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  1. I used to have this issue before and even posted about it in here, but have now realised. When you read rehat maryada really carefully you see that the actual BAJJAR kurehit is to use tobacco. That doesn't mean we can drink sharaab though. The rehat maryada says not to have any NASHA including sharaab. However alcohol outright not being included as a bajjar kurehit is a very sensical thing and shows Maharaj's perfection. The reason for this is that if alcohol was placed as 'bajjar' kurehit life would be pretty much unliveable. Why? Because chemical alcohol i.e. ethanol is present in so much - bread, fruit, medicine etc. When the manufacturers say alcohol they mean that yes it's technically ethanol so it's alcohol in a chemical sense but it's not really the same as sharaab in terms of use in this instance. I mean the buiscuits and cakes we eat and soft drinks like coca cola, when they have 'natural flavouring' in the ingredients, usually this also contains alcohol (ethanol), but it's not being used as sharaab it is being used as a chemical solvent to hold the flavour. This is why such products contain alcohol (ethanol) yet even by the government they are classed as non alcoholic. The intent is not intoxication and neither does it cause intoxication.
  2. Who is the jathedar of Tarna Dal? What are the different branches of Tarna Dal? Which section of to Tarna Dal is associated with Shaheed Baba Deep Singh Jee, I have heard it is hariavela but then I have also heard it is Baba Bakala?
  3. I don't mean the ring mala. I mean like in this picture.
  4. I have noticed quite a few nihang Singhs seem to wear a ring on the finger. Mostly seems to be sarbloh. What is the significance of wearing this?
  5. Wear your kachera over the club shorts. Why can't you wear a kirpan? If you really can't. You can always wear a Dori wali kirpan if you are really stuck Kangha even if you couldn't put in your head, could easily go in a pocket?
  6. You say you think you are lying by keeping hair. Who do you think you should be if you have hair? And why do you think this? Would you really ever be satisfied with you who you are to be worthy of being called a gursikh? The fact is we are all supposed to consider ourselves unworthy. So if you are thinking you don't match up to being a gursikh with the appearance, you are actually being a perfect Sikh because guru sahib wants us to be humble. That person who thinks they are not a gursikh is the most worthy to have the appearance of a Sikh because they are focusing on their demerits and not feeling boastful about the good they do. That person who thinks they are worthy of Sikhi is the one who is destined to fall. Breaking Amrit now will cause you more turmoil as you are not aware of the spiritual disruptance it will cause inside you. *DELETED* Just be a basic Sikh, I assure you it is fine. The guru says keep your hair, following the guru can never lead to unhappiness. However, not following the guru, i.e. leaving Amrit will definitely cause you unhappiness. Guru sahib has already told is this in gurbani to save us the misery of trying it out ourselves. Trust what the guru says. Only what the guru says can lead to happiness and everything else leads to misery. ਆਪਸ ਕਉ ਜੋ ਜਾਣੈ ਨੀਚਾ ॥ aapas kau jo jaanai neechaa || ਸੋਊ ਗਨੀਐ ਸਭ ਤੇ ਊਚਾ ॥ souoo ganeeaai sabh te uoochaa ||
  7. Does anyone have any sources on the history of taking a hukamnama from guru Granth Sahib jee, any writers that have written on this or any bachans by sants?
  8. I would suggest becoming a nihang, this way *DELETED* Also nihang Singh often just wear the *DELETED* Nihang Singhs often don't mind their *DELETED*- but encourage them to keep head hair uncut. I would strongly recommend finding some local nihang Singhs and I am almost sure they will convince you to stay in Sikhi and show you a more liveable and workable Sikhi. It's fine to listen to nitnem if you don't do it yourself. Sikhi is not meant to be stressful, don't hold yourselves to the standards of the amritdharis you initially saw. In the West, you have basically got Amritdhari groups that have been based upon the most extreme sections of Amritdhari community. If you go to Punjab, or outside like hazur sahib etc you will see much more normal Amritdharis that don't do half the stuff Amritdharis in the West say you need to do. It is fine if you just listen to your nitnem, don't eat halal meat, don't have sex outside your marriage,. Don't smoke tobacco and don't cut your hair and don't take intoxicants. With kakkars just do your best as you can and don't get too hung up on it. It is fine to have your own interpretation. Many Sikhs eg 3ho don't stress on wearing all 5ks while bathing etc. Other than the above, three main focus should just be on fixing your inside being more humble and defeating the five evils. It is better to follow a moderate Sikhi than to cut your hair. Just follow the basic for now. Ask yourself - what would guru ji say to me right now? Would he say it is better to just do the bear minimum as an Amritdhari and add in on more later or to leave Amrit altogether? You don't have to be a perfect Saint, it's fine that you enjoy a physical relationship with your wife. Don't beat yourself up over it. You don't have to wear Bana, just wear your normal dastar and 5ks Do ardaas to guru sahib that he may give you the power and mindset to live in the way he wishes you to, not how your mind tells you to. And don't even worry about panthic issues and khalistan etc for now
  9. I'm not trying to be rude but most of you guys on here talking about "women these days" sound like incels. I don't know why some people are so obsessed with what women are doing, go out there be the alpha male and any girl will like you. It's very simple Singhs need to man up. Most Singhs want a pretty and feminine girl so similarly girls like confident manly men, alot of Singhs are not up to scratch its simple as that. There is alot of incel like <banned word filter activated> shaming going on - you can not hope to know what someone is like from a Facebook post or photo, hell even the people you see up close like those in school, you don't know the full story. What makes me laugh is how quickly people think they can sum up the complexities of someone else's life. On top of that you guys aren't even happy when a girl moves on and criticisize when they do finally settle down as covering up or whatever - it's called growing up and developing as a person, quite a normal thing. Maybe if we the kaum wasn't full up of people who have nothing better to do than discuss other people's supposed love lives on the internet and actually understood normal human behaviour of making mistakes, being immature and developing, we actually wouldn't have people looking elsewhere. Finally, there never was this "ideal respectable woman", not in any era. Hanky panky has been going on since the beginning of time, read charitrpakhiyan.
