Super_Singhni

If your main thoughts involve you believing that others are talking about you, try looking at the evidence for this - i.e can you over hewr it, has this been done to you in the past etc. Our mind is a powerful thing and can be our biggest enemy at times. Think about where this issue first arose from...and hopefully you'll gain better insight into the problem.

I think it would be interesting to know more about the behaviour that you do/thought that you have after thinking these things about God as its not been clear in the original post. At the end of the day its not so much about being a given a diagnosis but about you recognising there is a way out. Good luck

Bhenji, I am so disheartened to read your post. I hope you are okay. I know you question your strength ,however the fact that you have posted here demonstrates the opposite to me. The fact that you realise that something very wrong is going on means that you have the power to change/stop what is happening. I reiterate what others have said, seek help for this matter. You are strong enough to do this, more so as Maharaj will be with you each step of the way.

I agree with other posters that you would benefit from seeking professional help from a psychologist via your GP if you can. What you have described sounds like you are experiencing intrusive thoughts (which are actually very common) but understandably can be disheartening given their intensity. Contrary to other posts, it would only be classed as OCD if you are having these thoughts prior to feeling like you need to undertake a certain action/job I.e. flicking the light switch a certain number of times or until it feels 'right'. Intrusive thoughts can occur without the compulsive part of OCD. Furthermore, CBT is helpful but is one of many therapies designed to overcome such problems and as long as you go in motivated to overcome this, with Maharaja's Kirpa you will undoubtedly succeed

So many things I can disagree with you here, but I won't. Benti I do ask to you is to read posts properly before you reply, is all!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It wasn't a question about ego, more a statement. I suppose what I feel is missing is why you think women shouldn't be equal (however that is defined). Your post is primarily about your life and then ends with 'I am TOTALLY against equal rights for women'.

First and foremost I think Kaurs need to start treating themselves like Princesses. This is no excuse for things that happen as the OP has written about however would these situations happen if Kaurs had the strength, courage, self-esteem they have in them but do not yet recognise?

Isn't it funny how many times the original poster has used the word 'weakness'..I wonder if this tells us more about him than it does about the topic he is questioning? I disagree with many of your points but realise people like you do exist. It's all about ego these days....

Harpreet, why are you so angry? If people think your view, which is different to the norm, is ignorant or naiive why does it hurt you so? Are these not as valid as they are only our views? Like somebody said previously its all up to the individual. I know if i have a regular commitment at a Gurdwara I am going to do this irrespective of it being the time of the month however you may not. Life goes on, no?

You seem to have quite a negative view of the Midlands, in particular the accent. Interestingly, I think it was a couple of weeks maybe months ago that a Sikh Londoner was in the audience of The Big Question and made very little impact. Surely its the content and not the dialect of the material that is being spoken about that matters and if not why not? I'm not sure dialect is the main cause of poor media representation, for instance how many Sikhs go into media at University in the first instance anyway? Should we be interested in making Sikhism into the fastest growing religion in the world?

Just out of curiosity, what drives you to ask these questions hgsingh? Culture is a very hard concept to define and is closely interlinked with religion hence both will undoubtedly have an impact on an individual. Furthermore, are we talking about the impact of culture on an individual living in India, the UK, Canada etc? Personally, I like to think Sikhi rather than Punjabi culture has the greatest impact on my life.

'Crap in your pants'? Not exactly the same thing as menstruation. IMHO this is quite an ignorant view.

Depends on what your definition of everything is, it could be a little of everything you have at your disposal...goes a long way. Sounds like they're two close positions on the same continuum.

Wowser....passive aggressive much Only Five.

Everything in moderation.

Only five, think you've summed yourself up in your post, maybe you have insight after all

I think people in general are very strange, sure maybe 'fashionable' people more so. This reminds me of news recently where people were injecting themselves with sometimes lethal substances so they could get the 'tanned' look and all the implicit beliefs of what a tanned person has (i.e. money, holidays etc) and yet racism/a dislike for people of brown skin exists. Funny that its JPG, a french designer given all that is happening/happened in France re. dastaars.

Came across this bit of fashion 'news' today... http://www.tomandlorenzo.com/2012/06/jean-paul-gaultier-menswear-spring-2013-collection.html Interesting, no?

