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@Kin, no u are not alone, and plz dont ever think u are. Others have the similar problems to you, so u dont need to worry that something is only wrong with u. And plz dont feel isolated. It will get better, I used to be very very paranoid, as didnt go out much. But then i thought Waheguru is with me, as nobody was there when i needed them, or when i need somebody now. You have to put all ur trust in Waheguru, and not think they dont care. They do care, you have to search for them, then u will know they are with u, you will feel it. Imagine they are there, when u listen to kirtan. Another thing that helps is simran, listen to simran or shabad. Learn to do breathing exercise, controlling your breath and the pace of it helps lots. Private message me if you want, and i will send u the breathing exercises, as i cannot find them now... when we are in control of our mind and get that stable then nothing can get to us. Nothing can make us paranoid or anxious. Also if u can try to see a hynotherapist, they are good, i saw one once when i had panic attacks, and it worked wonders. make the most of ur doctors, dont worry about them thinking you are mad or something, just explain to them you have some anxiety, and get paranoid,they can offer lots of services to help you, and refer you to help you. Dont take any tablets unless u really need them. First try to do the natural way, training the mind. Its all new to the brain, so it needs time to get used to change. Also do Chaupai Sahib ji da paat, this is very good, and only takes about over 4mins. But dont just listen to it, read what is being said and understand it, let the mann take it in. once u start relaxing you will be okay... dont worry about nothing just be happy, and Waheguru loves you, always remember that.

oh nooo he sprayed everyone with water, @3:49 damn meeh pegeyaa..lolz....

Thankuji for ur thoughts Jeff, very much appreciated. God bless u too.

yup sure is, but its more therapy when its heard with love.

This was today, great idea, hope sangat turned up and it went well.

This boy is very inspired by Sikhi, and its lovely to see that. The way he says Guru Gobind Singh ji Maharaj, wowww, U can tell he respects Sikhi already and is passionate about it. His punjabi is very good, no offence to our children, but his pronunciation is better than some his age. Waheguru bless him, so cute...

I have tried to overcome this, by speaking out loud, and defended myself at any opportunity, but i dont realise it at the time, i say too much, and get quite nasty. Then when i realise after wat i have said, I cry and regret what i said. i always seem to drive my friends away, dont even realise i do it. But now Im at the stage where i dont care what i say nomore, I think i have gone from one opposite to the other, from being worried, paranoid, and shy, to getting the confidence all at once, and lashing out, but i feel i am right what i am doing until somebody points it out. But i still dont think I am wrong, thus i cry, like feel like somebody offends me, it is my duty now to protect myself and tell them a few home truths, which i never used to do, and always used to listen to the insults, this and that. And still i cant seem to get it right. Especially i noticed when i think, yeahh i done gud today, i listened to paat, done simran this n that, then next day i lose it all, by becoming a different person. this has been happening when i have noticed a change in my mann, where i feel comfortable with life, and my dukh and feel strong. somthin comes and ruins it for me. Nobody seems to understand me nomore in this world, sometimes i feel im not from this world. I havent changed, I am the same i was 10yrs ago, so dont understand wats going on. It feels like the whole world has changed, nobody seems to understand me..or where im coming from. but i feel the world has become nasty and has changed, and nobody cares for nobody nomore, like before. people just seem to say things to the face, rather than be polite like i always was. So i think stuff this, how much can one take, so i defend myself.

Awww that was so thoughtful of him to do. Must have been hard for him as didn't know if you would appreciate it or not, as emotions build up easily. But i think no Sikh would have got upset as it was not his fault. He took on the onus of apologizing for the bad lot. And you too did great by shaking his hand and thanking him. He Will remember that for a long time, and respect Sikhs. Maharaj ji gave dastaar for a reason, you are right, that also the other qualities of a Sikh are connected to it, as would be recognised. There is goodness in all, but to practice it is another thing, and everybody is equal as to make that happen. Maharaj ji also taught us to respect other religions, and that guy showed that God is one, and his creations too, he was also hurt by what happened. God bless him too. Thankuji for sharing that.

I like RebelSinghs idea. Parchar in English too. Or translations on big projector screens. Also booklets should be given to Sangat, on at least a starting point or basics of Sikhi. This way people Will read and have the information with them and not forget being able to refer back to them. People remember more from visual imagery, pictures than listening. Well that's my experience. Years ago i was asked to make a booklet on Sikh history, for the community, as then there was not much simple literature, but for some reason it did not go ahead, due to funding issue. if something like that was done in gurdware it would attract attention. Also if the parents know nothing or little about Sikhi, what are they going to teach the children. That's difficult one as they are working most of the time to provide for their families. I feel gurdwaras should emphasise on taking time out to the parents to educate children. They should make regular announcements, to remind them, or example every Sunday as its easy to forget in this busy technological world. Maybe by also mentioning websites where they can refer to or learn from.

I love listening to kirtan, I think i find it more easier to connect to than paat, I dont know why. But its kind of therapy for me, and reduces my symptoms.

Its not just abroad, its in india too, that youth do not know enough about Sikhi. The youth in punjab, not all, but the ones nowadays, are more interested in going abroad, and into fashion, bollywood and taking drugs. So I think its world wide issue. But i have noticed rather than when i was younger, youth in Uk seem to be more clued onto Sikhi than I ever was. We didnt get the chance or media, or opportunity to learn about it or be taught about it. So its no good blaming parents, as it all depends on their environment and upbringing and what opportunities they were given when they were younger.

@Girl, penji u carry on doing wat ur mann says, and make sure u carry on after too, as its easy to forget Waheguru after things are sorted too. EVerything is in their hands.

ITs not due to environmental changes or surroundings that people are born disabled, its just how they are born. The mothers could be very cautious in everything and take precautions to make sure she is doing everything healthily, but still people are born disabled. And its not always people are born disabled, it can happen later on in life, due to accidents, illness, health conditions. For example myself, i was not born disabled, had a lovely life, then one day became disabled. Everybody kept saying its down to karm, and I remember overhearing th docs sayin I didnt have long to live, and that was 9yrs ago. Then I started walking again, and everybody was like amazed like how come that happened. I go through phases of being disabled and then getting better. But that is due to my health condition which I acquired middle life. So I must have weird karms. You are right UK London Singh, we are in no position to judge anybody of their sins or karm, that is the job of Waheguru, God... It is also them that gives the disabled people the courage to fight harder against not only the disabilities they have but also the people of the world, i:e: judgement, insults, loneliness, not being able to do what others can do. Everything is in the hands of God, and they are the only ones that can turn a disabled into somebody that can do something which others would think they couldnt. About living a disabled not being Sikh living a more sincere life in accordance with how Maharaj ji prescribed than able-bodied Sikhs, is not always the case, as everybody being has a "mann". And to control it and the thoughts is the same as anybody else. The mann is the hardest thing to control, so it doesnt matter whether one is disabled or able-bodied. The thing that matters is when somebody is in dukh then they are more likely to say God's name, whether it be "why me" or just thinking about their lives, But there are some too that do not say God's name, they may not believe in God. For me the bottom line is if I didnt have my health condition and didnt go through wat i have, I would not have remembered Waheguru as much, but then I think to myself maybe if I was healthy able-bodied than I am now, I could go gurdwara more, I could do paat properly, or more, and also think able-bodied healthy people are so lucky they have the chance to do all that, not having to go through the fatigue and the rest of symptoms which stop disabled people from getting closer to god. It depends on how disabled one is, and the confidence and courage inside oneself in order to survive. Also nobody is perfect in this world, everybody has a disability of some sort, its just that one needs the eye to see everybody as equal, as that is how Waheguru, sees us too. They do not differentiate between anybody, disability can happen to anybody. Just because somebody looks different, or cannot do what others can does not mean we are different. Its people's thinking, (soch) which is not right, as they see something different which they cannot cope with. But only God knows what can happen to anyone, its all in their hands.

hanji try ardas to Maharaj ji, even thou as 1994 benji says the authorities do not let things go. But u never know when Maharaj ji may do mehr...So worth a try...Nobody can give a yes or no answer to this, its all in Waheguru's hands. So best to go and ask them direct...

Paji have a read of the post in Whats Happening section, Woke Up With A Massive Smile On My Face After A Dream ! That may inspire you. You doing very gud, no meat, no drink, just the beard left, keep going...

That was a lovely dream, soo nice... Yeah u are lucky so many Sants in ur dream.. Its nice and motivating when I have nice dreams too, instead of the nightmares..It makes u appreciate how beautiful life is. And i felt angry too about the NDTV show, wat a load of idiots. This is 2012? Has the host and the programme directors got no brain or what? Seems like they dont...They are definately not following insaaniyat.

Paji please dont get depressed. I dont think its punishment. Sometimes in life there comes a time when we feel alone, but we are not. So Wat nobody is there not there to listen to you doting paat? Maharaj ji is there is listening to you, your every word, your every breath, they listen to you everyday. What more can one ask for? When you do Asa di Vaar, there is always somebody there. How did you miss them? We look towards others for honsla, support. But in actual fact it is Waheguru that creates the support. That would be so lovely, just you and Maharaj ji listening to you, the tranquility should make you concentrate more. And carry on doing with love for them, Sangat Will form by themselves. nobody came with us and nobody is going with us, only Waheguru helps. If you feel very depressed please talk to somebody or get professional help if you cannot cope. Keep your mind positive, i think you are doing great. Waheguru, tu hi tu hi. . .

Why does one have to do this? Does it have to be done before you into the bhora? What if one sees a bhora in a dream, but not sure which one it was, wat should one do ?then

What is vairaag, i always thought it meant sadness or depression?

good news.

@ Wolverine, also if u can, get the doc to refer you to a dermatologist for help with ur eczema, or immunologist if other type of allergy, as docs dont really know much, the others mentioned are the specialists.

Thanku ji for ur replies @PAL and N30Singh, its quite interesting reading about th different states, quite a lot to take in. But not read it properly yet. Yeah i shouldnt worry about th dream, Im always getting weird ones. also had coca-cola before I slept that night. And i do get panic attacks in a car, for which i am going to get help for if th docs ever refer me. thanx.

Woke up today after a bad dream or nightmare whatever you would call it. I know we should not delve upon dreams too much, but this one got me worried, as normally such as this one means something, and something normally happens following on. Anyways, i was driving a car and there were 3 passengers with me. Brother in law, grandmother who has passed away and a man, who i cant remember maybe an uncle. So its dark and i am driving, then press the clutch and its very loose. Then press the brake which is also loose, and the car Will not slow down. I see the traffic in front and think this is it. Keep trying th brake and take it too the side near th kerb trying to control to slow down. Its starts slowing itself as my foot is not on th accelerator. We survived. Looked under the car, and the brakes were hanging off and wires cut. Grandmother was holding a box, think toolbox, not sure. Now so worried of going in our car as it was in th dream. But i am not driving again yet. Remember somebody once said sometimes god shows us things in dreams and passes them in them. What did mine mean?

How do those foods stop th body from working? Having a health condition and talking to numerous doctors, the only ones in that list they dont mention is margarine and they say we need some dairy. And why not brown sugar? Or even some sugar at all? How come our ancestors and th elderly in India they had milk, lassi, paroteh, makhani, dahi, and still do. And they have more strength when they are older than those of countries abroad. Wonder if its something to do with being able to digest it easier in India. This always makes me wonder they urge u to eat these things but they are so heavy.