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He has known quite a bit of Indians like Gandhi Ji. 5.0 out of 5 starsEvery Sikh should read it - it is superb ByThe Riddleron 16 February 2009 Format: Paperback Every Sikh should read it. It is the warts and all history of the Sikh religion - my religion. Makes such a change from all the usual guff that gets handed down from generation to generation. This guy has done his homework. Kushuvant Singh is widely recognised as one of India's finest historians and writers, yet even he took a long time to assimilate the horror of Partition before finally publishing The Train to Pakistan nine years later. Singh was living in Lahore and his Sikh family had little choice but to head for India, leaving their home and valuables in the care of a trusted Muslim friend who protected both and later sent everything to his friends - even the half-drunk bottles of alcohol in the drinks cupboard. http://www.amazon.co.uk/product-reviews/0143065882/ref=dp_db_cm_cr_acr_txt?ie=UTF8&showViewpoints=1

Just type sikh history in amazon. Many of them come up. Take your pick. Order, pay, read and share. Train to Pakistan is a must read I would say. It seems like Khushwant Singh is a good writer from the reviews and has written a number of good books.

Only been here since the last decade. Where I lived in Kenya, Sikhs loved to eat and drink whatever. Going to the Guradwara was like at weddings and other ceremonies. The Guradwaras there are empty otherwise. The committee members as well just came in on the designated meeting days. However I remember when they called Daler Mendhi to do kirtan. That day the whole Guradwara was full. Absolutely no free sitting space. People were actually standing below to just listen to shabads. The ladies were called in to make some more fulke for the extra sangat at 12 at night before they left to go home. We want money and more money. We want a better life - full of luxuries. The Guru gives it to us, but we have forgotten the Guru and that is why we are now suffering. Our girls turn 30 and do not want to get married for they have all the money they want and do not understand seva or what marriage is all about. No one took the time to talk to them about it. Our boys dont know how to treat the girls. Kids get left without parents when such people divorce. However we have all the money - and all its benefits. If only we had asked for the Guru's blessings and followed his words too - we would be much more happier.

The Muslims even lied to our Gurus not once but many times. Read the story of Guru Gobind Ji and you will see the true reality.

I do not intend to preach to you as you seem pretty enlightened already. Unfortunately the true fact is that you have come to a Sikh site despite being a Muslim. Tell me has your religion not satisfied you 100%? Or what else is it apart from preaching you are looking for here? Your creator? Yes you will definitely find him in the Guru Granth Sahib. Would you like me to show you? I am happy with my religion, 100% satisfied. I do not need to engage in debates or go about preaching to non-believers. Happy surfing though. Our religion does not boost about our high numbers or majority. It is more a question of quality than quantity. For what use are a million rotten potatoes compared to one good patato?

I have studied the Bible too as we had a Christian Religion Education in our school. I am not debating. I am just stating what I have observed. I stopped debating long time ago. Christianity preaches the same message - seeke first the Kingdom of God and all these things shall be added unto you. But it would be interesting to know what the Catholic priest said to you. I'd rather not waste my time going to a catholic priest and instead sit down and do 2 more sukhmani sahib dhe path.

At least the message was right, not only right but 100% spot on. This is not for you to take by the way. It is the statement of a universal truth. Islam gives the right message as well, if only people would listen to the right part and not the wrong parts. No offense intended. I have good muslim friends and good Christian friends too. Whatever your religion you need to get the correct parts and stop hurting humanity. Otherwise having a religion on the earth will be totally useless. It is just equal to having no religion at all. Which is actually where most of us stand because we have not tried to understand what our religion is trying to tell us at all.

Religion was supposed to bring one message - to unite man with God. All religions have tried to do this. Until they fall into the hands of men, who mold them into something else like cults etc. However we have used and abused and misunderstood religion and used it for our own purposes. The inner essence and core of all religions is the same but we have complicated it so much that religion has lost its meaning.

Hounslow area. I think this trend has sort of come when refugees from the country of Afganistan came in. They do have odd habits. They have meat in their shops for lunch and they sit and eat from one plate. They have dastar and beards as well but they also dont mind having alcohol in their shops to sell. They go to the guradwara as well and are very religious - but their habits are just sort of very different. When a person gets maharaj dhi kirpa then they start becoming conscious about doing such deeds. When you start to become closer to God, then you want to do what will keep you pure. Until that desire does not spring from within the heart about sucham and purity, then we keep on having our double standards. Eventually I think the light does creep in. We used to have fried eggs for breakfast every sunday. Then when we started going to the guradwara regularly - my mum just stopped buying them. We thought it was not good for us to eat eggy breakfast and then go to the guradwara. Such people can be made aware of what they are doing is not particularly very right. At the end of the day however, it is the inner conscious that develops and as it gets stronger we stop having double standards. Double standards are not a winner with God. mun nahi preet mukho gand lavaat. LIke sukhmani sahib says - they dont have love for God in their hearts and they pretend with words that they love God. jananhaar Prabhu parbeen. bhahar dhekh na kahu bheen. God knows about it and you cannot fool him from the outside. He sees right through into the heart and mind. People can be fooled with words - not God. When we accept God within our hearts, our outsides will also start to reflect his glory. We will stop displaying these double standards.

