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  1. MisterrSingh
    Couple of young women in my neck of the woods spent no less than £2000 on a suit for a wedding that's never worn again. The wedding itself wasn't even in their family... They don't report the true price of what they're buying. £200-300 for a wedding suit is considered pauper-quality clothing. And these aren't wealthy people; they're just your average 9 to 5 women. And the husbands don't have a clue.
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    Similar to how Sikhs have bought and utilised empty churches thanks to Christian congregations dwindling over the decades, another faith will step in to convert our gurdwaras to their place of worship once the same fate befalls us. I wonder who that might be, hmm? Pure besti when that happens. Trust me, it will happen.
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    First of all I must say it's not something that's unique to Sikhs. It's an attitude that's steeped in - surprise surprise - Punjabi culture. To claim it's a Sikh thing is implying it has precedence in Sikh teachings, which is like suggesting cousin marriage is a universal Islamic practice, and smoking (weird example, I know) is a Christian thing. When discussing such issues we must be specific and learn to correctly label the name of things. Secondly, I agree, OP. If you think children of divorced parents have it tough in these situations, spare a thought for the kids of a widowed parent. In both cases there is definitely a stigma surrounding one-parent families in our culture. My own theory is that the Punjabi masses assume the child (and later adult) hadn't been raised in a stable, disciplined environment due to there being only one parent on the scene, and so that somehow spells trouble for the potential partner of such a person. I can see the faint logic in assuming that might be true, but even the most cursory of glances at our community tells us that kids and young adults where both parents are still together don't need any encouragement when it comes to misbehaviour. Unfortunately attributes such as personal responsibility, honour, respect, and integrity are assumed to be found only in complete families, whereas in my experience the most duplicitous and disarmingly deceptive youngsters and young adults are found in families where both parents have assumed parenting responsibilities. What can you do? Be the best person you can be. People will know what you're all about if you've kept your nose clean, because as funny as it may sound, those same people who gossip about wayward kids, are also the same people who notice the good kids keeping their noses clean. Word gets around no matter what. Just keep plugging away, you'll be fine.
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    Comparisons to Guru Sahibs are bound to be tough on mortal men. Heck, even certain offspring and blood relations of theirs fell short. For what MRS achieved in his lifetime he did remarkably well. Judge him as a man, not a spiritual authority.
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    I think that's the core issue.
  6. MisterrSingh
    I think there's also something to be said of simple minds being engrossed by trivialities, like a child who can't stop playing with a shiny new toy.
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    Why do you think that is? Is it something that's unique to us as a people? Or is it an issue because it's closer to home?
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    I get the impression, perhaps implicitly, that Ranjit Singh tolerated the influence of Sikh theocracy on himself at least, out of deference, genuine affection, and a certain sense of obligation? If he was truly ruthless and determined to carve out a long-lasting secular Punjabi kingdom - if Sikh in name and appearances than nothing else - without the kirpan of Damocles hanging over him ready to strike at every transgression on his part, I reckon he would've done so. Ultimately he perhaps was more forgiving and tolerant than he should've been. People expecting him to embody the spiritualism and wisdom of our Gurus, coupled with the zeal and sole regard for Sikh interests of someone like Baba Banda Singh, and the statesmanship he clearly possessed are probably asking for a bit too much from one man.
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    Sehaj Paath

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    I meant to quote OP, sorry bro. In my eagerness to get some lulz I quoted the wrong person. Don't jump to conclusions, Singh. What is "bright" anyway? It's meaningless without perspective. You're smart. We're all learning. Nothing to worry about. It's when someone is deluded enough to assume they know it all, that's when trouble lies ahead.
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    Sehaj Paath

