SHOGUN ASSASON

This is probably going to come across as quite harsh, but IMO I think some people need to grow up and face facts and stop looking at Muslim men as predators searching for Sikh girls to corrupt. Allot of girls these days want to go out with Muslim guys and even go as far as to seek out these relationships themselves. It makes us look pretty silly as a community blaming them for predatory behaviour when the problem lies at our own doorstep. At the end of the day why do girls go out with black, white, hindu men? Engaging in a relationship even with a sikh is wrong, but people do it because kaam is so powerful, it makes people lose all sense even the most devout, so someone who has no God given love for Sikhi won' t for a second feel engaging in a relationship with a non-sikh is wrong and will seek it out. So the problem is not muslims, it's us. I feel sorry for the family and girl when something like this is true, but also for Singh's and Singhnis doing seva trying to stop these things, because most of the time its not at all what it seems.

Yes, all the time But you can't change the world, you can only change yourself. And that's what I think is best to focus on

This is just my opinion, if you don't have very close family in India that will look out for your best interests I would not get married there.

Why does Guruji refer to the Khalsa as the hooded cobra? I've never heard this before

She lied to you because she wanted to marry you. She's telling you the truth because she wants to keep you. I think you should focus on that rather than what happened in her past. I can't tell you whether or not you should forgive her, straight away, I couldn't. But...if you move on from this you can have a successful marriage and in the end you will forgive her.

You sound like me when I was 16, im 26 now and I have made same seriously bad mistakes in this last ten years, its easy to follow your mind and be envious of other people and think when you have to you will change but its not. Its a spiral and it only goes downwards, I would seriously suggest you dont look at other ppl and think you want to be like them. But be grateful that you are different. when i get time i will respond in more detail.

Can you send me a link please I would like to read them I would favour Sikhs to focus their attention on Sikh Nationalism within India rather than Independence from India [for the time being]

We should focus on Bani to reduce the 'desire' for marriage. These days we should be more thankful Guru has spared us with the horror stories you here, but the desire remains nonetheless. I have the same feeling within where the desire to get married exists which defies all logic, because I have to ask myself what need is there for it? Your free from pain. hopes, disappointment etc. But even if we do get a good marriage it is just another stage in this cycle of hope and desire, we get it but are we truly satisfied? No, for me anyway the next thing to desire would be a son. We just make more bonds of attachment in this world when we should be focussing on ridding ourselves of these desires otherwise round, and round we go. But, again its totally out of our hands, we can desire a marriage to a good spouse, but if its not in your destiny then what is there to do? And someone who has no desire to get married if it is in his or her destiny then there is nothing they can do to stop it. But a Singh once said to me when I asked him that was marriage not in itself a sinful act because it takes us away from God, he said for some people it brings them closer to god . In reality I don't think anyone will know what will happen and how they will act until it happens. Sorry for the rant Rabh Rakha

Sankat Mochan, also known as Sharda Pooran granth, is available from the links below my post. It's either on the khojee or PJS scribd account. These are methods given by Guru Gobind Singh ji to the panth, they were written by Shaheed Bhai Mani Singh ji. Mukt Marag is a simlilar granth but deeper, coming from Guru ji. I developed faith in these kinds of specific viddhis after they cured my insomnia when nothing else would. ANy bani will work, but these methods are more targetted and precise, making it easier then just taking a general approach. I should have said I can't read Panjabi/Gurmukhi is their an Eng Translation

Where can I read more about Sankat Mochan?

Is there any point in having ambition then...? Or working hard towards any goals

I Understand what you are saying but surely we are suppose to ask Guruji to help us solve our issues/problems help fulfill our hopes. A Singh gave me this shabad a few Years ago and said to start going to the gurudwara to see maharaj to ask him to help get things In life going. But what you said kinda conflicts with that. Sorry for all the bad grammar or if i have offended you. O Lord of the world, this is Your lamp-lit worship service. You are the Arranger of the affairs of those humble beings who perform Your devotional worship service. ||1||Pause|| Lentils, flour and ghee - these things, I beg of You. My mind shall ever be pleased. Shoes, fine clothes, and grain of seven kinds - I beg of You. ||1|| A milk cow, and a water buffalo, I beg of You, and a fine Turkestani horse. A good wife to care for my home - Your humble servant Dhanna begs for these things, Lord. ||2||4||

I need some advice from the sangat I have fallen into a phase where Guruji fulfils something I have been asking for that takes me forward with my plans /goals, but then almost instantly something bad follows that brings me down, not necessarily in the things im trying to progress in but just other things around me going on. Quite confused about this all.