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  1. vaheguru ji ka khalsa vaheguru ji ki fateh Pesh is required for Bujjar Kurehits. These are listed in the Rehat Maryada. Eating food prepared by non-Amridharis is not one of them. If you think differently, then you are entitled to your own opinion. vaheguru ji ka khalsa vaheguru ji ki fateh
  2. vaheguru ji ka khalsa vaheguru ji ki fateh I honestly sometimes feel that the only way to survive being a doctor is by having a good foundation in Sikhi. The pressure at medical school and during your job can only be overcome with Guru Ji's help. So many people look to drugs or alcohol as a way to de-stress. They are so unfortunate... It's a shame that your parents see your Amrit as being a hinderance when in actual fact you've been blessed with something which will help you through any situation in life. Time management is critical. Don't leave assignments or revision until the last minute. Don't believe your colleagues when they say they do that. Perhaps they do, but it's stupid. Much better to do a little bit everyday and then reward yourself with something nice like a Rensabai at the end of the week than leave it all to the end. You will start the year feeling really positive and then you will slip, and then you will realise that you should have revised much earlier, and then you will learn the hard way (by failing an exam) and then the next year you will ace everything because you learned your lesson! If you start your day well by doing your Simran and Nitnem your day will go so much easier and it will be a joy to study. You've chosen one of the best jobs in the world, doing seva for others for the rest of your life can only uplift you. Remind yourself of this whenever it gets tough. vaheguru ji ka khalsa vaheguru ji ki fateh
  3. vaheguru ji ka khalsa vaheguru ji ki fateh To help with this question, go back to Guru Nanak Dev Ji's experience with Bhai Lalo. He ate with Bhai Lalo, not because Bhai Lalo was a 'Sikh' or a particular caste, but because he was an honest, humble person with a beautiful soul. To say that Sikhs should only eat from the hands of other Sikhs is the same as saying Brahmins can only eat from Brahmins. This completely erases the values of Gurbani. True Sikhs do not segregate people based on their religion or their caste or their nationality or any other thing. What we do is use our Bibek Buddhi (discriminatory intelligence) to keep the company of those people who reflect the values of the Guru i.e. honesty, integrity and humility. It is very naive to assume that all Amritdharis hold these values and therefore we must eat only from Amritdharis. There will be many non-Amritdharis and non-Sikhs who actually live a better 'Sikh' jeevan than Amritdharis do. Btw, the two quotations you have linked refer to immoral people and those who have dishonoured their Guru. This is not the same as good people or those who are attempting to follow their faith. Guru Nanak Dev Ji didn't eat with Malik Bhago because his food was a direct consequence of bad actions, not because he was not of the same religion/status as Guru Nanak Dev Ji. It's hard to understand how we have gotten to the stage where we think that Guru Nanak Dev Ji would have said 'I won't eat with you Bhai Lalo because you are not a Gursikh like me.' These are merely my opinions, on the basis of what Guru Ji has shown me through their ten jeevans and Gurbani. There will be many who disagree, but where I see Guru Ji's values being misrepresented, resulting in our youth being misled, it is necessary to speak. vaheguru ji ka khalsa vaheguru ji ki fateh
  4. vaheguru ji ka khalsa vaheguru ji ki fateh Nice reply above. We have been influenced by Western society's expectations of loving one's family. In this context, love means not hurting someone, vowing to love someone forever, always supporting them no matter what, and becoming so attached to them that when they leave or die, life becomes unbearable. Guru Ji's definition of love is much different and much purer. Love is based on morality and truth. Loving one's family means something completely different for a true Sikh. It means always upholding the principles of Gurbani and Rehat. It means bringing up one's children with these values and teaching them how to be honourable in life and death. True love is LIVING Gurbani every day, not focusing your thoughts on your partner. I know there are examples of many Sikhs (or hardcores as you'd call them) who have left their family in order to pursue spiritual peace. But as you know, this is not necessary for a Gurmukh and is in some ways detrimental - it is almost easier to abandon Maya by running away, rather than living within it and controlling one's mind properly. Many people will be one-track minded, but this doesn't make them better than those who can learn to live within Maya. Another thing to bear in mind is that all the Sikh women whose sakhiaan you hear, have never abandoned their families or responsibilities to attain mukti. They are responsible for bringing