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  1. Vaheguru ji ka khalsa Vaheguru ji ki fateh Guru peyareo, I have a serious question, and I have been suffering from this for a long time. I am a young married Singh who for some reason suffers from infertility, or what we call ਨਾਮਰਦੀ in Punjabi. It is a serious disease, and it has a serious impact on both my physical and mental health as well. I am often tired and can't stand for too long. It doesn't matter what I eat(I always try to eat healthy and avoid junk foods) or of I exercise (I do go to the gym), I can't seem to cure this disease. It has an impact on my cognitive skills as well. I have tried taking ginseng pills, shilajit pills, ashwagandha pills, and various other male fertility pills which claim to cure male fertility, but nothing has worked. I often have a very low sperm count, I am often tired, I can't think straight and get confused and lost easily. Male fertility is a serious issue that is growing in several young men. Does anybody know of any cure, please advise. Thank you in advance. Vaheguru ji ka khalsa Vaheguru ji ki fateh
  2. Waheguru ji ka Khalsa Waheguru ji Ki Fateh I am a 20 year old girl living in Canada with my parents. A few years ago, we went to visit family back in India where I met my childhood bestfriend who I grew up playing with (they were our neighbors). When I came back to Canada, we started talking and became really close. When my parents found out I talk to him, they got extremely mad, threatened to kick me out of the house, and said I was gonna ruin their “izzat” in society. I don’t understand what I am doing wrong. I only lived in India for a few years of my life so how is this wrong? My dad says that everyone in same pind are siblings... but we are not related in any way, I am pretty sure my grandparents moved to this pind when they were younger from another place. I have been talking to him for 2 years now and we are each other’s happy place. I don’t know how I get my parents to understand, I have no one to talk to about this. Don’t know what to do. Just found this page, someone please help :(
  3. Hello everyone, I had some questions about gurdwaras matrimonial services. I am 24 yr old sikh male living in UK, only recently started using the matrimonial services. My family are quite religious and well read in sikhi but I admit I am not ,however I love my religion and am essentially using the services as an extra channel in the hope of one day meeting someone. However, I'm a bit confused about something... when i see some of the things on the matrimonial lists; I feel like it kind of defeats the whole messages of our religion. For example, I read some of the preferences of the people on the matrimonial list and they write things like- I am jatt and only seeking jatt, I am doctor only seeking doctor, must be educated above masters. Isn't the whole point of our religion that we are all equal whether it is through caste, social status, social class, occupation etc? I mean I'm no expert but I believe sikhism was created because we didn't believe with the caste system in Hinduism however gurdwaras matrimonial services all over UK are blatantly promoting it. Am I the only one who thinks this way? For example, our religion was created to promote the idea a poor farmer can marry a rich person and still be equals; but the gurdwaras are not even promoting this message, they are allowing this backwards mentality and criteria to continue. Thanks
  4. I finished uni a year ago and although I’ve got a great job I’m feeling lost. I listen to path daily and do as much path as I can but I can’t help feel lost. I’m fairly young 22, and sometimes all I think about is marriage and finding a partner and how I may not be able to find the Sikh girl for myself. I’m a mona but I’m not your typical Punjabi guy. I don’t drink I feel it’s wrong and don’t engage in drugs etc smoking. I workout and look after myself and go gym regularly. But feel somethings missing in my life which is making me feel lost. I know this post seems a bit all over the place but it’s sort of how I currently feel.
  5. Hi loves, As I get older, the thoughts of marriage can’t seem to stop going away. Unfortunately even though I’m Punjabi and a Sikh (still trying to become the best Sikh I could possibly be) I don’t come from a normal Sikh family. We don’t really have contact with our family and my mum is a single mother. My mum is also not religious and she doesn’t care who I marry. We’re also not in a good financial situation. I’m wondering how can I possibly find a Sikh man who can look past that? Because as we know family is quite important in Sikhi. I’ve talked to white men before and a lot of them have liked me and expressed interest in me but whenever I bring up Sikhi they become awkward and want to change the topic. I don’t want to marry a white man who doesn’t care about my religion. Meanwhile most Punjabi men seem to have a negative image of me for whatever reason.
  6. WJKK WJKF It's been brought to my attention that there is an interfaith marriage that is due to take place in a well known London Gurdwara. I want to know what council or group I can report this to so they can initiate preventative action against this Gurdwara that has sold Sikh values for money. Please respond with the highest impact factor groups who can influence this from not going ahead in Gurus house. WJKK WJKF
  7. Some observations: - I recognize a very large number of women who had profiles on there 5-10 years ago (In many instances, their profiles appear to have the same photos ?). Even when I don't recognize a photo, other profile details show that they have been searching for years. For example, there will be a 40 year old women whose profile reads "Hi there! I am 35 years old and recently moved to X to start a new job." Also, most of the profiles are of women in their mid 30s or older. How sad and shocking! I suppose their Knight in Shining Armor still hasn't shown up. - Women in America have updated their income cutoffs. It used to typically be "$100,000 or above" and now most profiles are "125,000 or above" or "150,000 or above". In the UK, they seem to have increased the lower cutoff more modestly from 40k pounds to 50k pounds. - As was the case back then, they are not shy about being EXTREMELY specific about what they require, even though they are looking for a partner from within a tiny population to begin with. For example, 35 year-old women looking for guys who are 35-37, 5'2" women looking for guys who are 5'10"-6'0", women looking for men in very limited geographic areas (where very few Punjabis live), or women looking for men who have very specific occupations.
  8. Guest

