HardKaur

My problem is SELF CONTROL. Lately, for some unknown reason... I have been lacking my self control and my perseverance that I once strongly had in my character. I was someone who had her head in the books, concentrated on the goal and achieved it. Lately, I have been doing stupidness totally out of character. I feel really ashamed. The only thing i can think of is turning 19, being in university away from home, stress from university, and changing friends has caused my character to go out of balance. I am still that middle person who friends always go to for help, and almost everyone around me comes to me when the issue rises. I have been known to be a little too friendly and willing to help and sometimes called naive. However, I feel that sometimes i do stuff for the fact of trying to fit in, but really what I am trying to do is so confusing. I am into Sikhi, but I’m not a gursikh. I love reading sikhi, doing paat, understanding sikhi, I am a leader in two youth groups in two different communities. Yet i still fall under the trap of falling under the 5 vices. I do a lot of bad things that i know at the time i shouldn't do and act on impulse. I love dancing.... and i used to be so against going to clubs, i would dance in a group. But now i find myself not dancing in a group as i did back home and instead going to these clubs. I started drinking this year... which honestly i never thought i would ever do. I grinded with someone while i was drunk which i honestly never thought i would EVER EVER do (it was one person, and never again… I hope). NOW, I’m sitting here thinking what is wrong with me....My grades have been falling, i hardly study (even though I’m still the biggest nerd at heart), i hardly work out (although i make myself sometimes), i still do paat (but not as often as i would like b/c of work). I want to go back to my old self. The girl who had goals, good intentions and doesn't act on impulse. I want to make that change, and at the very least stay that way and go towards sikhi. It seems every time i put my foot down. Somehow by peer pressure, by past experiences that are like quick relievers, or even just for being “cool”, i would do stupidness. I know certain people who know me on this site and know i have changed. I know it’s hurting them that i have, but it hurts me even more that i have lost my own faith. The fact that my friends who I thought were my friends are talking about me behind my back and can’t even say to my face what I am doing is WRONG, hurts me too. Can someone help me in controlling these issues. I made a promise to myself, but i always tend to do something stupid, and break that promise. I haven’t given up and I am NOT depressed… I am someone who you will never see be mad, angry or upset. I am very to my self, overly friendly, always willing to help and I have a serious laughing problem. But I just want to use more self-control. I know this isn’t really a sikhi related issue, but I know I’m not the only one out there. --------thanks--------

OIiiiiiiiiiii stop dissing OTTAWA SENS and OTTAWA peeps.... its a wicked community which, yes, its small but it has amazing individuals that are committed to help our super Ottawa sikh youth community.. we have weekly sports and a website ottawasikhyouth.ca.... so don't diss! our water is SO MUCH BETTER than T DOT... much safer and yes its COLD but yooo we CAN HANDLE ITTTTTTTTTTT unlike some folk! So drop by the NC (Nation's Capital) and give us some support! Oct. 2nd be there! --hardkaur-- ps SENS RULE

just curious but what about kirtan with different instramentals... take away the tabla, the harmonium and whatever else.. this time add a scratch, some bass... is that wrong?! You are still singing hyms just diff background music... also u hear of immortal productions.. i love their cds!

when i want to drive at night.... "its not that we don't trust you... we don't trust the people all around you.." "Im your mother, ive cleaned your bumbs!" "I was a teenager once too, ive done mistakes, you learn from the ones ive done, so don't do them..." then i ask what mistakes have you done.."That is none of your business do your work!" "STOP TALKING TO YOUR FRIENDS" When im typing on the computer doing an essay or an assignment lol

crazy stories! u princesses made me teary eyed!!! i really find them inspiring and very insightful! Its great that we have amazing role models! Keep sharing your stories :doh: fateh

SSA! ok well im doing a interfaith thing with our community about how people of faith care for the earth.. i am doing the poster for sikhs.. and i think it would be cool to base the poster on a line of something about protecting, not harming our earth... i need some help though! can you please help me out.. also any ideas on the poster will be greatly appreciated! fateh --one--

hey! i had this problem when i was in tae kwon do.. i used the sweat band... it makes sense i mean when we were sparring sometimes you did end up hurting someone so just for protection.. and also if u explain to them usually they won't be so harsh !! one

Don't worry it will eventually catch up to u.... hormones are crazy and they are prob going to be crazy until u reach 20 or so! lol my mother says that guys never mature until they have kids.... lol but everything in good time... and yes girls are going to be a distraction... u just have to learn to overcome those obstacles... lol man hormones... mine are goin crazy too right now... pimples and all that! ewwwwww but yeah what u going to do... its just natural process that we as humans have to overcome! and omg it messes with ur brain too! but u just have to stay on the right side and you'll be fine! fateh one!

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GOT TO BE MY BMW M5..... (my future car) yup yup yup... and gotta be manual carz guy otherwise whats teh point driving an auto... no fun in that! --one

ok same sex marriage is wrong... but is homosexuality?! i mean they can't help it if they are gay... how can they STOP them from being that way.... ?!

heyyyyyyyyyyyyyy well i love dancing! its soo much fun! its a good work out too! i dont' see how its bad! unless its dirty which i don't do! well its also ao good stress reliever and its just good funnnnnnnnnnnnn! nice way of expressing onesslef! and the competition is crazyyyyyyyyy --one

hey! well i am happy i came across this disscussion really opend my eyes too see that some singhs understand! i always thought the kacharaa was kinda sexist! but now i can see it isn't really! ----one

look in the ingredientssssss i love homemade jam! but usually its just sugar and fruit.... and a perservative.... jelly tho... i think its bascially the same thing... i don't think there is gelatin in it!!! (thats the stuff in skittles, strawbursts, jello... which is bone marrow!) --hardkaur