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it feels okay now that I know I'm not the only weirdo/ freak lol

haha same here! maybe its a female thing...

that's brilliant ! Good luck pen ji and may waheguru ji bless you with success

eh ki ?? try answering the post! right hand wala kam

fe te galti hogi! meh tha right handed a! right hand use kardi reh gayi haha

I want to be a primary school teacher because I want younger kids to know about Sikhism and as i'm amritdhari I can promote our beautiful gursikhi saroop so that Sikh kids don't have to be ashamed (which they shouldn't anyway) of having long hair or being different by covering their head etc! Also so many kids from other background don't know what/who a Sikh is! I remember my teacher telling me that she had never known what a Sikh was and one day on the bus she saw a amritdhari Singh and got freaked out by his shri sahib! Hopefully with more awareness from a young age, will mean amritdhari people wont have to experience things like that ! Well either that or working with children who are in care because that seems like the type of thing a Gursikh should be doing anyway - helping the needy! by the way has anyone done the qualified teacher status (QTS) skills test exam? apparently its a killer! :wow:

Thank you! most the stuff on the internet was very basic but this should explain the saaki in detail...

...and what's that?

hahha you make me laugh! but singha if you look for bad you will see bad but je good labho te good milluga you should post a advert for yourself in the married couples section! Wise words pen ji!

awww veer ji! You should really talk to someone because sangat on this forum can only give you suggestions whereas if you speak to a trusted family member or friend they can support you through out! Also if the worst happens everyone will say to you "you should have told us!" I havent had any experience myself but I know one of my aunty has quite a difficult marriage because her husband drinks a lot, gets really violent and does not give her explanations of where he is and when he'll be back! She got really ill a while back with all the worries and tension but finaly she's realised that by worrying and constantly thinking about the same thing she'll achieve nothing. She does what is in her hands and the rests he leaves to waheguru ji.... "Man Beche Satgur Ke Paas" sell your mind which is full of worries, to the true guru yes its true You come alone and will go alone as it says in sukhmani sahib - where your mother/father, family and friends don't go, o man there the name of the true lord is your support! But Guru ji also emphasised Girhasti jeevan (family) so this means you should have a good relationship. Personally i think that if you really want it to work out then forget her past and just focus on the immediate future. Sit her down and say "now wifey! i do not feel comfortable with this this and this..." Maybe she senses your stress too and might just understand if you tell her things straight. If things still don't change you should get both parents together and tell them! Also i would suggest do dukh bhanjani sahib! Its shorter than sukhmani sahib and dead easy to understand (if you can speak punjabi properly lol) If not anything just constantly do the mool mantar in your mind and i'm sure your either see an improvement or find a solution. Bhul chuk maaf ji, Good luck and i hope all ends well

I think you won't need to take amrit again but go pesh........

UNCLE JIII! :doh: How rude, my parents are both Punjabi and one is from the pend and I don't see it as a curse! If remembering your roots and having strong morals means your a pendu! Fine ! I'm a pendu and proud. To be honest i'd rather be a pendu than joining the Pappu party of wanna-be's! :sleep: hahahah! I don't even understand lokhi Punjabi ya pendu hon vich ehni sharam kyu mandeh a ! " to neglect ones ancestors and their roots would bring ill-fortune and failure in life" and ohda v roots toh cut kitta hoya flower, vase vich long life layi nahi rehnda! :no: EAXCTLY I couldn't have put better myself! :respect:

how ironic! the baba promoting smoking has put cigarettes into an apple and has a playground whistle in his neck! LOL did you notice the toys around him on the bed LOL hahha

hahaha didn't even notice this! jaaaaaa tenu maaf kitta .....but next time.....

did you end up getting any of the book online ? i'd love to read it ? :D

haha oh no no your confused that's for vampires, humans are okay to go out in the day

I mentioned Guru Gobind Singh ji because he gave us the surname Singh/Kaur and i don't need my surname to show off my caste as i have the surname kaur meaning i am the highest of all - Guru jis princess :D

yaay i'm gald I was of some use!

