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Hiyaaa, listen dont worry about what others think about you people say things like that because their insecure themselves and just want to boost their ego by making others look bad, that boy was just stupid and im sure your beautiful Hmm with the cramps where do you get them? As for your weight what kinda diet do you follow? if you hardly eat anything then its going to pile back on really quickly, give a lil more info on that and il see if i can help you out. In terms of your hair i think laser treatment its a good route to take since nothing else has worked for you. I use to know a girl with a similar problem and after 6 months it sorted it out and i know some people are going to say dont do it but to be honest if this is getting you depressed then what other option do have you need to be comfortable with yourself in order to have a bit of confidence. Also i dont know if you meant the hair on your head but if its that which is getting thinner what shampoo are you using because some cause thinning, pantene is the worsttttt! With the acne problem im not really much of an expert in this area but i would say just check your diet and make sure your keeping your skin extra clean because the oil in your skins going to make it worse, you could try using bio oil to help improve the condition of it as well but itl take time. Just post a lil more info so i can get a better idea about a few things, o yh where do you get your herbal medicines from? what do they contain? i know a few people who use them and say they tend to make you worse sometimes

this stuffs freakin me out :6

BABBAR KHALSA ARE NOT TERRORISTS!!!!!!!

hmmm i think money would be a big issue if we ever do get khalistan

your right guru ji doesnt need us but we need him, just because you think your karam may not be good doesnt mean guru jis going to turn his back on you, you just need to have some more faith be strong and dont give up so easily. if you took your life do you realise how much that would hurt your family? please just think things through and like everyone else has suggested ring the helpline!!!

during august and september i think

awwwwww

that finger can mean a whole hand for an individual whos lost someone

paaji im not a gursikh lol far from it actually but thanks for clearing that radha soami thing up i can see why you didnt want to follow it now :Re:

:o you know what you've just made me look at things completely differently now those questions really made me think and helped a lot thanks

you want sikhs to carry on getting discriminated against? maybe some of us dont see the need for it because we havent experienced what people have gone through or seen innocent people and members of our family being tortured to death right infront of our very eyes, after everything thats happened how can you say we dont need it?

Wow this is going to take a while to answer loll What is the definition of 'strong Sikhi'? When you have no doubts or questions in your mind about the path you’ve chosen and when everything seems to make perfect sense to you. When others words and actions don’t affect you because you have that much trust in waheguru. Why do you feel so 'down and lost' because of your parents. Does your mind say that your happiness is dependent upon their acceptance to you? If so, why? Why 'couldn't' you do so? Course it matters to me, not only is it important for my happiness but I also want to keep them happy at the same time, they’ve looked out for me my whole life I don’t want to hurt or disrespect them in anyway. There opinion and support would mean so much to me. When you do things without a loved ones approval it can seem wrong. Was there something physically stopping you? If so, really, how? Or was it your mind that prevented you from following through by creating a distraction to prevent your True inner self from coming forward. Obviously it wasn’t going to be physical its all in my head, ive never felt so strongly before and neither have I been in this kind of situation which is why I found it awkward. Here I will share an example, on the streets why do we choose not to smile for the sake of smiling, even though studies show that the persons we smile at will more likely have an improved mood as a result of seeing us smiling. Although this example is a little impersonal, if we understand it we can begin to see that often times our own experiences are limited by our own perceptions of what we feel or rather Think others expect of us. Leading me too.... 'Because of her'? Really? How so, again was there a physical force, or is this the reality you choose to create because you could not overcome a mental block. Maybe because I cant talk to her openly about things it restricted me somehow, because shes said stuff in the past against some of the things I do so I thought she would have probably done the same this time which must have put me off. Ok, now we see a situation where you state 'always' questions you. Does it really occur Always as in ALL the Time. Or are you compounding isolated or infrequent events with your own interpretation of that event. In other words, are you marginalising yourself as someone who is 'suffering' as a result of her questioning? When I say always I don’t mean every single day, but like say im in my room doing paat and she just happens to walk in then she’ll have something to say about it, if she doesn’t say it to me she’ll say it to dad then along comes the lecture, but nah not suffering we just have our differences How were your responses to this. Were they quick and emotional, as in gut reactions. Or did you look for your Special Awareness that forms the basis of your beliefs to create for you a positive reminder that you can stay with your convictions and respond in such a way that you can Bring peace to the situation? Do you want to bring peace to the situation? Yeh I want to bring peace to the situation but I don’t see how im going to be able to do that. My responses are usually quick and emotional, they haven’t always been like that once I was talking to dad about it but then he tried to make out everything I was saying was wrong by bringing things way out of context. Does her cutting her hair represent something that can damage your beliefs? If so, why Why would it damage my beliefs? im not cutting mine I just wish she thought twice about cutting her own. Do you feel that this event in and of itself will alter your own self image? If so, what do you think of the situation. Thoughts that come from the ego say "She did this to spite me", "I can't believe she did this, I feel bad now". Thoughts that come from Peace, which is your True Self especially when one is Vibrating on the Source say "Source, she has done this, but it is Your Will, I choose to be at peace, and I choose to feel Good in this situation, that is I choose to feel God, make me a channel of your Peace and understanding so that I may attempt to understand this situation and respond to it Truthfully" I doubt she would do anything to spite me, I never really thought about it that way and wouldn’t want to. It just kind of hurt a bit and I thought why would she want to cut it. she has cut it before but I never thought anything of it but because I never realised the importance of it. Its up to her at the end of the day who am I to say anything to her. Must they 'see the things the same way as [you]'? Really? Why? Are you convincing yourself, or rather are your thoughts about your situation trying to convince you that you 'need' to make them understand? If so this is the ego trying to rationalize the situation, becaue the ego or the egoic mind needs to feed on this type of energy. The mind that allows Spiritual Awareness to come forward says "I want to feel peace, therefore", the ideal thing to say is "I understand what you are saying, however, this is what I am and what I believe as Truth (Truth is the absence of EGO or Edging God Out), and whether or not you accept it does not change the Truth, I am at peace with my decision I hope you can to". I want them to see things my way because I want them to get into sikhi and see just how much they’ll benefit from it. I don’t desperately need them to understand but a little support wouldn’t go a miss. Also I don’t think ego is always bad you know, if people feed off energy like that wont that just encourage them to do whats best for them and make them more sure of themselves? Really? Why? Doing all what? Wasting time, or misplacing your energies? The Ego quickly gets charged up on negative energies. Indeed they may be extrinsic, but as I mentioned Ego always Edges God Out of the equation. Ask yourself, how can you bring Truth to the situation, that is your Spiritual Conscious Awareness. Wasting my time trying to answer their questions and explaining things to them for them to just disagree after each point . btw nice questions lol kinda made me feel better