All the shops in our areas sell alcohol and they play shabad kirtan and sukhmani sahib as well in their shops. They hand out cigarettes as well to their customers. The shopkeepers are sikh guys with turban and open dhari. This is from where we get our normal supplies of yoghurt, bread and milk too. In our area there must be about 4 or 5 shops practicing this.

Sikhism respects all religions. Our ninth Guru Ji gave his life to save the kashmiri pandits. A religion which does not respect other religions should not even be called a religion but a cult. Some few followers of a religion can spoil the true essence of that religion and the world starts to look at that religion in a negative light. At the end of our lives - we will face judgement where there will no religion but only right and wrong to be judged. Hurting others whether they are religious or not is wrong whatever religion you follow. Unfortunately Islam has missed the message, deviated from the universal truth of the message of God and is planning to mess up the whole planet too. Perhaps we should all pray for their deliverance on their behalf.

This link tells us about how the simran of God is superior to even our jobs. When Bhagat Saen was busy in meditation God look care of his affairs. Simran of the Lord should be given priority over all else. http://davindersingh1.blogspot.co.uk/2005/11/saen-bhagat.html

Please guide us if we are wrong Oh enlightened one.

Gurbani has got a sakhi on this topic which is on one of the bhagats (sadna) whose profession was a butcher. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bhagat_Sadhana https://www.searchgurbani.com/bhagats/bhagat_sadhna There is another sakhi but I am not sure which bhagat. Have to look for it but he was saved because he worked in the open where there were many sadhus going to darshan. The dust from the feet of these sadhus fell on his body continuously and thus he was liberated. ( He also had some sort of profession where I think he made some slippers out of animal skin for people) Whatever your profession it is important to go to the Guradwara as that is where the dust from the feet of the saints is and where true liberation can be gained from. An mp3 recording on the topic http://khalsaonline.net/Mp3/Katha/file.php?p=1&file=load/Katha/Giani%20Sant%20Singh%20Ji%20Maskeen/Giani%20Sant%20Singh%20Ji%20Maskeen%20-%20Bhagat%20Sadhna%20Ji/Giani%20Sant%20Singh%20Ji%20Maskeen-Bhagat%20Sadhna%20Ji%20.mp3&sort=0

so why not write him a letter. Maybe some youngsters on here should lead and start a sikhi v-log.

Make the guy listen to every word of the video on utube where the spirit of a muslim guy admits that Sikhism is the ultimate way to salvation. Have to look for that video. for an hourIf they are in a hurry the shorter version and also if they have concentration disorders esp. on matters relating to sikhism then this may work bettter

How about lighting some nice incense - I dont think they contain any alcohol. Perfumes are not only dangerous because of the alcohol but also because they do interfere with many of the normal body processes. They are not recommended for use in pregnancy due to effects on the unborn child. They can affect the future fertility of younger boys when their mums use it too often around them. They affect the way our natural hormones work and response. They can ruin our bodies, so they are not too healthy for us either. It has become a fashion to load yourself with these chemicals before you step out of the house lest someone smells you and recognizes that you are a human being. What are we trying to be- walking and talking flowers?

Covering your head with your scarf which you can keep in handy at all times cannot be too hard. Sometimes I find that doing it between my work sessions helps me better focus and get the most needed calm. Light fashionable scarves which ladies wear in their necks most of the time... will give you a good fast option for head covering whenever you feel its time to read path.

The past should be left to remain the past. The future needs to be worked at. We are allowed to learn through our mistakes. A mistake which teaches you something at the end of it is not called a mistake but a lesson. When we learn a lesson from our past mistakes, then we should take care to remember the lesson and not the mistake. If we have made a mistake in the past, then we should try not to repeat that mistake in the future. When we keep our lesson in mind, then others do not need to know of our mistake as nobody tends to benefit from our mistake. As time goes by, we forget our mistake and it does not matter at all. Future partners do not need to know of your mistakes as it can affect your future with your partner. (You risk rejection if you keep steeping yourself in your mistakes and the lessons which you learned from your mistakes, which are not mistakes any more now - all because you have learned your lesson which will prevent you from making the mistake in the future) A bright future can only be made if you concentrate on your strengths and talk positively about you and be positive about your partner. A bright future will only come if you allow your partner to see the better side of you and to help you achieve and become even bettter. A bright future will only result if you keep working at it positively. EVeryone wants a positively oriented partner who works towards a bright future and who helps and encourages them to work towards a bright future too. Relationships are not about the past but about your bright future which will only be bright if you work towards making it bright by being positively oriented towards making your and your partners future as bright as you can possibly make it. Teach us all something which we can learn from your being positive and creating your bright future.

https://www.youtube.com/user/JusReign Maybe that ones better. what do you think?

