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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh, I need help in saying I don’t want the relationship anymore or to end it but without insulting myself or hurting the other person. ok so there was this guy who proposed to me and I said yes because he wore a turban, doesn’t cut hair, is respectful and has a good career. He is from another caste but that didn’t affect me much, i knew it will for my parents with old mentality but I know I’d convince them. Being in a relationship for about 7 months but known each other for a couple months more because used to chat. We only met like 3 times only. He told me he rejected many girls because thinkings don’t match and thinks our does but Only I know they don’t match based on Sikhi or many other things our thinkings don’t match. I just go along with him agreeing on his thinking to not create fights or anything but deep down I don’t like it. I took Sri Hukamnama Sahib once for him thinking if it is positive it is a yes from Guru Sahib Ji to keep him and if not then no. I got it a little negative ( no Bani is negative but what I mean is Guru Sahib Ji weren’t happy not a Parsanta wala Sri Hukamnama Sahib) so it means it’s a no. Now I don’t know to say this to him or to back off so I don’t waste his time or hurt him. I am stressed about how to tell him. My friend told me to lie that your dad isn’t saying yes (he know my mom knows and his family knows about me just spoke over the phone with them only ). I am worried about insulting myself (he might say crap to me or his family will since it’s been a while together). I am worried about lying too because his family including hum might hate my dad for no reason. Also, he might say fight with dad or explain to him and fight for love. Please help me what should I do?

My marriage is struggling and on the stage of divorce. I have been praying to Guru sahib to save it as he is the only creator and destroyer. I have full faith in guru sahib that he will listen my ardas and no matter what stage we're at guru sahib is watching and will surely save his Sikhs honor as my partner has been mislead. I took a vaak from the gutka after nitnem. I just needed help finding translations please.

so .....heres the deal ,i took a hukam from mahraj.Here it is: DnwsrI mhlw 1 ] Dhanaasaree, First Mehl: shij imlY imilAw prvwxu ] That union with the Lord is acceptable, which is united in intuitive poise. nw iqsu mrxu n Awvxu jwxu ] Thereafter, one does not die, and does not come and go in reincarnation. Twkur mih dwsu dws mih soie ] The Lord's slave is in the Lord, and the Lord is in His slave. jh dyKw qh Avru n koie ]1] Wherever I look, I see none other than the Lord. ||1|| gurmuiK Bgiq shj Gru pweIAY ] The Gurmukhs worship the Lord, and find His celestial home. ibnu gur Byty mir AweIAY jweIAY ]1] rhwau ] Without meeting the Guru, they die, and come and go in reincarnation. ||1||Pause|| so guru krau ij swcu idRVwvY ] So make Him your Guru, who implants the Truth within you, AkQu kQwvY sbid imlwvY ] who leads you to speak the Unspoken Speech, and who merges you in the Word of the Shabad. hir ky log Avr nhI kwrw ] God's people have no other work to do; swcau Twkuru swcu ipAwrw ]2] they love the True Lord and Master, and they love the Truth. ||2|| qn mih mnUAw mn mih swcw ] The mind is in the body, and the True Lord is in the mind. so swcw imil swcy rwcw ] Merging into the True Lord, one is absorbed into Truth. syvku pRB kY lwgY pwie ] God's servant bows at His feet. siqguru pUrw imlY imlwie ]3] Meeting the True Guru, one meets with the Lord. ||3|| Awip idKwvY Awpy dyKY ] He Himself watches over us, and He Himself makes us see. hiT n pqIjY nw bhu ByKY ] He is not pleased by stubborn-mindedness, nor by various religious robes. GiV Bwfy ijin AMimRqu pwieAw ] He fashioned the body-vessels, and infused the Ambrosial Nectar into them; pRym Bgiq pRiB mnu pqIAwieAw ]4] God's Mind is pleased only by loving devotional worship. ||4|| piV piV BUlih cotw Kwih ] Reading and studying, one becomes confused, and suffers punishment. bhuqu isAwxp Awvih jwih ] By great cleverness, one is consigned to coming and going in reincarnation. nwmu jpY Bau Bojnu Kwie ] One who chants the Naam, the Name of the Lord, and eats the food of the Fear of God gurmuiK syvk rhy smwie ]5] becomes Gurmukh, the Lord's servant, and remains absorbed in the Lord. ||5|| pUij islw qIrQ bn vwsw ] He worships stones, dwells at sacred shrines of pilgrimage and in the jungles, Brmq folq Bey audwsw ] wanders, roams around and becomes a renunciate. min mYlY sUcw ikau hoie ] But his mind is still filthy - how can he become pure? swic imlY pwvY piq soie ]6] One who meets the True Lord obtains honor. ||6|| Awcwrw vIcwru srIir ] One who embodies good conduct and contemplative meditation, Awid jugwid shij mnu DIir ] his mind abides in intuitive poise and contentment, since the beginning of time, and throughout the ages. pl pMkj mih koit auDwry ] In the twinkling of an eye, he saves millions. kir ikrpw guru myil ipAwry ]7] Have mercy on me, O my Beloved, and let me meet the Guru. ||7|| iksu AwgY pRB quDu swlwhI ] Unto whom, O God, should I praise You? quDu ibnu dUjw mY ko nwhI ] Without You, there is no other at all. ijau quDu BwvY iqau rwKu rjwie ] As it pleases You, keep me under Your Will. nwnk shij Bwie gux gwie ]8]2] Nanak, with intuitive poise and natural love, sings Your Glorious Praises. ||8||2| So i just wanted help in deciphering the meaning of the vaakh and help in undersatnding what maharaj wants to convey to me /tell me.....i mean i do kinda understand it (not fully tho) so i just need a conformation as to whether what i hv in mind is right . Also another thing is that i've been doing vichaar on some of the things mentioned in the hukam also hv been watching some Basics of Sikhi street parchar video which have the same vichaars in them ( about the oneness and other stuff also mentioned in the hukam and also going around in my brain,in Basics of Sikhi vids and also in my vichaars,so.....? ?) a little help plzz

