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If you have done psychology then you must be familiar with *desensitisation *flooding errmmm Not really i think ive forgotton lol

maybe to be confident a bit of arrogance is needed because in order to speak in front of people YOU need to believe that what your saying is correct..............try practicing in front of a mirror or something...............maybe she is staring at you cos she likes you or admires you or maybe you could bloody ask her lol................ yep i think you hit the nail on the head. ive started to speak softly for some reason. ie when im with threads i have a deepish voice . but when i comes to speaking in this training class my voice becomes very soft. im afriad if i speak loudly i will come across as arrogant. but maybe that is what is needed. the girl in question is just an attention seeker. i think she may have a crush on me. now that everyone has heard my presentaion. now im just afraid of doing a really good one becuase they are not use to hearing me talk confidently. maybe the reason im talking softly is becuase these two girls are intimidating me. i know it sounds funny. but im scared of a couple of girls. one is 30 and the other who i dont like is 18. its got to the stage where im so low on confidence a couple of girls are making me feel scared of them unitentionaly. they havent done or said anything. apart from the the 18 yr old. she said i was low on confidence? is she trying to diss me or what?? sometimes through peoples body language we can tell how confident they are. I think that you have a lack of faith in youself. Stop caring what othe people think about you.When those thoughts come up, you could try thinking about all the people, family, relatives, friends, that love you, accept you, "approve" of you, and care about you unconditionally. I guess it makes you remember that you safely belong somewhere already, and counteracts the thoughts of wanting other people's approval. Works for me. i think most people feel like this to some degree I certainly have. I approach it in two ways the first is mental discipline. The constant thoughts of concern about others opinions need to be kept in check. If you are conscious and aware of them you are able to ignore them, let them subside, carry on regardless, focus on the task in hand and consistency will help you move away from them so they are more balanced. The second approach I have is, why I am concerned, why do I care. Is it a mental habit that I have these thoughts? Is it because I want to please everyone as we all know this is impossible. Am I protecting my image, my ego? All the best :TH: Forgive me if i have offended in the above wjkk wjf yep i see what your saying. i remember when my family ect was alot more stable. and in turn that made me a very reassured and confident person. but since the family has kinda fallen apart i feel less stable. and more hurt at peoples comments an my confidence has suffered. also the fact that i was mostly at home last year due to a health issue is probably another factor. the girl in question i dont know if she is trying to diss me or whatever. all i know is that i feel uncomfortable around her. she has some kind of power over me. if she just gives me one look its enough to spoil my day. i dont know why im letting her affect me in this way ive probably become to over sensitive. maybe becuase im so low on confidence at the moment this girl can have this affect on me. it would take me 20 seconds to put this girl straight and she would never look at me again. but im not sure i should since she's mot exactly said anything to me bad. apart from these stares. she stares at everyone though.

maybe to be confident a bit of arrogance is needed because in order to speak in front of people YOU need to believe that what your saying is correct..............try practicing in front of a mirror or something...............maybe she is staring at you cos she likes you or admires you or maybe you could bloody ask her lol................ yep i think you hit the nail on the head. ive started to speak softly for some reason. ie when im with threads i have a deepish voice . but when i comes to speaking in this training class my voice becomes very soft. im afriad if i speak loudly i will come across as arrogant. but maybe that is what is needed. the girl in question is just an attention seeker. i think she may have a crush on me. now that everyone has heard my presentaion. now im just afraid of doing a really good one becuase they are not use to hearing me talk confidently. maybe the reason im talking softly is becuase these two girls are intimidating me. i know it sounds funny. but im scared of a couple of girls. one is 30 and the other who i dont like is 18. its got to the stage where im so low on confidence a couple of girls are making me feel scared of them unitentionaly. they havent done or said anything. apart from the the 18 yr old. she said i was low on confidence? is she trying to diss me or what??

sita girl i dont get that. im the shyest person? i dont have trouble leaving my house. ive checked that out before. ive done psychology for A level ect. the problem is when im with friends im fine . but when it comes to speaking out loud in class. my heartbeat starts beating really fast and i wish i could run out of the room. its got to the point where people are noticing it. this girl has commented on it. saying that when my confidence goes i just go quiet. it doesnt help with her staring at me like a hawk though.