How's the issue with your social anxiety now? Have you been able to resolve this as this sounds like the trigger for the other issues you have reported. Appreciate the here and now, not sure how old you are but even if you were 60 you would still have a lot of potential and possibility left in your life. I've seen so many people who would kill for some extra time to do the things they felt they could never do and because of illness it is unlikely they will get to do. Take each day one step at a time and remember Vaheguru is with you each step of the way

Lots of people go through what you have described, people of all ages and they find a way out. So please trust in this being a phase rather than a long term issue. Although I realise you find it difficult to pinpoint why you are feeling like this currently, there is always a reason for these emotions and its about talking them through with someone be that a professional or a close friend. It's easy for me to give this advice but I realise that the simplest things are often the hardest to do, just believe that things will get better if you seek assistance from those around you, who care about you and no doubt would be willing to help you through this. I really hope and believe things will get better for you soon.

I can see why you like his words, whilst reading them I can't help but feel that what he has written just seems so intangible. Its all about positive thinking and reframing but written in a much wordier way. Saying that Paulo Coehlo, who I am a fan of writes similarly but is more concrete in that its about his life... I am always struggling with myself, but I am very optimistic in this sense. People are realizing more and more that happiness is freedom, and freedom is to be able to “travel light”, not possessing a lot of things, because at the end of the day, the things start to possess you. I remember that I considered to buy a castle here in France: I went to see some. One day I realized that if I buy a castle, I cannot think about anything but taking care of it. Therefore, I bought a small watermill, so to keep it is very easy, and I have time to go to the mountains, to walk, do spend my life in the way that I would like. In short: the less you have to keep, the more you have in freedom. If I look back at my life I see many occasions where society tried to make me conform to “normality”. This resulted in three hospitalizations in an asylum when I was a teenager (which I describe in my book Veronika decides to die), torture when I was a young adult by the hands of the paramilitaries, and many defeats. You could look at these experiences and say “Paulo’s life is tragic” but I don’t see it that way. What I do see is someone trying to remain true to oneself. Yes there is a price but I believe that life tends to be very generous to those that are brave enough to take these risks. In a word, I’ve always had faith in life, even when I thought “God forgot me”. Be happy with your contradictions.

Is the moral of the story live your life as your want it to be or rather acknowledge what you have in the present and make the most of it (i.e. his parents, family rather than seeking out money and wanting more than his father had). Its so difficult to be mindful of what you have and not be so future orientated, I suppose thats where Bani and SImran help a great deal. Sad story.

Only five, thank you.

From what I gather and correct me if i'm wrong OP, but the topic is about Sikh youngsters adopting the 'way of black people' - most of which doesn't seem to be too good. I think of it as, what kind of image are the youth who choose to dress/speak/live like this representing to the rest of the world after all this is why we have a dastaar/5 kakkars etc so that we are recognisable to those around us as Sikhs. If we tarnish this image by mixing our dastaar (or sometimes worse...a doorag) up with jeans hanging down our butts and a balaclava round our necks, what kind of message is this sending out about us? It seems even young white people act like this and to me, it demonstrates how they want to be like their black 'gangsta' counterparts, I wonder if thats the same for the Sikh youth who dress similarly? It's not about being pompous and uppity its about not looking like you want to be someone else!!

Only Five, in regards to the first sentence in your post - Does anyone know what it means to live in this world? Do you need to know what its like to live to die? As referring back to the OP question, they asked ''do people have a right to kill themselves if they're dying?'' How do you define living? A baby born prematurely and is suffering from so many illness/infection/under developed vital organs and are very likely to die sooner rather than later, are they classed as having lived? I can only speak for my own posts but nowhere did I say euthanasia was a ''good idea'' so please do not speak for me or misinterpret things. Also as Sikhs my view is that we are students and innate in us is to question and debate as well, and you seem quite close minded and opposed to this. No offence, of course. When we come to decisions based on our understanding of what WE have researched from Gurbani, Sangat, our life experiences that decision is more likely to be upheld and motivate us to change (for whatever reason, in this case deciding about euthanasia). Also with reference to your comment regarding depression, it may be that the person suffering from depression may have a life limiting illness such as incurable cancer, brain tumour etc. Anyway, my view that it is up to the person still remains as we are not experiencing their pain and cannot fathom how they are feeling. Who are we to judge, surely only Vaheguru has a say here?