    MisterrSingh replied to a topic in GUPT FORUM

    Wash your device thoroughly with jal in order to cleanse it of any questionable sites you may have visited previously. Don't worry, your device won't stop working, because you intend to use it for a Sehaj Paat so it won't breakdown. Good luck.
  11. MisterrSingh
    And yet you still feel compelled to blindly follow aspects of the societal norms of these people. To them you are a slave in mind and soul. When you espouse their ideologies, you are suggesting their ways are true and just. At least they know what they are and are content to exist within that definition even if it is out of total ignorance. People use to slander Guru Sahibs to their face because they feared what they represented: a challenge to the status quo. It's an indictment on us as Sikhs that we've allowed the Hindu establishment to erase, distort, and diminish the contributions made to Indian history by our Gurus. That's our fault. Dogs will always bark. In this case we're allowing them to do so.
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    I get the impression middle class Indians in the various urbanised hubs of the country don't adhere to Hinduism beyond lip service. If anything it's become a quaint tradition for them that, despite their apparent modernisation, is only adhered to because of the still fundamentally conservative core of Indian society. My feeling is they partake in religious practices for the sake of appearances and not to create any waves amongst their community. The gods they worship now are those of finance, progressivism, and a certain brand of liberalism infused with a strange sense of nationalism that they just can't relinquish. The practice of orthodox Hinduism, I feel, is preserved for those on the lower rungs of society. Islam, on the other hand, has an almost cult-like fever in its adherents across most social divides. The poor Muslim will use his machete to convince you of his faith and devotion, whilst the "educated" Muslim will try to bamboozle you with his powers of intellect and rationality to convince you of the truth of Islam. Same thing, different means.
  13. MisterrSingh
    Should've said, "I'll go back when you return to yours."
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    (Edit: need to rephrase what I wrote. My English is shocking today)
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    Absolutely yes. Joan of Arc has always fascinated me. What she achieved primarily based on, as she claimed, a command from God, is remarkable. Her conduct during her life, and the manner in which she faced her death was immense.
  16. MisterrSingh
    Dread to think the kind of souls wandering around that place. Poor kids. And I'm not being flippant.
  17. MisterrSingh
    These issues need to be discussed openly without prejudice or fear. The more people are shouted down or insulted for even daring to suggest such things, the more these issues are pushed underground, and we all know when that happens, certain ideas, beliefs, etc, begin to thrive under adversity, but they also fester and bubble away until a tipping point arrives when it all explodes. The very nature of making something taboo and controversial invites a certain sense of rebellion, which ultimately lends such things a quality of being "cool." Where I draw the line personally is in the idea that it's acceptable to offend and hurt. You usually find it's deeply prejudiced individuals who bleat on about the right to offend, but I don't think that's necessary. To be able to discuss a subject, no matter how controversial, without goading or offending someone under the pretence of free speech, is the grown-up way of doing it. Most of the people who advocate such things want to win an argument rather than actually resolve certain issues.
  18. MisterrSingh
    This is not a political issue but one concerning psychology, sociology, and perhaps biology. Read up on male and female behaviour patterns. There are always exceptions, because humans cannot be nearly categorised, and there are always outliers that buck trends. It's a matter of extrapolating what has been proven and applying it to current society in its many forms. How you've managed to compare a micro situation - the subtle minutae of the dynamics between the members of a same-sex group of friends - and compare it to a macro situation of a war between countries is mind-boggling. I had you down as someone who was smarter than the kind of stuff you've posted above. You're letting your resentment towards established societal norms cloud your judgement.
  19. MisterrSingh
    For those of us who are coconuts, we don't need any extra to make us feel better!
  20. MisterrSingh
    You've got to be kidding me. Say no more. I don't even want to think about it. I wish I could say I'm surprised but I'm not.
  21. MisterrSingh
    I genuinely believe the old adage, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder." It takes a strong willed Sikh lady to arrive at the decision of removing herself from a situation before there's been any hint of a word said in anger. It's pre-emptive precautions for a peaceful life, lol.
  22. MisterrSingh
    And to elevate themselves in their little social circle. When they encourage one of their friends to divorce or something similar, they realise on some level that the woman who's receiving their words of wisdom will find herself greatly disadvantaged, and that will lower her status amongst her group whilst simultaneously raising theirs. It's incredibly twisted and malevolent mind games.
  23. MisterrSingh
    What is it with Punjabis and erectile dysfunction, lol? I've never heard it mentioned as often as I have in relation to any other group.
  24. MisterrSingh
    I've heard it from all denominations since I was a kid: DDT- heavy gurdwaras, Nanaksar gurughars, your standard Singh Sabha, etc. I think it's less about bigging up Sri Chand but more about showing how utterly free of ego our Guru Sahibs were, and more importantly, the reverence in which they held Guru Nanak Sahib, that they'd be more than willing to tolerate his occasionally disrespectful offspring.
  25. MisterrSingh
    Some couples don't require any encouragement, lol. But, yes, unfortunately there's a reason for the scheming, devious mother-in-law stereotype, and unfortunately it's an all too common occurrence in our people. Thankfully, many of our older ladies have developed enough self awareness to realise they don't want to be cast as the villain in any potential drama between their son and daughter in-law, so they remove themselves from the situation before the marriage to ward off even the merest chance of false accusations coming their way. As sad as that may seem I think it's for the best. A good person doesn't want to be maligned by false accusations.
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