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Its not a symptom of the original culture. My grandmother talks about her mom was all about work hard and look after your own and dont stay away from the gossipers. Theres a lack of sabar and something else in our lot. It seems they have got the vices and Bad things of both the east and west in an awful amalgmation. They let go of the easts good things without adopting the west good qualities. I hate to harp on colonialism, but that is another effect. I was reading the book by bhai veer singh, who was experiencing this at the time of the british raj, and details it very nicely in the book Baba Naudh Singh. About how along with suoerstitions our ppl got rid of the good stuff.

Maybe I'm being naïve, but I believe most people who take the step to become Amritdhari do so from a place of goodness and noble intentions.

Best to let the dead go. Remembrance, shrines, whatever, it's not good for those left behind and the departed. It's a form of attachment. There's nothing wrong with looking back on happier times with affection for a loved one who's passed, but anything more is not recommended. I think the Dharmic cultures have it correct on this one.