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He is not doing right by lieing about his family. Sooner or later will get found out, and the girls will realise it. Yes do Sukhmani Sahibji with faith, but u be strong within urself for ur child. Don't let him take advantage of u, if u are stronger inside then he will notice it. Spend more time with him, be interested in wat he likes, it's a two way relationship. Try to get help from professionals, Sikh Helpline. http://www.sikhhelpline.com

You don't need a girlfriend to be happy. Maybe go to the gurdwara, as u are young this is ur chance to make use of the classes they hold for youth. Gatka, kirtan, etc. as later on u will get busy with family life if u get married.

It's called respect, we say Sri Guru Granth Sahib ji are living Guru, so y can't we show same respect. Would you sit with ur feet towards one of the Gurus if they were in human form in front of u? Unless one has problems where they cannot sit in certain ways, then y purposely want to point ur feet in that direction? Would u put ur feet in front of somebody's face when they came to ur house?or if somebody did that when u visit somebody? Guess u wouldn't would u. Guruji were showing the works God is everywhere, not in one place, not showing how to disrespect others, When we bow in front of Maharaj ji we do with respect, so y should we point feet just because they did don't make us same as them. Why don't people get it? Think of it like this if somebody shoves their feet in ur face would u like it? Kids and people with feet problems can't be controlled as much as, but it shouldn't be done purposely with wrong intentions.

Does king of kings live in your local gurdwaras and you think you can please him with these gifts and offerings? Who needs to understand simran ji? Problem is that our community had got too many siyane like yourself who know nothing but when it comes to preaching can talk hours and hours quoting lines and interpreting as they wish.I never think of myself as siane, and don't preach for hours n hours, I only wrote my opinions. And yes Sri Guru Granth Sahib ji are King of Kings that live in the Gurdwaras. Who else do u matha tek to. . The problem is u don't understand the difference between donating for respect and donating for expecting something in return. If somebody wants to put something in Golak so what? Problem is u not accepting people don't share same views as u, yeah right my 2p is a big gift lol. There are gurdwaras in India that don't have golaks. I'm all for not making big donations where it's not needed. U don't even understand what I wrote and are talking about donations from totally different aspect as me. 2p 10p 50p is what I'm talking about, and now u gonna say I'm kanjoos. U just want to pick out points to discuss this topic which I have ended from my side. Ur the one that needs to understand, not me I know where my money is going, coz I haven't got much to give.i think it should be given to the needy, like if gurdwara knows somebody in the community is poor or needs it, they should donate to them. And the help the frail. Like boxes be set up. This new tera panth vase has some great ideas,

Think war u like ur intelligent enough to know, instead of stupid remarks. What's ur problem, u got nothin better to do, than ask stupid questions?

Those that understand know what I mean, goodbye ji. Oh just something been brought up by elders, if one can make an offering then y not? Like when we go to somebody's house so we take gifts or sweets, same kind of thing. We go to visit the King of Kings, Maharaj ji so donate wat we wish. Nobody forces as own personal choice. But all is theirs anyways, that's my thinking.

You can do that, gud idea. Then at least u won't have any doubts of where it's going. When we put money in the golak we should not think what's the point as it maybe misused. We are putting it with respect of offering in front of Maharaj ji so we don't go empty handed. Obviously God doesn't expect nothing from us, so even a little amount is ok, don't have to be loads, as long as we give from our heart.Giving to charity is great if u can do urself. End of day everything is God given, so it should be used wisely. The gurdwara also having running costs, and have to also rely on sangat donations, how else will they run. If u feel it's being misused, the choice is urs as to where to give it, it's all seva. Once it goes from ur side it's no longer for u to worry about as it's gone from ur decision making process. So decide beforehand, so u don't have doubts after. Sorry don't know the history, if somebody could educate me too. Please forgive if anything wrong I said Sangatji, just my thinking.

Agree with that, if I was to choose between giving to a dj that plays songs of sharab and a kirtani that sings Gods praises I'd give to the second.What's even point writing rest, edited, nobody reads it. Maaf Karo je kuch galat Keha hove.