up the Khalsas of the world and take this responsibility seriously. Their attitude should be that their children are not 'theirs' but Guru Ji's. Guru Ji may bless them with a child and Guru Ji may take the child away. Perhaps your definition of simran is limiting you. The physical act of sitting down and doing Simran is only one aspect of bhagti. Bhagti also involves admiring Guru Ji's creation and world and thanking Guru Ji for all He gives you. Seva is also equally as important in life - and raising a family is one of the biggest responsibilities that Sikh parents have. Working in an occupation which serves others also might play a role. You limit yourself by choosing only the life of a Sadhu and miss out on many opportunities that Guru Ji gave you to make the most of your jeevan. vaheguru ji ka khalsa vaheguru ji ki fateh
  5. vaheguru ji ka khalsa vaheguru ji ki fateh Very apt topic which is increasingly relevant nowadays. I would say that although emphasis has been placed on physical disrespect, many other forms of disrespect are rife and because of their subtlety, often harder to combat. I would hope that my brother above would alter his derisive response if he knew he was speaking in the presence of any Kaur in one of the aforementioned situations. I would also say, that disrespect is not just a problem between Singhs and Kaurs, but between all brothers and sisters, as this forum too often shows us. vaheguru ji ka khalsa vaheguru ji ki fateh
  6. I mostly agree with Singhni above. If your parents manage to find someone who is strong in their Sikhi principles and understanding of Gurbani then the rest will fall into place with a bit of luck (Guru Ji's blessing) and a bit of work (uddam).
  7. My humble opinion; as people have said above, and as Gurbani teaches us, money should never be the overriding factor in any of your decisions in life including a decision to marry someone. But if you want to raise Sikh children successfully in this world that Guru Ji has created it's helpful to have some element of financial security. It's sensible to consider how you will be able to clothe, feed and school your children and your family so that you can raise them to become Sikh leaders in the modern world. But you still have to remember that financial security can disappear in a flash, and at the end of the day, nothing is really dependent on it. It's a balance. Gurbani discourages us from living a hermit's life, but at the same time encourages us to avoid becoming obsessed with maya. How you choose to meet this balance is up to you and your understanding of the knowledge Guru Ji has shared with you.
  8. Do you think Bhai Kanaiya had tensor bandages in his time? If Guru Ji takes off your limb in an accident do you go for Pesh? If Guru Ji themselves removed the plaster would you go for Pesh? What do you think Guru Ji would say if you asked them this question? Have you asked them? Would the time asking/answering these questions be better spent on doing a Sukhmani Sahib? Do you think Guru Ji will erase all your good deeds/Amrit for taking off a plaster? What is your intention when removing it? Hukamnama for this question: bYrwVI mhlw 4 ] hir jnu rwm nwm gun gwvY ] The Lord's humble servant sings the Glorious Praises of the Lord's Name. jy koeI inMd kry hir jn kI Apunw gunu n gvwvY ]1] rhwau ] Even if someone slanders the Lord's humble servant, he does not give up his own goodness. ||1||Pause|| jo ikCu kry su Awpy suAwmI hir Awpy kwr kmwvY ] Whatever the Lord and Master does, He does by Himself; the Lord Himself does the deeds. hir Awpy hI miq dyvY suAwmI hir Awpy boil bulwvY ]1] The Lord and Master Himself imparts understanding; the Lord Himself inspires us to speak. ||1|| hir Awpy pMc qqu ibsQwrw ivic DwqU pMc Awip pwvY ] The Lord Himself directs the evolution of the world of the five elements; He Himself infuses the five senses into it. jn nwnk siqguru myly Awpy hir Awpy Jgru cukwvY ]2]3] O servant Nanak, the Lord Himself unites us with the True Guru; He Himself resolves the conflicts. ||2||3|| *Read gurbani so you can understand the essence of what Guru Ji says. Understand it with the aid of steeks. Without Gurbani and Naam to guide you in life these questions will continue to harass your mind.*
  9. Agree with Kaljugi above, that there can be no rules for these issues. However I think as a general principle the two people should be honest and talk openly about money matters even if it is awkward at first - although it shouldn't be awkward - and if it is, then you have to ask, why is it awkward. The Answer is most likely haumai. Joint accounts are a good idea for openness and transparency between a couple, but care should be taken to have savings in different places/investments in case there is ever a problem with a particular account or bank. As to Guest & Singhni's tussle above, to Guest - you don't need to create your own rules for others. To Singhni - a truly humble Kaur who cares for her inlaws as her own parents would perhaps already have considered this as being a good idea.