  10. Can sangat please suggest hotels or nivas asthans near sri darbar sahib. They have to be a decent standard and no more than half an hour walk. I have heard about nishkam jatha niwas but when i phoned nobody picked up. Failing nivas, even hotels which are not too far would be great. I have stayed in hyatt before but as it is on gt road you always need to travel by car to reach darbar sahib. Id prefer a hotel i can get a motor rickshaw from or walk from. Suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
  11. When bhatras say rajput this really confuses me, arent bhatras who say they are of rajput backgrounds actually KASHYAP Rajputs which is different from Rajputs who are not related to bhatra community at all? There are Rajput Sikhs and they are not bhatray, more similar to Khatri so I really don't get it when bhatray say they are rajput.
  12. It is not YOUR hair, it is not YOUR head, it belongs to Guroo! Do you not think that mothers of children butchered by meer mannu loved them? Those children that were cut apart piece by piece and made into necklaces for the mothers to wear. Do you not think their mothers loved gazing at them, adorning them and loving them? Yes they did, but they realised that they belonged to Guroo and they were not theirs to keep. Even Guru Gobind Singh Ji sacrificed his chaar sahibzade for the sake of this panth and rehat. If you turn your back on Guru by doing this ku-karam (horrible, corrupt action), everything in your life will fall apart. What makes you so sure that this beauty of your hair that you take so much pride in will not be snatched from you? Imagine you take off your dastar and you get cancer so undergo chemo- not only will you be diseased and lost that hair that you take pride in but you will also have turned your back on Guru. How will you feel at that moment when you realise that you may as well have just kept your dastar on? Do not allow even one bit of fire into your house - just one spark can spread and cause your whole house to burn down. Similarily, if you allow one bit of maya into your jeevan, i.e. remove your dastar- do not think you can control maya. It will spread and make you compromise more and more. Don't think that your bani, keertan and amritvela will survive after doing such a thing. Before you know it you will have removed your hair. Be Alert! Guru Sahib's nadar (glance of grace) that is received from following rehat saves us from many dreadful affects of past karma such as illness, accidents, etc. These things may very well destroy the beautiful appearance that you are so obsessed with having. Do not put yourself at such risk by becoming a nigura by refusing Guru Sahib's rehat. Read the below from gurmatbibek.com: ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Bhai Jagtar Singh jee once said something along the lines that before punishing, Vaheguru takes away the gunns from the individual. So if you see yourself becoming weak in Rehit, Amritvela and Nitnem, become alert. Weakness in these areas is a sign of bad times coming. Kulbir Singh Also, be very wary of nadar upathi (below article is written by Bhai Kulbir Singh from gurmatbibek.com): ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Avoiding ਨਦਰਿ ਉਪਠੀ at all cost The 16th pauri of Siri Asa kee Vaar strikes me all the time. In this pauri is a pankiti as follows: ਨਦਰਿ ਉਪਠੀ ਜੇ ਕਰੇ ਸੁਲਤਾਨਾ ਘਾਹੁ ਕਰਾਇਦਾ ॥ ਦਰਿ ਮੰਗਨਿ ਭਿਖ ਨ ਪਾਇਦਾ ॥16॥ If Vaheguru does his glance ਉਪਠੀ i.e. if he glances at a king with the glance of displeasure, he can turn a king into a poor gardener. We hear Gurbani but we don’t really believe in what we hear. Gurbani in this pankiti tells how transient i.e. temporary this world and it’s possessions are. When a person is sitting on a position of power in this world, such person thinks as if this position is his forever. Such persons forget that before them, several have sat on such positions and after them countless will sit on this position. Why to be proud of such intangible worldly thing? Just during the last ten-fifteen years we have witnessed how kings were turned helpless. Take an example of Nawaz Sharif. I am just amazed to see how truth is really