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Oh my God, is that what he was referring to? Main v sochdi c ki bolda toilet da pani kari janda c. So wrong to say that. They could have silenced it like they do other things. And then somebody could o.said call drop hogi lagda,.

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Can u all stop arguing now plz? Confuse kari jande sare paseo, palle ki Pena. To be honest non of my business, but u know what, people reading this are probably confused too. Makes no difference, to people like me, don't even understand the terminology u all use, just small request, please can u keep replies simple and understandable too for likes of us. Thankuji, edited.

Sorry it's not a link, just a way to contact him.

Don't cry, be strong, do paat, and try to find help within the community as what to do. Is ur husband ok with u?

Sent u a message paji, check it.

Don't usually listen to akj smagams, but the one on now is nice. The Ragi singing is good. Sorry the title is Akj not aka, spelling mistake.

How do I change my status please? I tried but can't figure it out . And show adverts option is No, but still showing adverts.

Are these things scared of water? If so, why? And of a God's name? Would paat be too much to handle for them?

Thanku ji

Yes you are right sikhiseeker, so many say have faith in god, do paat, obviously we do. Obviously dukhi people have a lot of faith in God., and respect for every human being, Sant, mahapursh, etc. But if God dont help, then it daffect mentally. I actually wish i was dead at times. Its too hard cope, waiting and waiting for change. But then think so and so got better maybe should try somewhere else. Maybe somebody can help, some higher spiritual level being, as its not happening with own efforts. Then i think may be cursed, na banda jeenda na marea, what kind of life is that? So how do people get better, and we dont want to hear you could be worse. How manny times we heard that. If one can help then help without hurting, if not we dont need the lectures, to be made to feel more lower than we heard already are.

The reason people go to deras is because they can't get help from anywhere, even gurdwara, they don't understand what to do. People hear somebody has got better from somewhere and maybe they had, as they themselves say they have, so that's enough for a dukhi to be attracted to go. When ones is dukhi they will try, like myself, we are stuck as to our karm, it's hard when the whole world is enjoying themselves, and even in Sikhi there are stories of people getting better, even our Gurus went to others, eg: Guru Arjan Dev ji wife, went to Baba Buddhaji, as one thinks ki pata kithon raam ajave. It's very hard, but these people should not take advantage of vulnerable people. As it breaks ones trust in God. It's so confusing, and easy to say don't go here there, but when one is dukhi only they know how dukhi they are, I also wonder many times why don't gurdware help people like sikhi seeker mentioned. Everybody wants happiness, those that say stay in hukam, they got everything, and don't know what dukh is People go with the belief God is everywhere, and they try try and try again, some like me give up thinking what's the point, when so n so got better but one themself don't, so they get put off going even the right places. People that go build up faith in God, then go, they are in no position to think what place is right or wrong, until nothing happens. So what is one to do? Sit at home n rot away, or try to do something about their karm, but even then get heart broken. It's a vicious circle. God knows how people get better, even when they do right thing, maybe the karm not enough.

How long does it take for the karm to clean and for to get better from disease when doing simran? Problem is I cry when I can't cope thus I get worse, vicious circle.

They don't have to do it. It's their own choice.

Ok

Oh I thought it was only one gurdwara, the same place. Didn't know there were two gurdwaras on same road.

No paji u are not mooraks, u have vast amount of knowledge, which is interesting to others, like me who knows nothing. I never knew bhagti was so deep and different levels of it. As long as one remembers god, better than nothing I guess, I guess I should not worry about wat right or wrong way n try to do as I can. Thankuji for the advise.

Is this wrong.? Eyes closed and imagine waheguru in words n reciting. Not sure where the focus would be, I think above eyes? Between forehead? When eyes r closed, should be lookin down or straight or where so it not be done wrong?