A misunderstanding occured or was created on purpose by my MIL. It all started when my hubby went to visit her alone for 3 weeks and me and my son were here. When I put my son on skype and tried to say satsrisakaal to my MIL, she would ignore me totally and not reply back. So I thought it was her bad mood and stopped trying hard. Then I realised it was a trap. She convinced my hubby that I loved my own mum most and did not show any respect to her. So he came back and the topic of daughter in laws being disrespectful to their MILs kept creeping up every now and then. Despite expaining my predicament to him, he did not take my side. So one day when we were having our lunch - a video came on where a MIL was cleaning the floor and her DIL wanted to pass. The MIL's eyes were half shut and she by mistake put the dirty rug on her DILs feet and the DIL started shouting and called her hubby who started to scold the poor MIL. My hubby turned to me and asked - Do you think that is her real mum or MIL? My throat was welling up with tears and the roti refused to get swallowed. I did not reply. I had had enough of that topic. The third time he asked the question - I could handle my anger no longer. With tears in my eyes I left my roti and went to the kitchen - I think I banged my hands on the dinner table first - banged utensils in the kitchen - hit my son - lost control (told my husband that they should kill all the DILs in the house as they are totally evil and useless ) and picked up my coat and went out for a long long walk to the shops and walked for 3 hours until I cooled down. On the way I was regretting that I had not picked up any money as I would have done my shopping too. ( He was back from work and needed a rest - so he had to look after my son. He had to clear my uneaten food up and then I came back feeling much cooler) The topic was never ever brought up again in our home. (The issue is still unresolved as the story now is that my parents teach me in secret to not greet my in-laws) Thinking about the whole episode 2 years later and placing myself in my SILs shoes - I could easily have stopped the whole mess if I just had been assertive enough and demanded an explanation as to why I have been ignored in the first place. Problem solved. Thats what I think anyway.

When you are stuck in all directions, then you have to rely on yourself to sort out your problems. I was sort of a slave to my MIL for 4 years until I came to live with my sister in law and this opened my eyes completely. My MIL was totally different here. She got chased off watching the T.V and she never interfered in the couples conversation. She retreated in to her room often when she tried to initiate a conversation with my sis in law. With me, I was dead scared of her when I lived with my MIL. I did everything she told me and I still got insulted. Nothing was enough. I got told other girls - married girls were so sweet - were able to finish their tasks and still be smiling and energetic. They cooked better than me. In my sis in laws house she ate dhaal and roti - whereas with me I was always stuck in the kitchen cooking. MY SIS IN LAW RULED OVER THE LADY WHO TERRIFIED ME!!! How was that possible? The article below expalins the power of no.............. It is psychological article which will benefit many. At the end of the day we forget that people will treat us the way we let them treat us. (The girls who were totally obedient to their parents before they got married and obeyed every command and got told - wow you are the best, are the ones I realised who suffer the most. This is because they dont realise the power of no. NO is POWERFUL. Learn to use it. It is a skill. I use it now - and that is what helps me survive. ( It is hard to use - but it rewards ultimately) I do my duty - cooking, serving, going to work but not to the extent that it hurts me. I am important and I give myself time off. I need it and I take it off. I say NO no matter whatever the consequences maybe - even insults. The insults from doing the work and hurting yourself are totally equal. So why not do the work - and also benefit yourself. (Note this does not involve shunning your duties and being lazy. It simply means being assertive) Read this beautiful article and reap the benefits. https://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/201310/the-power-no

Would you please let me know the ang which this shabad is from. Many thanks.

look at this thread too. This is the Guru's advice that you should say Waheguru as much as possible. Feel the goodness of God and be positive. You are lucky to have taken amrit. You are lucky to be studying. YOu are lucky to have got a partner to marry - many millions dont get one. http://www.sikhsangat.com/index.php?/topic/77495-marriage-fail-taking-off-daastarran/page-3 Remember dhukh daru sukh rog paya. When we have dhukh we remember God better and wholly. When we are blessed with peace we tend to forget to pray and start enjoying life.

Dear sister, you arenot alone who has gone through this. The start of any marriage is very hard. Many others go through this. Just say waheguru as much as you can during the day - your negative thoughts will start to become better. When I had a hard time and felt exactly like what you feel - my mum always said - this hard time will pass and sukh will come later. When you get dukh in a marriage first - sukh will come later and you will then be able to concentrate on your prayer properly. At the moment just do as much simran as you can during the day esp. when they are telling you bad things - say waheguru and you will feel better and their things wont hurt you as much.