Gupt1984

Mocking someone who has lost a pet and is asking a genuine question isn't very funny!

I would advise that you talk this issues out with her, I'm sure she has a lot of concerns too. Its never easy for a divorced woman to remarry despite the thoughts that they wish to reel people in for there own means. Yes this may have been the case in some situations but every case is different. Talk to her about your concerns about how you could make a marriage succeed, future kids, family acceptance. I was divorced and re-married but luckily my past was not judged by my Inlaws or my husband and they took me for who I am as a person rather then as a "divorcee". No parents wants there child to marry anyone who has so called baggage but once you have spoken to this girl then speak to your parents about how what and why you want to marry this girl. If you are harbouring feelings for this girl and then married someone else because it was the accepting thing to do...would that be fair? Would that marriage succeed. It may do so, then again it may not. No wife wants to know that there husband secretly yearns after someone else. Hope you come to the right decision, ask mahraaj to guide you to make the right one. Bhul chuk maaf.

I'm a divorcee and I married a first timer and we are perfectly happy and have been for 15 years. According to you that's not compatiable.

There is also a mirror at gurdwara damdama sahib which was donated to guru gobind Singh ji by the Delhi sangat. People sit in front of the mirror while eating nuts I think...and it helps with any facial disfigurement....I would suggest you also visit bhai dhalla ji's house which is only a few minutes by car away from damdama sahib. There you will be shown Guru Gobind Singh ji and Mata Sahib Kaurs possessions which are still kept in bhai dhalla ji's family.

Gurdwara choolan mehl..I think the name is. We went there few years back...we were told that guru ji was addressing the sangat when they got distracted by the elephants swaying as they walked past....and guru ji said one day the Walls of this gurdwara will sway too. Like you said we also went to and sat on the wall there was about 10 people sitting there and my brother in law was standing at the bottom, he didn't come up with us. The giani ji did ardas and then the walls swayed quite significantly...not something you just imagined or felt a slight shake etc. One guy asked the giani ji to do it again and he refused and said it's not a magic trick. No one moved or pushed the wall...make of it what you will...but best to go and experience it yourself.

Personally I found it a bit weird! Not my cup of tea at all. Can't see how youth in the west will be attracted to Sikhi from it. We just need good parcharaks and gianis who can teach kids and relate to them. There should be question and answer sessions at gurdwaras with knowledgeable gursikhs.

It is very sad to hear that your baby was aborted without you even knowing anything about it. How was your wife with you when you started to get into Sikhi? Did you talk to her and try and encourage her on this path with you?

Personally I would take formal action. We all have to answer for our actions. Using unreasonable force which caused injury and being falsely accused of theft is not something I would accept. Who knows who else would suffer if this matter was addressed. It's not you that would cause this person to lose there job, but the consequences of there own actions if you were proven right.

To be honest I stopped reading at a certain point, it was just too much, the gist I got was your a young kid obsessed with a man that wants nothing to do with you. Seems like you are stalking him. Spending 3 days in a airport just so you could be in the same town as him? Spending 3 days constantly on the phone to him? Constantly harassing him to talk to you when he has made it clear he wants nothing to do with you? To the point of flying out to see him Regarding your brother in law again I think the problem is with you, you've gone and listed all the things you have done that you feel makes your brother in law prefer you over your sister, because you travel around are confident, keep your room tidy, and have loads of independence. You have obviously had intimate relations with this 'baby' because you both thought you might be pregnant. My only advice to you is get a grip...have some self respect...stop wasting your time and money chasing this man. Leave your sister to get on with her marriage....how can you solve there problems when you are creating so many in your own life with your actions! I would also say if you want your life to come back on track as mahraaj for forgiveness and jap naam. If you came here to ask how you can get your " baby" back then I think you came to the wrong place.

Yes it is necessary and also possible.

I am female, and I believe at times women can be there own worst enemies at times. They form cliques, petty arguments take place, in some gurdwaras you just need to go into the kitchens to see this. If someone else does the seva they have always been doing they don't like it. These are just a few Minor examples. Like onlyfive said it should be gursikhs, not whether they are men and women. Women can be very manipulative too, sometimes we just have to look in our own families to see that. And regarding the female foeticide in the majority of cases it is the women doing it, either themselves or from pressure from there mother in law, it is women who cry when a girl is born in the majority of cases. Like someone once said, if women ruled the world there would be no wars, just a whole load of countries not talking to each other.

For the original poster, just a thought - are you sure that they are lookin at you with disgust? I am not amritdhari myself yet, but whenever I see a young singh or singhni in a dastaar I do look over at them, maybe more then I would at anyone else. This is because I think they look amazing, and I am in awe of them. Hoping that I can be like them too.

Mods should have googled the meaning of that saying before they allowed that post on. One check on the urban dictionary would explain why its not appropriate advice. Mod Edit: I would take the blame for approving the above post, I was in a hurry and didn't read it properly. I have now removed the post. Dhanwaad.

Harsharan ji your posts show egotism only. People like you say amrit and kakkars are not important because they dont suit your lifestyle. So you try to convince others to justify your weakness. If amrit and rehat was not important why did Guru gobind singh ji introduce it and take it himself? No one says naam and bani is not important it is. You sound like those dera cult babas desperate for followers of your version, who want to twist bani to suit there lifestyles rather then change themselves. I am not amritdhari myself but even I can see what you are trying to do. May mahraaj bless you.