Wjkk wjkf Please pray for the chardikala of my marriage and save it from a terrible ending. What paath should I read. Please help sangat ji, waheguru ji resides within his sangat

Wjkk Wjkf I have been having issues with living with my parents over the past years, it has been effecting my wife and I mentally alot, my kids are also getting older and are aware of issues. I know my parents are stressed too. It's gone to a level where my parents are involing my in laws and now one of my siblings does not talk to me. Im thinking that I should move out, although I'm in 2 mins so I did a Hukamnama http://www.sikhnet.com/shabad-printer/2986 Please can anyone tell me what Guruji saying. Thanks

SSA to all. Recently ive been wanting to do paath and include it in my daily routine but im not sure where to start? I am a university student and im very depressed, i also cant read or write in the punjabi language which is making it even more difficult for me to do paath. As of right now, i just play the live kirtan from youtube to help relax myself during the day and before bed. I understand that it is important not only to recite paath but to fully understand it too. Can you please help me, where should i start? how often should i do paath? what should i listen to, try reciting and remembering?

Sadh Sangat Jio please can you tell me which Shabad I should do to ensure Waheguru Ji keeps my children safe and well. I am always worrying about them dying, coming in any sort of harm etc. Please help. Desperate mum.

ਵਾਹਿਗੁਰੂ ਜੀ ਕਾ ਖਾਲਸਾ ਵਾਹਿਗੁਰੂ ਜੀ ਕੀ ਫਤਹਿ I'm really confused about Harnam Dhumma. Is he Jathedar? At first he's been meeting with the anti Sikh Akali Dal and now he has sent a letter (along singh Nihang Jathedars) to Akal Takt to kick Clown ? Nidar (RSS guy in the UK pretending to be a Nihang Singh) out the Panth! Hypocrisy. His chele have reasntly atacked Nihang Singh Fauja at Mehta Chownk! Please help me.

WGJDK WGJDF Khalsa ji, i will be writing a book which has my views , question and answers , details ,resources and activity about sikhi .So, i request you to give me some questions about sikhi which i can answer in the book (you can also give answers ),topics i should give my views on in the book(you can give ur views too) ( i dont want people to fight because of different opinions so please dont do that )( even controversial topics) ,resources , activities,saakhis ,sikh stories (any good story with sikhs in it)that i can write about in my book . I wont write your names in the book though (not even usernames) ( privacy 100 %).Please help your brother in this mission. Also you can give me suggestions for the title of the book.if you have any doubts you can post below and ask me i will surely reply.I will see your suggestions and select from them . I hopee you will like this thanks, love, bhul chuk maaf peace Regards Daas Guest Singh WGJDK WGJDF KHUSIAAN DE JAIKARE GAJAVE NIHAAL HO JAAAVE, NIHAAL HO JAVE ,NIHAAL HO JAVE ,NIHAAL HO JAAVE ,BAIRI NU BHAJNA PAVE , KALGIDHAR SWAMI SAHIB SRII GURU GOBIND SINGH JI DE MAAN NU BHAAVE ,SHAHIDAAN SINGHAAN SINGHNIAAN DE MAN NU BHAAVE NANAK GURU GOBIND SINGH DE MANAN NU BHAAVE NIHAAL HO JAAAAAAAAVE SAT SRII AKAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAL

Any gurdwara there? Heard that all religions are banned there or something?! Going there in summer for few months

Ever since i was little I've always been scared of the dark and i still have to sleep with the light on cuz its scary and what if a monster or ghost is going to get me so i have to keep a look out for them. What do i do?

