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At a young age of 14, it should not be hard to loose weight. Although, you should not assume it will be easy either. A few tried and (personally) tested pointers which will prove helpful. First, the magic formula (which as already been mentioned). In order to loose weight, you need to produce a calorie deficit. So, number of calories you eat must be less than the number of calories you use. But wait! the deficit here should not be large or you may actually end up gaining weight! 1. Eat 5 meals per day. Yes, that's 5 meals per day, NOT 3 meals and 2 snacks. This will be bit of a challenge to begin with, so you would want to start by adding 1 additional meal (on a weekly basis) to how many you eat now, until you get to 5 meals/day. Basic idea is to eat just enough that you will be hungry again in about 3 hours. 2. Do resistance training to build muscle. This is by far the best thing you can do to get the weight off and keep it off. The reason is simple, muscle is metabolically active tissue, this means that in order to sustain itself, it uses energy which your body produces by "burning" food. Basically, more muscle = more calories used by the body, even at rest!. Stick to the basic exercises for now, just utilizing body weight. Push ups, pull ups, chin ups, squats, and lunges would suffice to being with. Another option is to play sports which require you to build some strength. 3. As it has been noted earlier, increase intake of vegetables. This is highly recommended as vegetables will contain lots of vitamins and minerals which your body needs. Ideally, you would want to steam the vegetables (sorry no punjabi turkha should be done as it is extremely unhealthy for you). But, if steamed veggies taste too bland for you, you could stir fry them. (again, no turkha!) 3a. Cut on sugary and junk foods. Sugar will ruin your efforts very easily, so stay away from it as much as possible. You only need about 1 table spoon of sugar circulating in your blood, when you eat more (and we all do), your body releases insulin to regulate the amount of sugar in the blood. Basically, this instructs the cells to absorb the sugar (i.e. take it out of the blood stream) and store as fat. Now we certainly don't want to aid the body's efforts to store fat! I mean, it's crazy good at doing that as it is :sleep: 4. Drink 3-4 liters of water per day. Keeps you hydrated and you will likely loose some water weight the first week. 5. Do not EVER EVER EVER starve yourself!!! Don't ever miss a meal, any meal. This can not be stressed enough. Through millions of years of evolution, our bodies have perfected the art of storing food as fat. At the time food was scarce and this served very good purpose and likely prevented deaths by starvation. So, if you do not get food on time (as per your body clock), your body goes into 'starvation mode'. It starts to panic and begins to store what ever it can as fat, basically preparing for a famine. More importantly, the next time you do eat (after missing a meal), your body will try to store much of that as fat rather than use it to produce energy. All in all, don't EVER EVER EVER miss a meal. 75% of your efforts should be concentrated on the food you eat, and only 25% toward the workout. Most people do the opposite and then they wonder why they can't loose weight :rolleyes: I have even lost weight in the past without doing any exercise whatsoever (not recommended however). Another tidbit; it's a huge myth that you need to do "cardio" to loose weight. I'm a living example of this, I have lost weight twice now without ever doing "cardio". All that's needed is a moderate calorie deficit, which can be achieved by fixing your diet, and exercising. Lastly, pick the exercises which you enjoy. Sports is probably the easiest I suppose for kids, but each person is different. I picked up my first dumb bell at 16 and have not looked back since :L: Find out what you love and stick to that. I could go on for a while, but I think what I have already noted should be sufficient to get you well on your way. Good luck

You completely missed the point I was trying to make, but thanks for trying

Let me give you some practical advice, it may sound ridiculous to you, but I think it has a good shot of working. Seems to me that you are in this misery for 2 reasons: - parents expectations of you - your willingness to match their expectations combined with the fact you have been unable to do so So, the plan goes something like this: 1. Rent the bollywood movie called '3 idiots'. I know that bollywood movies have a bad rep, but this is the only bollywood movie I have seen in over 10 years and I must say I LOVED IT! This movie so brilliantly portrays the condition of a large majority of students of Indian origin 2. Watch the movie your self first, you will likely cry. Don't hold back! Let it all out!!! 3. Watch the movie again but this time with your parents, as a family 3. Once the movie finishes, tell your parents in great detail of your own condition that their expectation has put you through. I'm sure once you do this, they will understand. No parent wants their child to suffer, they are pushing you to become a doctor because they think (even though we know it's not true, my parents do this too) that having a good degree will give you respect (and money) and allow you to live in society with your head help up high. Also, it helps their 'societal status', especially when it comes to marriage. I'm not sure about India, but in western countries such as England, US, and Canada, one can easily make a decent living without having a fancy degree. Now, go and implement the plan. I hope to see another update from you in the coming days to see how it went

Do what Sri Guru Nanak Sahib Jee did when a king had prostitutes dance in front of him. Guru Sahib called them their daughters You can simply address them as sisters, and if that does not stop their evil behaviour then I must say that you should simply stay away from them. The reason I say to stay away then is because if calling them sisters does not have any effect then clearly their morals are very low. It's best to stay away from people like these. Another approach could be to simply be very direct and perhaps a bit forceful (not physically) in letting them know that you do no appreciate the unwanted advances. This will only work if they have at least some morals and values. A third approach could be to insult them inside out (I wouldn't do this, but I do know a a few guys who will) to the extent that they are scared to come talk to you. This should be your last approach (if at all). As always, do ardaas for strength as well so that these girls may not sway you from Sikhi.