Look at what's holding you back, the reasons you have to be shy...first, is it excessive to the point that it holds you back from important things in life? You have to look at the significance/importance of the things that make you shy, maybe theyre insecurities, being overly self conscious, realistically, would ppl even notice those things? If they do, is it that big of a deal? You've prolly seen similar things in other ppl but have they left a lasting impression on you?? Put yourself in the other persons shoes and you'll see there's really nothing to be shy over :TH: But, like Papi said, being shy isnt a bad thing either, as long as it's not excessive...because those overly confident, loud mouth, attention seeking ppl start getting on ppls nerves real quick too :nihungsmile: Good luck and dont give a s*^T% thanks. well im having trouble on my work/training. when the trainer ask me a question i just freeze. even though i only have to give a simple answer. its not that i dont know it. i just feel my heart beating and i would rather be anywhere but that room. im starting to feel embarrased about it. becuase people must be thinking this guy cant string a sentence together. when that is not the case. the trainer asked my . 'what is stress? a simple question. and i could even answer it which is why i feel ashamed of myself. i dont know why ive become like this. im also getting maybe a bit paranoid. becuase i dont like pople staring at me. which happens alot becuase im a good looking guy joke lol but on a serious note theres this girls who keeps looking at me. i dont know if she's giving me dity looks or what.

im shy

thanks for all the advice. im following all the advice at the moment. hopefully it will get better.

i think it is very good to see a Sikh in the english cricket team. but i just found that ravi bopara is also a Sikh. i thought he was a Hindu. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ravinder_Bopara

i don thik so

ithink not.

to be with him and not to follow the rehats and principles of Sikhism????...........lol................thats making a mockery of Faith itself noo

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i think

unis are full of muslims ive heard. sikh and hindu girls chose to have these people as friends. before you know it the girl is wearing a ninja outfit lol and leaves home the problem can be solved easily. alls Sikh women need to do is stop converting.

ive sent you a pm with my number. i know you dont know me. but if you need to talk to someone then ill be here for you.

is that really true though? how comes i havent seen this on the news? if this is the case then the Sikh womene need to start reporting this to the police. so it doesnt happen to anymore more girls.

well basically im suffereing from constipation. ive never had this before. but i know why ive got it suddenly is becuase i read that if you become inactive physicaly. you can get it. which fits my description becuase of a health issue i wasnt able to move around that much. im just worried about the concequences of it. is it permenant? and will it keep comming back?

well today he had one of them hands free kits and was listening on his ear phones. ive been brought up not to associate with muslims.

okay

we should respect everyones religion

could be

the real problem is sikh and hindu girls these days dont care what religion their bf is. and they dont mind converting either. its a really bad situation and theres not alot we can do. plus sikh and hindu girls dont like being with sikhs. ive heard things like sikh girls saying sikh guys just go to clubs and drink and are bad. while muslim boys are good boys <admin-profanity filter activated>??? why these girls convert and are willing to leave their own families/flesh and blood for some muslim i havent got a clue. you wouldnt get muslim girls doing this. i think its starts at a young age. parents have to teach their kids about their religion but most importantly about morals and decent behaviour. im very worried about the next generation. most girls are to westernised it wont be long till inter religious marrriages are the norm. ie in 20 yrs time.

i think some sikh girls have become sikhsism worst enemy. they are directly responsible for the situation we are in today. if it wasnt for them converting. out population would be going up. but instead they are enlarging the already high muslim population. i dont think muslims directly have a mindset of converting. they just use these girls. most wouldnt want to marry a sikh girl becuase there family and themselves would see the girl as firstly a slag and secondly not a proper muslim. the ones that do convert probably marry those druggy type muslims who no one wants but except for the dumb sikh girl. who will give up everything to be in some council house and wear a hijab and say salaams all the time lol and anyway when they convert they are the ones that will end up regretting it. and wishing they could come back into sikhsim again. i perosnaly feel some sikh girls deserve to be killed! not only do they discrace themselves butt they discrace us all with their actions. i rmember there was a time i would walk the streets with my head held up high but after hearing these stories i feel ive lost someting.