Don't know the story and don't want to know. But think about it, nothing is free, obviously there are expenses to think about, (petrol, time, accomodation, etc etc and organising it all) he has come all that way, so it's common sense to give him something, he also has family to take care of and house to maintain, and it's not like he does other work. He probably doesn't ask for anything or set any fee, but the organisers give him what they think is right so he accepts it. When we have kirtan at home, we asked raagis how much they charge, and they said it's up to us whatever we want to give. I suggest u ask the person who u heard this from what the story is, as it's only trying to belittle Bhai Harjinder Singh further, and extending the issue.

ok maybe missing the point somewhere,you said you not fooled around, but had two serious relationships. You also had some connection with girls in the past. Is it that you didn't have an intimate relationship and she did? Its up to, she was honest with so maybe she wants to put her past behind her. Also make sure she does not have a bf, as some girls from India, not all tend to bring over their bfs after. Also if you have had an intimate relationship, then dont dwell on her past when you have done same thing. Dont make any hasty decisions, think it through properly.

Lovely that was so nice to read, thankuji

Omg that's a lot of copy pasting, I would of got fed up doing it.

If you are Sikh then accept the child. There is no difference between girl and boy. Doesn't matter if not boy this time, as long as child is healthy. God has not refused your ardas, its what you are to have. Please dont differ between boys and girls, you are one too. Accept the girl. Why wouldn't you want a girl.

Yes u do have a point paji, don't know these people personally so I can't judge them apart from myself. Don't u worry about it.

Oh ok paji didn't know th history behind it. Just thought that's wat they do. Thanku for telling me.

Well good for you for being the insider, but dont change nothing, if they dont want to do it they won't. I have plenty of relatives who could have helped me out when i needed the help. But does anybody care? No unless its their own family. So the ones with luxury lives mean nothing to me as i have been on the receiving end of their greed and selfishness. I was even given old clothes at my wedding by so called wealthy relatives, and its not as if they couldnt afford it. Its called selfishness n greed. End of day its up to them to do wat they want, unless you hint it out to them if you so concerned about their money. Which Mr Dhaliwal u on about? I am talkin about the uk one, who thinks we should cut down all this wedding palava, which i agree with.

No comment on the video as dont know much about politics and the people mentioned, but i guess its normal to do sift at somebodys function. Part of the etiquette i guess. But talking about raagis, they do sing good and praise God more than i do, but did notice when a local raagi sings not many listen but when the ones from abroad come people go like they superstars. Some local can sing just as good. So i guess its all about publicity and fame. I wonder if same happens when ones from here go abroad.

how do you know they dont give to charity? One of them was on secret millionaire i remember, and he seemed to give charity then. Some people like to keep their donations gupt,not that i know any of them, maybe that's what they do. What we dont see we can't comment on. The amount of money they have probably doesn't mean that much to them when they spend it as they used to having a lot, but to the average person it would help a lot. I actually prefer Mr Dhaliwals idea of not spending loads at weddings, and use that elsewhere like charity. People do spend ridiculous amounts and others that can't afford want to copy. But who am i to say just viewing opinions, end of day it's their choice.

Thankuji for ur reply, I hope it has helped u.

Maybe u could u advise me too of how the sant told u for the dreams to stop, as I get the same thing happening to me and it's been years they passed away.

Yes what the Sant is saying is to accept it, as hukam of God, and not think why why did it happen. Time heals the pain and it's different for different people on how long it takes to accept it.

It's normal to miss her she was your mother, so the connection is stronger. Like username taken has said try to do paat or simran, and ask God to make u stronger from inside, and cherish the good times with her. One cannot come out of this situation forever, as it's normal to have emotions, but to not dwell on them so they affect u. U have to carry on with life, it's hard but try to divert ur mind somewhere if get too emotional. It's not wrong to have memories, that love doesn't die. Instead ask for Gods help. http://youtu.be/dX_BE5pjpak

Sikh and punjabi, do u even understand bulle shahs poetry or even know who he was? And y are u dividing others from punjabi culture, do u even know wat punjabi culture is? Agree with jeevancymro, and chatanga, why even ask to choose. One can be what they want without force. I quite like lakhwinder wadalis song, especially th latest song, not as it has man and woman in the video, but the depth it has been sung in, can be interpreted as singing to God. Everybody has their own way of singing Gods praises, I cannot choose one or the other, that isolating yourself from the world. If u don't like something don't listen to it or practise it. Bulle Shah gal tha mukdi, je main nu dil tho gwaiyeh

Oh sorry about that, misunderstood it.

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