I am amritdhari, my eyebrows are pretty bushy and a monobrow too, sometimes I want to just trim them but I refrain myself. Are there any way I can make them naturally look better?

Is this place an actually Sangat or is it just a forum, do we have dedicated educated spiritual Sikhs on here or all like me are manmukh

vaheguru jee ka vaheguru jee kee fateh iam singh in uk and i'm in my late teens i am amritdhari and i face a huge pornography addiction iknw its wrong but i really need help iam scared of telling anyone cuzz i know ill be judged. its an addiction its not even jus hindering my sikhi but its ls also making me fail my a levels. cuzz of the pornography addiction i cant complete my assignments and iam failing and my parents just think iam lazy thats why iam failing as humble brother i need in the dark age of kalyug can anyone help me please i would reallly appreciate vahegurooo jee kak khalsa vaehguroo jee kee fateh

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I'm finding it hard to type but I am forcing myself. I'm thinking this is a dumb idea but I know how important sangat is now,especially because I have no friends. I hope you don't find this post boring. I am sorry ahead of time if you do. I suffer from anxiety. I can't tell you what type it is. Everyday is mental and emotional torture. It feels as if someone is taking my brain and heart and twisting it like a wet cloth. I also feel the need to be accepted and validated by others. I also have a very, very low self esteem. I'm a 30 something loner who goes to work and comes home to his wife and child. I don't have a social life. I'm sometimes socially awkward and have a hard time making friends. I find it difficult to trust people. I have memories of being sexually molested by my father when I was young. I told my family and there has been a bad communication break down. I believe based on the responses they do not believe me. A lot of the issues I face today come from that experience I sincerely believe. I used to think my identity and happiness would come from my career and I set out to do what I always enjoyed. While I started it I am happy to do it but I am overall the same mess. I started to read the SGSS in English. My Punjabi is weak and Gurmukhi non existent but I am finding the English translation helpful. I wish I could remember more of it after reading. I try to listen to simran in the car on those long drives. I guess I'm posting to be involved and have more sangat. I am being selfish here. But I am a nice guy. I'm a little boy trapped inside a man's body. Just trying to find his way. I'm a little lost. I need someone to take my hand. Sometimes that's how I feel. I'm embarrassed to say that because I am a father and husband. I look at others and feel bad about myself. I think I should have things figured out but I don't. I'm just a lost boy.

Even though I thought that doubt was about to leave and I was walking towards Guru Sahib, an hour ago I read a comment saying that is not true and it is a dumb concept made to fool us Please really need help. Last post was on the same topic but need more replies. Have any of you gone through this doubt? What is God? How do we meet God? And does the soul live after death?

Waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh i just want to spill my heart out that today after our kirtan smagam at an university i was randomly asked by someone to do ardas afterwards I answered with a yes. But when i satrted doing ardas after kirtan i was blank i forget the ardas I don’t know how and completed it all on a very bad note. It was very humiliating for me that I can’t even do an ardas being an amritdhari sikh i should have done it smoothly but I can’t and moreover as i do ardas for karah prasad no one was there i waited and again repeat it but no one came which turns the things into more blunder. Everyone was laughing at me afterwards, some were disappointed, some were angry, everyone was pointing at me. So all this leads to shake my self confidence, my inner peace. I can’t even have courage to go to the kirtan smagam and do kirtan next week as every Tuesday it was held. I dont know what to do i just want to share this all with sonebody so i just posted.

Hello, I am 21, since i was 15 my life has gone downhill. I am not a baptised Sikh. I have a rare skin disease which has left my back and other parts of my body heavily scarred and difficult to even look at. I broke my leg months before my GCSE exams and was bed ridden for months, even now my knee is not completely fine. I have OCD (not the fake ocd like you see in social media) where I have horrible intrusive thoughts 24/7 and I find it difficult to even do prayers. I have done prayers for the past year every day in the morning. I used to recite chaupai sahib but now can only listen as my intrusive thoughts say bad things about the Guru and Waheguru so I'm too ashamed to recite it, I also try to say thanks and ask for help from the Guru and Waheguru and I do Naam Simran and Mool Mantar. Things just keep getting worse. My 'manhood' is also below average. Due to all of these things adding up I've put on a lot of weight as I can't motivate myself to do anything and I feel so cursed. I cry most days and constantly think of suicide. I have tried asking for help on other forums but they all think I am a troll which just pushes me closer to ending it all. I will never be able to enjoy my life and do things a normal man would. things keep getting worse for me. I have been to Gurdwara's in India and have asked for help from the Guru and Sikh Saints. Nothing is helping. If anyone can explain why this is happening and the best way to rid myself of most of this I would be greatful. I know to be a Sikh you must accept Waheguru's decisions but I find it difficult as my life is falling apart. Please someone help. WJKK WJKF