  10. vaheguru ji ka khalsa vaheguru ji ki fateh On Ang 525 Bhagat Ravidaas Ji tells us how to make dhoof and mentions how we can enlist the help of our Mother. gUjrI sRI rivdws jI ky pdy Gru 3 <> siqgur pRswid ] dUDu q bCrY Qnhu ibtwirE ] PUlu Bvir jlu mIin ibgwirE ]1] The calf has contaminated the milk in the teats. The bumblebee has contaminated the flower, and the fish has contaminated the water. mweI goibMd pUjw khw lY crwvau ] Avru n PUlu AnUpu n pwvau ]1] rhwau ] O mother, where shall I find any offering for the Lord's worship? I cannot find any flowers worthy of the incomparable Lord. mYlwgr byrHy hY BuieAMgw ] ibKu AMimRqu bsih iek sMgw ]2] The snakes encircle the sandalwood trees, poison and nectar dwell there together. DUp dIp neIbydih bwsw ] kYsy pUj krih qyrI dwsw ]3] Incense, lamps and offerings of food have become impure, so how are your servants to worship you? qnu mnu Arpau pUj crwvau ] gur prswid inrMjnu pwvau ]4] I dedicate and offer my mind and body to you. By Guru's Grace, I attain the immaculate Lord. pUjw Arcw Awih n qorI ] kih rivdws kvn giq morI ]5]1] Apart from this, I cannot offer any other worship. What will my fate be? Bhai Gurdas Ji expands on this here: http://www.sikhitoth...?ShabadID=5837. vaheguru ji ka khalsa vaheguru ji ki fateh
  11. vaheguru ji ka khalsa vaheguru ji ki fateh It makes more sense if you read it alongwith the preceding and following Saloks. The meanings on STTM are very literal and do not make much sense unless you try to delve deeper. The meanings below are based on the veechar in Gyani Harbans Singh's steeks and Gurbachan Singh Makin's translations. The Saloks stem from several experiences of Bhagat Ji. First was a conversation Bhagat Fareed Ji had with his mother, who was trying to encourage him to eat nicer foods because he was becoming thinner. As he progressed through his life, he tried all sorts of things to attain inner peace, including fasts and chewing a piece of wood which he had tied around his neck instead of eating food. He eventually realised that food and drink was necessary to stay alive and strong enough to do Bhagti. But at the same time, it was clear that becoming attached to certain tastes and indulging in rich foods did more harm to your spirituality and state of mind than it did good. For this reason, he discusses the various aspects of eating food versus eating Naam and how to achieve a balance. For those people who become Gurmukhs, simpler food (i.e. roti without butter) becomes more pleasing to them as they only compare their food with the taste of Naam. PrIdw skr KMfu invwq guVu mwiKEu mWJw duDu ] Fareed: Sugar, candy, milk and honey are all sweet to taste. sBy vsqU imTIAW rb n pujin quDu ]27] But none of these sweets compare to the sweetness of your worship. PrIdw rotI myrI kwT kI lwvxu myrI BuK ] Fareed: My food is simple and hard like wood, and I eat when my hunger tells me. ijnw KwDI copVI Gxy shingy duK ]28] Grief comes to those people who butter their roti (and indulge in the pleasures of the body by abandoning Guru Sahib's bhagti). ruKI suKI Kwie kY TMFw pwxI pIau ] Eat simple food and drink cold water. PrIdw dyiK prweI copVI nw qrswey jIau ]29] Fareed: Do not long for richer foods and save yourself the bother. vaheguru ji ka khalsa vaheguru ji ki fateh
  12. vaheguru ji ka khalsa vaheguru ji ki fateh I am considering advancing from the stone age into the Iphone age. I am looking for any of the above or other similar devices primarily for reading Gurbani & meanings for doing Sehaj Paath. Can anyone give me advice on what to buy and what software I'll need to load on said device to access Gurbani. I'm looking for reliability/durability/good battery life. Thanks vaheguru ji ka khalsa vaheguru ji ki fateh
  13. Bhenji, my mum is a gynaecologist. Although not in the London area you can pm me and I can give you her email address.
