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I am a sikh girl who started to keep her head covered a few years back but now ive really begun to hate it as i cant do anything/wear anything etc. I still love god but my family is against me uncovering my head. Please help because this has become a burden which is making me depressed. Im so sorry

WJKK WJKF https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DuY6LCTSG1s In the video after the very short Satnam Waheguru Jaap, they sing a little shabad before Aarta. It has the word 'Maharaj' in there. If you know which shabad it is, please tell me so I can include it when I do Aarta too as it is a beautiful shabad especially with the melody they are singing it in. WJKK WJKF

Is there any gurdwara for couples having problems in their marriage? Eg go there to do seva or ardas to help the relationship I know of gurdwara in India where u go do ardaas for finding partner or having baby but wat about this

I heard that 2 white people wrote a book about their experience during intense meditation (tap). The basic story that I heard about it was that these 2 people were very close friends, and were searching for the truth in this world. They decided that whatever remains at the very end of this world will must be the truth. Thus, they both decided to continuously do tap and have a race. The race was between whoever could find out the truth first before the other. One of them found what lasted eternally and described his experience. There was the singing of kirtan (From what I remember from how these people described the singing, I figured it may be kirtan) , and all of the males there all had beards and long hair. However, I explicitly remember hearing that the person who had this experience wrote that he was not allowed entry to this place, but I forget the reasons given to him as to why. Firstly, I am sorry for the terrible description of the book. This happened 2 years ago, where I heard about this so some details are forgotten and may be inaccurate. I write about this now since because I remembered it after reading the "Life transformation Books" post. I wanted to know, does anyone know the name of this book, or any information regarding it. Also, what do you think about the authenticity, if you do know or have read it. I think these people got a glimpse of Sachkhand, maybe as a result of their tap and karams.

ਸਾਚੁ ਕਹੌ ਸੁਨ ਲੇਹੁ ਸਭੈ ਜਿਨ ਪ੍ਰੇਮ ਕੀਓ ਤਿਨ ਹੀ ਪ੍ਰਭੁ ਪਾਇਓ ॥ When I listened to this, i got really emotional and questioned myself, what is love towards guru sahib, do i have that love within myself, is what I have right now real love, how does one love the truth

WJKK WJKF I have been having amritvela issues ever since I broke my sleep routine. The reason we don't wake up is because oh it's too comfortable in the bed and we just drift off asleep. Some of us wait like 5 minutes in the bed and randomly drift off asleep. Some of us wake up and say 5 minutes and we realize 4 hours have passed. This all comes down to what time we sleep, what we eat before we sleep and the amount of effort we put in to initially waking up, right? It's sort of like that. We have 6 sleep cycles. One in which there is a light sleep and if we wake up during that cycle we will be fully refreshed. So yesterday I came across this app named "Sleep Cycle". I didn't read anything I just set my alarm to 2:30 AM to 3:00 AM. I put the alarm volume high and then slept. 2:30, the alarm starts. I am angry and immediately rush to turn it off (it turns off with one tap). I fall asleep again angry. The snooze time will then determine the movement of when you disable the alarm clock and add on snooze time. When the snooze time is over the alarm comes on again, but this time for some weird reason you will quickly disable the alarm but you will notice you are fully awake. Link to the app: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.northcube.sleepcycle&hl=en_GB

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh. I have taken Amrit 4.5 years back and tried to follow everything from Rehat Maryada. Before starting daily errands, I take a bath and do the Nitnem. I am a software engineer and as a part of my job, I have a hackathon organized in my company, wherein we are required to work for around 24 - 30 hours continuously. I won't be able to take bath on Sunday morning in the company but can do Nitnem in the cabin through my laptop/phone. I went through Rehat Maryada and it is clearly written there that I should take a bath before doing Nitnem. What should I do in such situation? At one side I feel that I should fight with the company to leave me on Saturday night, this could affect my relationship with the company and on another side, it seems washing and cleansing face and hands should also do.

I am currently amritdhari and keeping amritvela with maharaj Kirpa. However I make big mistakes that I regret occasionally. Kaam is a big one for me. 2 years ago, I was masturbating daily or every other day. However now it is every 4-5 months with maharaj's kirpa. I just did it again today , after 5 months and I feel so ashamed. It hurts when I imagine how Vaheguru ji is always present and watching when I was being a disgrace. I tried to tell my mind that I was being watched when doing it but Kaam completely overtook my mind. It was such a strong urge. I feel to do that I need more abhiyas to destroy it. That's why I thought of doing a few all nighters doing simran/path in conditions where sleep will be restricted to get rid of it permanently once and for all. My concern is that what if I am not able to pull it off, my entire sleep schedule for amritvela would be ruined it would take a while to start up again. Also I have school and I am in grade 11 but grade 11 and 12 are the years that can really shape your future career, so I do not want numbers to drop either. Also, where I sleep is not a suitable spot to do all night simran because people come up and downstairs where I sleep all the time and I do not want anyone to know about it . There is a room upstairs but I do not want to use it until I am sure everyone is asleep at 11 usually whereas I sleep at 8. That is where I need Sangats advice on what to do.

