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  1. VAHEGURU JI KA KHALSA VAHEGURU JI KI FATEH It would be advisable to ask whoever replies to state his/her age and marital status to see if they are close enough to the subject and weigh that comment within that context. Having a physical relationship with your spouse is not banned or a kurehit. Excessive indulgence - the only real way to see if it is excessive is whether it impairs your Sikhi. If you cannot wake up at amritvela, do Naam Simran and Nitnem and further your Sikhi, then any activity being done is being excessive because it hinders Sikhi. If you are able to maintain you
  2. VAHEGURU JI KA KHALSA, VAHEGURU JI KI FATEH Sangat - do you have it? Is it good and inspirational?
  3. VAHEGURU JI KA KHALSA, VAHEGURU JI KI FATEH Which puratan Maryada? Doesn't puratan maryada support jhatka, bhang? Perhaps it supports parkash of two/three granths? Perhaps it supports Sarbloh bibek? Is there only one maryada or many? Is there really one group that has all of the "puratan maryada" unaltered by time and true to 1699? Perhaps we all follow "puratan" maryada" - different aspects and parts of it in all Jathebandian. Perhaps we are all really one thing: Gursikhs. Perhaps if we get out of our boxes once in a while and do Sangat with other Gursikhs, we will benefit m
  4. VAHEGURU JI KA KHALSA, VAHEGURU JI KI FATEH Taksal Rehas Sahib, typically is referred to as complete - Sampooran. However, it would be worthy to note that Hazoori Rehas Sahib, Nihang Rehras Sahib and Nanaksar Rehras Sahib is longer. Would they then consider the Taksali Rehras Sahib as not Sampooran? Let's not get into these discussions on whose Nitnem is longer or complete: Let's actually do the Nitnem, follow it and make it a part of life. More Gurbani is always good and there is nothing stopping Sikhs from doing more - the Rehat defines the minimum - we should try to go above t
  5. VAHEGURU JI KA KHALSA, VAHEGURU JI KI FATEH California has a decent presence of Sikhs in most bigger cities (Los Angeles, San Francisco) and across the Central valley (from Sacramento to Fresno to Bakersfield). New Jersey - city of Carteret and surrounding areas. Richmond Hill in Queens, NY has probably the highest density of Sikhs in the U.S. Smaller clusters are in Seattle, Dallas/Houston, Indiana, Chicago, Atlanta, maybe Michigan. Western Sikhs have center in New Mexico, but also in Los Angeles. Mid West and other lesser populated areas are much less likely.
  6. Punjab? You should have an abundance of groups to pick from. Pick any major jathebandi in the Panth, ask who their core elders are and begin to do Sangat with them. Damdami Taksal, Nanaksar, AKJ, Nihangs, etc. Pick what appeals to you and go. There are good Gursikhs in every jathebandi - find a group that appeals to you and go now.
  7. Generally, where you located (city, state/province, country)?
  8. VAHEGURU JI KA KHALSA, VAHEGURU JI KI FATEH If you are concerned with the jeevan of the sevadaars who do amrit sanchars, then you may have to take time to do sangat with different groups of sangat and see which group(s) have a strong rehatvaan jeevan full of naam, bani and seva. Those groups most likely will point to the amrit sanchar you are looking for. Otherwise, do ardaas and just go - it is not worthwhile to wait if you are truly repentant and want to get back on the path of Sikhi - who knows how many breaths you have left in you?
  9. VAHEGURU JI KA KHALSA, VAHEGURU JI KI FATEH Find evidence in history that shows that when the Gurgaddi was transferred, parkash of Dasam Granth Sahib was also done and coconut and 5 paise were placed in front of Dasam Granth Sahib and/or Sarbloh Granth Sahib (same ceremony that was conducted to transfer Guruship from 1st to 10th Patshahi). That might do it in a convincing manner.
  10. VAHEGURU JI KA KHALSA, VAHEGURU JI KI FATEH Please go here - https://www.sikhitothemax.org/ Then type in ਹੋਮ. Change from first letter to full word (Gurakhar). The please read. Gurbani makes it clear that havan is not in line with Gurmat.
  11. VAHEGURU JI KA KHALSA, VAHEGURU JI KI FATEH Why do you want to be a Sikh? Is having girls and popularity more important to you than Sikhi? What is your end goal in life? Does that goal match with the aim of Sikhi or not? I think perhaps you should ask yourself these questions and deeply consider where you want to be in life. Please don't make Sikhi a shirt that you put on and take off.
  12. Definitely need mods that can put aside their personal associations and beliefs to be fair minded and not express favoritism for any group, treating all Sikh groups fairly and stop any group from being bashed. Bring the hammer down on profanity (explicitly or other#@& stated), personal attacks and stick to the forum rules.
  13. VAHEGURU JI KA KHALSA, VAHEGURU JI KI FATEH Thread started to warn about abuse...ends up with abuse.
  14. VAHEGURU JI KA KHALSA, VAHEGURU JI KI FATEH Had same heerae at same age as you before marriage. Plenty of heerae (white hair) now. Now married and a family man. Don't worry about it. If you are healthy, have enough sleep, not too much stress, it may be genetic or just the way your body is. Don't worry about it. It's not the heerae that look bad, it is our unrealistic expectation that we will be ever youthful. The body is ever changing. Change your perception and learn to understand the natural beauty that Akaal Purakh has given you. http://dailysikh
  15. VAHEGURU JI KA KHALSA, VAHEGURU JI KI FATEH Partner = unsure if that means spouse or the person with who adultery is committed. In cases of adultery, the amritdhari guilty person is responsible for going and the Punj Pyare. Adultery can be committed by single or married people. In case of an unmarried amritdhari person, the unmarried person should go definitely, without regard to the other party. If the other person who had committed adultery is also, God Forbid, amritdhari, they should also go to an amrit sanchar - not necessarily to the same amrit sanchar, but he/she is also liab
  16. VAHEGURU JI KA KHALSA, VAHEGURU JI KI FATEH Sigh, I might regret putting this up, but whatever. monatosingh, you can probably call Gurudwara Sahibs and check if they are having amrit sanchars and who will be doing the arrangements of the amrit sanchar. Most amrit sanchars are organized by a Sikh jatha, unless the Gurudwara Sahib is independent of any jathebandi and is itself, through a committee, organizing the amrit sanchar. The Sikh Rehat Maryada would probably be considered a non jathebandi affiliated Rehat. Rest of the marayadas are linked to jathebandian. There are a va
  17. VAHEGURU JI KA KHALSA, VAHEGURU JI KI FATEH http://www.rajkaregakhalsa.net/downloads/Gurbani/gurbani-path-darpan.pdf - PG. 130. Paath maryada per Sant Gyani Gurbachan Singh.
  18. ms514