  14. vaheguru ji ka khalsa vaheguru ji ki fateh Gender selection is illegal is most countries including the UK. Companies who offer this 'service' across the world are profiting from the confusion which has arisen due to parents not knowing where it is strictly legal or illegal. In the majority of cases it is illegal, dangerous and unregulated. According to Sikhi choosing the gender of your baby is against all our fundamental principles. Let Guru Sahib decide the gender of your child and be happy with it. Try to explain this to someone if they are putting pressure on you and stand your ground. vaheguru ji ka khalsa vaheguru ji ki fateh
  15. vaheguru ji ka khalsa vaheguru ji ki fateh With all due respect to 'Against'. I agree with the fact that wearing a Baana is an honour which should be taken seriously and that not everybody can, in the same way that wearing Guru Ji's Dastaar is. However I know people who wear it every day, without switching to a 'Nok pagh, shirt and tie'. So not everybody is like that. Secondly only the person wearing the Baana knows if they're using it as a fashion statement or not. You're right, we should definitely think about Satkar and respect before wearing Baana and Chola. Bibian should wear a Baana which fits them correctly and preserves their modesty. If it's an issue of size then wear a bigger one so it isn't tight. It's not a complex concept. Whether our clothes are revealing or not is mainly dependant on how we choose to wear them. Also many women wear it with a chuni over the Dastaar. If they don't and it's a big issue for you then talk to them about it rather than issung a blanket ban on all Baanas for women, which by the way you have no authority to do. lol. Have you been to India lately? Punjabi suits are designed for the opposite effect, especially nowadays. On the other hand the Khalsa uniform was designed with only pure intentions. No. Because you just said you wanted Bibian to 'respect their female form'. So obviously they would wear a pajama. Otherwise there would be no pleasing you and we wouldn't want that now would we : ) Demure? I know what you're trying to say but if you mean modest and graceful then it's perfectly capable of being so whilst wearing a Baana. You think if I wear a Baana I lose my self respect and dignity? It's SELF-respect i.e. the respect I have for myself. You don't know how much respect I have for myself. Out of interest have you ever met a 'real Nihung' Singhni? (Real by your standards.) I'd like to hear you say such a thing to her. Next time you visit India how about it. We're really reaching into new depths to find things to argue about. If someone wants to wear a Baana and it gets them closer to Guru Ji then why should we judge them for it or say they shouldn't be allowed to wear it. Forgive me for any mistakes or offence caused. Perhaps someone could help the sister asking the original question? vaheguru ji ka khalsa vaheguru ji ki fateh
  16. http://scantailor.sourceforge.net/ Found this link online for a free download of the software you mentioned. Just wanted to check if it's the right one? Btw thanks so much!
  17. Happy Birthday! Although I don't know if you'll read this. Mehtab, maybe this year he will buy her an extra house to keep all the animals in? S1ngh, you need to tie her to the computer so she keeps in touch : (
  18. Isingh, can you update us with the locations of the various workshops from Thursday - Saturday? Are they at the same Gurdware where the later kirtan will be held?
  19. vaheguru ji ka khalsa vaheguru ji ki fateh You're right, this isn't the best place to post about dating advice but now that you're here let's see how it goes. Firstly a quote from a friend " :rolleyes: The guy is clearly possessive and she is clearly obssessed." You don't need help it's pretty straightforward. He's being an <banned word filter activated>, leave him straight away. Now onto the chastisement! Just kidding : ) You should ask yourself why you haven't already left him. Try and figure out why you want to date someone. Try and find out what you want from life and whether doing this will help in any way, shape or form. A lot of people say they'd like to become Amritdhari when their Sikhi is stronger but in order to make that happen WE need to take action and make it stronger! If you're serious about that then explore it further. You can always ask people here and at the Gurdwara Sahib more about Sikhi, and there's plenty of information on the internet too. It'll be much more satisfying and fruitful than pursuing guys like that. vaheguru ji ka khalsa vaheguru ji ki fateh
  20. I have a feeling you're describing the situation many are in, including me. I think the above poster is right. You need to find Sangat that can uplift you rather than "wallow in the murky waters of doubt" with people who are in the same boat (or falling out of it).
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