So I'm at 17 year old male amritdhar, so I've abstained from porn and masutrbation for about 4 months but lately my old habits of masutrbation and watching porn are coming back and i feel so devestated after watching porn and masutrbating, I know it's wrong but sometime I can't seem to controll, I do japji sahib path and ardass after each time I do masturbate and watch porn. How can I stop myself from feeling devestated and stop myself from this bad habit?

I wish i found this earlier. It would have been helpful a long time ago. For people who have problems with kaam sant ji explains what we lack. We need to recognize god is watching us every second. The next time you find yourself overwhelmed by lust and are about to lose control, try to apply this scenario. So the procedure 1. Pick a sant mahapurkh (a real sant) that you respect a lot (for me i am going to use sant jarnail singh ji khalsa) 2.When you find yourself overwelmed about to lose control and act in lust, imagine that sant/ mahaprurkh standing behind you watching you. 3. Ask yourself if you would be comfortable performing this action in front sant ji if you were to meet them right now. 4. Imagine what they would say or do if they discovered what you were doing. That should help control your mind hopefully. You really want to convince yourself that god is always watching your actions as they are. Then eventually you gain more control over your mind because you begin developing fear of god and control your actions better. In sukhmani sahib - ਆਠ ਪਹਰ ਪ੍ਰਭ ਪੇਖਹੁ ਨੇਰਾ ॥ Behold God near at hand, twenty-four hours a day ਮਿਟੈ ਅਗਿਆਨੁ ਬਿਨਸੈ ਅੰਧੇਰਾ ॥ Ignorance shall depart, and darkness shall be dispelled. The rest is in doing more naam/ gurbani/ sewa. Also, abandon "bad" sangat. Sangat is a big factor, especially since youth spend so much time at school with other kids. You could have the potential to be a great gursikh, but could have been ruined because of the sangat you kept. You should be able to tell the difference "good" and "bad". If it is a school enviroment, it may be hard to find good sangat, and you may have to isolate yourself because everyone around is bad sangat. In that case contact "good" sikhs and keep their sangat as much as you can afterschool, and keeping do simran/path at school quietly, while ignoring 'bad' sangat. You could probably find good sangat at your local gurduwara. This may help you feel less isolated. Meat, alcohol, tobacco increase the strength of 5 vikaars. Avoid them! Taking amrit will help in my opinion, but keep rehat and have faith and do ardas. Also I found this video

WJKK WJKF Sadh sangat ji. My quaestion is how you deal kaam or sex thoughts with your children. today scenario is completely change. Today kids and children talk about sex with each other. like for example : - talk about sex etc etc because now days its very difficult to control over there because of facebook, whatsapp and youtube. but my quastion is how you people or parent teach your child according to gursikh amritdhari and khalsa need your help. regards, Gur sangat kini khalsa

sangat ji I need ur help pleas. I am keep on falling in the trap of kam and then I start to m@$+ür&@+€. I always say I will never ever do it again but I keep on doing it. I have kept rehit for a couple of years and wish to take amrit on the 6th but then I think gurupita will never bestow me amrit because of my actions. Please tell me how should I quit. Thank you

Waheguru je ka khalsa, Waheguru je ke fateh Guru kai piyariou I have gone away from sikhi alot. I got into sikhi 2 years ago, at first i had so much excitement and spent literally every day trying to learn part and memorizing the meanings. I use to wake up at 3am every day, do simran and nitnaim. I learnt to read and write gurmukhi. And can now speak pretty decent punjabi. Everyone was surprised when they found out. Then i dont even know what happened, i got away from sikhi and into my old habits. I stopped waking up at amrit vela, doing part, simran, etc. And i dont even know what happened. I had so much passion for guru ji and i wasted it all on the wine of maya. I have become extremely lazy. I was once half of a gurmukh and now i am a total manmukh. I alway dream that one day i would be a true singh and kill my ego, but i dont know what to do, every effort i make. i am to lazy to follow through on it. My willpower has mostly disappeared. I do ardass and beg to be released from the shakels of myself and duality and realise everything is one Please someone beloved of guru ji help me. I cannot continue like this. I have thoughts of suicide because what is the use of my life if im gonna waste this jewel of a body like this. Also im 16 years old and have kept kesh when my parents and family tryed to discourage me alot. Do you think getting out of the environment i am currently in and into a different one will change me? I convinced my mom to let me go to india for 1 month. I wanted to go there and stay with sants, nihang singhs, or something. So they would force me to wake up at amrit vela and keep rehait, but i dont really know how to find any of them or approach them. Besides that do you think it is worth going to india for this reason? Im Sorry if i rambled on alot. I have kept all of this to myself and have been wanting to tell someone, but couldnt.

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Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh! What is "NAAM"? Gurbani.org in an article basically states that Naam is knowledge Link to article: https://www.gurbani.org/gurblog/gurbani-defines-naam/ While other sources state that Naam is just the name of god. My question is simple: What is "NAAM"??

About 2 years ago if you had met my friend (who I’ll just call singh) you would have thought he Is your average good looking, popular and misbehaving lustful teenage boy. Singh shocked us all recently by leaving all the popularity from girls and abandoning his good looks to becoming an amritdhari singh, so I thought. Sangat ji I’m not amritdhari, nor keshdari but I have respect for guru Jis image. Singh and I before used to chase after girls and go out to party’s, even though the party’s have stoped, he is still talking to girls. true, girls come and talk to him first but it’s so obvious that he is flirting back. He talks to so many girls in a flirty way and they always give him attention vice versa. I just recently went on his phone in sixth from and he’s been talking to this one girl on Snapchat a lot. He still does his nitnem and wakes up amritvela, but his habit of talking to girls hasn’t gone. Sangat ji, please tell me how I can advise him, I don’t want him slipping off the path, I know it’s funny coming from me (a person who isn’t on the path in the first place) but I don’t want him to leave Sikhi over girls, as I have seen this happen in my own family. How can I advise him to stay away from girls, when they are the ones who come and talk to him first or comment on his looks. I’ve known Singh all my life, I don’t want to offend him in anyway. Please help

Guys I'm falling off the path so badly. It was going so well and everything was so good and now even the basics are just so hard someone please help me I'm starting to feel suicidal because if I don't have sikhi then Id rather be dead I can't control my mind from panj Chor anymore the nitnem is just about getting dont get Anand from naam or bani anymore I can't fight or anything anymore it's much worse than just two points help me please

VJKK VJKF Sangat Ji, I want to start taking hukamnamas but I don't know how to take one from the Gurudwara. Can anyone help or talk me through what to do? Vaheguru Ji.

The usual story, she thinks im not ready I've looked for an amrit sanchar for the past 2-3 months and Guru Ji helped me find one What do i do

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When i do saas giras simran, i feel as if there is no body any more and i get scared when i lose the senses for a few moments. I feel only sound and thats it. Once i open my eyes i have to feel my surroundings because i have to get back into the other senses of the body and try to become aware of the world again and if i am here. i get depersonalisation. Can someone help. What is happening to me and what do i do??

At school all my friends have turned their back on me and no one listens to anything I say. I've always been nice to my friends but they just bully me and say I'm too weird to be their friend. Why is Waheguru doing this to me! I do paath and always help others. But now my life is so miserable! I'm a girl in grade 9. Everyday I cry and all I ever hear are rumors about me! No one listens to me and my mom thinks I'm lying! Is Waheguru listening to me? Is there any shabad or paath to help me? I feel so alone and miserable. I have restless nights because I'm scared to wake up and face another terrible day. Sometimes I wish I could just die in my sleep! I cry myself to sleep every night. Even when I do paath it's like Waheguru isn't listening. Please help me, what should I do? I have posted the same thing to another sikhi forum, I would really just like some advice. Thank you so much. Wjkk Wjkf

Greetings everyone. A week ago a came across a beautiful shabad, but lost it now in dhur ki bani app. But i remember its meaning. "When a person is bound to lose by speaking, its better to stay quiet." Jithe .......othe changi chupp If somebody knows atleast a line, plz write the shabad or Ang number. Thnx in advance

Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh! I made this thread as a way to give my own personal tips on how someone can limit the influences of massive increase in Kaam, these being pornography and masturbation, (Note: not doing these 2 does NOT mean you beat Kaam, but that's where the problem is started.) This is also the male version of the problems, I don't know the causes of females going towards these things, so I won't discuss too much on it, but; hopefully I can assist them as well. Also I'm not an expert on any of this stuff, just felt the need since it's a big topic to provide legit assistance. I will be adding more on, the first post is just intro. Some important things to note: 1. Why does someone have Kaam? Since the beginning of time, you have been carrying the power of Haumai, and from Haumai comes the 5 evils, one of these being Kaam and Kaam especially effects us, because of we have usually wanted to stay productive with reproduction and so in possibly many animal lives, we've been having sex like crazy people, these traits carried on till we became human, (which in a way tells us why some people have crazy fetishes). 2. Is Masturbation and Pornography related? My experience on this has been that they are only slightly related, but the reasons for them are different. Porn acts as a depresent; which means it's meant to take something from you; while masturbation happens due to circumstance-based. You can do both exclusively, but due to the nature of porn both usually go together. 3. Is there hope? This is the good news, and something we can be grateful for. That is the blessing of the greatest Dhan Dhan Sri Guru Nanak Dev Ji holding our hands and freeing us from all our past deeds, and gives our life true meaning instead of being Ghulamis to our own problems. The greatness of being a Sikh can not be comprehended into normal thoughts or words, and even Kaam himself surrenders at the name of the blessed Guru. This is just a tiny intro on the basis of the issue, I plan to delve further into it, what my experience has been, why it's not going to be easy, and why there is hope for anyone if there can be hope for someone like me.