i was talking about the girl wanting relationships with other men for experience therefore a relationship based on the physical side not with the original poster

lmaoooo oh my goshhh lol thats too funny, but in all seriousness did this actually happen?

were there parents instead loll

LOL is this actually for real?

I gota agree with penji on this one, no offence but do you not have any common sense? what kind of a woman is she? she got no self respect! wanting to sleep around with random men just makes her cheap and shows just how weak she is giving into kaam like that. even though she may say its just 1 guy she wants experience how do you know thats the truth? how can you trust her? if she truly loved you she wouldnt even think twice about another man. is that the kind of mother you'd want for your kids if you were going to marry her? a relationship isnt all based on the physical stuff its what inside that matters and she obviously doesnt understand that, your better off without her

worst thing is that it causes confusion amongst some people and generally whatever the presenters stating as fact there gona believe

I duno how to quote everyones reply on here lol so im just gona have to answer seperately sher-e-moreau If i sat alone in the gurdwara my mum would go mad literally and how exactly can you stand tall when every small thing turns into an arguement. Some parents need educating mine are never going to learn. My dad does paat just for the sake of it if i do it he got a problem with it lol he says 'teri umar ni hoye paat karan di' what on earth <_< sherlsurj My dads the same as your uncle, always says how khalistans never gona be real but nice to hear you never gave up :D im gona try my best not to as well kharku I totally agree with you, but whos the real father varinder firstlyyyyyy dont everrrrrrr give your email out like that so openly over a forum not everyones who they seem i could be a guy loll not that i am :lol: but next time be more careful please. my nanis a radhasoami as well what exactly do they believe in? i no she sees this baba in dera or something like that but not too sure. But what you said is right no one can compete with sikhi i just gota learn to be strong like all of you have said, guess im just finding it weird because most of my family including cousins n stuff are the complete opposite to me, its weird how a person can change so much over a short space of time. by the way thanks for the replies everyone very much appreciated

Recently ive been finding it really hard to keep my sikhi strong, ive made so many changes since last year and now i just feel so down and lost because of my parents. yesterday we went to the gurdwara and i was sitting with my mum and the gianis were asking the sangat to join in and to jap naam and i just couldnt because i felt so awkward with my mum next to me! omgggg i felt so bad i really wanted to join in but i couldnt because of her. whenever i do paat she always questions me and says im being to extreme, if she asks me to eat meat and i say no she starts getting all moody you'd think your parents would support you but nooooo then she was talking about cutting her hair and I asked her not to but she didn’t listen, my dads just the same arghhh its so annoying i duno why they cant see the things the same way as me. sometimes it just feels like im wasting my time doing all this. I tried talking to my friends about this but they don’t understand. I never really thought id be the type of person to get hung up on this kind of thing but now ive realised sikhi means everything to me but its so hard doing it by myself anyone else been through something like this before?

sunny some of your posts are kind of abusive calm down!! if you got something against him then just stop replying you dont need to make a big deal out of it

try and get a musical cd for each of the banis it helped me loads because the words and rhythm of the music just stays in your head after you've done it for a certain amount of time.

lmaoo true its kinda unapproriate

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i think its cool, respect to you :WOOHOO: