It's a really sad but on the one hand, i agree women should stand up for themselves but on hte other hand, isn't it like blaming the victim?
IF a woman does get out of an abusive marriage, what's gonna happen to her? To her kids? (in terms of the punjabi community).
If she does and everyone ostracize her at the Gurudwara and later no one wants to marry her children, is it worth it?
Shouldn't there be an awareness and education on domestic violence in the community through the Gurudwara for instance before we encourage women to leave?
What is the role of the Gurudwara? ANd the parents who raise those boys who later become abusive husband?
Should there be education on anger management, marriage counsellings? in the Gurudwaras? (i'm just giving a few examples but there are so many).
Should these men be shamed by other men? Should other men, when they see on of their family member treating his wife badly, intervene or at least say something?
I just don't think divorce should be the first thing, other steps shold be done first. And it start by raising good sons (who are given the freedom to talk about their feelings. However, it seems boys are not aloud to show feelings but can express them in anger and with fists)
Maybe the first step is being done right now by lifting the 'let's keep it quiet, let's not talk about it"
Hey we can't change what we don't acknowledge...