    marital relation

    In short it's still not considered a Kurehit.
  19. ms514

    marital relation

    VAHEGURU JI KA KHALSA, VAHEGURU JI KI FATEH Every Amritdhari Sikh is given a Rehat when being given Amrit, and that Rehat outlines extramarital (not marital) relations as a Bujjar Kurehit. If you were not engaged in extramarital relations (relations before marriage or with with others during marriage), then there is no restriction that is applied to you related to your marital relations. Yes, Gurbani does state that a Sikh should engage in worship of Akaal Purakh and seek that out as the supreme bliss, but marital relations are not forbidden (how else exactly is the majority of ne
  20. A) Start waking up at amritvela and doing paath of Nitnem (Japji Sahib, Jaap Sahib, Tav Prasad Saviyae, Chaupai Sahib, Anand Sahib). Amritvela is defined as 3 hours before sunrise - waking up earlier if fine too. If you don't get up that time normally, work your way up by waking up 15-30 minutes earlier, than next week, 15-30 minutes earlier than that (and go to bed earlier as well) until you get there. B) Wear 5 kakkars and Dastaar (if not already wearing) at all times. But important is that you conduct yourself as a Gursikh at all times once you do this. C) Rehas Sahib in even
  21. VAHEGURU JI KA KHALSA, VAHEGURU JI KI FATEH Do Ardaas and go to whichever amrit sanchar appaears when you are ready (trust me, circumstances are created to accommodate this, so don't over think it). Akaal Purakh will guide you. Also, don't worry about so and so maryada - go, present yourself when you are ready, answer the question the Punj Pyare ask you and if you are found ready, you will be given Amrit. At the amrit sanchar, you will most likely be given the opportunity to ask questions, so take advantage of that. The Guru is your mother-father after amrit - what parent would not wa
  22. VAHEGURU JI KA KHALSA, VAHEGURU JI KI FATEH You could, but reading Nitnem yourself has many benefits. Listening may "free you up" to do other things, which means you may end up focusing less on the Nitnem itself. There is always the risk of sleep if you are listening, tired and still. Reading aloud bestows the additional benefit of assisting in memorizing Nitnem as well. To learn better pronunciation: Sure, but the ideal state would be to go back to doing Nitnem youself after this learning is complete. Perhaps assign a time duration within which you would learn the pronuncia
  23. VAHEGURU JI KA KHALSA, VAHEGURU JI KI FATEH Vaisakhi 1978 - of the 13 shaheeds, 2 were from Damdami Taksal and the other 11 were from AKJ background.
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