Do jaap of 'sri harKrishan dheaeeai jis didhey sabh dukh jaai' in his hospital room as much as possible. Guru Sahib will do kirpa

They say dukh and sukh are two sides of the same coin. Meaning, you can not have life without both. Sometimes dukh will be heavy and sometimes sukh will be. But when you think about it, what is dukh? It is only the absence of sukh! Just like darkness is nothing, it is mere absence of light. In the same way, dukh is nothing, it is simply absence of sukh. Just as a single ray of light dispels darkness for many miles; one single positive vibe can overcome a large number of negative thoughts. As Alan Watts once said (I'm paraphrasing here), "...the problem is, we notice the wave of life when it is either at it's peak or crest". From a strictly gurbani perspective: suKu nwhI ry hir Bgiq ibnw ] http://sikhitothemax...sp?ShabadID=659

Crying is not a bad thing, it's just way of expressing our emotions. Everyone does it in their own way, some cry, some yell, some paint, some write, some lift weights....etc. If crying is your way of letting go of your emotions, then there is absolutely nothing wrong with it. I would say do it more often! Nature has given us all the tools we need to deal with anything and everything it throws at us. It's a matter of recognizing the problem, searching for the solution and implementing it. Sadly though, most of us stop after recognizing the problem only...which leads to more misery.

Why look at only the negative aspects? A positive spin on few of the points 1) Wealth can purchase a 'bed' but not 'sleep'. - sleeping without a bed can be tough for many 2) Wealth can purchase 'books' but not 'knowledge'. - It's hard to get knowledge without books 3) Wealth can purchase 'foodstuffs' but not the power of 'digestion'. - What will you digest if there is no food to eat in the first place? 4) Wealth can purchase 'medicines' but not 'health'. - When you do sick (and you will) medicine can assist in restoring your health As with anything in life, it all comes down to how one uses the resources they have.

A few things that can help with improving one's communication skills: 1. Never lie about anything; always be honest and direct in your speech. However sometimes you need to carefully choose the words you speak so as not to hurt the other person. For example, rather than saying "You are really bad at this" you can say, "that was good but I think if you could improve this by doing so and so". Or it would be even better to get the other person's view on how they did and then try to work with them to come up with ideas on how to improve in the future. Basically, you don't want to come off the one who is lecturing them on something, rather that you want to work with them by understanding them. Just doing that totally changes the emotional aspect...instead of coming at a problem from a negative view, you take a positive view and encourage the person to do more. 2. Think before you speak, doing this for a mere 2 seconds will have a noticeable impact as you can choose better words. As a general rule, pick words which are positive and paint them ever so slightly with a negative tone. In essence, "negative" should be said as "not positive". 3. Always be humble, any time you talk in ego, you will hurt someone. 4. Most importantly, try to grow out of this thinking that you have to 'convince another person' of something. It does not work, especially when it comes to relationships. 5. If all else fails and you are unable to find constructive words in a situation, just say 'I don't have any value able input at this time, give me some time to think about it and I will get back to you as soon as I can' I hope that helps, there is lots more but going by your description, this is what came to my mind.

Yes, it can be possible if you the ip address of the machine in question. A simple 'ping' command can be used for this purpose. For example, >ping 12.345.67.7890 will send a request to the machine with that IP, and wait for a response. If response comes back, it means machine is online. This is a overly simplistic view of things however. Having firewalls and other security software on the target machine may impact the results. Note that ping is a DOS command I will test this myself shortly and provide an update

iqlµg mhlw 5 ] thila(n)g mehalaa 5 || Tilang, Fifth Mehla: mIrW dwnW idl soc ] meeraa(n) dhaanaa(n) dhil soch || Think of the Lord in your mind, O wise one. muhbqy min qin bsY scu swh bMdI moc ]1] rhwau ] muhabathae man than basai sach saah ba(n)dhee moch ||1|| rehaao || Enshrine love for the True Lord in your mind and body; He is the Liberator from bondage. ||1||Pause|| dIdny dIdwr swihb kCu nhI ies kw molu ] dheedhanae dheedhaar saahib kashh nehee eis kaa mol || The value of seeing the Vision of the Lord Master cannot be estimated. pwk prvdgwr qU Kuid Ksmu vfw Aqolu ]1] paak paravadhagaar thoo khudh khasam vaddaa athol ||1|| You are the Pure Cherisher; You Yourself are the great and immeasurable Lord and Master. ||1|| dsogIrI dyih idlwvr qUhI qUhI eyk ] dhasogeeree dhaehi dhilaa// thoohee thoohee eaek || Give me Your help, O brave and generous Lord; You are the One, You are the Only Lord. krqwr kudriq krx Kwlk nwnk qyrI tyk ]2]5] karathaar kudharath karan khaalak naanak thaeree ttaek ||2||5|| O Creator Lord, by Your creative potency, You created the world; Nanak holds tight to Your support. ||2||5|| ================================== mwrU mhlw 5 ] maaroo mehalaa 5 || Maaroo, Fifth Mehla: pWc brK ko AnwQu DR¨ bwirku hir ismrq Amr Atwry ] paa(n)ch barakh ko anaathh dhhroo baarik har simarath amar attaarae || The five year old orphan boy Dhroo, by meditating in remembrance on the Lord, became stationary and permanent. puqR hyiq nwrwiexu kihE jmkMkr mwir ibdwry ]1] puthr haeth naaraaein kehiou jamaka(n)kar maar bidhaarae ||1|| For the sake of his son, Ajaamal called out, ""O Lord, Naaraayan"", who struck down and killed the Messenger of Death. ||1|| myry Twkur kyqy Agnq auDwry ] maerae t(h)aakur kaethae aganath oudhhaarae || My Lord and Master has saved many, countless beings. moih dIn Alp miq inrgux pirE srix duAwry ]1] rhwau ] mohi dheen alap math niragun pariou saran dhuaarae ||1|| rehaao || I am meek, with little or no understanding, and unworthy; I seek protection at the Lord's Door. ||1||Pause|| bwlmIku supcwro qirE biDk qry ibcwry ] baalameek supachaaro thariou badhhik tharae bichaarae || Baalmeek the outcaste was saved, and the poor hunter was saved as well. eyk inmK mn mwih ArwiDE gjpiq pwir auqwry ]2] eaek nimakh man maahi araadhhiou gajapath paar outhaarae ||2|| The elephant remembered the Lord in his mind for an instant, and so was carried across. ||2|| kInI riKAw Bgq pRihlwdY hrnwKs nKih ibdwry ] keenee rakhiaa bhagath prehilaadhai haranaakhas nakhehi bidhaarae || He saved His devotee Prahlaad, and tore Harnaakhash with his nails. ibdru dwsI suqu BieE punIqw sgly kul aujwry ]3] bidhar dhaasee suth bhaeiou puneethaa sagalae kul oujaarae ||3|| Bidar, the son of a slave-girl, was purified, and all his generations were redeemed. ||3|| kvn prwD bqwvau Apuny imiQAw moh mgnwry ] kavan paraadhh bathaavo apunae mithhiaa moh maganaarae || What sins of mine should I speak of? I am intoxicated with false emotional attachment. AwieE swm nwnk Et hir kI lIjY Bujw pswry ]4]2] aaeiou saam naanak outt har kee leejai bhujaa pasaarae ||4||2|| Nanak has entered the Sanctuary of the Lord; please, reach out and take me into Your embrace. ||4||2|| mwrU mhlw 5 ] maaroo mehalaa 5 || Maaroo, Fifth Mehla: pWc brK ko AnwQu DR¨ bwirku hir ismrq Amr Atwry ] paa(n)ch barakh ko anaathh dhhroo baarik har simarath amar attaarae || The five year old orphan boy Dhroo, by meditating in remembrance on the Lord, became stationary and permanent. puqR hyiq nwrwiexu kihE jmkMkr mwir ibdwry ]1] puthr haeth naaraaein kehiou jamaka(n)kar maar bidhaarae ||1|| For the sake of his son, Ajaamal called out, ""O Lord, Naaraayan"", who struck down and killed the Messenger of Death. ||1|| myry Twkur kyqy Agnq auDwry ] maerae t(h)aakur kaethae aganath oudhhaarae || My Lord and Master has saved many, countless beings. moih dIn Alp miq inrgux pirE srix duAwry ]1] rhwau ] mohi dheen alap math niragun pariou saran dhuaarae ||1|| rehaao || I am meek, with little or no understanding, and unworthy; I seek protection at the Lord's Door. ||1||Pause|| bwlmIku supcwro qirE biDk qry ibcwry ] baalameek supachaaro thariou badhhik tharae bichaarae || Baalmeek the outcaste was saved, and the poor hunter was saved as well. eyk inmK mn mwih ArwiDE gjpiq pwir auqwry ]2] eaek nimakh man maahi araadhhiou gajapath paar outhaarae ||2|| The elephant remembered the Lord in his mind for an instant, and so was carried across. ||2|| kInI riKAw Bgq pRihlwdY hrnwKs nKih ibdwry ] keenee rakhiaa bhagath prehilaadhai haranaakhas nakhehi bidhaarae || He saved His devotee Prahlaad, and tore Harnaakhash with his nails. ibdru dwsI suqu BieE punIqw sgly kul aujwry ]3] bidhar dhaasee suth bhaeiou puneethaa sagalae kul oujaarae ||3|| Bidar, the son of a slave-girl, was purified, and all his generations were redeemed. ||3|| kvn prwD bqwvau Apuny imiQAw moh mgnwry ] kavan paraadhh bathaavo apunae mithhiaa moh maganaarae || What sins of mine should I speak of? I am intoxicated with false emotional attachment. AwieE swm nwnk Et hir kI lIjY Bujw pswry ]4]2] aaeiou saam naanak outt har kee leejai bhujaa pasaarae ||4||2|| Nanak has entered the Sanctuary of the Lord; please, reach out and take me into Your embrace. ||4||2||

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Awsw ] aasaa || Aasaa: jb lgu qylu dIvy muiK bwqI qb sUJY sBu koeI ] jab lag thael dheevae mukh baathee thab soojhai sabh koee || As long as the oil and the wick are in the lamp, everything is illuminated. qyl jly bwqI ThrwnI sUMnw mMdru hoeI ]1] thael jalae baathee t(h)eharaanee soo(n)naa ma(n)dhar hoee ||1|| But when the oil is burnt, the wick goes out, and the mansion becomes desolate. ||1|| ry baury quih GrI n rwKY koeI ] rae bourae thuhi gharee n raakhai koee || O mad-man, no one will keep you, for even a moment. qUM rwm nwmu jip soeI ]1] rhwau ] thoo raam naam jap soee ||1|| rehaao || Meditate on the Name of that Lord. ||1||Pause|| kw kI mwq ipqw khu kw ko kvn purK kI joeI ] kaa kee maath pithaa kahu kaa ko kavan purakh kee joee || Tell me, whose mother is that, whose father is that, and which man has a wife? Gt PUty koaU bwq n pUCY kwFhu kwFhu hoeI ]2] ghatt foottae kooo baath n pooshhai kaadtahu kaadtahu hoee ||2|| When the pitcher of the body breaks, no one cares for you at all. Everyone says, ""Take him away, take him away!""||2|| dyhurI bYTI mwqw rovY KtIAw ly gey BweI ] dhaehuree bait(h)ee maathaa rovai khatteeaa lae geae bhaaee || Sitting on the threshold, his mother cries, and his brothers take away the coffin. lt iCtkwey iqrIAw rovY hMsu iekylw jweI ]3] latt shhittakaaeae thireeaa rovai ha(n)s eikaelaa jaaee ||3|| Taking down her hair, his wife cries out in sorrow, and the swan-soul departs all alone. ||3|| khq kbIr sunhu ry sMqhu BY swgr kY qweI ] kehath kabeer sunahu rae sa(n)thahu bhai saagar kai thaaee || Says Kabeer, listen, O Saints, about the terrifying world-ocean. iesu bMdy isir julmu hoq hY jmu nhI htY gusweI ]4]9] eis ba(n)dhae sir julam hoth hai jam nehee hattai gusaaee ||4||9|| This human suffers torture and the Messenger of Death will not leave him alone, O Lord of the World. ||4||9|| ============================== PrIdw ikQY qYfy mwipAw ijn@I qU jixEih ] fareedhaa kithhai thaiddae maapiaa jinhee thoo janiouhi || Fareed, where are your mother and father, who gave birth to you? qY pwshu Eie lid gey qUM AjY n pqIxoih ]73] thai paasahu oue ladh geae thoo ajai n patheenohi ||73|| They have left you, but even so, you are not convinced that you shall also have to go. ||73||

mwrU mhlw 5 ] maaroo mehalaa 5 || Maaroo, Fifth Mehla: jo smrQu srb gux nwieku iqs kau kbhu n gwvis ry ] jo samarathh sarab gun naaeik this ko kabahu n gaavas rae || He is all-powerful, the Master of all virtues, but you never sing of Him! Coif jwie iKn BIqir qw kau auAw kau iPir iPir Dwvis ry ]1] shhodd jaae khin bheethar thaa ko ouaa ko fir fir dhhaavas rae ||1|| You shall have to leave all this in an instant, but again and again, you chase after it. ||1|| Apuny pRB kau ikau n smwris ry ] apunae prabh ko kio n samaaras rae || Why do you not contemplate your God? bYrI sMig rMg ris ricAw iqsu isau jIArw jwris ry ]1] rhwau ] bairee sa(n)g ra(n)g ras rachiaa this sio jeearaa jaaras rae ||1|| rehaao || You are entangled in association with your enemies, and the enjoyment of pleasures; your soul is burning up with them! ||1||Pause|| jw kY nwim suinAY jmu CofY qw kI srix n pwvis ry ] jaa kai naam suniai jam shhoddai thaa kee saran n paavas rae || Hearing His Name, the Messenger of Death will release you, and yet, you do not enter His Sanctuary! kwiF dyie isAwl bpury kau qw kI Et itkwvis ry ]2] kaadt dhaee siaal bapurae ko thaa kee outt ttikaavas rae ||2|| Turn out this wretched jackal, and seek the Shelter of that God. ||2|| ijs kw jwsu sunq Bv qrIAY qw isau rMgu n lwvis ry ] jis kaa jaas sunath bhav thareeai thaa sio ra(n)g n laavas rae || Praising Him, you shall cross over the terrifying world-ocean, and yet, you have not fallen in love with Him! QorI bwq Alp supny kI bhuir bhuir Atkwvis ry ]3] thhoree baath alap supanae kee bahur bahur attakaavas rae ||3|| This meager, short-lived dream, this thing - you are engrossed in it, over and over again. ||3|| BieE pRswdu ik®pw iniD Twkur sMqsMig piq pweI ] bhaeiou prasaadh kirapaa nidhh t(h)aakur sa(n)thasa(n)g path paaee || When our Lord and Master, the ocean of mercy, grants His Grace, one finds honor in the Society of the Saints. khu nwnk qRY gux BRmu CUtw jau pRB Bey shweI ]4]7] kahu naanak thrai gun bhram shhoottaa jo prabh bheae sehaaee ||4||7|| Says Nanak, I am rid of the illusion of the three-phased Maya, when God becomes my help and support. ||4||7|| ================================ mwrU mhlw 5 Gru 3 AstpdIAw maaroo mehalaa 5 ghar 3 asattapadheeaa Maaroo, Fifth Mehla, Third House, Ashtpadeeaa: <> siqgur pRswid ] ik oa(n)kaar sathigur prasaadh || One Universal Creator God. By The Grace Of The True Guru: lK caurwsIh BRmqy BRmqy dulB jnmu Ab pwieE ]1] lakh chouraaseeh bhramathae bhramathae dhulabh janam ab paaeiou ||1|| Wandering and roaming through 8.4 million incarnations, you have now been given this human life, so difficult to obtain. ||1|| ry mUVy qU hoCY ris lptwieE ] rae moorrae thoo hoshhai ras lapattaaeiou || You fool! You are attached and clinging to such trivial pleasures! AMimRqu sMig bsqu hY qyrY ibiKAw isau aurJwieE ]1] rhwau ] a(n)mrith sa(n)g basath hai thaerai bikhiaa sio ourajhaaeiou ||1|| rehaao || The Ambrosial Nectar abides with you, but you are engrossed in sin and corruption. ||1||Pause|| rqn jvyhr bnjin AwieE kwlru lwid clwieE ]2] rathan javaehar banajan aaeiou kaalar laadh chalaaeiou ||2|| You have come to trade in gems and jewels, but you have loaded only barren soil. ||2|| ijh Gr mih quDu rhnw bsnw so Gru cIiq n AwieE ]3] jih ghar mehi thudhh rehanaa basanaa so ghar cheeth n aaeiou ||3|| That home within which you live - you have not kept that home in your thoughts. ||3|| Atl AKMf pRwx suKdweI iek inmK nhI quJu gwieE ]4] attal akha(n)dd praan sukhadhaaee eik nimakh nehee thujh gaaeiou ||4|| He is immovable, indestructible, the Giver of peace to the soul; and yet you do not sing His Praises, even for an instant. ||4|| jhw jwxw so Qwnu ivswirE iek inmK nhI mnu lwieE ]5] jehaa jaanaa so thhaan visaariou eik nimakh nehee man laaeiou ||5|| You have forgotten that place where you must go; you have not attached your mind to the Lord, even for an instant. ||5|| puqR klqR igRh dyiK smgRI ies hI mih aurJwieE ]6] puthr kalathr grih dhaekh samagree eis hee mehi ourajhaaeiou ||6|| Gazing upon your children, spouse, household and paraphernalia, you are entangled in them. ||6|| ijqu ko lwieE iqq hI lwgw qYsy krm kmwieE ]7] jith ko laaeiou thith hee laagaa thaisae karam kamaaeiou ||7|| As God links the mortals, so are they linked, and so are the deeds they do. ||7|| jau BieE ik®pwlu qw swDsMgu pwieAw jn nwnk bRhmu iDAwieE ]8]1] jo bhaeiou kirapaal thaa saadhhasa(n)g paaeiaa jan naanak breham dhhiaaeiou ||8||1|| When He becomes Merciful, then the Saadh Sangat, the Company of the Holy, is found; servant Nanak meditates on God. ||8||1||

<> siqgur pRswid ] ik oa(n)kaar sathigur prasaadh || One Universal Creator God. By The Grace Of The True Guru: rwgu swrMg mhlw 9 ] raag saara(n)g mehalaa 9 || Raag Saarang, Ninth Mehla: hir ibnu qyro ko n shweI ] har bin thaero ko n sehaaee || No one will be your help and support, except the Lord. kW kI mwq ipqw suq binqw ko kwhU ko BweI ]1] rhwau ] kaa(n) kee maath pithaa suth banithaa ko kaahoo ko bhaaee ||1|| rehaao || Who has any mother, father, child or spouse? Who is anyone's brother or sister? ||1||Pause|| Dnu DrnI Aru sMpiq sgrI jo mwinE ApnweI ] dhhan dhharanee ar sa(n)path sagaree jo maaniou apanaaee || All the wealth, land and property which you consider your own qn CUtY kCu sMig n cwlY khw qwih lptweI ]1] than shhoottai kashh sa(n)g n chaalai kehaa thaahi lapattaaee ||1|| - when you leave your body, none of it shall go along with you. Why do you cling to them? ||1|| dIn dieAwl sdw duK BMjn qw isau ruic n bFweI ] dheen dhaeiaal sadhaa dhukh bha(n)jan thaa sio ruch n badtaaee || God is Merciful to the meek, forever the Destroyer of fear, and yet you do not develop any loving relationship with Him. nwnk khq jgq sB imiQAw ijau supnw rYnweI ]2]1] naanak kehath jagath sabh mithhiaa jio supanaa rainaaee ||2||1|| Says Nanak, the whole world is totally false; it is like a dream in the night. ||2||1|| Payarey bhenji, I'm sure almost everyone in this world can relate to your situation in one form or another. Fact of the matter is, when one is stuck in such situations, no one can say anything to soothe your mind. So I can only hope that Guru Sahib does his kirpa dristi on you so that you can come out of this situation fast as possible. Otherwise, such things have the ability to ruin many years of your very value able life! I say this from experience...Satguru Ji kirpa karan

^ Never stick to one or two foods. Human body needs variety in it's diet and variety we do have in Punjabi diet. Look at all the different kinds of daals (lentils/pulses) we have!

In order to understand the concept of "Love marriage", one must define Love first. "What is love? It is madness, where you loose consciousness, the greatest drug even that exists on Earth. The only difference is it's an inner chemistry. Love is crucifixion. Only love is the light in which life becomes known, what we call resurrection. Only in love are you truly transformed. In reality you will only feel life when you are in love. Love opens windows towards the beyond. The love people talk about is the phenomenon of the mind. The love of the mind is like a dream because it is from the mind and only the mind can dream and the dream can't be reality. This love cannot be eternal. So what is eternal love? When love comes out of mediation, it's qualities are different from the ones of the mind. The love of the mind – thee essence of it is foolishness. You fall in love, the love of meditation, thee essence is wisdom, you rise in love...When you are in love, it is illogical. There is no logic, no reason. It's irrational, that is why liking has nothing to do with loving, Liking has logic, there are many reasons as to why you like a person. Generations and generations have misunderstood the word love. Automatically they start thinking about sex, without them even realizing that sex has nothing to do with love...love is like a spring breeze. It comes and when it comes it brings a tremendous fragrance, the Odor of Sanctify. It gives you the feeling that it will remain forever. The feeling is so strong that you cannot doubt it. This love is divine. Love has always been God expressing himself. Love is the alchemy, where there is love, ego doesn't exist. That's what I always said, love is spiritual and only love can change lives. Only in love is there reconciliation and a great transformation." - Sant Mani Singh Jee

I would advise against "kiyoou" (ghee); way too high in saturated fat! If you are going to eat it, at least make sure you do very intense exercise on a regular basis so that the fat doesn't build up in your arteries and clog them, leading to a heart attack in a few years. Gheo was okay in old times as our forefathers did a lot of HARD labour all day thus anything they ate was easily digested by the body. Living in Western world, we need to be more careful as even the atmosphere is different than in India.

rwmklI mhlw 5 ] raamakalee mehalaa 5 || Raamkalee, Fifth Mehla: iksu BrvwsY ibcrih Bvn ] kis bharavaasai bicharehi bhavan || What supports you in this world? mUV mugD qyrw sMgI kvn ] moorr mugadhh thaeraa sa(n)gee kavan || You ignorant fool, who is your companion? rwmu sMgI iqsu giq nhI jwnih ] raam sa(n)gee this gath nehee jaanehi || The Lord is your only companion; no one knows His condition. pMc btvwry sy mIq kir mwnih ]1] pa(n)ch battavaarae sae meeth kar maanehi ||1|| You look upon the five thieves as your friends. ||1|| so Gru syiv ijqu auDrih mIq ] so ghar saev jith oudhharehi meeth || Serve that home, which will save you, my friend. gux goivMd rvIAih idnu rwqI swDsMig kir mn kI pRIiq ]1] rhwau ] gun govi(n)dh raveeahi dhin raathee saadhhasa(n)g kar man kee preeth ||1|| rehaao || Chant the Glorious Praises of the Lord of the Universe, day and night; in the Saadh Sangat, the Company of the Holy, love Him in your mind. ||1||Pause|| jnmu ibhwno AhMkwir Aru vwid ] janam bihaano aha(n)kaar ar vaadh || This human life is passing away in egotism and conflict. iqRpiq n AwvY ibiKAw swid ] thripath n aavai bikhiaa saadh || You are not satisfied; such is the flavor of sin. Brmq Brmq mhw duKu pwieAw ] bharamath bharamath mehaa dhukh paaeiaa || Wandering and roaming around, you suffer terrible pain. qrI n jweI duqr mwieAw ]2] tharee n jaaee dhuthar maaeiaa ||2|| You cannot cross over the impassable sea of Maya. ||2|| kwim n AwvY su kwr kmwvY ] kaam n aavai s kaar kamaavai || You do the deeds which do not help you at all. Awip bIij Awpy hI KwvY ] aap beej aapae hee khaavai || As you plant, so shall you harvest. rwKn kau dUsr nhI koie ] raakhan ko dhoosar nehee koe || There is none other than the Lord to save you. qau insqrY jau ikrpw hoie ]3] tho nisatharai jo kirapaa hoe ||3|| You will be saved, only if God grants His Grace. ||3|| piqq punIq pRB qyro nwmu ] pathith puneeth prabh thaero naam || Your Name, God, is the Purifier of sinners. Apny dws kau kIjY dwnu ] apanae dhaas ko keejai dhaan || Please bless Your slave with that gift. kir ikrpw pRB giq kir myrI ] kar kirapaa prabh gath kar maeree || Please grant Your Grace, God, and emancipate me. srix ghI nwnk pRB qyrI ]4]37]48] saran gehee naanak prabh thaeree ||4||37||48|| Nanak has grasped Your Sanctuary, God. ||4||37||48|| ================================================= rwmklI mhlw 5 ] raamakalee mehalaa 5 || Raamkalee, Fifth Mehla: ghu kir pkrI n AweI hwiQ ] gahu kar pakaree n aaee haathh || No matter how hard you try to grab it, it does not come into your hands. pRIiq krI cwlI nhI swiQ ] preeth karee chaalee nehee saathh || No matter how much you may love it, it does not go along with you. khu nwnk jau iqAwig deI ] kahu naanak jo thiaag dhee || Says Nanak, when you abandon it, qb Eh crxI Awie peI ]1] thab ouh charanee aae pee ||1|| then it comes and falls at your feet. ||1|| suix sMqhu inrml bIcwr ] sun sa(n)thahu niramal beechaar || Listen, O Saints: this is the pure philosophy. rwm nwm ibnu giq nhI kweI guru pUrw Bytq auDwr ]1] rhwau ] raam naam bin gath nehee kaaee gur pooraa bhaettath oudhhaar ||1|| rehaao || Without the Lord's Name, there is no salvation. Meeting with the Perfect Guru, one is saved. ||1||Pause|| jb aus kau koeI dyvY mwnu ] jab ous ko koee dhaevai maan || When someone tries to appease her, qb Awps aUpir rKY gumwnu ] thab aapas oopar rakhai gumaan || then she takes pride in herself. jb aus kau koeI min prhrY ] jab ous ko koee man pareharai || But when someone puts her out of his thoughts, qb Eh syvik syvw krY ]2] thab ouh saevak saevaa karai ||2|| then she serves him like a slave. ||2|| muiK byrwvY AMiq TgwvY ] mukh baeraavai a(n)th t(h)agaavai || She seems to please, but in the end, she deceives. iekqu Taur Eh khI n smwvY ] eikath t(h)our ouh kehee n samaavai || She does not remain in any one place. auin mohy bhuqy bRhmMf ] oun mohae bahuthae brehama(n)dd || She has bewitched a great many worlds. rwm jnI kInI KMf KMf ]3] raam janee keenee kha(n)dd kha(n)dd ||3|| The Lord's humble servants cut her apart into pieces. ||3|| jo mwgY so BUKw rhY ] jo maagai so bhookhaa rehai || Whoever begs from her remains hungry. iesu sMig rwcY su kCU n lhY ] eis sa(n)g raachai s kashhoo n lehai || Whoever is infatuated with her obtains nothing. iesih iqAwig sqsMgiq krY ] eisehi thiaag sathasa(n)gath karai || But one who renounces her, and joins the Society of the Saints, vfBwgI nwnk Ehu qrY ]4]18]29] vaddabhaagee naanak ouhu tharai ||4||18||29|| by great good fortune, O Nanak, is saved. ||4||18||29|| ====================================== pauVI ] pourree || Pauree: ijsu qU Awvih iciq iqs no sdw suK ] jis thoo aavehi chith this no sadhaa sukh || One who is conscious of You finds everlasting peace. ijsu qU Awvih iciq iqsu jm nwih duK ] jis thoo aavehi chith this jam naahi dhukh || One who is conscious of You does not suffer at the hands of the Messenger of Death. ijsu qU Awvih iciq iqsu ik kwiVAw ] jis thoo aavehi chith this k kaarriaa || One who is conscious of You is not anxious. ijs dw krqw imqRü siB kwj svwirAw ] jis dhaa karathaa mithra sabh kaaj savaariaa || One who has the Creator as his Friend - all his affairs are resolved. ijsu qU Awvih iciq so prvwxu jnu ] jis thoo aavehi chith so paravaan jan || One who is conscious of You is renowned and respected. ijsu qU Awvih iciq bhuqw iqsu Dnu ] jis thoo aavehi chith bahuthaa this dhhan || One who is conscious of You becomes very wealthy. ijsu qU Awvih iciq so vf prvwirAw ] jis thoo aavehi chith so vadd paravaariaa || One who is conscious of You has a great family. ijsu qU Awvih iciq iqin kul auDwirAw ]6] jis thoo aavehi chith thin kul oudhhaariaa ||6|| One who is conscious of You saves his ancestors. ||6||

Is there a reason you only want 'foods'? Lentils (daal) and Pulses (beans, rajmah etc) are generally quite high in protein. I assume you are weight training at high intensity levels; if not, then chances are you do not need additional protein as long daal is a regular part of your diet. If you are a serious lifter then it is recommended that a vegetarian person supplement protein in their diet. Whey based isolate protein would be the ideal choice here. You can have it mixed with milk or juice or even water. However, I must caution you that for some people mixing it with milk can result is some pretty foul flatulence. Be very aware of that. Another point to note is that the classic "eat 1g of protein per pound of body weight" rule does not appear to be backed up by any research (at least I haven't found any research supporting this yet). Even Olympic level athletes (not body builders, they are not athletes) consume around 0.75-0.85g of protein per pound of body weight. It need not be said, they are some of the strongest and fittest people on the planet!

Start doing 5+ anand sahib paath everyday and then do ardaas to guru sahib for chardikala! Also, start exercising! I would say running would be beneficial to you. Additionally, some yoga (done everyday for at least a few weeks) would definitely be beneficial as well http://www.youtube.c...h?v=or5aUU_0Md4 Guru Rakha

mÚ 1 ] ma 1 || First Mehla: sBy kMqY rqIAw mY dohwgix ikqu ] sabhae ka(n)thai ratheeaa mai dhohaagan kith || All are imbued with love for their Husband Lord; I am a discarded bride - what good am I? mY qin Avgx eyqVy Ksmu n Pyry icqu ]3] mai than avagan eaetharrae khasam n faerae chith ||3|| My body is filled with so many faults; my Lord and Master does not even turn His thoughts to me. ||3|| mÚ 1 ] ma 1 || First Mehla: hau bilhwrI iqn kau isPiq ijnw dY vwiq ] ho balihaaree thin ko sifath jinaa dhai vaath || I am a sacrifice to those who praise the Lord with their mouths. siB rwqI sohwgxI iek mY dohwgix rwiq ]4] sabh raathee sohaaganee eik mai dhohaagan raath ||4|| All the nights are for the happy soul-brides; I am a discarded bride - if only I could have even one night with Him! ||4|| ==================================== gauVI mwlw mhlw 5 ] gourree maalaa mehalaa 5 || Gauree Maalaa, Fifth Mehla: hir ibnu Avr ik®Aw ibrQy ] har bin avar kiraaa birathhae || Without the Lord, other actions are useless. jp qp sMjm krm kmwxy ieih ErY mUsy ]1] rhwau ] jap thap sa(n)jam karam kamaanae eihi ourai moosae ||1|| rehaao || Meditative chants, intense deep meditation, austere self-discipline and rituals - these are plundered in this world. ||1||Pause|| brq nym sMjm mih rhqw iqn kw AwFu n pwieAw ] barath naem sa(n)jam mehi rehathaa thin kaa aadt n paaeiaa || Fasting, daily rituals, and austere self-discipline - those who keep the practice of these, are rewarded with less than a shell. AwgY clxu Aauru hY BweI aUNhw kwim n AwieAw ]1] aagai chalan aour hai bhaaee oo(n)ehaa kaam n aaeiaa ||1|| Hereafter, the way is different, O Siblings of Destiny. There, these things are of no use at all. ||1|| qIriQ nwie Aru DrnI BRmqw AwgY Taur n pwvY ] theerathh naae ar dhharanee bhramathaa aagai t(h)our n paavai || Those who bathe at sacred shrines of pilgrimage, and wander over the earth, find no place of rest hereafter. aUhw kwim n AwvY ieh ibiD Ehu logn hI pqIAwvY ]2] oohaa kaam n aavai eih bidhh ouhu logan hee patheeaavai ||2|| There, these are of no use at all. By these things, they only please other people. ||2|| cqur byd muK bcnI aucrY AwgY mhlu n pweIAY ] chathur baedh mukh bachanee oucharai aagai mehal n paaeeai || Reciting the four Vedas from memory, they do not obtain the Mansion of the Lord's Presence hereafter. bUJY nwhI eyku suDwKru Ehu sglI JwK JKweIAY ]3] boojhai naahee eaek sudhhaakhar ouhu sagalee jhaakh jhakhaaeeai ||3|| Those who do not understand the One Pure Word, utter total nonsense. ||3|| nwnku khqo iehu bIcwrw ij kmwvY su pwr grwmI ] naanak kehatho eihu beechaaraa j kamaavai s paar garaamee || Nanak voices this opinion: those who practice it, swim across. guru syvhu Aru nwmu iDAwvhu iqAwghu mnhu gumwnI ]4]6]164] gur saevahu ar naam dhhiaavahu thiaagahu manahu gumaanee ||4||6||164|| Serve the Guru, and meditate on the Naam; renounce the egotistical pride from your mind. ================================= iblwvlu mhlw 5 ] bilaaval mehalaa 5 || Bilaaval, Fifth Mehla: pRB jnm mrn invwir ] prabh janam maran nivaar || God, please release me from birth and death. hwir pirE duAwir ] haar pariou dhuaar || I have grown weary, and collapsed at Your door. gih crn swDU sMg ] gehi charan saadhhoo sa(n)g || I grasp Your Feet, in the Saadh Sangat, the Company of the Holy. mn imst hir hir rMg ] man misatt har har ra(n)g || The Love of the Lord, Har, Har, is sweet to my mind. kir dieAw lyhu liV lwie ] kar dhaeiaa laehu larr laae || Be Merciful, and attach me to the hem of Your robe. nwnkw nwmu iDAwie ]1] naanakaa naam dhhiaae ||1|| Nanak meditates on the Naam, the Name of the Lord. ||1|| dInw nwQ dieAwl myry suAwmI dInw nwQ dieAwl ] dheenaa naathh dhaeiaal maerae suaamee dheenaa naathh dhaeiaal || O Merciful Master of the meek, You are my Lord and Master, O Merciful Master of the meek. ========================== pauVI ] pourree || Pauree: sB vifAweIAw hir nwm ivic hir gurmuiK iDAweIAY ] sabh vaddiaaeeaa har naam vich har guramukh dhhiaaeeai || All glorious greatness is in the Name of the Lord; as Gurmukh, meditate on the Lord. ij vsqu mMgIAY sweI pweIAY jy nwim icqu lweIAY ] j vasath ma(n)geeai saaee paaeeai jae naam chith laaeeai || One obtains all that he asks for, if he keeps his consciousness focused on the Lord. guhj gl jIA kI kIcY siqgurU pwis qw srb suKu pweIAY ] guhaj gal jeea kee keechai sathiguroo paas thaa sarab sukh paaeeai || If he tells the secrets of his soul to the True Guru, then he finds absolute peace. guru pUrw hir aupdysu dyie sB BuK lih jweIAY ] gur pooraa har oupadhaes dhaee sabh bhukh lehi jaaeeai || When the Perfect Guru bestows the Lord's Teachings, then all hunger departs. ijsu pUrib hovY iliKAw so hir gux gweIAY ]3] jis poorab hovai likhiaa so har gun gaaeeai ||3|| One who is blessed with such pre-ordained destiny, sings the Glorious Praises of the Lord. ||3||

Dear GuesSingh, please try this yoga exercise, it will help re-channel all that sexual energy into something productive Try it for at least 1 month, everyday and I'm sure you will see a big difference. http://www.mrsikhnet...-sexual-energy/ Of course staying away from things that entice you is of the utmost importance, that will help the most.

Bhaji, a diploma limits your options quite a bit. I have a degree in Computer Science from an accredited University, even then I had a really tough time finding a job. It seems like you are into computer hardware, in which case you could look into enhancing your skill set. If you do not wish you do a degree, certifications will definitely help you out. Look into various hardware certs, like A+, Cisco etc http://www.cisco.com/web/learning/le3/learning_career_certifications_and_learning_paths_home.html I agree with dalsingh01 that there isn't much scope for pure hardware people anymore. Look into getting trained on business side of things as well, any technical training coupled with business and/or management puts you in a better spot than majority of other job seekers out there. I don't know where you live, but if there are any job placement agencies around, please make an appointment with them and discuss your career options. People working in these agencies can tell you quite a bit about the market place which can prove to be very helpful. Good luck.

WHAT! :o I have read a lot of absurd posts on this forum over the years, but this ranks right up there at the top. After saying that, your second sentence becomes a moot point anyway. There is a reason Dhan Guru Nanak Sahib Jee said 'so kyo manda akhiae, jit jamai rajaan' (why call women bad/sinful when kings, both spiritual and worldly, are born from them)...Who ever told you that clearly is not aware of philosophy of Guru Nanak Sahib Jee.