    Marriage problem

    Hi, I was just starting this topic for advice. I was in a marriage where my wife and I were really close and did everything together. We have split up now and has completely changed. She has lied about a lot of domestic abuse that didn’t happen and also lied that I used to hit the kids. She’s turned really manipulative towards the courts. This has resulted in a lengthy court application and now I haven’t seen my kids in nearly 3 years and might be the case I won’t see them again. I’ve prayed so many times for peace. I just don’t understand how she keeps getting away with lies. Is there any path I can recite to help lies get exposed? thanks for any advice
  9. waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh ji i am 26 n a half year old and my parents are looking forward to my marriage.. it has been 3 years they have been looking but i am looking forward to amritdhari boy, my parents are not much supportive of this. I met couple of boys in the past but no one was ready, i also have this fear that what if i marry to someone having completely different lifestyle than me because i am keen to move forward in sikhi and not step back.. i am non amritdhari but want to go forward in sikhi, recently i came across one family they said that you can take amrit but after 6 months or a year. Boy isn't recently ready but he says that maybe by seeing me he will too get into this but that would require quite a time. what should i do ji it seem very difficult to decide ?
  10. The age people get married is increasing in the world and Punjab. Sikhs in the past married and started families at much younger ages but today many delay it till their late 20s or early 30s. Recently, India proposed a bill to increase the legal age of women getting married to 21 from 18 while it's already 21 for men. Is it better to get married early like Sikhs of the past or follow the global trend of getting married later?
  11. Hi, This has probably been discussed before but it's something I can't really wrap my head around. I'm a singh with full beard and have cousins who are the same, we are finding it difficult to find Sikh girls as life partners. The ones I've been introduced to have a problem with me not cutting my beard and being vegetarian etc... few have asked me if I would cut my beard etc... this coming from supposedly Sikh girls and it's quite disgraceful. I've had more interest from girls who are not Sikh...i.e Gujarati, English girls etc.. who don't seem to care about me being a full singh, it's raising questions in my head about the future of Sikhi as a whole, our Sikh girls are moving away from our faith/traditions and adopting western values and ways above all. One of my cousins got fed up and cut his beard in the hopes to be more 'accepted', but I feel this is the wrong choice to make. I'd be lying if I said the thought didn't cross my mind but I don't want to move away from Sikhi just to find a wife, but it seems like our Sikh girls are. Suppose this is more of a rant than a question as such.
  12. WJKK WJKF Hello everyone, I have been in a relationship with this guy for 6 years. I am now 23 years old and thinking of marriage. I don’t believe in caste and neither does he. My family come from a Jatt background and his family are chamar. My family do strongly believe in caste, but I was not brought up around it. I didn’t even know about the caste system or different castes until 3 years into my relationship with my boyfriend. He doesn’t have Singh in his name, but I always thought this was because he isn’t apart of the Khalsa. When we first met, he told me he was a Sikh and that was enough for me. I am a Sikh too and have always wanted a Sikh life partner. 3 years into the relationship I learnt about his caste. Even then, I still believed he was a Sikh, so it meant no difference to me. I told my mum about our relationship this year and she asked about his caste. I told her he is a chamar and she told me how they have a different Gurdwara and believe in the Guru Ravidass. I spoke to my boyfriend about this and he told me his family go to a gurdwara that believes in Guru Ravidass and Guru Nanak Dev Ji. They read out of the Guru Granth Sahib Ji and they perform the anand karaj as a wedding ceremony. I have been looking more into what he believes and I’m very confused as to whether he is a Sikh or not. I was hoping someone may know more about this topic and can advise me whether we would be able to do anand karaj in the gurdwara?
  13. There’s a new Sikh matrimonial service on Instagram. I became aware of it because... they sent me a follow request ? If interested: https://instagram.com/british_sikhs_matchmaker?utm_medium=copy_link
  14. Hi Sangat Ji What is the Sikh view of a anand Karaj of a second marriage where the previous partner is still alive? If these can be booked and go through then are we to assume they are in hukam and the first was a karmic relationship which was always going to end? Are the second couple ever really married if the promises were made with the first spouse?
  15. This was discussed a few months back, cant remember the topic but if anyone is looking to get married but does not want to use a typical dating site here you go. This was sent to via LinkedIn in so this a matrimony site for working professionals. http://www.kismetintroductions.com
  16. Vaheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Vaheguru Ji Ki Fateh Thank you all for reading this post. I am currently planning on proposing to my girlfriend. I am a Punjabi staying in the UK and my girlfriend is ethnically Chinese staying in the UK as well. She is very interested in Sikhi and we have discussed it many times. We have even decided that the kids will keep joora and learn bani as well. She is humble and compassionate, and reminds me of the qualities of being a good Sikh by her very nature. She does not keep her kesh, and she is learning Punjabi as well in her spare time. Essentially, she is learning slowly how to be a good Sikh, and I do not want to pressure her. However, we have been getting alot of judgement and hate from the community, especially with all the chugli and gossiping thats been going around. I do not understand their problem - if anything, my girlfriend is a better Sikh than half of them. Anyone has any advice on how I can look past all this hate and negativity? We are not doing anything wrong
  17. Guest

    Unhappily married

    I am so unhappily married. My husband is very rude, selfish, lacks any compassion and his he has a lot of hankar. He comes from a broken family his parents are divorced and it shows, his communication and respect for anything I do or go through is so low- basically he isn’t appreciative or supportive even if I give birth or lose a loved one, he’s not there emotionally. He was shown no love as a child and he isn’t capable of showing love. I don’t want to divorce because it’s going to be tough on my kids and I do not want them ending up twisted like him and his siblings which are a product of divorce. I just feel like I am stuck. I am trying to keep up my sikhi, do Amrit vela, he does nothing so I feel even if I try to better myself and beat my krodh or ego he doesn’t do nothing changes. Am I meant to just accept this is my hukam based on my own karma and keep quiet and deal with it? It’s hard to even have a good mind myself when I am with someone who jus always provoking me.
  18. Guest

    Any gursikh girls?

    Iam born in the uk, 32 years old, self employed living with parents. i am looking to get married, with a gursikh singhni whos first priority is sikhi and gurbani. But will happily live with my parents also and do their seva too. Send me a message if you or know anyone who is looking too
  19. Guest

    Prayers To Get Married

    Dear Sangat Ji, I am hoping to get marrried, I have been praying since I was 25 to find someone. I believe in God, and honestly have survived some near death expereinces recently,and just have a burning desire to get married. I have been unable to find a suitable life partner, is there a prayer or nitnem that I can read that will help me. I am somewhat dukhi as I would like a wife and to start a family. I have never fooled around or anything. I just wanted a familyl. Thank you
  20. Guest

    Matrimony

    Saw an advert for matrimonial website "Lavaan" on instagram. Is any one using it? First time I'd heard of it.
  21. Its been couple of years since my marriage. In this few years I have blessed by guru sahib with a cute lil son . With my not-so-much salary , and my mom a housewife , and an old weakened father on the brink of retirement , I am seriously beginning to wonder what to do ahead. My wife has completed her B.A (bachelor in arts), a degree traditionally believed to be of little value lol. It doesn't seem she's interested in pursuing higher education. She used to work in a shop before marriage as she hails from a rural , poor family. But she's passionate about one thing . Hairstyling and cosmetics . Infact, before she turned pregnant, she had a short training at local parlor , and from what I heard from her, even the owner lady of the parlor was very happy with her work, and often asking her to do more . However my concern is Is hair-styling/salon a respectable job. I have my reservations against it, because it kind of intermingles or on boundaries with other lesser respectable and shady areas like SPA (heard sex rackets happening there with 'special massage' lol ?) or bollywood celebrity make ups. yes the rotten t's into illicit sex and drugs. I being a closeted guy , and my wife not knowing about my sexuality, am deeply concerned about her spoiling if she started going out. I don't know how justified my fears are, but considering I live in mumbai which is like london of UK (my approx analogy). Its like right now I feel I want my wife to earn and be my support or atleast be independent woman on her own. I asked her don't give me your salary, keep it to yourself ,just want her to be independent, but at the same time I fear her being spoiled or someone locally who thinks I am gay spoiling her intentionally. you never know. Please advice
  22. Hi, Is anyone able to recommend sikhi matrimonial sites/apps as i'm struggling currently. Looking for Sehajdhari/Amritdhari women. I know Shaadi.com is taken the mick out of but has anyone used or would recommend? Thanks for any replies in advance.
  23. There doesn't appear to be any decent platforms for meeting people these days and no one seems willing to suggest people. Where are we supposed to begin?
  24. Guest

    Obtaining grist jeevan

    Wjkk wjkf Need some advice, I am NRI female in my 30s. After years of looking for Gursikh matches without success, my family and I decided to get ardaas done with keshdari Sikh. I didn’t know much bout him but figured him keeping his Kesh in Mona household reflected some level of respect and courage of sikhi. Planning our marriage, I have come to know more about him and how different our Sikh values really are (including knowing the fundamentals of basic Gurmukhi and gurbani). Question is how can couples grow together if they have differences in appetite to attain Gursikh jeevan? Is there a way to create a respectful harmony or am I dreaming? This is not a new issue I know, but would appreciate tips and learning from the couples on how they can bridge the gap to build a healthy relationship and hopefully align and merge on a Gursikh path? wjkk wjkf
  25. I wanted to ask what if someone is in love with their love of their life. Then she gets married to someone else and cheats after the marriage many times with the affair. Does Waheguru forgive such a sin? Can it be forgiven when the human is in deep regret and suffers from their mistake daily (she gets depression) and prays daily, visits the gurdwara, and also wants to take amrit. Will this sin vanish then? Will Waheguru love this human still? Or should she forget to be a sikh and prepare herself to go to hell?
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