This problem is everywhere around the world in Modern sikhs.. They don't only ask for their names to be mentioned by paaii g Or paathi g.. Even They ask him to mention their Castenames/jathere/ Goutt too in front of SGGs...how shameful .. i don't think its the modern Sikhs, i think its the older bibiyan and babeh that say you MUST add your surname! :stupidme: at the moment i feel like a hypocrite because my family always add their surname everywhere and there's no way i could possibly change their thinking so like they say if you want something done do it yourself! I just tell people my surnames Kaur so only my childhood friends really know my surname or if someone looks at my legal documents they'll know! I remember reading somewhere that Guru Gobind Singh ji said 'who ever asks a another sikh their caste, is not Sikh of mine..' .... so i'm sure he won't be pleased if we are announcing our caste surnames in an Ardas! For god sake the ardas is long enough because of you adding your name in and you want to make it even longer by adding your surname too! :lol:

I understand exactly what you mean! I use to do this ALOT, I use to be angry one second and back to normal the next. What helped me was after getting angry when I thought about it in my head I'd make excuses for myself and justify my anger but when I told some else about it i.e. my sister- I felt like i had been a drama queen! This helped me because every time i think about being angry ill just automatically remember past incidents and think 'lets just be quiet because later on its going to feel pointless!' If you don't have someone to talk to then another thing i did was i wrote in a diary, i wrote that diary to God so automatically my attitude changed, i was writing more humbly. I have this structure that goes like '1.baba ji bla bla happened 2. i know i was wrong but bla bla ... 3.please help me..' so technically i understood what i did wrong, knew what triggered it off and asked for maharaj jis support, whereas if when i write a normal diary i'd just be talking out of my ego! ^^ this is very true i noticed one thing in myself i usually got angry over petty things when my mind and concentration was somewhere else and when someone interrupted me, i just blurted out with anger! Also i use to have this thing that at home , mentally i didn't want to admit i was wrong because in my eyes i wasn't but then once a thought came into my head that just as i think I'm right and have no doubt, in the same way the other person must be thinking that too and this calmed me down because then i try thinking from the other persons perspective and thought well actually who really is wrong - sometimes it might be that nobodies wrong and the argument was pointless. I know you may be thinking ' who has the time to think about this when your angry' but you could think about it after you've calmed down because then it might help prevent a similar situation. anyway bhul chuk maaf and i hope this helps, and don't worry too much sometimes its just a phase where your stressed and full of anger. Simple simran will also help because you'll feel peaceful inside and happier about yourself! And also remember we're all human and all get angry, nobody except god is perfect so don't beat yourself up too much!

You should try reading dukh bhanjani sahib! it is BEAUTIFUL! so easy to understand so it calms you down a lot... and apparently on the Cd that I have at the start it announces that it helps deal with 'kalesh' so I think it might be ideal Also its quite short, well actually it may vary slightly because the Gutka I have is different from the CD of dukh bhanjani sahib I have. I suppose that's because Dkh bhanjani sahib is a collection of Bannis put together! the more the better :D good luck and bhul chuk maaf ji

haha the moment when uncle ji becomes a life planner :lol2:

theres not much youth going there anyway because the committee doesn't really care,lol I never use to want to go there either but then I tell myself that if the committee isn't to my liking doesn't mean I should abandon the Guru! That's so true, the ardas in the gurdwaras is seen as a money making scheme and ritual! the problem is with bad experience at the gurdwara I just have this horrible feeling everytime I stand to do ardas! I automatically feel tired, stressed and annoyed, I know I might sound as if im over reacting but this is like every sunday where the ardas goes on for like an extra 10 mins that's true but I think I should change the ardas I do as in maybe make it informal because I remember we use to say an ardas at our sunday Punjabi school when I was young, it was really short and cute but unfortunately I cant remember beyond the first line lol...... is that allowed though? to have your own ardas structure???? hahahha the god sent uncle jiiiii :D

Dear saadh sangat ji I've begun to hate doing an Ardas and its all down to these money making gurdwaras. The gurdwara I go to is so annoying the Ardas is sooooo long. All the time is taken announcing peoples donations! It got so bad that people have even begun announcing their £2.50 donations!!!!! I know the gurdwara is new and still only half built so they need to collect all the money they can but still its not very fair! So now even when i'm at home after doing my paath I cannot bare doing an Ardas, I know I should but I cannot bring myself to stand up and do it! Now I've also got this terrible habit now of having a wondering mind whilst doing the Ardas! I've tried so much but I just cannot motivate myself Even at other Gurdwaras where the Ardas is short I'm just always hoping my family get up before the Ardas starts!

the problem for me is everytime i sit to do simran, i literally fall asleep in less then 5 minutes :stupidme: i heard in a katha once that, dont worry if you fall asleep because its suggesting that your 'man' has become calm and shant . This is not just a recent thing even in my childhood, sometimes when i use to go to the Gurdwara i use to nodding off to sleep, although the gurdwara bit has improved i still can't seem to resolve the simran issue!