stranger than fiction when I see his life. In the 1990s, he was the uncrowned king of Pakistan. His business was flourishing and he along with his brother had become the richest persons of Pakistan. To add to his fortune, he became the prime minister of Pakistan and his brother Shahbaz Sharif was the chief minister of the largest province of Pakistan – Punjab. They were at the top of the world. Then with one stroke, Musharaf took over the reins of Pakistan, overthrew Nawaz Sharif and arrested him. It took 6 months to break Nawaz Sharif. At first he stayed adamant when he was imprisoned but at the end of 5 months, he was going crazy staying in isolation. The king of Pakistan was confined to a small room in jail. He was reduced to a mere prisoner. He agreed to the terms of Musharaf and was exiled out of Pakistan. But look at the will of Vaheguru, he became a king coming from a humble background and then was reduced to a mere prisoner and exiled but recently has returned to Pakistan with much pomp and show. He returned and became responsible for overturning Musharaf. Today he is rising to the level of glory he had seen earlier. If you look at this, you realize how temporary and transient the worldly possessions are. You also realize how strong Vaheguru is. In a moment he can make a beggar a king and a king a beggar. Take an example of Saddam Hussien. What a life he had. He rose from humble background and became an absolute monarch of Iraq. He was ruthless to Shias and Kurds and committed many atrocities. His sons, especially Udey was not only a spoiled kid but an atrocious criminal. It’s said that he assaulted numerous women when he could. Later he was confined to wheelchair as a result of an attempt to take his life. Saddam was overthrown by the Americans and when he was discovered hiding in a bunker, he was beyond recognition. No one could say that this was the royal Saddam the world had known. He was extremely untidy and had a very dishevelled look. But he kept his self respect and did not bow before his captives. Then we saw his proud end. The way he faced death would put many so called brave people to shame. The thing I have been thinking is ਨਦਰਿ ਉਪਠੀ. We should fear ਨਦਰਿ ਉਪਠੀ. We should do such karma that we may never have to experience and face ਨਦਰਿ ਉਪਠੀ. So long as Vaheguru jee keeps his gaze of grace on us, we don’t realize how fortunate we are. We only realize what we have lost when we have to face ਨਦਰਿ ਉਪਠੀ. When this ਨਦਰਿ ਉਪਠੀ occurs, then it’s very hard to turn this ਨਦਰਿ ਉਪਠੀ into ਵਡ ਕਟਾਖ. So Bhai, one who forgets ਖੌਫੇ ਖੁਦਾ when in ਤੈਸ਼ and forgets ਯਾਦੇ ਖੁਦਾ when in ਐਸ਼, surely is inviting ਨਦਰਿ ਉਪਠੀ. Siri Guru Nanak Dev jee after the attack of Babur on India, wrote a very beautiful pankiti of Gurbani: ਅਗੋ ਦੇ ਜੇ ਚੇਤੀਐ ਤਾਂ ਕਾਇਤੁ ਮਿਲੈ ਸਜਾਇ ॥ ਸਾਹਾਂ ਸੁਰਤਿ ਗਵਾਈਆ ਰੰਗਿ ਤਮਾਸੈ ਚਾਇ ॥ ਬਾਬਰਵਾਣੀ ਫਿਰਿ ਗਈ ਕੁਇਰੁ ਨ ਰੋਟੀ ਖਾਇ ॥5॥ Please take note of the first pankiti. It states that if we remember Vaheguru in advance, then why would we suffer punishment in his hands. So taking lead from this pankiti, may we engage in ਯਾਦੇ ਖੁਦਾ and always keep ਖੌਫੇ ਖੁਦਾ and this way avoid ਸਜਾਇ (punishment) Kulbir Singh
  13. This must not be allowed to go ahead. This is a direct contradiction to akal takht rules. See attached invitation that someone messaged me. Friday 1st may at 9:30 am
  14. Caution: Some inappropriate scenes. They were talking about this movie on bbc breakfast and I saw a turban wearing man on the poster so I decided to google it. I found this trailer. It seems to be presenting the very bottom end of our community. At work he is shown to be rather slimy. The most shocking thing is that the 'sikh' character in this film (who trims his dhari) is sometimes shown with a dastar, then a hat and finally completely bald! Lots of scenes showing 'sikhs' doing silly things like drinking. Like I said, it shows the very bottom end of our community. What a shame that possibly the first movie to have a turbanned punjabi character in the main role is such a negative one. Thoughts? http://www.theguardian.com/film/video/2015/feb/10/amar-akbar-tony-meera-syal-trailer-video
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