What's happened has happened let it go now. You are having feelings for him, its obvious otherwise you would not feel you did anything wrong. you feel you have been rejected and it makes you look like a fool. Dont fall for his drama . He is the one that sent you the pics, he is getting on with his life dont even care about what you going thru. Read your post yourself from third persons view. Can't you see what's happened. He has been clever when you contacted him, waiting for you to do the moves and kept quiet himself. Then created emotions in you so you go after him. That's what he has done now, why send the pics and ask those questions if just friends.6 My dear you have been played, so blame him as much as yourself, he saw you as naive. Now dont want to know you as maybe his eyes are elsewhere or just simply doesn't like you. Stop all this nonsense of if if if,he was future husband etc. Dont fall for guys thinkin they will marry you just like that. Be strong. Be a sherni, and dont let the sherni go after a mouse. You got side tracked that's all. Learn from it. he would keep going and say im good untill ur good. Meaning if you allow him to play you he will. Waiting for you to say something wrong. So how much respect does that show? No need to say that if you respect someone.

yes you are right, its all about the bhaag. Thanku ji. Waheguru.

Watching Sikh youth show, and nice to hear the stories of people coming closer to becoming amritdhari or praying to God. Sometimes I think to myself, never really had a friend that was similar thinking to me, or understood me. Never met amritdharis before, but from hearing their stories and warm hearted nature I think to myself Kaash - if only it was in my karm too. Then I think if their is a service that our community provides where like minded Sikhs could visit people at home with disabilities or those who are terminally ill that can't go to Gurdwara to benefit from the sangat and of the same age range. But I feel that's so much to ask for and then accept it's not meant to be, otherwise Waheguru would find a way to make me stronger to get to the Gurdwara. As time has gone on been so so long I went to Gurdwara that I have become uses to not going and think God is everywhere and one can pray at home too. So I think I should not get jealous of the elderly, even they make it to go, or feel alone, that I can't go, must be lots others in situations like me and it's karm. It hurts a lot yes, but now I don't feel like going, only because of the Sikh channels which I have on at home. I am soon grateful for the channels and the programmes they give us. It's easy complaining they don't put this on that on, but where there was nothing, look now we have three. And for housebound people like, it's appreciated. Really miss the days when I could go and feel the anand, instead of this stupid my own created Dukh. Make the most of it peoples, u have so much but don't realise it. Be happy and create unity instead of fighting. So there we have it, All ends on KAASH, IF ONLY. . . Waheguru ji. . .

Ok I will be direct dear, u doing gud, but drop the guy bit. No u don't love him, u don't know him apart from internet, u don't know who u talking to. Don't be so vulnerable then regret afterwards. Don't waste ur time on him. Move on to real life, u are young so are getting feelings that mean nothing. It's distraction CONTROL it.. . .dont follow Baba Balantine.

Vadaiyan ji Babaji de janam dihare dian. Before Sikhi many holy people did not wear dastaars but had long hair. Either way they are no different from anybody that wears a dastaar, like our Gurus said everybody is equal. Satkaar iko jehi honi chaidi, dastaar or not.

Waheguru help us thru this weather.

Seems like ur husband is not supporting u morally, even thou he maybe the most wonderful man, no offence to him. But I feel if he supported u morally more ur father in law would even be doing this. The thing with our guys is they always want to please their parents and some will not say anything against them even if they are wrong, they like to keep so called happy marriage which is not same for all families just because their cousins are like that all happy santokh waliya families. You should tell husband it's hurting u, otherwise it's going to affect u more. I think also he needs help too, sounds like he is suffering from some mental problem too and taking out on you, as u maybe the easy target, as u don't say anything back thus becoming a vicious circle of depression arising. Can u not talk to your mother in law? Also makes a difference as to where your husband is from, people won't agree with me but I feel it does. If he from India, then it's going to be harder to tackle as it's suppose to be closer knit and they on different levels in regards to emotions. If he has a daughter make a point that u are like her too. Also I feel ur maternal side is not fully supportive, some families like to stay quiet. Kudi da ghar vas jave, but don't realise it may make it worse. Also it's harder as in our community most are very old fashioned, and do not like to interfere thinking they will make it worse. Have u tried to change yourself? In regards to the way u talk to him? In laws like Hanji Hanji even if it's false, try it may save ur marriage. But don't do it so that it hurts u. Don't talk back to him, otherwise makes u look bad. Be happy with ur kid and let them carry on, as it won't become ok overnight, also do paat, or play on tv in front of him, then he will feel guilty. Make routine of it, play it for calmness in the house.