie dastar it makes it easier for sumone else to start tying one becuz u have sangat, We have alot of kids camps all over in Canada which includes classes in dastar tying and girls start tying a dastar to gurdwara the eventually to school Why i Believe it is a Good thing that Dastar tying is increasing is for the following reasons: If i tie a dastar i have that reminder that i AM Guru Gobind Singh Jis daughter! I should refrain from doing manmat and ppl naturally will respect u if u whole heartedly believe that Guru Gobind Singh ji Is ur Dasmesh Pita who is always with u ang sang If i didnt tye a dastar i would be less strict in my rehat personally, Some Bibya that dont tye a dastar but are amritdharee will go all out for parties with make-up and fashion But i feel Bibya with dastar look so beautiful when they wear modest clothes and no make-up and jewellery and are exactly the way God made em, Also It is Still very uncommon for the common public to see bibya with dastars, so they ask ?s which mean parchar of sikhi is happening, I rmeebr my frend telling me a sikh philosopher said bibya back in the day use to wear dastars but when mughal attacks and other attacks on the sikh religion were happening bibya stopped tying dastars to blend in with the crowd for their own safety, after that with a mix of punjabi culture it kinda just faded and it was very uncommon for bibya to wear dastars, i was told that at one point at akal takhat sahib that bibya we suppose to tie dastars if they wanted to take amrit, i think we should encourage bibiya to tie dastars! lets not get into the negatives of I SAW A BIBI THAT TIES A DASTAR AND SHE DOES THIS, THAT BLAH BLAH, lets be positive and pray for the chardi kala of the panth AKAAL HI AKAAAAAAAAL

This is the best source for the question u are asking: Read section 2: JANAM SANSKAR- in the Punj sanskar pothi and it has everything plus more listed below: Section 2: details the conduct for the birth of a child. It covers from the initial ardaas for a child and covers up to raising the child (womb ardaas, health care, Amrit, nameing the child, method of raising the child etc). It is supported by examples from GuruSahib’s time and complemented with the lives of many Gurmukhs. http://gursevak.com/punjsanskar.html theres also a list of recordings of the pothi like an audiobook, read-along pothi,janam sanskar so u can listen to janam sanskar too, janam sanskar starts from track 15 http://www.gurmatveechar.com/bhagatji/mp3/Panj%20Sanskaar/15%20Pothi%20Ang%28115-121%29%20-%20JANAM%20SANSKAR%20BEGINS.mp3

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Please go into more detail bout what u are trying to ask its hard to understand becuz of the slang, You should treat everyone if they are a gursikh non-amritdharee white black blue whatever they are treat them repect as they are a creation of God! sBY Gt rwmu bolY rwmw bolY ] sabhai ghatt raam bolai raamaa bolai || Within all hearts, the Lord speaks, the Lord speaks. rwm ibnw ko bolY ry ]1] rhwau ] raam binaa ko bolai rae ||1|| rehaao || Who else speaks, other than the Lord? ||1||Pause|| Naturally we are more drawn to sum ppl and we are best frends when we meet, They are sum ppl who no matter how much u try u cant be the best of frends becuz there is a personality clash so respect everyone friend, non-friend, companion Say fateh to evryone even if they got beef with ur best frend or sumthing or u kno sumthing bout them u odnt like look past what u hear bout ppl and judge ppl 4 ur self dont trust what ppl say, Act the same with everyone NOt Acting just loving everyone because God made them bRhm igAwnI kY imqR sqRü smwin ] breham giaanee kai mithr sathra samaan || To the God-conscious being, friend and foe are the same. look at the examply of a pooran SANT BRaham Giani THEY love everyone treat friend and foe alike,, even though they see all the bad and good attributes in you they still love u, such is the characteristics of God and Mothers who love their children no matter what they do, So be friendly with everyone and just keep distance from ppl u dont help u in ur sikhi,, I use to have a friend and she was amritdharee but whenever i would spend time with her or talk to her i would feel soooo drained from hearing her negatvitiy and her thoguhts,,,, i totaly stopped tlaking to her which i feel bad 4 becuz she liked having me as her friend,, but i didnt have the capacity to deal with so much bull, At the end of the day we have to think bout ourselves too its not in a selfish way we ARE thinknig bout our Soul so if sumone uplifts u they are Good sangat and dont feel bad bout staying away from ppl that dont uplift u be nice, qau dyvwnw jwxIAY jw swihb Dry ipAwru ] tho dhaevaanaa jaaneeai jaa saahib dhharae piaar || He alone is known to be insane, when he falls in love with his Lord and Master. mMdw jwxY Awp kau Avru Blw sMswru ]4]7] ma(n)dhaa jaanai aap ko avar bhalaa sa(n)saar ||4||7|| He sees himself as bad, and all the rest of the world as good. ||4||7|| At the end of the day without bani are EGO gets the best of us and we judge others and dont look at oursleves fareedhaa jae thoo akal latheef kaalae likh n laekh || Fareed, if you have a keen understanding, then do not write black marks against anyone else. aapanarrae gireevaan mehi sir na(n)aeevaa(n) kar dhaekh ||6|| Look underneath your own collar instead. ||6|| http://sikhitothemax.com/page.asp?ShabadID=5216