Dear All ive had a tough life- never been married, rejected so many times that I believe I am not good enough to love or be loved. Have had a good career but so many ups and downs that I am tired fighting 1. can I do something to get a stable life? 2. Why does this keep happening to me? I know its Gurus parshad but it pains and i

Wjkk, Wjkf sangat ji, My siblings and I sat our parents down for a serious conversation about their health. They’re getting older & they need to be eating healthier. My dad said that his body isn’t healthy if his food has ਬੈਅ. My question is.. ** WHAT IS ਬੈਅ? Pronunciation: B with short A sound [ back without the ck ] It would be great if someone could let me know what this translates to in English, please. That way, we can do better when we prepare our parents meal plans. As of right now, my parents & other uncles/aunties have given vague explanations of the word ਬੈਅ. (I’m told Fauja Singh said he doesn’t eat things with ਬੈਅ) Thank you, Wjjk, Wjkf

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh! Basics of Sikhi urgently needs help, it only has enough money to last 3-4 months! Basics of Sikhi has helped spearhead Parchaar of Sikhi online. The parent organization “Everythings 13” has multiple projects which include not only Parchaar, but also training the first generation of western Parchaariks, creating content for the children of the Panth, countering anti Sikh propaganda in the media, and spreading the message of Sikhi to the world. Organizations such as Basics of Sikhi are currently playing an important role in the survival of the Sikh Dharam. Basics of Sikhi is more important than any single Gurdwara, because without organizations such BoS, there won’t be anyone to use all these big and fancy Girdwara’s that we like to throw money at. It’s time to invest in the community, which will only generate more returns in the future! Basics of Sikhi had a very major role in my, and many other Sikhs lives. I know for a fact that if it wasn’t for that famous Jagraj vs Dhawa Man video, that I would have never be inspired to become a Sikh, and would just be some Punjabi Boi who plays video games on YouTube. I personally know a lot of Sikhs and families who had their entire lives changed by BoS. I am not getting paid to say this message, I’m just an average Sikh who is trying to do my part. It is my request that you all donate to Basics of Sikhi. If you don’t have the money, then try to donate your time, but in both cases, please share this message EVERYWHERE!

Well I just got some nihung banas made from India but the problem is that from where the buttons end (waist level) the bana is open around the legs i.e 2 pieces which overlap and one end keep flapping about (since there are no buttons) and if doing gatka it exposes the kachera from the front due to this fact. Are their any nihung banas which don't have the central split from groin area below as i would like to get some but need some help.

WJKK WJKF, I used to suffer from porn and masturbation problem, just wondering if this requires pesh and what'll have to say to panj pyare etc.?

WJKK WJKF ji, I'm an international student in US who used to be a really good student in Science. I came here to study strong fields of Computer Science which required to sell all property we had in India and also take debt. My parents only saw my dreams and sold all the property. After coming in the US, (I got into a few prestigious universities like UWaterloo) but chose an affordable one. The university is really for-money only and no education was found. I felt like cheated but couldn't do anything. I had no idea which University I should transfer to. I felt confused. I accepted it as Maharaj's Bhaana and attended this college. It's going to be almost an year. Really bad things happened with me I asked so many professors that I'm doing a research in making a device for blind people and various other interests I shared. All of them heavily discouraged me all the time. In classes, I was pointed out all the time. The professors wanted me to praise them for some reason, I felt like. All my internal peace and confident got murdered. This semester, I went through a financial hardships. I am only eating once in 2 days since the last 3 months. I've been trying really really hard to stay alright. But the professors killed all my confidence and self esteem. I have exams coming up and I'm so low I couldn't even study. Everything is failing. I have no idea what to do. I got a job but the Starbucks manager asked me to cut my beard which is hard although I used to trim it before. Everytime I try, the financial issue always comes up. I felt like I couldn't tie turban. I'm so poor after paying thousands of dollars in international & out-of-state tuition. I really wanted to ask my veer and bhenjis to please suggest me something. I'm really going through tough time. I've been in a situation where a large part of my funding is taken while returned nothing in education. I've been murdered internally. Please help.