MPKaur

I can relate to that: I get really motivated by hearing what other people are doing or learning. It helps me set goals. Plus i tell myself if so and so can do it, so can I !!

Buddasingh phaji made a good point by suggesting making a presentation at your nephew's school. I did the same with my children, each one of them i went to their class in their first month of kindergarden. I was really worried about the boys getting bullied. Here is what happenned with my younger one (he is in kindergarden right now) I just talk in simple language (coz they're 5yrs old!). First I ask them: what is this?(Pointing to the joora), Is there something inside? A surprise? (all the kids laughed) One kids said: i think it's hair Oooohh i said, why don't we see. I then proceeded to undo his hair (some might not agree with that but i thought it was a good way to educate) While i was undoing his hair, i talk about why we keep hair, it's part of our religion and culture (many kids at that age don't even know what religion is!) All the kids were so impressed by the length of his hair. I told them we fix his hair in a joora everyday so the hair keeps nice and clean and nut free (while i was redoing his joora) Then i talk about the turban and showed pics of sikh men. I also talk about the kara and brought an extra one to pass along the kids to try on. I also brought a baja and my son played a few shabads (kids were impressed and i think it helps the other kids have more respect becasue it's something they can't do) I brought a pic of harmandir sahib (from an old calendar!) (all the little ones were so cute with their aaah, wow, it's all gold!) And we ended by giving them kir (without almonds) yum! He doesn't have any problem with bullying however, the situation is a little different from your nephew becasue my son has only one other punjabi kid in his class (there are less then 10 punjabis in the entire school and only 2 with joora, my sons) But yeah in a nutshell i think making a little presentation to the classroom helps (for non-punjabi kids at least) Let us know, it makes me really sad when a little child so young as to go through that.

Well keeping it gupt in order to prevent ego boost is great. but what if someone keeps gupt out of shame of not knowing enough? :D

Thanks phaji Check those out as well: http://www.youtube.com/profile_videos?user...CHARITY&p=r

ਆਖਾ ਜੀਵਾ ਵਿਸਰੈ ਮਰਿ ਜਾਉ ॥ Ākẖā jīvā visrai mar jā­o. Chanting the Name, I live; forgetting it, I die.

ਨਿੰਦਉ ਨਿੰਦਉ ਮੋ ਕਉ ਲੋਗੁ ਨਿੰਦਉ ॥ Ninḏa­o ninḏa­o mo ka­o log ninḏa­o. Slander me, slander me - go ahead, people, and slander me. ਨਿੰਦਾ ਜਨ ਕਉ ਖਰੀ ਪਿਆਰੀ ॥ Ninḏā jan ka­o kẖarī pi­ārī. Slander is pleasing to the Lord's humble servant.

For some it might no be a problem but for others it makes them feel uncomfortable. People are entitled to their own feelings. If this isn't an issue for you, fine, but have some respect for those that sincerely need advice. I remember when i was younger, i traveled to Mexico for some humanitarian work. Over there men and women were kissing and hugging each other. I was used to women air kissing women and not women and men So Yes I did feel extremely uncomfortable. Until one preacher told the devotees to say "hello" to their own gender (was i glad) On a funny note: once i met a friend, and i was really glad to see her, but non of us knew each cheeks to give first (the right cheek should be first!!!) and after hesitating for a few moments we had a mishap: we kiss each other on the lips that was soooo embarrassing So if you can't avoid it, offer the right cheek first :D

ਕਿਆ ਥੋੜੜੀ ਬਾਤ ਗੁਮਾਨੁ ॥੧॥ ਰਹਾਉ ॥ Ki­ā thoṛ­ṛī bāṯ gumān. ||1|| rahā­o. Why do you take pride in trivial matters? ||1||Pause|| ਲਖ ਚਉਰਾਸੀਹ ਭ੍ਰਮਤਿਆ ਦੁਲਭ ਜਨਮੁ ਪਾਇਓਇ ॥ Lakẖ cẖa­orāsīh bẖarmaṯi­ā ḏulabẖ janam pā­i­o­ė. Through 8.4 million incarnations you have wandered, to obtain this rare and precious human life. ਨਾਨਕ ਨਾਮੁ ਸਮਾਲਿ ਤੂੰ ਸੋ ਦਿਨੁ ਨੇੜਾ ਆਇਓਇ ॥੪॥੨੨॥੯੨॥ Nānak nām samāl ṯūʼn so ḏin nėṛā ā­i­o­ė. ||4||22||92|| O Nanak, remember the Naam, the Name of the Lord; the day of departure is drawing near! ||4||22||92|| ਇਕੁ ਫਿਕਾ ਨ ਗਾਲਾਇ ਸਭਨਾ ਮੈ ਸਚਾ ਧਣੀ ॥ Ik fikā na gālā­ė sabẖnā mai sacẖā ḏẖaṇī. Do not utter even a single harsh word; your True Lord and Master abides in all.

I admit I'm very happy now

I admit I'm sad because singh-khalsa phaji is sad

^^^ You've got them all :awesome

Guruka Singh has so many interesting videos on youtube. Here's one:

I admit I didn't do anything but I admit I'm soooo proud of you

^^^ I admit, you're daddy is right :D I admit, i was just kidding (making sure ur not taking it the wrong way )

Phenji, I'm so sorry to hear about your trouble. MArriage is never easy. I'm married myself with children. Although it should not be that way, but it is unfortunately very often, the blame for whatever problems there are, goes on the daughter-in-law, as she is the 'outsider'. Get your strenght from Waheguru. It would be good for you and your husband to get some time away, if possible (like a little vacation or something). PLease, feel free to PM me, we can share our experience

http://www.sikhsangat.com/index.php?showto...&hl=darshan

Many have suggested to do your nitnem and simran, that's wonderful, do it However Dr Ojaam suggested it was normal, it's good, however no one can give you a proper diagnosis (If you need one) online, thus as others have suggested previously: Go see a psychologist or psychiatrist Please don't hesitate and do it as soon as possible best to you

^^^ You're right it's all excellent, whatever it is :D

I wouldn't call them "poor Singhs" :D

Would I be wrong in saying that in the beginning, simran is more important as with simran, one can develop pyar for Waheguru? Once a person has pyar,then the desire to do nitnem grows, which is important because in order to progress spiritually both are equally important. Perhaps i'm wrong though, I'm just saying how i started

I admit that's what I'm eating tonight

This is a big problem where i am too When you shake hands, grab the other person's arm (the one you're shaking)with your left hand. It makes it harder ofr a person to kiss you. It works most of the time but not always. One thing to remember: air kisses don't mean anything

Some advices in the previous posts are really good. I would add watch you caffeine and sugar intake during the day. Talking from personal experience , and i know every1 is different but, i can't sleep well if i take 1 coffee, even if i drink it in the morning. So for me coffee, is a big no no. Even chai past 4pm i can't take :umm: Also I have sugar problem (hypoglycemia) and if a ingest too much sugar (and for me it doesn't take much!) I get heart palpitation and insomnia at night. Once i cut down all sugar (i'm talking about refine sugar from pastries, cake, etc and not sugar from fresh fruits) and 2-3 days later, i was able to sleep like a baby after weeks of insomnia. Lavendar on the pillow is amazing, and paath :D Hope to hear you you had a good night real soon